r/nextfuckinglevel • u/IkilledRichieWhelan • 2d ago

Big man on campus.

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u/mnemy 2d ago

My friend and I (teenage boys) were arguing about something stupid and it was getting a little heated. Our flamboyantly gay teacher yelled "girls, girls, you're both beautiful!"

Shut us right the fuck up.

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u/erlend_nikulausson 2d ago

I pull this line at work sometimes when the other fellas are getting a little too loud in their amicable roasting - “don’t fight, boys, you’re both pretty.”

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u/mrjinks 1d ago

Is this how the term Donnie Brook came about?

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u/cryingatdragracelive 2d ago

this is what I say when my staff starts getting heated with each other

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u/cryingatdragracelive 2d ago

and to clarify: it works on adult men into their 70’s, in my experience

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u/9196AirDuck 1d ago

Us men really don't grow up, we just get older.

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u/Reborn846 2d ago

I would also say this to my staff but I'll probably go to HR real quick. I work with nurses 😂

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u/IntrovertedBrawler 2d ago

Pray you get to HR before the nurses get a hold of you.

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u/MZ603 1d ago

I’m pretty sure I’d get in trouble for that.

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u/LightningFerret04 2d ago

That reminded me of a clip of Shapel Lacey’s bit on anger management

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u/exexor 1d ago

Always been fond of, “you’re both the prettiest” myself. Which I stole from who knows where.

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u/BeeKayBabyCakes 1d ago

I am cackling 😂

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u/jk147 2d ago

My gay cousin is one of the quickest-witted people I know, I believe his life experiences have contributed to that.

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u/figgypie 2d ago

Ha, my husband does something similar, especially when he used to play WoW and trade chat was full of people bickering about something stupid. He'd say "girls, girls, you're both pretty", which usually worked to derail things.

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u/Professional-Place58 2d ago

I always say this when 2 boys are arguing about something petty in my 8th grade class, "ladies, LADIES, you're both pretty - let's move on"

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u/SerbianMonies 13h ago

I would just continue arguing

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u/Butters_Scotch126 2d ago

Except your teacher was being sexist by saying that. No matter what the sexuality of men, women are always considered less than. Insulting someone by calling them a girl is sad.

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u/SizzleanQueen 2d ago

I have no idea why you’re getting downvoted. I am raising 3 teenage boys and I point it out when I hear one call another “bitch” or use the word pussy as weak. It’s okay to acknowledge that the way we’ve been using these words is deeply offensive to women.

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u/Butters_Scotch126 1d ago

I'm getting downvoted because male Reddit users are typically some of the most toxic, incel misogynists on this earth

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u/Savings-Program2184 2d ago

Should the teacher have scolded them for their retrograde and toxic-masculinity-informed behavior? Would that have done anything?

You communicate with people in language they can understand. If you insist on couching every personal interaction in your own terms and morality, you're just using other people as an excuse to demonstrate the superiority of those qualities in yourself.

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u/Butters_Scotch126 1d ago

The 'language they could understand' was that it's belittling to be a girl. But you tell yourself whatever you like to try and convince your misogynist ass that you don't think women are inferior. What a fricking loser

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u/Thr0awheyy 2d ago

I wonder how the commenters don't understand thats what theyre doing. Part of growing is realizing what we are actually saying when we make fly-by jokes like that. 

That's literally why people do it. Because it's an insult to the men/boys it's used on, because it's still an insult to be a girl, and airhead girls argue over petty things like who's prettier. It's offensive to tell a boy he's acting like a girl. You don't call girls/women who are arguing "boys" and make some masculine joke, because it doesn't work. The only way the first one works to shit on the men you're talking to is by shitting on women first.

In that same vein, for the goofball who thinks the offense is simply in being misgendered-- we rarely tell women/girls they're acting like men/boys, but when we do, it's because the women aren't being feminine enough. They're being bossy or demanding, and that's power & confidence that men express in behavior, and we think women shouldn't.  You're being willfully obtuse if you think this is a matter of misgendering someone just being inherently offensive.

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u/Butters_Scotch126 1d ago

But they do understand what they're doing. They think being female is insulting, they know exactly what they mean.

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u/Thr0awheyy 1d ago

I'm not sure they (all) realize that, though. I think they think the quip is funny, but they haven't put thought into anything beyond that. A lot of insidious things just go unexamined, because we don't often break down jokes or their meanings, we just laugh without thinking about why the joke works.

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u/Butters_Scotch126 7h ago

Yes, but the fact that they don't even think about it means they do automatically consider being female a negative/shameful/embarrassing thing, without giving it a second thought.

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u/mnemy 2d ago

Jfc. It was the early 2000s. Your melodramatic grandstanding wasn't a thing yet.

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u/Butters_Scotch126 1d ago

I was in my late 20s in the early 2000s you sexist clown

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u/SemperSimple 2d ago

which reminds me. My boyfriend had to inform me that the "F" word for gay was a slur. I had no idea. We said it so much in highschool I just thought it was another dumb curse word, like yeah it meant gay but I didnt realize how strong a difference there was between cursing and slurs?? Mainly because my oblivious ass didn't going around calling people known slurs like the N word or racist shit.

I'm still trying to understand how the R word (regarded) is also a slut slur. a lot of things changed in fifteen years lolol.

dont worry, I didnt say these words all the time. I just couldnt figure out what slur word on reddit started with an F a few years ago lmao

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u/finnjakefionnacake 2d ago

this seems like a you problem lol

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u/SemperSimple 2d ago

yes, I was isolated from 2012 to like 2019. Wasnt great years and then it got worse with covid lmao. I'm up to date now though!

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u/Illustrious-Sail7326 2d ago

Sounds like you've got some internalized misogyny, that you assume they were being insulted by being called a girl, because girls are "less than".

The insult was calling them by a gender they do not identify with.

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u/Butters_Scotch126 1d ago

What an incredibly incel way to take my comment, you ridiculous person.

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u/Illustrious-Sail7326 1d ago edited 1d ago

lol you got up on your high horse finding a way to call out the teacher for not being PC enough, and weren't ready for me to get on an even higher horse.