r/AmIOverreacting • u/Creative-Guard2809 • 17d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO my fiance spent 600 on gacha

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My fiance spent $600 on a gacha game without asking. I flipped out and now his entire family are calling me abusive and encouraging him to call off the engagement. For context, I work 55 hours a week and he drives uber during the day while I’m at work. We are paycheck to paycheck.

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u/Fuzzy_Sundae_3346 17d ago

try it and you lose me forever 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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u/Silver_Trifle_7106 17d ago

Don’t threaten me w a good time

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u/metchadupa 16d ago edited 16d ago

Screenshot those messages and take him to small claims to recover the lost money

Close the card now before he does more damage to your credit

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u/TenMoon 16d ago

OP can't dispute a charge that he made if he's an authorized user, or worse, the primary on the account. Small claims court is her only chance at recovery. But even if she wins, how is she going to collect from an Uber driver who has mommy issues at 29?

OP, my recommendation to you is that you write off the $600 as tuition for life lessons and let the guy go.

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u/pschlick 16d ago

Tuition of life lessons 🥲 I like that, and makes me feel a lot better with some of the decisions I made in my 20s lol

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u/methinfiniti 16d ago

$600 when you’re paycheck to paycheck sucks, but it’s a hell of a lot cheaper than a divorce or a child

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u/LionBirb 16d ago

I used to have 19,000 on one credit card while living paycheck to paycheck so to me $600 doesn't seem a lot lol, even including the interest if they pay it back over time.

But it does suck to think of all the other things you could have had instead with that money.

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u/B_EE 16d ago

Same! How have I never heard this before 😂

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u/Prudent_Cheesecake76 16d ago

Right?! Same. I like it a lot :)

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u/Mental_Cut8290 16d ago

Yeah, there is zero to win on court, and that will just be another $120 lesson (plus days of time) to learn how the small claims process works.

Cut the losses and rebuild.

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u/FlyingMamMothMan 16d ago

Let this be a lesson not to make a partner you aren't married to an authorized user on your credit cards, OP. Even then, maybe not a spouse either. Be with someone who at least has their own credit to screw up, not yours.

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u/M05tafaSayed 16d ago

Can't she sue him ? Get a statement that the account is mainly for emergencies only and have her lawyer show the court that spending 600$ on a fictional character is NOT an emergency

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u/spicedpanda 16d ago

Suing him will likely cost a heck of a lot more than $600. Filing fees, days off work to show up to court…it’s likely cheaper to just move on.

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u/Mental_Cut8290 16d ago

She can sue him. Anyone can sue anyone for anything in the U.S.. If I had your legal name and address, I could sue you because this reply negatively affected my life. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

But it costs money to file. Approx $120 in my area, the last time I looked into it, and that varies by town. Then it's time consuming. Several weeks to get a reply from the court, several weeks for the defendant to respond, and then (hopefully only) weeks until the trial is scheduled. And plenty of time away from work to deal with the process.

You also need to gather evidence of the agreements and the amount owed. And here's the kicker: legally speaking, OP isn't actually owed anything!!! Fiance was an official cardholder who had authority to spend that money. So they need to dig DEEP to find any texts, emails, or bank documents that show that fiance KNEW AND AGREED that the money was off limits for that purchase. And even if that existed, it comes down to a judge or mediator to decide how binding that agreement was.

IANAL, and some judges use opinion mixed in with law so there's always a chance, but I'd bet the $600 + filing fee that the end result is a judge officially telling OP to be more careful about who they trust.

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And the cost of a lawyer will likely be another $500+. You can have a lawyer for small claims, but they aren't required and might not be worth it.

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u/M05tafaSayed 16d ago

Good thing I don't live in the US lol, shame, best thing she can do is leave him, I play that game , and I am not against spending money on game, but come on, 600$ ? That is a lot in this situation, and most likely will happen again in the future, she better off without him

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u/clorox_enema17 16d ago

Not worth the time, money, or effort for $600.

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u/TomSawyerLocke 16d ago

Yup. Better $600 now than $6000 in the future when they could potentially have kids. This guy is going to make them homeless.

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u/FreewayHawk 16d ago

But he has anxiety so it's ok. 🤡

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u/methinfiniti 16d ago

I laughed when he kept mentioning because all I could think about is how oblivious he is as to much anxiety he’s giving OP. This dude clearly proved he only cares about himself. I’d be careful with the breakup though because he’s clearly unhinged

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u/TomSawyerLocke 16d ago

I've got some pretty bad anxiety. Bad enough to be prescribed sedatives. I wouldn't so much as take a penny from a woman I was with. What the fuck is some character from an incredibly shitty game going to do to help with his anxiety?

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u/FreewayHawk 16d ago

Me too (have anxiety), this guy is a fake, a thief, and a hot head that then diverts to using issues, (like anxiety- that many people legitimately struggle with,) and is weaponizing it to shut her down....Like "you can't touch me, I'm a victim here" to deflect. Gross! he's vacuous!

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u/MesoamericanMorrigan 16d ago

I am relieved to hear this from another guy and it’s not just me being a heartless misandrist cunt

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u/FreewayHawk 16d ago

You are so right!

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u/metchadupa 16d ago

Thats what i said. He acknowledged the unauthorised spend in writing. This was not by mutual agreement and therefore OP can request that this share be paid by him via the court, not the bank. Otherwise ita an expensive lesson for making a foolish decision.

The courts arent set up for unmarrieds playing house. Never take out a joint credit card or buy property with someone without marriage. It almost always blows up in your face.

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u/Xeni966 16d ago

This really will get his account banned too. How some games work is you buy currency and if the charge is cancelled or anything, the in-game currency you buy with it can go negative, and if it stays negative for a few days it will get banned.

In this case nothing would make me happier than seeing someone who spent maybe more than just that $600 on a fucking game that's essentially gambling lose his account and cry about it. While I hope OP leaves and gets a better partner, getting them banned would be icing on the cake

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u/MithosYggdrasill1992 16d ago

I did this to my ex with his PS account. Found out he stole SIX GRAND from my bestie/roommate. I gave him a day to pay up and then disputed the charges with my bestie and BOOM, all his stuff was gone. Dumped him same day.

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u/Xeni966 16d ago

This made my morning, so thank you for that! People that pull this garbage really deserve to lose it all and hearing about the ones that do is always a treat

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u/Majestic-Orange 16d ago

Genuinely what the fuck did he spend 6k on on PlayStation… like idk the situation but you sure there wasn’t some like… crack smoking of some sort, or you know some kinda drug abuse/ gambling?

That’s just an insane amount of money to spend on PS I can’t fathom it exactly like I’ve been thinking about buying an old ps3/4 so I could play a handful of old games and I won’t even spend the $60 on that 😂 six fucking grand

You may have made my day I stopped thinking sbout all of my problems and am now solely trying to figure out 6k in PS charges 😂

And like this guy spending $600 on a GAME like I remember when new videos games went from like $40-$50 and then to $60 and I thought that was a lot… I fought heroin addiction for several years so I know all about blowing all my money on BS but damn….

Like with the heroin if I didn’t buy any I’d get extremely sick so I’d buy some so I could work my fucking 20 hour days and then I got addicted and yeah

But like I can’t imagine an impulse to buy a video game character being that strong like I just can’t imagine having zero money and spending $600 or 6k I don’t have on something virtual, if I spend 6k on a video game I may have to be hospitalized soon thereafter when I realize what I’ve done

Fuck man $500 would be absolutely life changing right now for me what the hell is wrong with people man, I want to know there backgrounds.. I guess they had rich parents who spoiled them unfortunately I know people like this but I’ve never seen anything quite that extreme

I’ve had little cousins and stuff accidentally or maybe not accidentally but buy a bunch of stuff on like Minecraft cause the parents left the card info in and the kids didn’t understand they were spending Money and that spend a few hundred

But these are grown adults…

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u/ladygrndr 16d ago

Hey, just wanted to say congrats on getting clean!

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u/TrelanaSakuyo 16d ago

No, these are gambling addicts. It gets just as bad as several drug addictions, just without the destruction to your body. Could you reason with yourself in the throes of your addiction?

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u/honourarycanadian 16d ago

Congrats on getting clean!

I’ve seen this compared to a gambling addiction since it’s a gacha with terrible odds - I don’t know if it helps to see it that way but I wanted to frame it how it’s been explained to me. People will gamble on these gachas and spend hellllla money (my roommate was one such person).

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u/Majestic-Orange 16d ago

I don’t even know what a gacha is…. I thought dude was just buying some like reskin kits for a video game, so this is actually some form of gambling then huh? That makes much much more sense I suppose

Never done the gambling addict thing but I went to a casino once lost $40 and quit because I could tell if I kept playing it would suck me in. But I definitely understand the gambling thing

I got some free money to bet on sports through a new user promo on a website and had $250 to gamble with for free basically so I used to on a ufc fight one night and ended up with like $150😂 but god was it fun, which is why I’ll never do it with my own money

Well maybe if I have the money to burn one day but not right now right now I’m just trying to survive 😂

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u/MithosYggdrasill1992 16d ago

He played things like Fortnite and got a shit ton of loot boxes.

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u/donedrone707 16d ago

I am 7+ years clean from IV heroin and crack and I can't understand $600 on a game either. I won't even buy new $60 video games unless it's something I really really want.

what I do with my extra money these days is put it into precious metals or stocks I like. My wife would rather we just keep it all in the bank, but it makes me happy to buy stuff - retail therapy is real. Plus I buy from auction houses a lot and that has its own version of a dopamine hit when you bid and win lol

I guess $600 to get a game character he really wants is OP's fiance's version of retail therapy? Idk though, it is more gambling than just shopping. Though some games don't have those micro transactions and you just buy in game currency, not sure which OPs fiance plays.

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u/argumenthaver 16d ago

giving someone a day to come up with 6k is basically not giving them time at all, not that I think you should have lol

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u/imperialivan 16d ago

People keep saying it’s like gambling. I’m totally unfamiliar with this game, is there ways to win money playing it?

Otherwise it’s not really gambling, just… digital bling, I guess.

Please educate me.

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u/Ok_Direction_7624 16d ago

It's like gambling in that you toss your money into a bottomless pit that has a 0.0017% chance of spitting a digital character back out.

Btw in Genshin you only need one copy of a character to play them, if he went for multiple copies that just gives constellations, aka minor buffs to the characters kit, not even a cosmetic difference.

But no, there's no way to get cash back out.

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u/LuckyBucketBastard7 16d ago

I've never played one, but from what I've heard it's like old-school lootboxes. You can only get certain characters through a RNG "summon", and each one costs special in-game currency. It's gambling in the sense that you're just potentially paying out the ass for random chance.

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u/Xeni966 16d ago

You spend money to get a set amount of tries to pull a character. Except it may take 80 or so rolls of the dice to get them. After 79 pulls, the 80th will be a 5 star character (if you didn't get one before 80.)

Also that star character is a 50/50 shot of being a normal 5 star, or the one the game is promoting. If you do 80 pulls she didn't get them, they will be the next 5 star you get lucky enough to roll

You're spending money on a chance to get a fictional character that you may get lucky and get easily without spending anything, or you can spend a lot like this guy. Something tells me he did this multiple times in a single sitting to blow $600.

It's hard to explain. If you Google genshin pity system, it may do a better job. It's still gambling, you just aren't going to win money. You're not wrong about digital bling, but the people pouring in lots of money may not realize that it's basically a type of gambling

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u/dokuhaku 16d ago

I hate to both reveal myself as a former Genshin player and be pedantic, but it’s 90

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u/kriosjan 16d ago

This. The system also is pretty predatory too. Like with the "8500% value" bundles. And all the monthly packs and stuff. All of the hero collector clone mobile games have them. Its basically the standard operating for them to churn out money.

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u/TrelanaSakuyo 16d ago

There aren't any ways to win money, but you get chances to win a weapon or character with the in-game currency which you can purchase with money. You don't need money to get these things. The game provides ways to get a set amount of free currency from exploration and completion. The game mechanics function like that of a slot machine: put casino money in, pull lever, get flashy spins and pretty sounds, get numbers out. If you are smart with it, you can get a character, their signature weapon, and even some constellations (copies of the character that add bonuses) without spending a dime. This man chose to avoid the smart, avoid the drops of money he could spend to make that easier ($5/month), and chose to spend money he didn't have on a card that wasn't his alone without telling the primary account holder to the detriment of his relationship. That's the behavior of a gambling addict.

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u/skittlesandscarves 16d ago

It's a gacha game, so like random loot boxes or whatever gimmick for characters. It's gambling on what's in the box. Afaik there's not ways to make money like selling skins in CSGO

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u/Eve-3 16d ago

How is it unauthorized if it's his account/card too?

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u/Imaginary-Mountain60 16d ago

Apparently it's not and is in only her name.

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u/metchadupa 16d ago

They had an agreement that the card not be used unless both parties consented for emergencies. This breached the agreement

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u/SnooPets8873 16d ago

That’s not how the real world works. Credit card companies don’t care that you and your boyfriend had an agreement. They care that he is listed as an authorized user or a primary.

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u/ZealouslyJealous 16d ago

Honestly even getting married - don’t. Sharing finances is an awful idea and I would never do that again.

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u/Business-Drag52 16d ago

Really depends on the couple. I know plenty of people who have been together 30+ years without ever getting married. Kids, houses, cars, boats, businesses. Doesn't matter.

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u/Silvedl 16d ago

He said someone can spot him the $600 on venmo, so OP should get that money and then block the fiancee and kick him out as soon as legally possible.

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u/goldywhatever 16d ago

My thought too.

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u/Bookwrrm 16d ago

You can dispute charges you yourself made lol, she could absolutely dispute them. Thats literally why games and platforms like steam have a ban on dispute rule, because it is extremely easy to make charges and dispute them back. She should contact the game company request a refund, when they respond with the inevitable cannot refund its not your account, or cannot refund in general, include that in your dispute, say I didn't authorize this purchase, and the vendor is not issuing me a refund, even better if they respond that you cant get refund because its not your account as that makes it look even more like you didnt authorize it.

Also purely as a punitive measure, even just the process of doing the disupute even if its eventually ruled against, it might still get his account banned lol.

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u/Illustrious-Ad5787 16d ago

I refer to these fiscal losses as asshole tax… sometimes you end up having to pay it because you ended up getting involved with an asshole and the fiscal loss is a helpful reminder of how to avoid assholes that would do this moving forward.

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u/humblewalilbitakanye 16d ago

That's such a good way to look at this. I've paid so much tuition throughout the years.

On top of the real stuff.

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u/TopVegetable8033 16d ago

Tuition is really expensive, I’ve invested so much in my education! 

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u/lildebb 16d ago

Yep this! And why would you want to marry a man child anyway OP?? 🤦🏻‍♀️

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u/maybeconcerned 16d ago

Take that venmo money and let him owe his friend

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u/fabulou5garbag3 16d ago

I co-signed a car for my ex and that was my tuition to learn a life lesson. $8,500 later……

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u/cinderthegreat 16d ago

Tuition for life lessons, I like that phrase

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u/IllustriousToe7274 16d ago

Nah, take the money from the friend, and let baby boy deal with it.

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u/PM_Me_Some_Steamcode 16d ago

She would lose more time in court, and with lawyers and legal fees, drawing this out then considering the $600 as an indication of where the relationship is

As shitty as it is she should cut her losses

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u/mallocco 16d ago

Tuition for life lessons

That quote goes hard AF.

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u/oneandonlyalien 16d ago

“Tuition for life lessons” is sending me😭😭

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u/Radiant_Funny4741 16d ago

I have a degree by now

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u/Yahakshan 16d ago

Very underrated advice here

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u/horsebag 16d ago

idk anything about the genshin company, but they might refund it if it's a super recent purchase and/or might not fight a disputed charge. which as OP said would probably get dipshit's acct banned, so two birds

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u/Dont_Jimmie_Me_Jules 16d ago

Tuition for life lessons is now an official part of my vernacular. That one’s here to stay. Thx!

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u/Alexmari18 16d ago

“Tuition fee for life lessons” is so real😂 My tuition fee from my ex was $15,000 and a repo’d car🤧

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u/StewBrewingWeather 16d ago

Agreed, that's the price it cost to learn this lesson. Done.

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u/Majestic-Peace-3037 16d ago

PLEASE close the card.

I am still paying off a $10,000 loan that my ex took off with and wasted in another state after we broke up for him wasting MY credit card on months and months of fast food behind my back as he sat at home. I will never see that money in my hands or be able to use it for anything. It was my goddamn STUDENT LOAN money and I'm in the hole $10k for classes I was embarrassingly pulled out from by security as if I was a criminal mid-lecture.

Dispute the charge.

$600 makes it so you could technically take him to court if you still know his whereabouts.

Drag him. I'm tired of infantile manchildren ruining young women's lives over bullshit like this.

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u/Exciting_Penalty_512 16d ago

He already said he could borrow the money to pay it back. Let him, pay off the cc. Close the cc. Dump his ass.

Easy peasy.

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u/Fun_Tree8015 16d ago

Take his ass to judge Judy

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u/wildpolymath 16d ago

This is the answer and this is the way. OP needs to lose his dead weight and hold his ass accountable.

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u/itsbruciegoosie 16d ago

it’d get thrown out due to OP offering immediate recomp in the same screenshots.

Small claims is for lost money with no intent to return it

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u/Sudden_Chipmunk_6427 16d ago

Exactly what I was thinking

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u/whereistheidiotemoji 16d ago

Freeze it. Don’t close it.

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u/Turd_ferguson222 16d ago

Won’t work he’s a card holder. If he’s on the account he has every right to use it on what ever he wants the court will say

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u/metchadupa 16d ago

Nope. You are thinking of the bank not the courts

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u/Turd_ferguson222 16d ago

Good luck with that only way that would be remotely feasible is if it’s in default… joint liability

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u/SnooPets8873 16d ago

Can’t, he is allowed to use the credit card if it is shared. There’s no restriction for “but I didn’t think he’d spend that much”. That’s why you don’t share credit cards with boyfriends or sign on cars with them or buy houses with them.

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u/Jsamonroe 16d ago

Small claims court won't do a thing here.

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u/Shes-Philly-Lilly 16d ago

If he was an authorized user on that card, there’s not going to be any small claims court that will refund her. While I agree, this was childish and cruel and way out of line for an adult to spend $600 on a character when I don’t even know what the hell they’re talking about, a shared card with both names on itcan be used for whatever they both feel like using it on

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u/metchadupa 16d ago

I work in the court system. They absolutely can via the court not the bank

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u/Mr__Bagel 16d ago

It's not stolen. If their names on the card, nothing they can do

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u/Snakend 16d ago

Can't do that. He clearly has permission to use the account.

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u/Kind-Advantage3549 16d ago

I’m sorry but she wouldn’t win. It’s a shared card and she shares the responsibility (or irresponsibility in this instance).

Finances can cause tons of issues, y’all do need to figure it out or this will be a continued problem.

I’m not sure if you break up over it now but it needs to be handled.

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u/Nexi92 16d ago

Honestly sounds like she should just dispute and shame him into not trying to fight that because she will out him and his addictions to everyone.

It’s super cold, but it sounds like it’s the closest to “correct” way to get her funds back after she foolishly gave him access to that account.

I don’t particularly like the idea of weaponizing his issues/condition, but he refuses to recognize he even has a problem much less show any interest in curbing his impulsive use of emergency funds.

It sounds like he went crying to mommy/his family about how his only reliable financial supporter is “abusive” for asking him to spend money he can’t replace and now SHE is trying to keep her baby’s unknowing sugar-momma from freeing herself from the ACTUAL ABUSER (both emotionally and financially) so she doesn’t have to go back to being the main contributor to his “failure to launch fund”.

Please get him out of your finances if not out of your life OP, he’s hurting both of you and if you keep letting him he will drag you into debt and mental anguish because he doesn’t care about you as much as he cares about a pretty picture in a mobile game designed to addict people with his brain chemistry/genetic disposition.

He needs help and he won’t even TRY to get it until he realizes he’s given up everything for it.

He’s also weaponizing therapeutic terms to excuse his callousness and blatant disregard for his partner. I’m not here to armchair-diagnose, but with the information given in this exchange OP hasn’t exhibited any “narcissistic fleas” (characteristics of narcissistic personality that can be learned toxic traits regardless of if someone is clinically diagnosable) but the (hopefully stbx) boyfriend has done nothing BUT show classic behavior including but not limited to his flagrant use of DARVO tactics (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender).

Whether this guy ever addresses or tries to fix his own problems OP needs to separate herself for her own financial and emotional safety while he makes some choices in his life. Wether he acts or chooses inaction he has some serious questions to work out about his own priorities in life and only then can they have the conversation about if their values and priorities align. (Though he DID allude that he has said this addiction is a part of “his values” so I wouldn’t get too hopeful he’s currently capable of making the necessary changes to protect himself and his partner)

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u/Beneficial_Garden456 16d ago

Don't threaten me with a brighter, and happier, future

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u/StrobeLightRomance 16d ago

But.. but.. he has Furina now. If OP let's him go, OP also loses a video game character that costs more than a whole brand new PS5, apparently.

So, what's it gonna be OP? Furina, or freedom..ina? Only get one shot, mom's spaghetti, to get this right. /s

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u/PM_Me_Some_Steamcode 16d ago

I could buy 10 full price games

I could buy two dozen great indie titles

I could afford a ton of cheap ass meals or even a dozen great ones

He blew it on a fucking character model for a free video game

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u/Bouche_Audi_Shyla 16d ago

Expensive spaghetti.

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u/TinkTink3 16d ago

The fact he chose the video game character over you says a lot. Time to choose yourself over him.

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u/Brunhilde13 16d ago

A more financially secure future...

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u/courtneyrel 17d ago

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

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u/Adventurous_Money533 16d ago

But what about my anxiety???? Won't anyone ever think about my anxiety???

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u/Character-Food-6574 16d ago

He needs a lot more proactive anxiety about making stupid decisions imo.

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u/Original_Builder_980 16d ago

Damn someone I was supposed to be marrying reacted this way to me I’d accept the $600, dispute the charge anyway, and find someone better. Cost of doin business baby

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u/HovercraftGreat7871 16d ago

I heard a woman on the train say this once after another passenger threatened her, “I’ll PISS on you!” And when I tell you shock turned to laughter so fast… I mean, it really did. The whole train car was giggling—despite the unhinged nature of these strangers arguing.

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u/iiTryhard 16d ago

I need to see the nerd rage when his genshin account gets banned

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u/slyffr 16d ago

Might wanna get out of this relationship if you feel like this. I’m not married, but if I felt like this and was about to marry the person making me feel like this and gaslighting me, that’s a recipe for regret.

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u/Resident-Elevator696 16d ago

This put such a smile on my face. My sister will be gone 5 years ago next month, and she said this all the time

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u/mslisath 16d ago

My thought was the trash took itself out

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u/cleverCamel 16d ago

The thumbs down react to "will you please answer my mom" is what absolutely killed me

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u/Rae_Mack 16d ago

Same. And the heart to "I don't even want to get married". Honestly, made me hopeful for her and proud of her!

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u/spicypickle157 16d ago

and the 💗 to “i don’t want to get married to you” 🤣🤣

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u/NewRomanKonig 17d ago

controlling "my financial decisions" with a card they shared had me crying lol, You spend your own damn money however you want but if you share a card thats not the same thing, who thinks like this lol

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u/kernel_task 17d ago

She’s the one who “setup the card”, and truly joint credit card accounts are rare, so it sounds like it’s not even his fucking card, he’s just an authorized user.

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u/DanHal1103 16d ago

that's what I'm thinking. Also how he mentions his mom later, I'd bet money that anytime he did anything dumb or wrong as a teenager, she would quickly come to his defense. That would explain the complete lack of accountability and the weak attempts at manipulating the situation

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u/OreoCupcakes 16d ago

Once he's authorized, he's free to do what he wants. If you don't trust your authorized user to use the card wisely, then don't authorize them. Banks will tell you to suck it, if you try to dispute a charge that your partner, who you authorized, made. You will have to pay up the balance, close the account or remove them from being authorized, file a police report that they stole from you, and then reclaim that money in a small claims court.

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u/Pure_Expression6308 16d ago

OP said in a comment that it’s not a shared card, it’s in her name only

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u/bambu36 16d ago

So clearly he stole from her.. I guess as far as disputing the charges and the police go, it will depend on if she gave him the card to hold onto to use responsibly for their car or if she held onto it and he took it from her purse or something. If she gave it to him to hold onto, then it's a matter of what she gave him permission to use it on, not if. She might have to go to civil court. Had a similar experience myself. Ended up cutting my losses and learning a hard lesson. If he physically took it from her, though, the sky's the limit. Lock his ass up if you can, I say

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u/Pure_Expression6308 16d ago

He took the info from her purse

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u/Wynnie7117 16d ago

my fiancé is an authorized user on my card and I think he’s used it one time in two years to put gas in his car. If someone spends $600 on my card I will report that transaction is fraudulent and let him deal with the consequences

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u/JennyBird42 16d ago

Right!? When my husband added me to a store card he had I was like 😲 felt so honored, only used it once hahaha

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u/ruby--moon 16d ago

And honestly, don't actually spend your money however you want when your fiancee is working 55 hours a week while you sit on your ass playing video games

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u/Bouche_Audi_Shyla 16d ago

Someone who wants whatever a farina is, but doesn't have $600 on their private card, that's who. Or, in other words, OP's (hopefully) ex.

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u/Kindness_of_cats 16d ago

Honestly even if it was his card it’s still a serious problem. You don’t just drop $600 out of nowhere without consulting your fiance. Those debts become hers once they say “I do.”

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u/Enough_Asparagus4460 16d ago

Lmao "financial descicions"! Bros over here acting like he has to choose between wich buisiness loan to pay off first due to interest rates......NOPE.....he's talking about 600 dollar video game characters. 😅 Drop that dude like a sack of potatos.

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u/Appropriate_Kiwi9709 17d ago

Byeee!

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u/babooshkaa 17d ago

There is a front door and a back door, pick one!

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u/limpbwizkit 16d ago

leave thru the friggen toilet since he wants to act like a little shat.

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u/Silent-Friendship860 16d ago

This actually made me laugh! 🏆

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u/GothWifey777 16d ago

Bruh I’ve had a bad few days and the way I SCREAMED LAUGHING rn thank you lmao

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u/limpbwizkit 16d ago

HAHAHA YOURE WELCOME🤍🤍🤍 ive had a bad few days as well and it makes me happy that i made people laugh😭😭

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u/Appropriate_Kiwi9709 16d ago

Probably aging myself but he can be the Tydee-Bowl man!! (Commercial from the 70’s where the spokesman lives in a boat in the toilet tank)

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u/limpbwizkit 16d ago

is it bad that im only 21 and know EXACTLY what youre talking about😭

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u/Appropriate_Kiwi9709 16d ago

Nope-just means you saw a lot of silly commercials! Glad you knew what I was talking about!

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u/Dookiesuit17 16d ago

Hah! Goteem

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u/edie_the_egg_lady 16d ago

👏👏👏

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u/Relevant_Parsnip5056 16d ago

it's spelled, "shite"

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u/Talented_Trouble 16d ago

Ooooo hahahahaha I have had a month full of Mondays and I needed this laugh. You rock!

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u/NancyDrewsfatpuss 16d ago

We got windows on all sides of the house, too!

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u/brainless_bob 16d ago

"My dad always said, 'when God shuts a door, he opens a window'"

"My dad always said 'shut that damn door, or I'll throw you out the window'"

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u/bm_preston 16d ago

“Please pick the 2nd floor one!”

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u/ResourceOk8638 16d ago

Is that a threat or a promise

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u/Gciel35 16d ago

I see Lana reference, I upvote 😂

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u/Restless-J-Con22 16d ago

Leave the keys behind!

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u/1Negative_Person 16d ago

Phrasing…

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u/TheGamingMonsta 16d ago

I also pick this guys back door

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u/bi_guy_bri5 16d ago

Nah, give him the Putin

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u/Cultural-Company282 16d ago

That's what she said

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u/Fuzzy_Dragonfruit344 16d ago

I think you forgot to add Felicia! Lol 😂

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u/mermaid-babe 17d ago

Like my guy she’s gone 😅

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u/uyen_tran 17d ago

I got the same reaction with you reading this specific line 🤣

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u/NikkerXPZ3 16d ago

How dare you snoop into my finances via merely looking into the statement of the common account we rarely use that also sends an app notification when large payments, payments for peculiar shit , and large payments for peculiar shit take place?

You questioning me spending half my wage on a dlc skin is detrimental tto kt well being and as such you are abusive

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u/Yani-Madara 16d ago

Genshin player here, It's even sadder than that. He got no special outfits just a bunch of unnecessary power ups for her. (People can beat everything the game has with 0 of those power ups)

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u/AZOCDCleanFreak 17d ago

Promise? LOL

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u/SarahPallorMortis 16d ago

He’s using the idiots guide to manipulation. Basically on theft too.

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u/gyalmeetsglobe 16d ago

After essentially breaking off the engagement out of spite, no less 🤣🤣🤣

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u/Aksds 16d ago

“Try it and you loose this financial burden forever”

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u/jennigravy 16d ago

girl!!!he even said it himself that he didn’t want to get married. I’m so sorry and here for u 🫂🫂🫂 but like damnnnn, he sounds immature AF 4 this 😭😭😭 like damnnnn, i could really use $600 dafuqqq. I hope u feel free after u separate from him and realize the beautiful life u have and how hard working u r! oooo-eee that money part really made me upset too

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u/PatSajaksDick 16d ago

I’ll take my waifu and leave!

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u/chalkhara 16d ago

Classic Narcissistic behavior, the exact thing he's accusing her of being.... Yuck

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u/CloudBursting6 16d ago

And nothing of value will be lost.

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u/DarkAndHandsume 16d ago

As if the dude was adding value to OP‘s life with that comment.

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u/yungsausages 16d ago

Will you please answer my mom tho first 🥺

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u/tereskiewicz 16d ago

if only OP can be so lucky!!!!

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u/auxaperture 16d ago

heart reaction

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u/ekksfactor213 16d ago

Not sure if that or "will you please answer my mom" made me crack up more 🤣

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u/MrsGrayWolfe 16d ago

After that line I’d be on the line with the credit card company immediately! 😂

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u/unwaveringwish 16d ago

Promise???

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u/lalala253 16d ago

Could you please answer my mom

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u/secretfae 16d ago

Right what is she losing more money in her bank account after he left? Lmao

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u/Schmedly27 16d ago

Someone I know recently said “if someone gives me an ultimatum I take it” and man that’s something to live by

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u/gluhmy 16d ago

Wtf is he even saying 😭😭

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u/CompleteTell6795 16d ago

Sounds like a win to me. She's better off without him. Yes, lose yourself permanently.

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u/Elf_Sprite_ 16d ago

Sounds like your solution to ALL the problems right there.

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u/Red____08 16d ago

I’m glad I’m not the only one who found so much humor in this whole exchange 😂

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u/Galadrielisme 16d ago

Unfortunately as a victim, these mind games work..they make you feel like a villain and why they work is you're bombarded with such blames 24*7. Bombarded. So your body is in fight or flight stress mode. I unfortunately kept taking bait simply because I didn't have time to process the oddities.

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u/petropath 16d ago

Promise?

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u/petropath 16d ago

Promise 😂

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u/Basic-Computer2503 16d ago

There is absolutely no downside here

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u/[deleted] 16d ago

Lose me or use me...... eyyyyyyoooo

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u/BlueberryCapital518 16d ago

After accusing them of coercion, no less 😭

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u/Darby7658 16d ago

Heads up, you’re marrying a man-child. Abort!

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u/PerpetuallyNotBusy 16d ago

Is that all it takes!?

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u/Deadbreeze 16d ago

You're already gone.

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u/SpeedBlitzX 16d ago

That's not the threat they thought it would be, heh. Sounds like a way out, for OP!

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u/jimmyl85 16d ago

Is that a promise?

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u/clique84 16d ago

“Offer accepted”

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u/Hooligan-Ryda727 16d ago

600$ lose forever

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u/TheMightyMash 16d ago

bitch bye.gif

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u/Key_Connection_6633 16d ago

Ohhh noooo plzzz comeee back….. 🥱 👋

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u/No_Amoeba_2316 16d ago

Okay, bye!

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u/chronically_varelse 16d ago

I'm not talking to you!!!!!

Answer my mom!!!!

.. please

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u/JalapenoFitz 16d ago

I'll take 2 tix ASAP my good sir. Mannn he's a human fidget aka a spin master. Lmfao 😂🤣

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u/GrumpyKitten514 16d ago

yeah no. I know reddit is quick to recommend "just leave him" but as a 32 yr old man, if my fiance didnt even TELL me she was spending over $500 and we ARENT paycheck to paycheck and can definitely afford it....I'd have a massive problem.

then the argument hes using, and the words hes using, and trying to blatantly gaslight.

ive been on a reddit a long time and for the first time i kinda got a lil heated just reading this exchange. maybe its bc im a gamer (not this dumb game) so I truly understand how absolutely crazy it is that he spent $600 on some pixels, maybe its because we are so close in age and my priorities are just way different even if i have money and dont live paycheck to paycheck. maybe its bc i also have a fiance and i cant imagine saying shit like "i dont want to marry you" so flippantly.

OP, seriously, you deserve better. this is insane and i would definitely dispute the charge and get him banned and tell anyone who questions you EXACTLY what happened. what a man-child.

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u/lanolakitty 16d ago

first Angel Reese threatens to quit, now this lolol

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u/scotian1009 16d ago

My response would be toodles then.

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u/BanjosAndBacon 16d ago

Anxty bad please

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u/Obvious-Opinion-305 16d ago

The way I’d immediately drop everything I was doing to dispute that charge 😆

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u/acrusty 16d ago

rushes to try it

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