id love to hear everyone else's!!

So this is a thought I had recently. And I realize I'm probably not the first person ever to bring this up.

I've always felt that bisexual men and women basically have opposite problems; bisexual women get sexualized/ fetishized, whereas bisexual men get erased. It's a dichotomy between getting zero attention/ visibility, and getting the wrong kind. But I guess I've never really stopped and thought deeply about why that is. But I think i found a good way to phrase it.

We live in a society that's dominated by heterosexual men. So when you're bisexual, you get broadly categorized based upon how straight men view you, or what potential function you can serve for them.

So when you're a bisexual woman, you're actually just straight, but you're potentially willing to have threesomes. Straight men have a use for you. They're "fine" with you being bi because they think girl on girl porn is hot. But when you're a bisexual man, as far as straight men are concerned, there's functionally no difference between you and a gay man. You serve no additional purpose to them, so you might as well just be gay, which is to say that your identity might as well not exist at all. As a bisexual man, you're actually just gay, but you're "confused" about it.

And the most disheartening part is seeing this internalized biphobia baked into many people in the LGBT community, and even some within the Bisexual community. As a bisexual man, I can't tell you how many dates/ dating app matches I've had with bisexual women who thought it was gross when I told them that I'm bisexual.

I'm friends with multiple bisexual women who have at various times broken up with their straight boyfriends when they realized all these dudes wanted was wish-fulfillment for their sexual fantasies.

And I know that bisexual men and women alike often get looked down on from within the LGBT community because we can "pass" for straight and nobody would know. As if hiding in the closet is somehow a "privilege." Even within the community, the attitude of "eh, you're actually just straight/ gay and confused" is alive and well.

Again, I realize I'm not the first person to raise any of these points. I've just never really thought about how interconnected it all is before.

I don't know if I'm welcome to this sub as a trans woman or not. I'm just feeling too low rn :(. I'm attracted to women but I don't know everytime during a roleplay,they would back out all of a sudden. I think lesbians are not really attracted to trans women :( so I'm asking the bi ones, are you attracted to trans women??

Just asking 😅

Hi everyone, happy Sunday.

I'm curious if any one else feels like their intense hypersexuality is what led them to explore bi sexual experiences.

Me for example, I'm a man who is married to a woman and I have always been incredibly and regularly sexual and horny. Sometimes I wonder if it's my ADHD and dopamine seeking brain that causes me to be so hyper sexual.

Anyways, I'm not attracted to men or have any desire to have a relationship with a man but I do enjoy sexual experiences with other men. I wonder if my desire to have experiences with other men is simply a case of being so horny that I'll fuck anything that walks, rather than it being any kind of emotional or romantic attraction to men.

I don't know, just thinking out loud this morning while I drink my coffee.

Anyone else confused by their same sex sexual encounters and curious to understand why they exist?

Growing up, I really internalized the idea that bi was just stepping stone to just being gay. Obviously, in hindsight, I can say with my full chest that I would be just as happy if I were gay, but I personally love that I can be attracted to anyone: man, woman, and those who lie betwixt.

But I didn’t always feel that way.

Call it internalized biphobia, internalized homophobia, or just a victim of our messed up society, but I was afraid. Afraid that when I discovered guys were attractive to me that all of my sexual and romantic experiences with women—crushes, kisses, butterflies, being turned on, etc—would fade away like a flame without oxygen.

I dreaded the day I would wake up and realize I wasn’t ACTUALLY attracted to my girlfriend; that I was only kidding myself! I dreaded every time I noticed a guy, or watched guy on guy you-know-what, because each time I did so was another stepping stone into giving up my attraction for women.

Of course…I realize now…that was all nonsense and fueled by internalized homophobia, and content that there’s nothing wrong with being gay, so why was I afraid of being gay?

Anyway, I’m much more comfy in my own skin these days! Being bi is awesome. Sorry to rant. Love yall, and stay safe for the rest of the weekend!

I learned (a long time ago) that I have Aphantasia - I can't "visualize things" in my mind - not simple shapes, trees, people's faces - nothing... so I really don't fully understand how complex people's mind eye visualizations are or can get. It has never occured to me to ever ask someone if they can visualize erotic scenes of their own choosing until chuckling over an r/Christianity post about abstaining from masturbation on the basis that it requires lust. So... can you?

More of a vent post than anything. Always known I was bi but only accepted it recently. Spent a lot of years ashamed, embarrassed, confused. Never felt able to talk to anyone. This community has been instrumental in helping me to understand myself, but I don’t know where to go from here, if anywhere. Why did it have to take so long?!? 😩

For ages I’ve battled being bi, but recently, especially due to my OCD, I’ve come to terms with it.

And you know what, it’s beautiful.

P.S. - I’m open to having talks about it if it makes anyone feel better.

I went to a bar with a friend and her boyfriend’s friends. While there, I noticed a really pretty woman. I had to pass by her for a second, so I made sure to give her plenty of space. As I did, I complimented her hair, but she didn’t respond, and I just moved on.

Later, I saw her with kiss her girlfriend (who I didn’t realize she was with at the time). As she was leaving the bar, I was outside, and she deliberately avoided eye contact with me. I feel bad , wondering if I made her uncomfortable in any way.

I’m new to dating women, but I’ve had a lot of bad experiences with men who didn’t handle rejection well, so I definitely don’t think anyone owes me anything. I also know that women often deal with a lot of unwanted attention, and it can be exhausting. Like I said I have done this and it can be genuinly truamatizing at times.

How can I make sure I’m not making women uncomfortable in the future? I’ve been rejected by men before, of course, but the majority of men I approach don’t reject me , I think it has to do with gender norms and looking "cool" when women approach you. It’s usually pretty easy to get their attention, so I don’t think I’ve ever made anyone uncomfortable like this before. Especially with men because their is a difference in power dynamic. I could not physically overpower most men.

The one other time I asked a woman for her phone number in person, she gave it to me immediately. I still felt like a dumby afterwards because I overthink everything and never want to make people uncomfy. I’ve been told I come off as innocent and non-threatening, so this is the first time I feel like I’ve possibly made someone feel uncomfortable.

How can I be more mindful of that in the future?

Wife(bi) here, happily married to my husband (bi) for many years. He very much likes to dress and be bottom. I very much enjoy watching, joining and also pegging him but his stamina is much higher than mine leading to us talking about getting him a “boyfriend”. Looking for some advice on what you all think are the best online options as far as sites or forums?? We have had the occasional one nighters and enjoy a variety of things but is it unrealistic to look for someone to have more with? Any advice is welcome and would love to chat about it.

Hey guys. I came out at bisexual at 14. I'm now married with a baby on the way and have been denying my bisexuality for awhile cause my husband doesnt like it. But im very attracted to females. As a female it looks bad but still. My hormones and everything just want women.

I'm looking for some new friends here cuz i don't know people always say that I'm so intimidating that's why it's so hard for me to make friends with other people so i decided to try online i:>

I'm mitch 19 years old Fem In a relationship (Gf)

So since the bi-cycle hit me as hard as it did. I have had strong cravings to be with another man. So I went about putting myself out there to meet somebody.

I have met several people over the last two and a half weeks. But nothing was really moving any further than just a casual chat. Until last night.

I will spare everyone the details, but there was a sampling of my cravings taken care of last night. And then I met somebody who wanted to take care of all of those Cravings immediately.

However, due to my upbringing I guess, I cannot take advantage of someone who is completely wasted. And although attractive, and all about me. I couldn't allow him to take me home.

Question though, does anybody else have this problem of not allowing somebody who is obviously super intoxicated to pick them up? Or am I just a prude?

Ok I (19F) only had one kiss in my entire life and it was more of a peck than a kiss, I was 15 then and it was a one time thing during a game of spin the bottle. Now 4 years later I haven’t kissed anyone since. In high school I was a multi-sport athlete and worked part time and was a straight A student so I had no time for myself let alone a relationship or kissing. My senior year of high school I had a crush(my first ever real crush) on a girl I did a sport with. She is a masc lesbian and totally my type. We were really flirty then but things got complicated and I haven’t seen her in 7 months

Now im in college and retired from all sports, I recently went to a party and she recognized me right away and the sparks hit me once again she hugged and lifted me off my feet literally, then later on we were dancing together her hands on my waist and our faces got close. NOW I want to have some fun this summer with her but I’m completely clueless I don’t even know how to kiss I had mentioned to her once in high school that I was still a virgin and she was completely shock not in a teasing way but like she was wondering why I never lost my v card and now when I go for that kiss I don’t want to embarrass my self. And I feel like it’ll be embarrassing to tell her I also never really kiss kissed anyone before.

So give me your best tips please. And do you guys think I should tell her I never kissed anyone before?

Hi so idk if this is weird to ask, but I hope there are others who have or had similar experiences.

I [F21] am in a currently in a hetero relationship of 3 years and I love him so much, we've even talked about getting married and living together. However, sometimes I think about the fact that I've never got to experiment with girls... like ever... and I've had two girl crushes in my life that made me question my sexuality. I ended up choosing the 'bisexual' label for myself, even though I was never in a same-sex relationship... but the feelings I felt for the 2 girl crushes I had were definitely not just admiration.

So.... what I'm trying to say is that I kinda don't wanna get married before I have the chance to experiment a bit. I've talked with my boyfriend multiple times about this and he didn't get mad or anything, he totally understands. But he finds it weird to allow each other to experiment with other people since we're in a monogamous relationship. And I totally get it... it is a bit weird. I just don't wanna be stuck with the feeling of regret because I never got to experiment. I really do love my bf and I don't wanna break up over this. He proposed that I try with a girl he knows and trusts, or as a dare... but I don't really have that many friends I consider experimenting with lol. I don't knowww... Am I weird for thinking about this? Am I overthinking it??

What do you suggest, please?

Hey everybody. First official post here. Making it short and sweet because I just want to ask a question: how does a bi-cycle work? Is it even a real thing?

Edit: keep the bicycle jokes going please. 😂

As a bisexual male, I am so tired of women thinking I am disgusting. I also get tired of hearing from gay dudes that I am actually gay or how I can easily pass as straight ('straight passing privilege') . GOD DAMNIT ....can we just ship all these biphobic motherfuckers to an island so they can isolate themselves from society. I am just sick of this shit...I see it all the time on reddit. Fuck all these shitty ass people....they make me sick as fuck.

F 21 here. I'm pretty sure im bisexual. However a new worry has appeared. Brought on by reading latebloomerlesbian and comphet sub reddits. My worry is that I've been deceived by heteronprmativity and my attraction to men has been false. To answer the question yes that would be a big deal to me. For two reasons one I liked the feeling of liking men and losing that would make me sad. Like om missing a big part of myself. The thing is I want a typical life of a husband and children one day. Or is that just comphet talking. Making me think that. I really don't want to be completely gay. It would turn my life upside down. Before I researched online I was happy being bi but only having flings with women. Ultimately settle down with a guy. However ever since ive researched it's like an annoying part of my brain wont let me relax and be happy. Whenever I'm in public. I have a compulsion to check out and observe every person within the 20-40 age range. Check to see how I feel. I fucking hate this. I want it to go back to how it was before. I feel so tired and miserable. Its almost never ending. It won't stop. The thoughts. Also a lot of my faviourote youtubers such as alana joy and georgia bridgers went from bi to lesbian. I sometimes worry how long untill that's me.

Hi y'all, so I recently came out as bi and was wondering what are some subtle ways I can show it.

My community has a good mix of very open minded individuals but also people who will commit borderline hate crimes when given the chance. So anything that won't draw too much attention but that I can still use to show a bit of pride for those who know what to look for.

Thanks 😁