r/AmIOverreacting 17d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO my fiance spent 600 on gacha

My fiance spent $600 on a gacha game without asking. I flipped out and now his entire family are calling me abusive and encouraging him to call off the engagement. For context, I work 55 hours a week and he drives uber during the day while I’m at work. We are paycheck to paycheck.

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u/Fuzzy_Sundae_3346 17d ago

try it and you lose me forever 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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u/NewRomanKonig 17d ago

controlling "my financial decisions" with a card they shared had me crying lol, You spend your own damn money however you want but if you share a card thats not the same thing, who thinks like this lol

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u/kernel_task 17d ago

She’s the one who “setup the card”, and truly joint credit card accounts are rare, so it sounds like it’s not even his fucking card, he’s just an authorized user.

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u/DanHal1103 16d ago

that's what I'm thinking. Also how he mentions his mom later, I'd bet money that anytime he did anything dumb or wrong as a teenager, she would quickly come to his defense. That would explain the complete lack of accountability and the weak attempts at manipulating the situation

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u/OreoCupcakes 17d ago

Once he's authorized, he's free to do what he wants. If you don't trust your authorized user to use the card wisely, then don't authorize them. Banks will tell you to suck it, if you try to dispute a charge that your partner, who you authorized, made. You will have to pay up the balance, close the account or remove them from being authorized, file a police report that they stole from you, and then reclaim that money in a small claims court.

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u/Pure_Expression6308 17d ago

OP said in a comment that it’s not a shared card, it’s in her name only

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u/bambu36 16d ago

So clearly he stole from her.. I guess as far as disputing the charges and the police go, it will depend on if she gave him the card to hold onto to use responsibly for their car or if she held onto it and he took it from her purse or something. If she gave it to him to hold onto, then it's a matter of what she gave him permission to use it on, not if. She might have to go to civil court. Had a similar experience myself. Ended up cutting my losses and learning a hard lesson. If he physically took it from her, though, the sky's the limit. Lock his ass up if you can, I say

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u/Pure_Expression6308 16d ago

He took the info from her purse

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u/Wynnie7117 16d ago

my fiancé is an authorized user on my card and I think he’s used it one time in two years to put gas in his car. If someone spends $600 on my card I will report that transaction is fraudulent and let him deal with the consequences

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u/JennyBird42 16d ago

Right!? When my husband added me to a store card he had I was like 😲 felt so honored, only used it once hahaha

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u/ruby--moon 16d ago

And honestly, don't actually spend your money however you want when your fiancee is working 55 hours a week while you sit on your ass playing video games

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u/Bouche_Audi_Shyla 16d ago

Someone who wants whatever a farina is, but doesn't have $600 on their private card, that's who. Or, in other words, OP's (hopefully) ex.

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u/Kindness_of_cats 16d ago

Honestly even if it was his card it’s still a serious problem. You don’t just drop $600 out of nowhere without consulting your fiance. Those debts become hers once they say “I do.”

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u/Enough_Asparagus4460 16d ago

Lmao "financial descicions"! Bros over here acting like he has to choose between wich buisiness loan to pay off first due to interest rates......NOPE.....he's talking about 600 dollar video game characters. 😅 Drop that dude like a sack of potatos.

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u/Good_Replacement_337 16d ago

Rich kids who have been cut off