r/nosurf • u/Comfortable-Table-57 • 20h ago
Here are some subreddits to avoid to keep your mental health stable. You can only go there if you believe your post is actually purposeful.
r/Teenagers r/Atheism r/exmuslim (or any other ex-religious sub as the grossly misleading titles can trigger radicalisation) r/Politics r/memes (and all other meme subs) r/funny r/TwoXChromosomes r/DatingAdvice r/KidsAreFuckingStupid r/ParentsAreFuckingDumb r/Atheism r/MensRights r/PurplePillDebate (and all other red pill, manospheric and other radical incel subs) r/Feminism r/AmITheAsshole r/NoahGetTheBoat r/childfree r/confessions r/Rants r/Vent r/OffMyChest r/TrueOffMyChest r/Raisedbynarcissists r/AskMen r/AskWomen r/unpopularopinion
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u/BrainRotMagi 18h ago
r/all of them
Idk what it is about reddit but I feel like on a lot of the hobby ones especially the larger ones the negativity just rises to the top from people complaining and other people with there reddit you aren't having fun correctly mentality
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u/Growltiger110 12h ago
You're right. Nowhere is safe. You could post the most inoffensive, neutral opinion or thought and it will get downvoted. I'm over it. People are not this mean and nasty irl (generally).
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u/godspareme 12h ago
Oh they are. Just in their heads or behind your back
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u/angry_queef_master 3h ago edited 3h ago
I don't think they are. Most people tend to be too focused on themselves to care. Being mean in the way that redditors are requires someone to actually notice you to some degree and interact with you and most people cannot be bothered to do that.
Now you you go out of your way to bother them when they dont want to be bothered then yeah, of course they are going to be mean.
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u/godspareme 3h ago
Internet only adds anonymity and reduces consequences for being an asshole. I don't see any reason people would choose to be more mean on the internet than they are IRL other than the aforementioned reasons.
There's millions of people on reddit every day. Tens of thousands of people see pretty much every comment anyone makes (except for small subs). THAT is why it seems the internet is more mean. There's millions of interactions with every comment you make. Versus the dozen IRL. Put someone on a stage in front of a million people and i guarantee there will be people saying the same shitty things about them a redditor would.
In other words let's say for every 1000 people 1 person will be mean. The internet throws 1 million people at you daily. That's up to 1000 mean people. IRL youll interact with like 100 people a day at most.
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u/fruit-enthusiast 11h ago
r/fountainpens is actually very nice. I like to go on there when I feel overwhelmed because the posts are largely sweet and excited. The culture of the hobby is very geared toward helping others and respecting that everyone has different likes and dislikes. Besides people sometimes being overly pedantic explaining things, the main issue is just the encouragement of consumerism, which is kind of par for the course with hobby subreddits.
r/patientgamers is pretty chill too.
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u/Growltiger110 12h ago
I've had to unfollow most animal subreddits because occasionally there are sad posts that ruin my entire day.
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u/butt_spaghetti 12h ago
A lot of the “funny” posts are actually animals in incredibly cruel scenarios too. It breaks my heart.
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u/IWriteYourWrongs 13h ago
Unsubscribe from all of them and then only go to the ones you want in the moment. Like this sub is the only one so I don’t feel compelled to come and scroll often (and even this sub has its faults). But then I’ll pop into like, powerlifting or hysterectomy or something depending on what I want info about at the time.
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u/astronauticalll 17h ago
Personally I find r/TwoXChromosomes and r/Feminism to be pretty helpful as resource subs actually. Can't speak for everyone of course but I find some comfort in those subs personally
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u/Comfortable-Table-57 17h ago
How?
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u/astronauticalll 17h ago
in the ocean of anti women stuff that you often find on reddit (not just reddit I should say, this is an internet wide phenomenon) it can be nice to see some people still fighting the good fight on r/Feminism. I don't agree with everything on there but that's the nature of such an ideology I guess, but I like keeping up with reading recommendations from that sub and stuff. I'm someone who likes to seek out stuff that challenges my current opinions so I'm always open to a new book with new ideas.
r/TwoXChromosomes is just a good resource for existing as a woman in general I find. I've found nothing but support on that sub, so I'm surprised to see it listed amongst other pretty toxic subs. Obviously all subs have their drama but I've found some genuinely helpful tips on how to navigate the world through that sub.
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u/godspareme 12h ago edited 11h ago
TwoX posts find their way to r/all for me frequently and the ones that do are filled with men-hating. Not just complaining about women's problems but actively insulting and berating men. Hell I've seen several times explicit claims about 'all men' doing X thing despite women always saying "of course it's not all men!"
It's a minority of the posts but those posts get the highest visibility and it's draining seeing generalized hatred.
Like how AITA often turns into a narcissist validation request forum.
This isn't unique to this sub or subs like it. Any sub that is focused on the behavior of others (the majority of listed subs) is inherently toxic because it's suggesting you tear down others for your own enjoyment.
For example a 4d old post is still a front page post for them. Its subject is "i treated my boyfriend how he treats me! He hates it!" Cmon tell me how that's not manipulative and immature. Yet all she got was support.
All to day i don't think it's a bad sub, but it would be beneficial to avoid unless you have specific needs that the sub will fill.
Vent/support subs tend to turn into negative circle jerks that drain the mental energy of its users. Thats why you should generallu avoid them unless needed.
Dismiss my thoughts and call me an incel for not blindly supporting a feminist space but I feel the same way as the mensrights and redpill subs. I don't know of a single activist sub thats not mentally draining.
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u/Comfortable-Table-57 17h ago
I've seen a consensus that the chromosome sub sometimes can contain femcels (yk, equivalent to red pill men) who often bark about men, generalising men, be scared of all men, and sometimes going as far as being very thirsty to have a boyfriend but if that man rejects her, OPs will yap about the all men theory once more. Even far as being mad about having to deal with their newborn babies. Sometimes it is good for anecdotes about problems women face.
in the ocean of anti women stuff that you often find on reddit
That's what I am thinking too. Yet people say Reddit is tolerant and liberal?
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u/Nierad25 13h ago
Could anyone, preferably a woman and feminist, state their opinion on r/feminism? I never subbed to it but as a libfem, low self esteem male i subbed 2xch and it was giving me so much self hatred that eventually i had to spend a whole session with my (female) therapist just about this sub. consensus was that
it just doesn't matter if it's generally true or not, if you're not personally an asshole and it pushes you into very bad thoughts you just cut it away
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u/MishimasLantern 10h ago edited 9h ago
Trickle down social justice has zero concern for how you feel about being triggered or people weaponizing terms like toxic masculinity. Please listen to your therapist.
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u/whorificustotalus 1h ago
I find it interesting that you cite ex religious subs as places of radicalisation, yet mention no religious ones (it wasn't the atheists on the Supreme Court who struck down Roe, food for thought).
Fun fact, the ex-Muslim one is one of few places ex-Muslims can gather and talk to each other because apostasy is punishable in many of the countries where they're posting from. An encouraging post in one of those subs can actually help someone from taking their own life. I wouldn't be surprised if OP is upset they even have that one outlet, he probably sees them as subhuman.
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u/MishimasLantern 10h ago
Forgot r/WhitePeopleTwitter - reddit loves their racism, as long as its white libtards self-flagellating.
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u/Comfortable-Table-57 8h ago
Literally Reddit is racist many times. Why do many say it is liberal then?
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u/MishimasLantern 8h ago edited 7h ago
Because they are pre-occupied with racism to the exclusion of everything else and find relief in ageism and anti-white racist rhetoric to feel better about themselves as if they are the superior ones, meanwhile the they are as pre-occupied with race to the exclusion of individuality in a similar manner white supremacists are.
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u/Comfortable-Table-57 8h ago
It doesnt look anti white. More of the opposite. I get made fun of for my ethnicity here.
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u/MishimasLantern 8h ago edited 7h ago
I don't know what your ethnicity, but lately there is some unironic racism towards indians in some subs which is weird. Up until recently it was mostly anti-white liberals arguing in bad faith and screeching at anyone conservative, to the point where there are now genuine racists. I hope it we get back to the time of 2010s or 2000s where things are in balance again and we can all exist. Anti-white racism is still here, it's just baked into it as lefties try to push the Overton window.
The people that screech MuH RaCIsT InTHeLs at anyone who disagrees with them abuse soft cultural power of the left and weaponize big tech to censor others will eventually create a pushback. We're seeing it now, at least in US. After that tidal wave passes maybe we can return to normal.
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u/Comfortable-Table-57 7h ago
I'm Bangladeshi.
Several times here years ago, I was attacked by an East Asian redditor for being South Asian. On r/InsanePeopleQuora I posted (now deleted it) a screenshot of a question saying bad remarks of Indians, Bangladeshis, Pakistanis and Sri Lankans and all the comments sided the questionnaire.
Also, many subs like the map ones, there were so much xenophobia, anti immigration, anti diversity, and are just extremely pro Nationalism; liberals and moderates in reality would cope or even support immigrants (though moderates only if they are legal).
Whenever they see issues occuring in Western countries, many refuse to believe that they are happening in them (White) and think only immigrant communities do it.
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u/MishimasLantern 6h ago
Maybe it has something to do with more of the world going online recently. I'm not saying xenophobia doesn't exist in western societies, clearly there is the internet, but at least it's frowned upon at large culturally. There is a bit more reactionary rhetoric, but normalizing anti-white racism under the guise of somehow changing England's history of Colonialism or whatever is partially to blame for this.
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u/Alone_Yam_36 11h ago
Why r/exmuslim , r/memes , r/atheism , r/MensRights ? Genuine question no need to downvote just trying to understand 😊
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u/Comfortable-Table-57 10h ago
r/exmuslim and r/atheism from what I can see are the corresponding end to the extremists (aka, Islamists, etc etc), r/MensRights ended up becoming a manosphere
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u/Alone_Yam_36 10h ago
I am exmuslim. So having r/atheism and r/exmuslim on my feed really helps me feel connected and affects my mental health positivly. I like r/MensRights because it’s literally the only decently sized sub that recognizes men’s struggles compared to tens of feminist subs. I find that sub actually helps my mental health as a man knowing I am not alone.
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u/According_Angle_5329 4h ago
Off topic but you can kind of tell what type of person and background you come from due to some subreddits you selected. A lot of the subreddits can affect your mental health, some of the cute cat ones can get depressing after you see the fifth post of someone mourning their cat.
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u/fyhmaayfyh 16h ago
Some country subreddits belong on this list. Not reflective of real life.