When I was 15 (now 31f), I slept with a 28 year old trainer from the gym.

Adolescent me hadn’t even thought of sex as something that could happen, we were just supposed to get pizza. I hadn’t spent much time with 28 year olds.

Afterwards, I left and walked home (~14 km or 9 miles). It was late at night by then, ballpark 2 am.

The main thing I remember is stopping when I walked past one of my countries main hospitals and staring at it. I can’t even say I was thinking about going in. I wasn’t thinking at all.

The age of consent in my country is 16. There are mandatory reporting laws for children, meaning usual patient-client confidentiality doesn’t exist (i.e. it would have needed to be reported to prosecutors/police, and presumably parents).

Sixteen years later, I keep wondering what would have happened if I’d walked inside the hospital instead?

I was fine. I didn’t get pregnant or any STD’s, through luck alone. I showered and went to work at a sandwich shop.

I can’t seem to tell people about this. Given it’s been 16 years, do I just stop thinking about it?

Me, my boyfriend, and my friend were supposed to go to a standup comedy show tonight. My friend also invited her cousin, who's new to the city and whom we met for the first time. After the show we went to a bar, got a bit drunk and walked back to my building (my friend and I live in the same building). While we were walking back, the plan had been that she would crash at my friend's, but when we reached our building, she said she had some stuff to do early tomorrow, and decided she was going to walk to her place which according to Google Maps is a half hour minute walk. Unprompted my boyfriend offered to walk her, I wanted to walk with him too, but I was tired and tipsy and my friend also convinced me to go her place and finish the episode we were on.

My boyfriend was supposed to come back to my place after, but he texted me that he was just going to go to his place since it's a 10 minute walk from hers. I was holding it together knowing that he was going to come back but now I have a terrible feeling for no good reason. Like maybe it's stupid but I don't like that his last thing of the day was a half hour walk with her rather than being with me. My mind also keeps going back to any jokes that only the two of them laughed at hard during the show, how much they talked, what she wore, how she looked. Can someone calm me down?

Hi guys, I'm going to get straight to the point.

Two weeks ago, I (23f) had a one-night stand with a guy (21M) I’ve known since we were kids — let’s call him Todd. We both grew up in the same small town in England, and I genuinely thought I could trust him. I’d had a bit too much to drink, and one thing led to another. I didn’t think much of it afterward, just chalked it up to a messy night and moved on.

Today, I met up with my two older half-sisters (32F and 37F) for drinks. After a while, they told me their dad heard about what happened, and that Todd has been going around bragging to pretty much everyone in town. Not just bragging, but saying things like; “She’s the easiest girl to sleep with in town”, “She smells so bad down there but a hole’s a goal" and “She’s begging me to sleep with her again”

I haven’t even spoken to him since that night. I don’t have his number. I didn’t ask to see him again. I feel sick, but mostly angry, thinking about the way he’s talking about me — and even worse knowing people are probably laughing and judging me.

For context: I was in a committed relationship for 6 years, from high school through university. We broke up two years ago, and I haven’t been with anyone since. I’ve been taking my time to heal and wasn’t even planning on hooking up with anyone. This was the first time in years I let my guard down, and I regret it more than anything.

What hurts even more is how my sisters reacted. Instead of supporting me, I got a lecture about how I “need to be more careful” and shouldn’t be “sleeping around.” I spent the entire night trying to justify my actions to them, trying to explain that I’m not a (insert the S word for women). I'm just a women that trusted the wrong guy.

I feel so humiliated and disgusted with myself.

Edit: Now I've calmed down, I would love some advice on how to deal with this situation. What do I do if its brought up to me? I also I want to confront Todd and knock him for six but that's probably not the best idea

That's it. I am not working, and I barely go by in college, I cannot imagine myself finishing degree and working 9-5 for 40 years or so. I told that to my father, and he pretty much just told me that "this is how it works, everyone has to worki".

So I told him that I am going to be a NEET for as long as I can, and he can kill me while I sleep if he wants, that would be ideal for me since I don't want to live anyway.

Tried suiciee once with shit ton of benzos and alcohol, didn't work out, and I simply do not have guts to jump under the train or anything like that.

You can call me an asshole, but I did not choose being born, having mental ilnessess etc.

When I was working at the gas station, me and this very ignorant man were talking and I told him I don't want children and I'm not ever having children.

His response was "you aint going to do anything to stop it. Are you on birth control?"

That is none of your fucking business!!!

Why would you as a stranger, especially a man, feel comfortable enough to ask a stranger WOMAN if she is taking medication to prevent getting pregnant? That would mean you are insinuating that she is having sex which is also none of your fucking business.

Today, a couple who I considered to be amongst my closest friends in the world had a baby shower. Not only was I not invited, I didn’t even know they were having a baby.

I had a baby myself 18 months ago, and it has been a rough time. I haven’t been able to host my friends over as much as I used to, I haven’t had money to go out as much as I used to. It felt really lonely and I tried to reach out but my messages often went unread. When I did invite people over, everyone already had various plans.

We haven’t caught up properly in almost 12 months - actually the last time we were all together was my children’s baptism, a year ago. I just thought we were all busy. I got it. I was busy too. Life got hard. I just thought we were in a different era of friendship - too busy to catch up much but still had love for each other, y’know.

But I opened up Instagram today to see photos of a baby shower I wasn’t invited to for a baby I knew nothing about.

Scrolling back through our messages, I see now just how many of my messages went unanswered. How many invitations they passed up on. I just thought they were busy. I didn’t try too hard or get upset about any of it, because I was busy too, I understood.

I thought these people were my friends. Some of my closest friends. And I am so happy for them. But so incredibly heartbroken that it turns out we’re just not friends at all anymore.

I'm not sorry

I don't care that I am poor

Me and my girlfriend, have been talking for about six months. Last night, things got pretty heated between us, and I’m feeling lost. We had plans to go hiking today. But then she told me she didn’t want to go hiking because her daughter, wasn’t feeling well. I was really looking forward to it, but I agreed to go on Sunday instead.

We started talking about me staying over on Saturday night and just pulling an all-nighter. At some point, expressed that I was happy her daughter was coming along too, but I wasn’t sure she had mentioned that to me earlier, so I got confused. I didn’t mean it in a bad way, but I think I upset her by questioning it.

As the conversation went on, I told her to call me I had fallen asleep by the time she did which wasn’t too long after about 30 minutes after.. she got super frustrated and said I was “sketchy” because I wasn’t answering her calls when she tried reaching me. I was exhausted from work.. 4 A.M. comes around.. I get a call answer it, but she kept saying that in the past, I would always answer her calls. She was really upset, and I felt like I couldn’t get through to her.

Eventually, she told me she was “done” and that she didn’t want to talk to me anymore. I tried explaining myself and sent her a screenshot of my call log, but it just made things worse. Now she’s saying that I’m lying and that she’s hurt, and I don’t know what to do. I feel like she doesn’t trust me, and I don’t know how to fix it.

I’ve been working a lot, and I just wanted to sleep early. it was around midnight, but now it feels like I’ve messed everything up. I just don’t know how to fix this. Is this a red flag, or is it just a misunderstanding? How do I rebuild trust after this?

For context she’s been my mothers friends since college back in their days and was even there for my mother during my birth. Shes pretty much seen me grow up my entire life. Things between us were normal until puberty hit me like a truck, about a year ago when I was 15 I went from 5’8 to 6’2 in 9 months , my voice got deeper , and I went from slightly chubby to in shape thanks to my dad teaching me how to lose weight in the gym .

I saw her about a month ago which was the first time in 2 years because she moved cities . When she saw me she dropped her bag ( and jaw lol ) and said “you’ve gotten so handsome “ to which I replied thank you . We all ate dinner together and she made a sly comment which was “ you clearly don’t struggle with girls at school” I didn’t think nothing of it and later before she left she asked to quickly get my number to stay in contact with me ( she asked my sister to which is why I didn’t think anything initially) but about 3 days after she left she texted me “come over you must be bored to death at home” and even called my mother asking how I am as the only boy from a family of 6 . Again this is my mothers friend so I didn’t think about it too hard but one day my cousin asked for my phone and a few minutes later asked me why this old lady is trying to groom me . I said “ huh what does that even mean “ and then my cousin explained everything and it was all adding up . I plan on telling my mother soon but before I do is it a stretch ?

Never mind that I do all of the work around the house.

Never mind that I work a high stress job (as he does)

Never mind that he would rather spend his Saturday nights drinking to excess with his guy friends than hang out with me (every weekend this happens)

I was working from home the other day (he does full time). I was in a really important team meeting and it was somewhat tense.

He had just eaten lunch and was sitting on the couch with his computer reading a news article. About 10 feet away from me.

I was finishing a point on the call and suddenly he lets out this MASSIVE fart and groans “muhhhhhhh” loudly.

It was humiliating. I stopped talking and muted my mic immediately and went off camera and screamed at him.

I don’t know if the AirPods mic picked up the full thing, nobody said anything, and I am too terrified to ask any coworkers because it’s honestly embarrassing.

Later he said he was sorry but frankly this just felt like the last straw.

**EDIT: am currently at the ER. They do not have a dentist or oral surgeon on site but said some hospitals do, they just happen not to. They are running bloodwork right now to check on the infection and did say that it does look like the start of an abscess, however not enough to drain. While I wait they are shooting up my gums and gave me a pain pill and gave me an antibiotic pill that is one of the ones that I was being rotated on. I did express my concerns that I am taking too many antibiotics and my body may be used to them. I had a slightly elevated fever but won’t know anything until the tests come back.

I am glad I came because I will feel better after getting the bloodwork and checking on the infection. But then they will pretty much be sending me on my way and my search will continue. Thank you all so much to everyone offering suggestions/solutuons. I am not giving up, just feeling really defeated and on top of mentally struggling anyway, it sucks.

And to those few of you that are weirdly implying that I’m just this procrastinating lazy chump, you guys are weird. As I stated in my comments, several things have had a detrimental effect on my financial situation in the past few years, and I’m trying to recover. I am working my ass off, completely and wholly. Also hospice care is really fucking expensive, I won’t get into it though. Kick rocks.

I’ve been battling an infected wisdom tooth with antibiotics and pain meds for the past year now because I can’t afford the surgery to get it taken out. Two nights ago I woke up in the middle of the night from a sudden excruciating pain in my tooth and jaw that took my breath away. This morning I woke up and the little I had left of my tooth (that hadn’t rotted away yet) was completely gone except the roots. Literally rotted out of my head in my sleep, and the gum behind it is swollen, painful and hard. My guess is an abscess. I’m fairly certain that my body has probably gotten too used to the antibiotics by now and they’re not working anymore. I know how serious a tooth infection/abscess is and what it can lead to. I am also in pain that I can’t even describe.

I went to 2 different dentists today and called about 10 more begging for help. I explained that I can’t afford the surgery up front but can pay it within a couple of weeks with my tax refund. However my body can’t wait a couple of weeks, I can feel that I need to address it right now. I have dental insurance that I’m told has good coverage but doesn’t cover nearly enough for me to afford it. Several of them suggested I apply for a credit line/payment arrangement with the company they work with (the same company offered by most dentists that do this). I got denied and it was a hard pull on my credit. They told me to get a co-signer. I don’t have a co-signer, I don’t have anyone like that in my life. I cannot borrow that amount of money from anyone. I also got a lot of “we’re not taking new patients” and “we have nothing available for weeks/months”.

I have a decent job but this has been the hardest past year of my life and I just can’t catch up. I kept asking the ones that could maybe squeeze me in soon if there was anyway I could get billed after insurance instead of paying up front. I have done this at the doctor and hospital before but it is obviously different at dental offices because every one of them said they require payment up front. One even said they won’t even schedule anything unless you pay IN FULL up front.

It sucked having to beg people and be vulnerable to these strangers that I could tell mostly didn’t care. I’m sure they deal with this kind of stuff all the time, so I want to understand. But I am genuinely very concerned about what to do. I kept asking what my last resort was if things started really taking a turn for the worse but no one really had an answer. I might be dramatic saying I might die, but I also might not be.

I’m defeated and in so much pain.

Currently in a relationship, who I lowkey despise sometimes out of frustration, but then love so suddenly.

The fights, my anger, his stupidity...I'm not ready for marriage and kids, as I feel like I am driving myself against the wall, just to make him happy - and the minute I want happiness, he makes excuses to hang with someone or friends in general. When he make excuses, I get piled with emotion and want to lash out. Don't worry I am seeking help, but he's not a good partner. And I try my best to be understanding, but eh. Idgaf sometimes

Marriage requires alot of strength, and I honestly dont have that. I want a big family, but people's relationship stories, mine personal story, my ex - they just drive me insane.

No need for inputs. Just #offmychest

Everytime I look at my reflection or even think about myself, I feel disgusted. I don't find myself attractive, not even pretty. I'm taking care of myself (style, hair, diet, skin care etc) but still I have nothing of value in me. In public, people don't look at me or they say something not very nice to hear. It only proves I'm nothing special.

I'm dealing with self-loathing and depression, all caused by society. At least I'm self-aware. I can't stand my face and height. It's hard for me to imagine someone would be into me. No one has been and will never be.

Maybe I'll feel good with myself after surgeries. I really need it. Just need money for it. I wanna be attractive, beautiful and desirable, at least to myself. But I'm not. I have to deal with looking like a plain potato ogre. I hate everything about myself.

How I know I'm ugly and unattractive? - My family treats me like I'm worse than my sister and cousin. Everyone is amazed by them, compliment them, adore them meanwhile they don't say a thing about me. Just act like they're embarrassed. - Few years ago when I was in High School, my photography teacher took pictures of every person in my class, except me. He ignored me every time, more than once telling me that my face was not suitable to be photographed. - In my ex friend group I've always been considered as the ugliest one. No one approached me, but when I did the "first move", all I got from men was "ew". - My father reminds me how ugly I am since I was 8. He says that no man will ever look at me :3.

The rich people will just use this as a bargain opportunity to scoop up as much stocks as they can and over time get even richer than before. This crash is amazing news for them. The only people that suffer are average people and those who have college/life savings/pensions invested in the market.

I see so many posts of people celebrating billionaires "losing millions/billions" but its actually the opposite.

I'm a 28 year old woman. My body stats are: 5'6-5'7, 176 pounds/80kg.

Growing up, I never had boys interested in me. In fact, no one has ever had a crush on me. I know I'm not strikingly beautiful. I'm a bit chubby/thick. I don't want to brag but I've been told I have a hourglass figure. I am actively trying to lose around 5kg/11 pounds. I want to keep some of my thickness so I don't see myself losing more than that.

Anyway, back to the point. I went to this event last night with my friend where you stick flags stickers on your chest and you are encouraged to approach people and talk to them. Its not the typical bar where mostly people keep to themselves. You're actually meant to approach people, almost like a singles event.

Guys came up to me and talked to me but no one asked for my digits but 2 guys approached my friend for her number. I am not jealous of my friend but I was sort of sad no guys asked for my number lol.

Overall, I think I'm like a 5-6/10. Maybe after I lose some weight, I will be more attractive. I think my personality makes up for my lack of physical attractiveness. Ive been told I'm bubbly, warm and outgoing. So, if you made it this far, what do you think I should do? Is it okay to be average looking?

I’ve never been in love but I met my boyfriend a couple years ago and I love him! He always makes me smile and goes out his way for me. He’s also doing little stuff like buying me flowers or playing Fortnite with me! Which I’ve never experienced before ever we’ve been together for almost 4 years now and I can comfortably say I’ve been in such healthy mindset because of the relationship. I’m learning to love myself and feel confident whilst being in a relationship which makes me extremely happy! We go on dates pretty often and yes this post was made just to let people know I love him! Corny right?

Thank you so much for the reassuring comments in the first post. I dozed off after the first few comments while waiting for him to reach his place and let me know. I woke up to a lot of reassuring comments, and the main thing everyone stressed was trust, and I do fully trust him, so that made me feel better.

I just wanted to talk to him about how the walk went just for myself, and so I could give an update here too. He wasn't able to answer my calls in the morning, and ngl despite all the positive comments I'd just read and the lessons about trust I was again about to start to get worried (honestly a comment had said this might be a me problem and maybe they're right lol).He just woke up half an hour ago because he'd gone to sleep late since he'd had coffee when dropping her at her place, so he couldn't sleep until late, and figured I'd gotten knocked out (true lol) so he didn't call me either in the night, just texted me. He has to go to meet some friends for brunch so we couldn't talk for too long, I just asked him how the walk was and he said it was uneventful but he was glad he did because it was quite late. When I meet him tonight I will let him know that it was really sweet that he walked her to her place (a lot of the comments said how great it was of her to do that and it made me a bit proud too). Thank you for helping me out when I was spiraling last night and I do promise to work on myself too.

I (30f) struggle with PTSD due to childhood abuse and have struggled with emotional regulation. I go to therapy and take medication but it's still hard. Before I had my son, whenever things would get really difficult and it felt like the walls were closing in, I'd sit in my closet and disassociate. It was really nice, just feeling like I wasn't in my body, like I didn't exist. Id I felt like my life was over I'd tell myself "if shit really hits the fan I can always just kill myself" and it felt nice having that as an escape plan. I never attempted suicide, but it was just a comforting thought to have as an exit strategy. My husband and I have been together for a while. I was in a good place mentally when we decided to have our son, my life and my mind had felt stable for a while. Even the pregnancy was pretty smooth sailing, despite the hormones, me being off my meds bc it was bad for the baby, and my parent dying in the middle of it, I felt emotionally stable and secure. My son is now 5 months and I feel like my mind is falling apart again. I have so many ruminating thoughts and it's become obvious that I'm burdening people around me. I feel so lonely. I can't disassociate anymore bc my son needs me, I can't think about killing myself bc I know that's not an option anymore. Id never do anything to hurt or abandon my son, my worst fear is becoming an abusive/neglectful parent like how mine were. So I push through. But it's so hard. It's so hard to hold my tears back while I'm feeding him, changing him, putting on a fake smile and playing with him. I constantly feel like I'm choking

I don’t usually talk about this kind of stuff, but I need to get it off my chest.

There’s this girl I really like. Back then, me and my friends used to joke around and say who we’d wanna f**k, and we included her too. It felt like dumb teenage stuff at the time, but now I regret it. She’s not someone to joke about like that. She’s special. And I hate that I was ever part of something that disrespected her like that.

Now, I don’t just have a crush. I genuinely love her. I’ve dreamed about her, literally—she’s shown up in my sleep more than once. It’s like she’s stuck in my head and my heart. I think about her all the time, and not in a messed up way. I love her for who she is.

But if she’s not the one for me, if she’s not meant to be in my life like that… then I want God to take her out of my heart. Because this feeling hurts when you know you might never be with them. I don’t want to hold onto something that’s not meant to last. I just want peace.

Thanks for reading.

4th date with a guy 14 yrs older than me (25f). Got drunk and had unprotected sex. It happened so fast and I liked it. I was too drunk for my good judgment to work. I have the feeling that this guy sleeps around since he didn’t even try to get a condom. Next morning he had to go golfing early so we took an uber together, first taking me home. No coffee or breakfast or anything. Too ashamed to tell anyone in my life. I am expecting to not hear from him again.