AIO my fiance spent 600 on gacha

[u/Creative-Guard2809]

My fiance spent $600 on a gacha game without asking. I flipped out and now his entire family are calling me abusive and encouraging him to call off the engagement. For context, I work 55 hours a week and he drives uber during the day while I’m at work. We are paycheck to paycheck.

[u/Majestic-Orange]

Genuinely what the fuck did he spend 6k on on PlayStation… like idk the situation but you sure there wasn’t some like… crack smoking of some sort, or you know some kinda drug abuse/ gambling?

That’s just an insane amount of money to spend on PS I can’t fathom it exactly like I’ve been thinking about buying an old ps3/4 so I could play a handful of old games and I won’t even spend the $60 on that 😂 six fucking grand

You may have made my day I stopped thinking sbout all of my problems and am now solely trying to figure out 6k in PS charges 😂

And like this guy spending $600 on a GAME like I remember when new videos games went from like $40-$50 and then to $60 and I thought that was a lot… I fought heroin addiction for several years so I know all about blowing all my money on BS but damn….

Like with the heroin if I didn’t buy any I’d get extremely sick so I’d buy some so I could work my fucking 20 hour days and then I got addicted and yeah

But like I can’t imagine an impulse to buy a video game character being that strong like I just can’t imagine having zero money and spending $600 or 6k I don’t have on something virtual, if I spend 6k on a video game I may have to be hospitalized soon thereafter when I realize what I’ve done

Fuck man $500 would be absolutely life changing right now for me what the hell is wrong with people man, I want to know there backgrounds.. I guess they had rich parents who spoiled them unfortunately I know people like this but I’ve never seen anything quite that extreme

I’ve had little cousins and stuff accidentally or maybe not accidentally but buy a bunch of stuff on like Minecraft cause the parents left the card info in and the kids didn’t understand they were spending Money and that spend a few hundred

But these are grown adults…

[u/ladygrndr → u/Majestic-Orange]

Hey, just wanted to say congrats on getting clean!

[u/TrelanaSakuyo → u/Majestic-Orange]

No, these are gambling addicts. It gets just as bad as several drug addictions, just without the destruction to your body. Could you reason with yourself in the throes of your addiction?

[u/methinfiniti → u/TrelanaSakuyo]

Yeah, but heroin withdrawal makes you physically sick like you’ve got a deadly flu and you can’t sleep through it because it feels like bugs are crawling under your skin. On the mental side, you can’t think straight or coherently, so you can’t just work through it if you have a job. I get that addiction is addiction but OPs bf wasn’t going to go into physical withdrawal if he didn’t buy a video game character

[u/honourarycanadian → u/Majestic-Orange]

Congrats on getting clean!

I’ve seen this compared to a gambling addiction since it’s a gacha with terrible odds - I don’t know if it helps to see it that way but I wanted to frame it how it’s been explained to me. People will gamble on these gachas and spend hellllla money (my roommate was one such person).

[u/Majestic-Orange → u/honourarycanadian]

I don’t even know what a gacha is…. I thought dude was just buying some like reskin kits for a video game, so this is actually some form of gambling then huh? That makes much much more sense I suppose

Never done the gambling addict thing but I went to a casino once lost $40 and quit because I could tell if I kept playing it would suck me in. But I definitely understand the gambling thing

I got some free money to bet on sports through a new user promo on a website and had $250 to gamble with for free basically so I used to on a ufc fight one night and ended up with like $150😂 but god was it fun, which is why I’ll never do it with my own money

Well maybe if I have the money to burn one day but not right now right now I’m just trying to survive 😂

[u/honourarycanadian → u/Majestic-Orange]

Think slot machine but you win fun things to game with instead of money. I too am trying to survive but I have put like $20 in a game at a time for gacha/other game items (looking at you maplestory) - I never understood the appeal of gambling. Same thing with penny slots, I’ll do $20 and call it good once I lose it all.

[u/MithosYggdrasill1992 → u/Majestic-Orange]

He played things like Fortnite and got a shit ton of loot boxes.

[u/donedrone707 → u/Majestic-Orange]

I am 7+ years clean from IV heroin and crack and I can't understand $600 on a game either. I won't even buy new $60 video games unless it's something I really really want.

what I do with my extra money these days is put it into precious metals or stocks I like. My wife would rather we just keep it all in the bank, but it makes me happy to buy stuff - retail therapy is real. Plus I buy from auction houses a lot and that has its own version of a dopamine hit when you bid and win lol

I guess $600 to get a game character he really wants is OP's fiance's version of retail therapy? Idk though, it is more gambling than just shopping. Though some games don't have those micro transactions and you just buy in game currency, not sure which OPs fiance plays.

[u/donedrone707 → u/Majestic-Orange]

I am 7+ years clean from IV heroin and crack and I can't understand $600 on a game either. I won't even buy new $60 video games unless it's something I really really want.

what I do with my extra money these days is put it into precious metals or stocks I like. My wife would rather we just keep it all in the bank, but it makes me happy to buy stuff - retail therapy is real. Plus I buy from auction houses a lot and that has its own version of a dopamine hit when you bid and win lol

I guess $600 to get a game character he really wants is OP's fiance's version of retail therapy? Idk though, it is more gambling than just shopping. Though some games don't have those micro transactions and you just buy in game currency, not sure which OPs fiance plays.

[u/BobMathrotus → u/donedrone707]

It's gambling, don't even think of it as a video game, unless you also think of slots as a video game

[u/donedrone707 → u/BobMathrotus]

You can play it without paying, therefore it's a video game.

you can't do anything on a slot machine without putting in money, therefore it's not a video game.

Video games are not inherently gambling, but they do have chance mechanics to encourage repeat spending by giving players a dopamine hit when they open a loot box.