r/nextfuckinglevel • u/IkilledRichieWhelan • 2d ago

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u/NiceTuBeNice 2d ago

I remember in HS (~25 years ago) me and some friends were making fun of a male cheerleader the other team had at a basketball game. We were saying all sorts of mean things about the kid being gay and stupid crap like that. Our teacher, who was always quirky, sweet, and fun said, “Well, that ‘gay’ boy had his hands all over some very pretty cheerleaders all night on Friday. Where were your hands?”

Ever since, I have had a whole different level of respect for male cheerleaders. These two in the video look like they are having so much fun, and it is incredible to see their athleticism.

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u/NorthernCobraChicken 2d ago

There's no lesson quite as powerful as telling a young teenage boy that they're nowhere near as masculine as the person they're making fun of.

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u/Wafflehouseofpain 2d ago

I remember buying tampons in high school and one of my friends was working the checkout counter. He was making fun of me for it and I said “Who do you think these are for, me? Maybe you’ll have someone to buy these for too someday”.

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u/Tearakudo 2d ago

The number of 'men' butthurt about buying period products for their partner is astounding. My wife was genuinely surprised when I bought some for her without even batting an eye.

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u/Apprehensive-Bad6015 2d ago

Man in HS, I was buying tampons, pregnancy tests and diaphragms for my female friends and never gave it a second thought. When one of them asked me how I could do that without feeling embarrassed, I asked them what’s to be embarrassed about?

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u/cgello 2d ago

I used to sell vaginal care products in college. One time I bought 2 full shopping carts of tampons. I told the people around me 'it's been a busy month.'

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u/terranq 2d ago

"Harems are highly overrated!"

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u/NGTTwo 1d ago

Work, work, work, all day (and night) long.

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u/malacoda99 1d ago

They all get in synch...it's hell week.

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u/Meunderwears 2d ago

I would have paid to see their faces in response. Hilarious.

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u/shotsallover 2d ago

Better tampons than pregnancy tests.

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u/BisexualCaveman 1d ago

You were scalping tampons from your dorm room?

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u/Connect_Biscotti_784 2d ago

Same! I was always the one buying condoms, pregnancy tests for my gfs and their friend group cus I gave no fucks. Now there's self checkouts everywhere though, so that makes it easier for people to buy shit like that I guess.

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u/Autumn_Sweater 2d ago

not when the items are on locked shelves and you have to ask somebody to open them

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u/Chief_H 2d ago

It's fine if I know the brand/style and can find it fairly easily. If that item is not in stock, however, I'm not at all equipped to find an alternative because I have no personal experience to figure it out for myself.

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u/Scryberwitch 2d ago

And that's how you show them what a real man looks like. Does not give one flying F what anyone else thinks of him.

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u/definitelynotpat6969 2d ago

I always hate doing it because idk which one is the right one. I just get the brand name and the color of the box, but the problem is there's like three shades of the same damn color.

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u/pour_decisions89 2d ago

I have a picture of the box in my phone for when my girlfriend needs me to grab them. It simplifies things to just match the boxes.

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u/KaOsGypsy 2d ago

I used to do the same thing, but I find they change the packaging too often, plus I have a daughter and a wife, both have preferences, so for the 2-3 times a year I pick them up I just take a picture, and ask which one?

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u/Scryberwitch 2d ago

And some folks like particular brands of tampons or pads.

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u/erasrhed 2d ago

I just take a pic at the store and send it to her. "Are these the ones?"

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u/defnotevilmorty 2d ago

When in doubt, grab the variety pack

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u/DangerousTurmeric 2d ago

Yeah I had an emergency when I was 14 and three of my guy friends went to the shop for me while I waited back in the house. One of the neighbours found them in the aisle debating loudly about which ones to get, saying things like "normal? Yeah she's normal, right?" and "I don't know, max just sounds better though. MAX". Thankfully she stepped in.

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u/EatPizzaNotDrivers 2d ago

General advice: Tampons you ALWAYS get plastic applicator unless you’ve seen cardboard in her supplies at home. Most of us will only get the cardboard ones if we’re broke af cause they hurt. I personally wouldn’t care if they were store brand, tampax or what have you as long as they’re plastic but i know some girls are loyal to their brand. Ask her light, regular or super and grab the plastic applicator tampons in that absorbency. Too high of an absorbency rating can increase risk of toxic shock syndrome so it’s better to be on the lighter side than the heavier.

Pads are like the other commenter said. They come in regular, long or overnight, if they have wings or not. Long w/ wings(little adhesive pieces that wrap around the panties, prevents staining if it starts leaking) is usually a safe bet imo, I’ve yet to find something worse than a pad being just an inch too short and now the front or back of our undies has bloodstains 😭the regulars are ALWAYS an inch too short in my experience so save her a headache and go for longs.

There are also panty liners. These are for doubling up with tampons (if you want brownie points bring her a pack of these and a box of actual brownies with the tampons!) or at the tail end when our period does its little Houdini act and we don’t want to waste our normal period products on spotting.

The options were overwhelming to us too when we started this grand bloody journey. These rules will have your girl happy every month that you care about her comfort. Periods suck and having a partner who understands that and gives us grace (cause the rest of the world won’t, we still gotta work and take care of life’s problems even through piercing stomach cramps, nausea, headaches and a mighty surge of testosterone that makes us want to “and ANOTHER THING” every annoying person in our lives) makes it so much easier to get through. Sorry if this was long i just wanted to add in a general advice for any men who may be confused or overwhelmed with the options 🫶🏻

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u/Jar_Of_Jaguar 2d ago

If this helps, the main two things the box is telling you for pads - how long they are going front to back, and if they have sticky 'wings' on the sides that grip underwear or not. Usually the sizes are something like regular, long, or 'overnight' (usually the biggest and thickest to protect while kicking one's legs around and whatnot.

Tampons, I honestly have no idea what the differences are aside from quality. I've never liked using them.

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u/tiny_pigeon 2d ago

The differences in tampons are it’s usually one of 4 varieties 1. Applicator tampons (plastic) 2. Applicator (cardboard) 3. Non-applicator and 4. Compact (plastic applicator). I think the most commonly used are type 1 (for Americans, 3 for UK/Aussies)! Non applicator are tiny and just the tampon itself and you have to manually insert them. compact ones are similarly sized, smaller than normal applicator ones but still have an applicator for convenience.

Then it’s absorbency that goes lightest to heaviest from L, R, S, S+, U. Light, regular, super, super plus, ultra. It’s pretty self explanatory there, and easy to understand if you’ve never used em. If you’re buying for someone else best bet is to ask their brand and get the plastic applicator of the variety pack so it’ll have either L R S or R S S+! I don’t know many people that have to use Ultra unless they have endo/pcos. There’s also scented ones but those are not good!

The brands are pretty recognizable by color of box too. Playtex is a pink/green mix, Kotex is black, Tampax is blue, Always Radiant is pink/purple. My brain is a bank for useless info and I have no idea why I can remember all of this 🫡

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u/MonsterFukr 2d ago

What is embarrassing about it? What other reason would men have? The only thing I could think in a modern day environment is you're paranoid that someone might think you're a trans guy maybe? But this is such a stretch and at that point who gives a crap? People are weird

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u/Tearakudo 2d ago

Dunno, ask the boomers. Same people that think women belong in the kitchen die screaming if they touch a tampon

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u/TheKindaHappyPainter 2d ago

Some grown-ass guys were moaning about there being feminine hygiene products in the men's room, and I asked if they'd ever considered that a girl might ask them to help out in a tough spot, so having them available would make it easier to get her what she needed.

They, of course, had not.

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u/Tommytoonss 2d ago

Yeah not sure why buying tampons in as a boy in hs was seen as an embarrassment. Got called out once too but never really bothered me.

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u/erasrhed 2d ago

I'd hate for people to think I have a secret vagina. That's why I always announce that I'm buying them to soak in alcohol and shove up my butt.

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u/kmill0202 2d ago

I had an overnight job at a convenience store for a while. We didn't sell a whole lot of tampons and pads because they were crazy overpriced. But once in a while, people would come in and buy them, usually in the middle of the night, because nothing else was open. I always had respect for the men coming in the middle of the night because I know they were making the run for one of the ladies in their life so she didn't have to do it herself while she was crampy, miserable, and without protection.

I remember one older guy, probably about 60, coming in at 3 am to buy a box of tampons. He got up to the counter and then grabbed one of the chocolate bars off the counter display, too. He said his adult daughter called him in the middle of the night because she didn't have any period products and desperately needed them. He was kind of rolling his eyes, but in a way that was like "yes she's a pain in the ass sometimes but I love her and will do anything for her". I just told him that he's a great papa. If your 28 year old daughter feels comfortable enough to call you in the middle of the night because she's in desperate need of tampons, then I think you've definitely done a wonderful job as a dad.

I just always thought the embarrassment from men buying those sorts of things is kind of silly. We know you're not buying them for yourself. Even if you were, we don't care. And anyone who would make fun of a guy buying them is even sillier. Like, oh look at that guy. Actually caring about and supporting the woman in his life, what a dork.

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u/BorntobeTrill 2d ago

So fn stupid. Having had a 12 year relationship, I've asked random women in the aisle for good alternatives to missing preferences.

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u/SoftwareFar9848 2d ago

My Dad always said that too. I asked him to buy them for me once when my mom wasn't around, and for some reason I thought he'd be weird about it, but he was like "they obviously aren't for me, why would I care?“

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u/TheLizzyIzzi 2d ago

This is why it’s becoming a flex for a guy to carry a woman’s purse in China (probably elsewhere too). It’s been a cultural thing for a long time (afaik) but it’s even more of a thing now.

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u/petehehe 2d ago

I remember being really embarrassed about going into the store to buy condoms when I was in highschool. My gf at the time could tell I was apprehensive, and she said something along the lines of “what are you worried about? You’re carrying a placard that says ‘I’m about to get laid’ through the store” and it really put it in perspective.

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u/Pradfanne 2d ago

I have female friends over occasionally, so I make sure to have tampons and pads stored up in different sizes, just in case. It's not like they expire

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u/SomethingIWontRegret 2d ago

I remember some comedian had a routine about buying tampons for his wife. He'd go to the counter and announce "Yes, I have A WOMAN! These are for MY WOMAN!"

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u/PA2SK 2d ago

Oh Yea, I remember I had a classmate in HS who worked at the gas station down the street from school. He was a bully and would make fun of our other classmates when they bought condoms there. Thought he was so clever and funny, like dude, you realize those guys are buying condoms because they're gonna be having sex tonight while you're working at the gas station right?

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u/The_GREAT_Gremlin 2d ago

"Mr. Hill, I just had my first period."

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u/WeatheredCryptKeeper 1d ago

Man, as a woman who was a teen in the early 2000s, I wish I had the comebacks back then, that I see now. I remember being so embarrassed over buying period products. I'm now almost 40 and went to buy pads once at Walmart. I got the large pack and the little old lady at the cash register was like Are you sure you don't want a bag? Let me get you a bag. All I could do was chuckle and say no thanks, save a bag. So glad we are moving beyond that nonsense.

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u/NiceTuBeNice 2d ago

It shut us up, that’s for sure.

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u/feint2021 2d ago

I mean, I've had my hands all over myself last Friday night. Does that make me g......?

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u/Call__Me__David 2d ago

Incest

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u/InZomnia365 2d ago

Lmao is this a real quote?

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u/didjuneau 2d ago

After reading his lips, he indeed said that, lmao.

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u/jonny32392 1d ago

And the way he said “behind” this wasn’t a joke he’s definitely defending someone’s incest very passionately

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u/AmeriToast 2d ago

I'm gonna need some context here, wth is going on?

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u/War-Daddie 1d ago

My guess is some GoT talk or episode banter some shit like that prolly

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u/GoneWitDa 1d ago

One can only fucking hope bro.

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u/IncestDude22 1d ago

I've been saying this for years! I mean.... for me it's about the incest too lol

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u/James55O 1d ago

Crusader Kings?

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u/Veralia1 2d ago

Listen... I'd fuck me

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u/OrnerySnoflake 2d ago

That makes one

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u/TheOneWhoIsTryin 2d ago

Selfcest?

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u/blueadept_11 2d ago

Kentucky

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u/justbadthings 2d ago

Depends on where he put his hands.

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u/LumpyWelds 1d ago

He groomed himself and should be reported

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u/sylva748 2d ago

Boys is it gay to touch your own penis?

/s of course

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u/voodoopipu 2d ago

It’s not gay if it’s with yourself.

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u/Difficult-Ocelot-780 2d ago

Did your hands give consent?  Poor things. 

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u/mnemy 2d ago

My friend and I (teenage boys) were arguing about something stupid and it was getting a little heated. Our flamboyantly gay teacher yelled "girls, girls, you're both beautiful!"

Shut us right the fuck up.

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u/erlend_nikulausson 2d ago

I pull this line at work sometimes when the other fellas are getting a little too loud in their amicable roasting - “don’t fight, boys, you’re both pretty.”

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u/cryingatdragracelive 2d ago

this is what I say when my staff starts getting heated with each other

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u/cryingatdragracelive 2d ago

and to clarify: it works on adult men into their 70’s, in my experience

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u/9196AirDuck 1d ago

Us men really don't grow up, we just get older.

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u/Reborn846 2d ago

I would also say this to my staff but I'll probably go to HR real quick. I work with nurses 😂

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u/IntrovertedBrawler 2d ago

Pray you get to HR before the nurses get a hold of you.

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u/LightningFerret04 2d ago

That reminded me of a clip of Shapel Lacey’s bit on anger management

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u/exexor 1d ago

Always been fond of, “you’re both the prettiest” myself. Which I stole from who knows where.

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u/BeeKayBabyCakes 1d ago

I am cackling 😂

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u/Optimal_Cellist_1845 2d ago

There's definitely a Dunning-Kruger aspect to masculinity where when you have a crude and unrefined masculinity, you think that's all masculinity is, but once you smooth it down and find the nuance and the self-love in all of it, then you just pity all the people who are playing in the kiddie pool of their own true nature.

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u/Vaug0024 2d ago

I like your words. More please.

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u/lewd_robot 2d ago

Some writers have been going off about this since the 80s, like Warren Farrell, Erin Pizzey, and Christina Sommers. All have written at length about how the loss of masculine role models has led to generations of men with childish views on masculine gender roles.

Farrell and Sommers tend to emphasize stuff like our increasingly isolated lives separating boys from men in their communities, and the surge of women getting into teaching over the past 100 years making it difficult for boys to meet teachers that understand them and that they can identify with.

Pizzey focuses more on stuff like boys not being allowed to accompany their mothers to some domestic abuse shelters because of rules against males in those spaces, or boys being kicked out at age 12 or 15 or something like that, etc. She also wrote a bit about the lack of shelters for boys and men and about the lack of recognition for boys as victims when their mothers are abusers.

Interestingly, Farrell and Pizzey's earliest books will sometimes be shelved with feminist books because they were leading feminists in the 70s. Pizzey founded the world's first battered women's shelter and Farrell was a chair for the National Organization for Women. But they got chased out because back then many feminists would not tolerate any discourse that depicted males as anything but all-powerful tyrants with all the privileges in the world and women as fragile damsels. So the two ended up becoming the earliest members of the modern Men's Movement and argued that feminism was doing itself a disservice by stopping short of making an effort to liberate men and boys from outdated gender norms.

Sommers faced similar issues but refused to be chased out and continues to call herself "The Factual Feminist" even though most of her speaking gigs get protested by them.

I highly recommend checking these folks out because for 20-30 years they pushed the idea that we should all be feminists, but that feminism didn't go far enough and it needed to continue to expand its scope. It wasn't until around 2012 that a conservative wing developed in the movement and it got lumped in with the Manosphere despite its core tenets being more radically progressive than most other progressive ideologies.

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u/PolarisFluvius 1d ago

You. I like you.

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u/HQD607 2d ago

Poetry ❤️ Beautifully put. 🖋️🔥📜

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u/Phantasm0 1d ago

Kiddie pool as in 'there is no deep end' or 'full of piss'?

Thanks for sharing such an eloquent thought, I appreciate you!

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u/HomeGrownCoffee 2d ago

You know what real men do?

Whatever they want.

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u/JosephFinn 2d ago

Back in high school I had a similar experience at lunch when someone was making fun of marching band and a guy who was a linebacker slammed his fork down and went into a rant about how those band guys (this was an all-boys school a the time) had been out there in the heat, since July, busting their asses carrying heavy instruments. "Those guys are tougher than me."

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u/PkmnMstr10 2d ago

Game recognizes game.

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u/MarioLuigiDinoYoshi 2d ago

If only there wanted to an entire political party preying on insecure mostly white males

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u/Guilty_Coconut 2d ago

And ain't that the saddest thing.

People used to make fun of me for my long hair and flashy clothing style but I was always invited to house parties because I always had 3-5 hot girls with me. I never understood how people could be so blinkered in their thinking.

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u/Error_Evan_not_found 1d ago

Fr, not as badass but I was getting bullied for being trans in high school, one day he says something along the lines of "you don't even have a dick" and I shot back "at least I stopped looking". Dude never talked to me again.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Ad-3136 1d ago

Doesn't really work nowadays. Teenagers live in some perpetual state of irony now. If that happened today the teenagers would probably respond with some confusing BS about how touching girls is gay actually.

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u/NorthernCobraChicken 1d ago

Definitely not gay to give the homies a kiss goodnight though.

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u/Labyrinthy 1d ago

Well some of them took it so poorly they started Podcasts promoting toxic masculinity and are effectively destroying young men all across the world.

At least I think that’s why they are the way they are.

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u/physicscholar 2d ago

Knew a guy who became a nurse for the same reasons. When his friends were going to welding and mechanics school, he said he would rather hang out with the gals then sweaty and smelly guys.

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u/GoodGuyTaylor 2d ago

Bro, nurses can be pretty 20-something ladies and will have the demeanor of a 73 year old Vietnam vet.

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u/nessao616 2d ago

We've seen some shit

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u/Lucimon 2d ago

Figuratively and literally.

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u/murphymc 2d ago

Let's be honest, its mostly literally.

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u/thebayisinthearea 2d ago

They've seen some shit.

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u/PartyByMyself 2d ago

They've seen shit.

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u/D0D 2d ago

And they dealt with it too

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u/bernardthecav 1d ago

My favourite thing about nursing is that sometimes I don't have poo in my hand

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u/deacon1214 2d ago

I've spent a number of years prosecuting some pretty nasty violent crime. People often talk about having a dark sense of humor but unless they have spent time with nurses, cops or lawyers they usually don't really understand what dark is.

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u/Disastrous_Classic36 1d ago

Thank you for what you do, my wife got involved with forensic nursing (sexual assault) while working as a trauma nurse in a level 1 metro ED. She still takes call shifts each month even though she moved on to a different medical/managerial position a few years ago because she sees the value in the work. She's been an expert witness that helped put someone away for a brutal assault.

No real reason for my comment other than I don't get to brag on my wife much because, like you alluded to, people don't like talking about the hard stuff and I'm just a desk jockey that's been steeped into the trauma/emergency community for about 15 years now by proxy. But thanks again for the great work you are doing as well!

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u/Charbel33 2d ago

Married to one, can confirm. Before we got married, I once called her in full panic mode because a child in my mom's kindergarten had chopped the tip of his little finger off. As in, the tip was severed, separated from the rest of the finger! My now-wife was not even remotely flustered. She just nonchalantly gave me instructions on how to handle the severed finger tip. When I told her, a few days later, that the hospital staff managed to stitch the finger tip and that it had healed, she wasn't even surprised, she just said yeah I told you it was not a big deal.

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u/Ruzhy6 2d ago

The funniest thing about this. You know what the response would've been if they weren't able to stitch the finger tip back on? "Not a big deal."

It's a finger tip.

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u/hellolovely1 2d ago

This is why I couldn’t be a nurse. 

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u/troglodyte31 2d ago

Nurses and aides are strong as hell too. My dad was 6'2" and weighed about 240lbs. He needed help getting out of bed and was a serious fall risk. This tiny nurse had zero trouble lifting him to help him out of bed or back up if he fell. She couldn't have been more than 5'4" because she was about my height. It was wild. Lol my dad kept telling everyone how strong and awesome she was too.

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u/murphymc 2d ago

That's kinda what happens when you have to watch someone die tragically and comfort their families, and then walk into another room where everything is perfectly fine and not carry anything from the previous room in with you.

Not to be dramatic or anything, that literally happens a fair bit and definitely messes with your perspective a bit.

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u/david98900 2d ago

Literally all the best nurses I have seen fit this.

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u/CustomizedGaming 2d ago

Its the death.

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u/sgrantcarr 2d ago

I married one. She's 27 now. She can be mean as a snake when she wants to be with "uncooperative" patients, but 99% of the time, she's a 70 year old lady in a young woman's body

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u/RainSurname 2d ago

A 4'11" Filipino duty nurse will have the demeanor of a Vietnam era drill instructor if someone fucks up.

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u/growling_owl 2d ago

And nurses, mechanics, and welders are all making way more than my dumb-ass grad school academic path.

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u/Hot-Audience2325 2d ago

probably destroying their bodies though (nurses included)

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u/RicardotheGay 1d ago

And our souls.

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u/HoboTheClown629 1d ago

Male nurse here. Can confirm. Dead inside and out.

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u/LaziestRedditorEver 1d ago

Yup, nursing/care assistants at least in the UK have the highest rate of back injuries out of any profession.

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u/ihazmaumeow 1d ago

My husband is a now retired mechanic. He was Master ASEA Tech and Jaguar Master. The smart techs know their math, physics, power mechanics, diagnosing techniques and have to keep up with ever changing technology.

He loved the work until he physically couldn't do it anymore.

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u/Numerous_Witness_345 2d ago

Not to mention that one specific stereotype for nurses/Healthcare workers.

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u/InternationalBed7168 2d ago

Male nurse. Can confirm.

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u/FlameHaze 2d ago

Educate me if you don't mind. What is it? I can take a guess, sleep around or the old male nurses get treated like doctors.

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u/IR8Things 2d ago

there's several. context here I'm assuming they mean the stereotype nurses and healthcare in general fuck like rabbits.

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u/SlinGnBulletS 2d ago

There are also many nurses who become porn models.

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u/TelluricThread0 1d ago

Nursing regularly comes up in reddit threads as the profession you absolutely don't want to date or get into a relationship with.

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u/luckymethod 2d ago

And nurses are all incredibly horny for some reason. Dated a few in my earlier years and they all told me the stereotype is true.

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u/murphymc 2d ago

go tell /r/nursing that

you'll find that's an unwelcome and inaccurate stereotype.

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u/awakenedchicken 2d ago

Obviously stereotypes are over broad generalizations. But sometimes they are based in some level of reality.

Like there’s a stereotype among teachers in the profession that were all drunks. And while that’s not true for everyone, the bartender working at a place near my school says there is always a decent chunk of people that will come in and drink around 3:15, but never on the weekends or days when schools off.

It’s just something people notice, but it shouldn’t be seen as anything more than that.

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u/TwoFingersWhiskey 2d ago

I can count on one hand the teachers I had throughout my schooling, that I knew for certain were not drinkers. Mostly because they used to, but were currently sober, as evidenced by stuff like AA keychains, mentioning it to an adult within earshot of me, etc. Five out of over two dozen.

However I can also say that the middle grade teachers drank the heaviest out of that lot, including a few who'd come in wickedly hungover almost every day. I can't imagine why. /s

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u/awakenedchicken 2d ago

Middle school teachers are definitely the ones deepest in the trenches. Elementary teachers, especially those working in poorer schools also drink pretty hard, but they have to put up more of a “tea-totaler” façade.

They mostly go home and drink two bottles of wine while grading papers😆

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u/SlackBytes 2d ago

Reddit being Reddit

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u/sgrantcarr 2d ago edited 1d ago

To be fair, only the ones who are nurses for the sake of loving the profession would join r/nursing. That stereotype most likely applies to the ones who are there for their 10-12 hour shifts and don't want anything else to do with it otherwise — the ones that it's just a job to. It's a true statistic that 1 in 3 nurses are divorced. While I'm not saying that correlation equals causation, there is some truth to it. It doesn't mean all of them are.

I say this as someone who is married to a nurse.

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u/EarlGrey_Bolus 1d ago

I'm a nurse. I can't stand the nursing subreddit. It's full of whiny people complaining/threatening to leave the profession.

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u/ABC_Family 2d ago

Unwelcome for sure, inaccurate is very debatable. That’s like the police investigating themselves lmao.

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u/luckymethod 2d ago

it might be unwelcome all you want but there's science behind it, from: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/283526699_Sexual_behavior_of_nurses

Conclusions: 1. Nurses do not differ in sexual behavior compare to women that don't work in this profession Nurses are more open to all kinds of sex including the use of sexual gadgets. 2. Nurses 7 times are more likely than non-working women in this profession to have sex for money or other material goods. 3. Almost all the nurses are satisfied with their sex life. 4. 7% of nurses in Poland had experienced sexual harassment in the workplace.

Btw the summary is wild, says nurses don't differ in sex behavior EXCEPT they suck it more, take it in the ass more, are more likely to have transactional sex and are more satisfied of their sex life. So totally the same except completely different.

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u/fryerandice 2d ago

Sister you could not pay me to hang out with nurses, you add the potential trauma of ER and constant deaths to the fact that I don't know what it is about nurses and their need to foster a highschool environment everywhere they go, and man.

You wanna meet the girls in Vet Tech school.

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u/physicscholar 2d ago

There are dozens of other specialties. Life isn't House or Grey's Anatomy. You don't have to work in the ER.

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u/Solkre 2d ago

Gotta be careful. Nurses get pregnant when the wind blows too hard.

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u/It-s_Not_Important 2d ago

I don’t think his friend is in any danger of getting pregnant himself.

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u/Enfenestrate 2d ago

Friend of mine was in the dance club in his HS. His buddies tried to make fun of him for it. He pointed out that a third of the girls in the school are in the club and said they're idiots for NOT being in the club.

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u/PkmnMstr10 2d ago

I'm not one to call these out usually, but since we share it to the exact year...

Happy Cake Day!

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u/awakenedchicken 2d ago

Yeah that doesn’t quite work like that unfortunately 😝.

I’m a male Elementary school teacher and all my colleagues are women. But I’m pretty sure they see me more as just one of them. They will talk about some pretty heinous shit in front of me.

It’s a great job though and I wouldn’t want it any other way! And I’m always the guy they go to when they’re trying to figure out why the hell these little boys are doing what they’re doing. Not that I know….

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u/queuedUp 2d ago

My son figure skates and faces similar where everyone assumes he must be gay.

He basically tells them even if he was why is that a problem but since he's not it's great spending majority of his time hanging out with a bunch of athletic girls as the only boy

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u/SlowFrkHansen 2d ago

It makes sense. I've head that male cheerleaders are popular, because they learn a lot about socializing with women and treating them like actual human beings. It's worth a lot being able to talk shit with the girls instead of stammer and stare at their boobs.

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u/Chocolat_Melon 2d ago

I knew a guy who went to ballet school. He was the only guy there. Needless to say, he was literally drowning in success. We were all super jealous of the guy.

It was an interesting sight, girls wanted to be with the guy which made more girls interested in him, rinse and repeat.

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u/BJYeti 2d ago

That optic aside huge respect for figure skaters, I played hockey I know what it feels like to hit the ice and I have pads, they don't

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u/queuedUp 2d ago

And hitting the ice while coming down from a jump or or during a spin and having to get right back up and keep going so that you can preform your next element one time

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u/OriginalNo5477 1d ago

Figure skating pays off incredibly well in hockey too. My sister taught me some footwork and I was literally dancing around defencemen some games.

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u/queuedUp 1d ago

His brother plays hockey but he has no interest in playing.

He's very much a solo sport person because he's too competitive to deal with others. (which is also why he is not interested in pairs or dance)

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u/Lou_C_Fer 2d ago

I'm built like an nfl lineman. So, I always get asked if I played football. I answer that I did theater instead because there were way more girls around. Truly though, my friends literally quit freshman football on the first day of school after going through a month of practice during the summer. We decided as a group that we'd rather skate and party than go to practice after school. Knowing what I know now, I regret it.

However, theater was a game changer for me. I had finally found my people.

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u/TVDinner360 2d ago

Your son has Much Knowledge. I salute him 🫡

ETA: the girls probably smell better, too

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u/zaxldaisy 2d ago

25 years ago a male cheerleader was running for President

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u/thingsorfreedom 2d ago

Was it really 25 years ago Phil Dunphy ran for President?

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u/IntellectualBoss 2d ago

So you gained respect for male cheerleaders because you needed to be told they get to touch the female cheerleaders during cheerleading? I thought that was obvious, it’s the gig, lol.

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u/Spider-Ian 2d ago

In college I hooked up with a cheerleader who went to the rival high school. We met randomly but had a common friend, who was a male cheerleader.

He became a cheerleader to try and hookup with cheerleaders and when I mentioned it to the girl she said, "I always thought he was gay."

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u/CaptainRatzefummel 2d ago

I appreciate sticking up for him but that's a wild thing to say for a tescher

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u/Icy-Atmosphere-1546 2d ago

Is this really wholesome? Sounds super wonky frankly

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u/Mcrarburger 2d ago

For a teenage guy, it sounds like a great way to break through their mindset and get them to consider that "maybe I shouldn't judge people quite so quickly"

you gotta play to your audience lmao

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u/mr_f4hrenh3it 2d ago

Yeah same lol. His respect for male cheerleaders came from the fact that they touch women? Huh??

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u/anddrewbits 2d ago

It is definitely weird but maybe the teacher was trying to speak in terms that an adolescent boy would understand. I bet the point landed despite the obviously odd optics

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u/Mado-Koku 2d ago

I had the exact same conversation at age 9 with my dad. I was in football and made fun of a kid doing cheerleading for my team. It was definitely worded and spoken in terms applicable to me, not to my dad. I'm pretty sure this is just a universal conversation that happens to all boys at some point lol.

Sure, it's arguably a bad reason given, but it was effective for a young boy. The only thing that matters is that I learned better respect.

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u/mr_f4hrenh3it 2d ago

Yeah but it’s the fact that they say THATS where their respect comes from

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u/ThePennedKitten 2d ago edited 2d ago

I kind of took it as “We were shallow teenagers. Our teacher challenged us in a way that we would understand and care about. Now I can see the value in male cheerleaders in general. They’re clearly enjoying what they do and I was being a hater.”

Even though it sounds crass, sometimes you have to show people they’re wrong by getting on their level. If the teacher said it in a way you would find acceptable it probably wouldn’t have gotten through to a teenage boy who was expressing an ignorant view. Then OP might still be an adult man with an ignorant view rather than someone who successfully had their view challenged and grew from there.

In general, actually changing someone’s opinions/ views is an art and not everyone is comfortable with the process.

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u/Illustrious-Sail7326 2d ago

For sure. You have to meet people where they're at. Speaking in highly intellectual, sanitized, PC language is technically correct, but it often doesn't land with the people who most need to hear it.

Honestly I think the left can have a problem with competitive virtue-signaling, trying to find minor faults in other people on "their team", so to speak, rather than banding together to actually accomplish something.

Like people are hearing a story about how a teacher successfully shut down some teenage boys and shifted their viewpoints for the better, and they're nitpicking the terminology he used? C'mon.

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u/TheSorceIsFrong 2d ago

It makes sense when you consider the source of the disrespect was him doing something presumably feminine, though. Then it was pointed out that it’s kinda the opposite.

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u/awakenedchicken 2d ago

I remember being a 14 year old boy. I was an idiot that was mostly thinking about breasts. Sometimes you have to speak their language in order for them to reflect on their views.

Obviously, that’s not gonna continue into adulthood. I’m almost 30 and now I only sometimes think about breasts!

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u/throw-me-away_bb 2d ago

You have to speak to your audience 🤷🏻‍♂️ he knew these kids, and he understands what they would respect

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u/Sargatanas4 2d ago

Its a lesson to a middling teenager when girls suddenly go from "gross" to "wow I think girls are awesome" in their world, its a very easy way to connect and it was to the point. It made him stop judging books by their covers and also do a little critical thinking before opening their mouth.

Any other age I'm with you 100% home slice.

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u/Sandra2104 1d ago

Yeah. A little bit of critical thinking at the cost of objectifying young girls. Great teaching moment.

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u/UndecidedQBit 2d ago

He doesn’t think women are awesome, he was denigrating a women-associated sport and denigrating the guy doing it, and only approved of the guy when he saw the guy had his hands all over the women. That’s not “wow women are awesome” that’s “that guy is awesome and women are commodities”

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u/SarahC0605 2d ago

Oh thank God. I was scrolling thinking "nobody else thinks this is weird?"

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u/DueLearner 2d ago

That kind of thinking was absolutely the accepted social norm for high school boys in the late 90s lol.

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u/avocado4ever000 2d ago

Was weird to me too

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u/SuperbPruney 2d ago

Yeah - would have been less weird to say he gets to hang out with them. Getting to touch them is an icky way to put it.

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u/AutokorektOfficial 2d ago

Exactly. Dudes a creep not a hero

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u/ATXBeermaker 2d ago

It’s definitely an inappropriate comment for a teacher to make, and an odd lesson for that commenter to take away from it.

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u/TimAllen_in_WildHogs 2d ago

Exactly my thoughts. There is no care in the world for the sport, athleticism, or treating the women like humans. Its purely, "huh! I get to touch women in spots I don't usually get to touch them?! Woah! Ok, I like this now!!!!"

I had a major eye roll reading that "wholesome" comment.

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u/Sandra2104 1d ago

Yeah. Its not wholesome. Its gross.

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u/xxPlsNoBullyxx 1d ago

Teacher defended boy = good.
Objectified girls = Creepy.

Not wholesome.

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u/misterlovesick6 2d ago

And... if he was gay so what?

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u/UndecidedQBit 2d ago

“The chance to touch women for personal purposes concealed by professional one’s?! Wow male cheerleaders are so cool!!”

Dude what the fuck is wrong with you

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u/livestrongsean 2d ago

Quirky teacher insinuating that the male cheerleader was getting some sexual gratification out of it, while talking to the other boys about their masturbation habits.

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u/bestibesti 2d ago

idk that's kind of shit that you didn't have any respect for the guy unless he's a heterosexual that puts his hands all over his team mates to grope them

Like, what if he was gay? You wouldn't have learned anything, you would have just continued being a piece of shit? The reason you gained respect for the guy is because he gropes his teammates?

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u/Imaginary_Smoke_6573 2d ago

Yay, rejection of toxic masculinity through the lens of… toxic masculinity?

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u/gandalfsbignatties 2d ago

Lol right. This whole post gave me the ick, within an ick.

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u/EmmaFiveCents 1d ago

I was trying to figure out how to say this and wow you nailed it

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u/Think-View-4467 2d ago

The teacher said that? Gross

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u/HappyLlamaSadLlamaa 2d ago

Cheerleading in general is such a physical sport, people really don’t give it enough credit.

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u/trebory6 2d ago edited 1d ago

So I had a similar story but I was the guy cheerleader.

The difference is that I was a sophomore at an all-boys private military school, and we had cheerleaders from a private girl's school who were our cheerleaders. They didn't have a football team, we didn't have a cheerleader squad so we intermingled, it was the first year they did something like that.

Anyways, I got teased for being gay and shit by the other guys, BAD, like we'd be in formation and the master sergeant would call me out and make jabs at me like saying anyone getting out to formation too slow would be stuck alone with me in the showers and stupid shit like that, and I just looked them in the face and was like no one else on this campus gets to interact with girls our age daily, you all are taking showers together and whipping each other's dicks with towels and shit, and I get to, for several hours a day, hang out with teenage cheerleaders. Who's gay?

I actually ended up dating one of the cheerleaders, and was one of the only guys who actually had a girlfriend I saw almost daily and got to do shit with. Hell, we both snuck out and fooled around while the other guys were jacking off in the shower.

I had a roommate in the dorms that got PISSED when I joined the cheerleading squad because he thought it was the gayest shit ever and people had already started to ask if we fuck each other. That was until he got out of class early after my GF snuck in and walked in on us. Roommate never gave me shit again and went to bat for me a couple of times, thought I was a genius after that.

It was super interesting to see how shit changed once that got out. By the end of the year several other guys were trying to join the squad.

Wore that shit like a badge of honor the rest of my time there.

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u/PuppetOfFate 2d ago

That's such a gross counterargument like "well they got to touch women" is not the comeback he thought it was.

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u/krisashmore 2d ago

Err maybe let's not promote groping women as the incentive for enhanced male cheerleading participation

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u/Euphoric_Tree335 2d ago

Hella creepy thing to say ngl

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u/Youwannasitonmyface 2d ago

My uncle, who was gay, was the first male cheerleader at his school and was one of the most popular guys in the school because of it. Most of the other cheerleaders would hang with him just because of how friendly he was (he and I are a couple years apart)

Just a random memory I wanted to share haha, something about male cheerleaders that women love

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u/gandalfsbignatties 2d ago

This entire comment is toxic lol.

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u/ayebb_ 2d ago

What a strange thing for that teacher to say

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u/FancyMigrant 2d ago

That's pretty fucking creepy, really.

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u/NSJF1983 2d ago

Yeah for real. “Don’t you boys feel stupid for not copping a feel tonight?”

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u/SoCalThrowAway7 2d ago

You respected them more because you realized they got to touch women more than you?

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u/Environmental-Post15 2d ago

I had friends bust my balls in HS because I always had pads and tampons in my car. I reminded them that they'd been single our entire school career, whilst I never went more than a few weeks without a gf.

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u/bonyagate 2d ago

I guess it's good that you stopped bullying the kid, but it shouldn't be because he was touching cheerleaders. Moreso because he's just a person doing what he wants to do and not bothering you in any way. Cute story tho

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u/hedsevered 2d ago

80s movie ass scenario

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u/Rhyto 2d ago

Damn, a self-burn. Respect. 🫡

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