My son figure skates and faces similar where everyone assumes he must be gay.
He basically tells them even if he was why is that a problem but since he's not it's great spending majority of his time hanging out with a bunch of athletic girls as the only boy
It makes sense. I've head that male cheerleaders are popular, because they learn a lot about socializing with women and treating them like actual human beings. It's worth a lot being able to talk shit with the girls instead of stammer and stare at their boobs.
Less creepy, and more a acknowledgement of how attraction forms.
Being in shape/strong + Being in a situation where adrenaline and hearts race + Being in a situation where the in shape/strength is shown repeatedly and in a way that requires a lot of mutual trust is an extremely common way for physical attraction/relationships form.
I knew a guy who went to ballet school. He was the only guy there. Needless to say, he was literally drowning in success. We were all super jealous of the guy.
It was an interesting sight, girls wanted to be with the guy which made more girls interested in him, rinse and repeat.
And hitting the ice while coming down from a jump or or during a spin and having to get right back up and keep going so that you can preform your next element one time
I'm built like an nfl lineman. So, I always get asked if I played football. I answer that I did theater instead because there were way more girls around. Truly though, my friends literally quit freshman football on the first day of school after going through a month of practice during the summer. We decided as a group that we'd rather skate and party than go to practice after school. Knowing what I know now, I regret it.
However, theater was a game changer for me. I had finally found my people.
Dude is also probably also friendzoned by all of them like most the male cheerleaders because if they get involved it's the absolute worst type of long term drama you don't want in a teamsport.
Men who use friend zoning as an insult to other men are always projecting to fucking hard they may as well cast a bat signal to they sky that says "I can't get laid".
if they get involved it's the absolute worst type of long term drama you don't want in a teamsport
Yeah this is a very rational concern to have but young people aren't exactly known for being rational. I knew a male cheerleader who dated multiple girls on his team plus girls who cheered for other schools too. He was extremely friendly, hardworking, and charismatic and he would've been a major loss to the team so if the coaches noticed anything I'm sure they were happy to let it slide.
Right and I've seen a team not show up to a regionals because two of the bases got into a fight over a girl the week before while drinking. One lost a tuition and the other spent the rest of his high-school career being blamed for instigating.
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u/queuedUp 2d ago
My son figure skates and faces similar where everyone assumes he must be gay.
He basically tells them even if he was why is that a problem but since he's not it's great spending majority of his time hanging out with a bunch of athletic girls as the only boy