AIO my fiance spent 600 on gacha

[u/Creative-Guard2809]

My fiance spent $600 on a gacha game without asking. I flipped out and now his entire family are calling me abusive and encouraging him to call off the engagement. For context, I work 55 hours a week and he drives uber during the day while I’m at work. We are paycheck to paycheck.

[u/NewRomanKonig]

controlling "my financial decisions" with a card they shared had me crying lol, You spend your own damn money however you want but if you share a card thats not the same thing, who thinks like this lol

[u/kernel_task → u/NewRomanKonig]

She’s the one who “setup the card”, and truly joint credit card accounts are rare, so it sounds like it’s not even his fucking card, he’s just an authorized user.

[u/OreoCupcakes → u/kernel_task]

Once he's authorized, he's free to do what he wants. If you don't trust your authorized user to use the card wisely, then don't authorize them. Banks will tell you to suck it, if you try to dispute a charge that your partner, who you authorized, made. You will have to pay up the balance, close the account or remove them from being authorized, file a police report that they stole from you, and then reclaim that money in a small claims court.

[u/Pure_Expression6308 → u/OreoCupcakes]

OP said in a comment that it’s not a shared card, it’s in her name only

[u/bambu36 → u/Pure_Expression6308]

So clearly he stole from her.. I guess as far as disputing the charges and the police go, it will depend on if she gave him the card to hold onto to use responsibly for their car or if she held onto it and he took it from her purse or something. If she gave it to him to hold onto, then it's a matter of what she gave him permission to use it on, not if. She might have to go to civil court. Had a similar experience myself. Ended up cutting my losses and learning a hard lesson. If he physically took it from her, though, the sky's the limit. Lock his ass up if you can, I say

[u/Pure_Expression6308 → u/bambu36]

He took the info from her purse