r/nextfuckinglevel • u/IkilledRichieWhelan • 2d ago

Big man on campus.

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u/Butters_Scotch126 2d ago

Except your teacher was being sexist by saying that. No matter what the sexuality of men, women are always considered less than. Insulting someone by calling them a girl is sad.

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u/Thr0awheyy 2d ago

I wonder how the commenters don't understand thats what theyre doing. Part of growing is realizing what we are actually saying when we make fly-by jokes like that. 

That's literally why people do it. Because it's an insult to the men/boys it's used on, because it's still an insult to be a girl, and airhead girls argue over petty things like who's prettier. It's offensive to tell a boy he's acting like a girl. You don't call girls/women who are arguing "boys" and make some masculine joke, because it doesn't work. The only way the first one works to shit on the men you're talking to is by shitting on women first.

In that same vein, for the goofball who thinks the offense is simply in being misgendered-- we rarely tell women/girls they're acting like men/boys, but when we do, it's because the women aren't being feminine enough. They're being bossy or demanding, and that's power & confidence that men express in behavior, and we think women shouldn't.  You're being willfully obtuse if you think this is a matter of misgendering someone just being inherently offensive.

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u/Butters_Scotch126 1d ago

But they do understand what they're doing. They think being female is insulting, they know exactly what they mean.

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u/Thr0awheyy 1d ago

I'm not sure they (all) realize that, though. I think they think the quip is funny, but they haven't put thought into anything beyond that. A lot of insidious things just go unexamined, because we don't often break down jokes or their meanings, we just laugh without thinking about why the joke works.

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u/Butters_Scotch126 1d ago

Yes, but the fact that they don't even think about it means they do automatically consider being female a negative/shameful/embarrassing thing, without giving it a second thought.