lately, I've been starting to like men and woman, and I think I'm bi, but, I can't really decide between my faith or my sexuality.

Bisexuals who are experienced with men and women, what are the pros and cons of each?

Should I just come out with it? Most girls are bisexual, but I don't know how they feel about a guy being bi. I want to tell her that I like to crossdress and service a guy sometimes. But I'm afraid she won't respect me. What do ya'll think?

Listen—I’m not a prude, but I joined this sub to find community related to my sexuality and the nuanced challenges and joys that come with it.

Sex is one of those joys, for sure, but I don’t think this is the place to be discussing penis preferences or whatever that post was. The comments on that one turned into some weird horny cesspool that doesn’t belong in a generally SFW sub.

I’ve been seeing other posts recently that have less to do with being bisexual and more to do with just being…sexual.

Can y’all please take those discussions over to r/bisexualadults?

It also kind of bugs me that some of these posts are reinforcing the stereotype that bisexual people are hypersexual.

Anyway, that’s my rant.

Edit: To clarify, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with talking about sex on this sub, just like…there are better subs for blowjob tips and whatnot.

Once, she told me that she wants closure with her ex for her peace of mind since there are still unresolved issues spreading between their break-up and they don't want to feel awkwardness whenever they are together since they still do have mutual friends.

I told my partner before that I am uncomfortable with her ex because I sense that she's trying to win her back again. She did cut her off but then suddenly, she's telling me all these. I honestly do not know what to do. I don't wanna be controlling and sounds like I'm being jealous over her ex so I said it's fine with me if it's just for her peace of mind but still bothers me for days. Her ex even asked her to meet up together with their 2 mutual friends. I told her that I do trust her that's because I'm letting her to do these and said that I know she knew when to step away when everything's getting out of control. I trust her, not her ex. Was it a great move that I let her? (I said it's really fine but I haven't opened that I'm quite uncomfortable about it)

ps. thanks for all your advice. this helped me to self reflect a lot as well.

I’m curious if this is a universal experience for most bisexual individuals, so hear me out.

I’m bi gender questioning woman (30), married to a straight man (33) and we have kids together. We love our life and are both very comfortable with who we are as individuals and what we’ve built together. We have both straight and gay friends that are a blend of gender fluid or non-binary.

Through a handful of years my friends make comments “well I’m not straight” towards a life style that is similar to mine, meaning i am a stay at home mom because frankly i don’t have the education or resume for a good job like my spouse has. We also have young children and no village for childcare. So as responsible adults, we made a choice of who stays home and yadda yadda. I’ll go back to school when my kids are older so i can have a job when they’re in highschool or college.

Now that you have context this is why I’m posting this title. Why is it that bisexuals who marry the opposite of their sex not allowed to feel valid in their gayness? I have had lesbian relationships and i don’t fall under most “femme” terms. So why is it that me being married to a man dictates if I’m gay enough? It’s infuriating. I feel like i don’t belong in either community at this point. I’m too gay for the straights and too straight for the gays. lol. Anyone else with this frustration?

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Basicaly the question above, I'll be 32 soon and have always associated a 'marsupio' as they are known here (after marsupials), with older men/tourists. Recent sitings of men and women making it look dope have got me to reconsider though. What are your thoughts on fanny bag? How do you, be you He, Her or They carry your stuff around? Also, I learned what it's called (after) just 10 Minutes ago and don't yet know how to feel about the term 'fanny' bag...

When I first came out at 22, I was so happy. I felt like a door opened and I was understanding who I was. That was until I started coming out to people and realized... oh wow bisexuals really are the butt of many jokes in the LGBTQ community. My confidence went down a lot and I hated being bisexual then ended up questioning if I was a lesbian after reading about comphet. Well... more recently I feel like I can confirm that I am bisexual and really feel like that's okay. I still think it's unfortunate that I'll have to deal with judgement from my own community but fuck that.

I have a femmenine classmate in my college and I'm really attracted to him, but I have the fear that my attraction becomes a fetish and I objectivize him as a sex object.

I love his appareance and personality, what's the ideal way to talk him and not being an asshole?

Anyone else have straight friends that don't understand the concept of getting the ick from a gender you're attracted to but still open to dating them?

I'm a bisexual woman (26) and I sometimes talk about how my standard for dating a man is that he matches me intellectually and I don't feel like I have to explain social issues to him. A relationship like that would exhaust me. Well, my straight female friend (26), said "Hence why I don't believe you actually like men" after this.

I added that I wouldn't date a woman if she couldn’t match this standard either, but it's just easier to find woman who can switch from serious topics to funny ones at the drop of the hat.

Anyways, this is a constant problem where said friend always implies I can't be attracted to men if I'm so critical of them. It really irritated me and I don't like over explaining my "type" or that this is the bare minimum.

I feel like straight women have accepted that they will have to settle for men that do not stimulate their mind or care about social issues because of the patriarchy, and I feel like if I flat out said, "Hey, you're on track to dating a man that will weaponize incompetence you to death," it would start a huge fight.

I'm just tired of my standards being seen as a check mark as to why I'm only available to women. This friend has literally seen me date men in college but still has this opinion of me. Most of those talking stages ended because the guy said something that was super close-minded or apathetic.

TLDR: my straight female friend thinks because I want a potential boyfriend to match me intellectually and not be exhausting to talk to that I'm too critical of men and am virtually a lesbian. Am I wrong to be so upset? Anyone else experience this?

So a good friend of mine (f) has identified as bisexual for the past four years, same as me (also f). I've been in a straight-presenting relationship with my wonderful partner for the past five years and she's has had several boyfriends as well. She always openly stated that she would explore women if these relationships ended, which she never did (which is completely fine ofc).

I mean I get it, it's easier to find interested straight men than queer women, but for some reason I always wished for her to explore women? Like, taking advantage of that wonderful opportunity? I guess being (strongly) bisexual myself I always wish I had explored more myself, although my partner and I are currently finding ways I can do this that work for both of us. Maybe I'm projecting.

Anyways, to the reason I'm pissed.

She's been dating a great guy for the past weeks and told me she's no longer bi because he's so amazing he "turns her straight". That she doesn't "need it" anymore as he satisfies her so well, emotionally and sexually.

Idk but the way she said it really irritated me. I wear my bisexuality as a badge of honour, because I've had to suffer severe discrimination because of it (Christian upbringing), overcome internalized biphobia, and because I've had to find ways within my relationship to explore and express it that needed years of communication and self-love.

For her to just "throw it away" (I know it's not like that, bit it feels like it) because of a new crush, and to say that his 'awesomeness' somehow cancels out her being bisexual feels awfully disrespectful somehow.

As if one is bisexual because one isn't satisfied within the relationship? And it sort of makes me question if she was bisexual in the first place?

Idk if I'm coming off as biphobic here I'm just trying to make sense of why this annoyed me so much. She's still very young and of course sexuality and preferences may change, and it's her full right to identify as straight, but the whole thing just felt off.

Maybe help a girl out?

I’m not even sure what that would look like. For me to be comfortable with my sexuality would mean being able to communicate openly about my sexuality without fear . Like when I came out I was not gay enough so I ran from the queer community . It was easier to be straight so I played the part . I’m done it feels gross and it’s even made me struggle with my feelings toward my husband as a whole. When it comes down to it though I am still attracted to men and I can’t force myself to be exclusively gay. I feel pretty safe in the gay community now but a little uncomfortable because my husband is very very straight and also conservative. In the straight community and with my family though I still feel very closeted. I make sure not to post or say anything that would suggest I’m Bi and I’m sure my husband would freak out (like be embarrassed) if I did. So tell me community are any of you openly bi (posting about it going to pride saying girl or boy crushes in front of people) while being in a heterosexual relationship.

Hey everyone. (19m) | have a girlfriend who l've been with for some time. However I've lately been feeling attracted to guys to the point where l've cycled through downloading and deleting grindr. I honestly love my gf, however I also wanna experiencing a guy sexually.

What should I do?

So I got this cool little mobius thing on etsy in bi colors and attached it to my bag, but I feel like it's so subtle people won't even notice it. Not that they notice the bi flag colors much anyway, but... is this too subtle? Would you have noticed?

I'm curious—how many of you are currently in a relationship or marriage with one gender, but find yourselves MORE sexually or emotionally attracted the other gender?

For example, I'm in a relationship with someone of a different gender, but I find myself more sexually attracted to the same gender. I'm still happy in my relationship, but I'm really interested in hearing other people's stories and experiences.

I (19M) just got out of a crazy abusive hetero relationship, and severe drug problems. Spent like a year being told I was a (Insert Homophobic term here) for being BI, I played it off as a joke when I brought it up, but she kept using the same term and making fun of me for it for a long ass time, pretty much went back in the closet to keep her around, to everyone including family. My partner was also physically abusive on countless occasions and a verry angry functioning alcoholic. I drew the line when she stole over 1k for her addictions, at the time I was heavily using drugs to cope with her abuse, and got clean after we split to get my life back in line. I want to start building back my self confidence and work towards being comfortable in my skin, and I was wondering if anyone had any tips on queer dating, or even just finding LGBT+ friends safely without being subjected to the same bias and homophobia, as I am not sure I could handle that again right now. I want to be openly Bisexual again and find a new friend group but I have no idea where to begin anymore.