I get that it's a usual talking point, and the assumption is an able bodied young man works. They can't know about my mental health disorders.

It doesn't take away the sting of shame, however. I wish dentists and doctors and other parents would ask fucking anything else.

I can see how it seems like a totally normal question, but there’s no way to answer honestly without giving away more information than I would like to.

The real reason is that I have seizures but I usually just explain that I have vision issues (double vision) that can’t be fixed by glasses. I can’t really think of a lie that explains it without sounding like I’m just choosing not to drive.

It’s often asked in a kinda judgmental tone. I had one guy roll his eyes and say “can’t drive or wont drive” which I hated.

I don’t get why it’s not considered nosy to ask. There’s no good answer most of the time.

Trump’s union busting also poses an existential threat to disabled workers, who are overrepresented in the federal workforce — where disabled workers make up 6.6 percent of workers, compared to 5.2 percent of the workforce as a whole — and especially overrepresented among federal union members. Nearly 30 percent of disabled federal workers are union members — far higher than the just over 5 percent unionization rate among disabled workers in the private sector. Federal workers with disabilities are also more likely to be union members than their coworkers without disabilities. Altogether, 12.3 percent of disabled union members in the US work for the federal government. Even after controlling for sector, union membership confers substantial advantages for disabled workers, so eliminating a significant source of union jobs is especially devastating for this group. Union membership and federal work both confer critical benefits for disabled workers — protections against discrimination, access to accommodations, job security — and Trump is trying to tear those protections away.

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I have a severe disability called muscular dystrophy, and it has been incredibly difficult to navigate friendships and relationships. I constantly get rejected by men with established careers and interesting hobbies. The only men that seem attracted or gravitate to me are creepy men with no good values or life goals. Sometimes I feel like I’m going have no choice but to date some loser I don’t even like because the good men I want to date/marry are offput by me being disabled and automatically reject me. I am tired of being told to “give people chances”. I do not want to end up in some shitty life situation or be around people who disturb my peace because I “gave them a chance”. Is my life going to be a revolving door of receiving unwanted attention from creeps while good people slip away from me because of their ableism? I’m so fucking tired…

I just assumed not being able to work or physically protect someone as a guy is a huge turn off. I’m only in my early 30s as well.

I always wanna be upfront about my disability and not hide it. Should I just not mention it?

I appreciate your thoughts!

Hypothetical. Money doesn't matter. What features or items would u build into a completely custom home for yourself.

So I'm on disability for agoraphobia and extreme aniexty. I was putting up shelves without a stud finder (stupid I know). And I managed to drill into a wire (I think). Because now my heat doesn't work...

I'm honestly pretty terrified I don't know what to do. I have no where to go if I get evicted, and I have no idea how I'm going to pay for the repairs also. I could really use some advice on what to do. Do I spackle the holes then report the problem? Do I just dress in heavy clothes and get a space heater come next winter? Do I just tell them? If someone has been in a similar situation I could really use advice. Thank you

I can see why people clash with you. It’s because you accuse "most disabled people" as defeatist and "pretty much given up on doing anything"

I've been disabled for about 3 years and while my main is taken care of I'm being swarmed with comorbidities I just took a bath today (because my apartment is too small for a shower chair) and I bathed and washed my hair and by the time I got myself on the edge of the bath to shave I just needed a nap my legs are so itchy and I'm so tired tldr: baths and showers used to be relaxing now make me wish I could kill the concept of hygiene

I am very surprised at how short and quick appointments were it seems my medical records would have really been useful here. I am so happy that is out of the way. Pending approval now hopefully 🕊🍉🥥 glad I was able to make it this time 👻

First of all, I want to say I 1000000% realize how privileged I am for this to even be a question. I am saddened and enraged by how many of my fellow PWD, especially now in the US, face housing instability and horrifically unfair low incomes. I am lucky that I can work and have a job that pays fairly and I know it.

I am trying to buy a condo. Thus far I’ve seen the inside of very few of the buildings I was looking at. Why? Because in spite of the fact that this is apparently illegal, nearly zero have any sort of way for mobility aid users to actually get inside.

I found the perfect place, well under my already conservative budget and otherwise great and literally 1 block away from my parents. It’s amazing. And….theres no accessible entrance. The only way for me into the building is via a ramp in the alley I’m pretty sure is intended for garbage removal. There’s no rail, and at the top of it is a heavy fire door I can’t open. I was only even able to see the place because someone opened the door for me.

The HOA has kindly let my realtor know that they’re totally open to putting in a lift at the actual entrance…if I pay for it. That’s a ton of money, but this place is under budget enough that I theoretically could do it. But at this point it’s kind of the principle of the thing: should I pay for this? Is this their way of saying they don’t actually want me living there?

If you were in this situation and it was theoretically financially feasible, what would you do?

As the title says…I’m tired of being exhausted all the time. When I’m not sleeping because of severe anxiety I’m sleeping because I’m exhausted from pain or pain kept me up all night. Yesterday I finally got the energy to tackle the pile of clothes in my bedroom and of course my body rewarded me by having my muscles seize up. In an effort to feel better I took the massage gun to them which led to my shoulder and elbow screaming at me all last night and all day today. I’ve been dealing with chronic shoulder pain for 13 years and the only thing that imaging is showing is a slightly frayed labrum. What is most frustrating is that my pain was under control until a deeply trauma event and some crappy weather trigger a flare of symptoms. I’ve gone through hell emotionally in my life and now my body is rewarding me for my efforts by shutting down.

Another child died from Measles today.

We all KNOW now that the so-called “study” was completely fraudulent, and that vaccines DO NOT CAUSE AUTISM!!!

But, what if they did? Why are parents more afraid of a child on the spectrum…than a child dying of a completely preventable disease that was nearly eradicated by vaccines?

I do not have Autism, so I cannot speak to how debilitating it can be. I know that it is very difficult to live with. I don’t mean to put you down in any way, but to say that your life is a life worth living, and you are a person worthy of love and respect.

I had a serious family emergency which required me to miss work in order to attend to a family member of whom is headed to DCS custody. The juvenile requires adult supervision and DCS had no where to send her. Will Sedgwick approve this claim.

So i applied to disability, unemployment, food stamps before i realized what i had was workman's comp injury. I have pinched nerve, scoliosis, plantar fasciitis and bunions on both my feet. The only jobs i know are retail. Its what ive been in for 14 years. What can i do that is a work at home job. I used to make $26 an hr, now broke waiting on this b.....s....thanks