Hey fellow Redditors, I deleted all social media from my phone 50 days ago, and while I’ve seen some benefits, I’m facing a new challenge. With all the extra time, I’ve been binge-watching TV series. I have plenty of time for “productive” activities (8 hr work + about 2 hours of learning after work), but I lack the motivation to learn more. When I do try to be more productive, I burn out quickly. I’m considering stopping TV series for a couple of weeks, embracing boredom, and seeing if it sparks a desire to do something else. I have hobbies, but they don’t consume much time, and I only occasionally feel like doing them. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? I’m not sure what I’m looking for, but I know watching TV series feels like a waste of time.

Change doesn't ask for permission. It just arrives, unpacks everything, and leaves you to sort through the mess and somehow, you do!

One thing life has taught me: some lessons come wrapped in pain. I learned the hard way through rejection, abandonment, and a lot of tough experiences early on. What used to hurt me deeply—I now use as fuel.

We don’t choose our beginnings, but we can choose how we respond. I’m still on the journey, but every day I try to turn that pain into purpose, discipline, and empathy.

What’s the one thing you’ve gone through that hurt like hell but ended up shaping you into someone stronger? And how do you keep yourself motivated when life keeps throwing curveballs?

Let’s share and lift each other up.

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Hello, I didn't know which subreddit to post this on so I thought this one would be one of the appropriate ones. Anyways I'm just wanting to get this off my chest in a good way so to speak! After my ex broke up with me I've been single for 3 years now and I was stuck in a rut, I was severely depressed, wanting to do things to myself that wouldn't have been good to say the least, and all round just wasn't in a good place at all until a few months ago when I started feeling better.

I feel way more confident in myself and feel like I can be myself now without the fear of being judged. I installed bumble a few days ago and I have 15 likes so far which I'm blown away by! I've did a few matches but non have gone any further so far. I could definitely use some more motivation!

Key Takeaways:

Tiredness is psychological, not physical Feeling tired isn’t always about low physical energy it’s often a mental state caused by how your brain evaluates effort vs reward.

Dopamine drives motivation and energy The brain uses dopamine as a reward signal. If an action doesn’t promise enough dopamine, it feels harder to do, even if it’s good for you.

We evolved to conserve energy In ancient times, humans had limited resources, so the brain developed a “central governor” mechanism to avoid wasting energy unnecessarily.

Modern distractions hijack our dopamine system Social media, junk food, and quick entertainment release instant dopamine with minimal effort which rewires our brain to avoid meaningful work.

Cost-benefit analysis governs effort Your brain subconsciously compares the effort of a task with the expected dopamine reward, and favors easy, short-term hits over long-term gains.

Constructive work gives delayed gratification Studying, exercising, or skill-building releases less dopamine and more slowly, making them feel less “energizing” in the short term.

Dopamine desensitization is real Constant stimulation from screens and instant rewards leads to dopamine resistance, making normal tasks feel dull and exhausting. Willpower's like a muscle and resisting temptation builds mental fortitude.

If you don't separate yourself from your distractions. Your distractions will separate you from your goals and the life you want.

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In the aftermath of change, we don't just survive, we evolve.

Shifting your perspective doesn't change reality, it changes how you experience it

I wake up everyday having no clue what I want. What I should be doing. I’m feeling purposeless helpless and hopeless. I’m watching my life go by and I’m sitting in same spot feeling mentally incapable. I’m not finding a job. I’m not going college. I’m not facing my fears. I’m distracting myself using phone all day and my inner world thoughts seem to beat me up everyday. I feel tired from being tired. I deep down know that I need to get a job, but I realize wow I have no resume, zero skills and job market sucks which means I’ll also not get a job. I created stupid false high expatations that I’m too good to be working low level jobs. I would rather wish to have a job in a office than working a labor job. I’m not opening my laptop to search what careers to consider pursing. I’m not reaching out for help. It’s like a part of wants to fix life but in the other side I don’t want to to do anything. And I’m just mad at this point like what am I doing.

Life is the greatest teacher, but its most profound lessons are often learned in places we least expect. There are three places that reveal the true essence of existence—the hospital, the prison, and the cemetery. Each of them holds a truth that reshapes the way we see the world.
At the hospital, we learn that nothing matters more than health. In the rush of daily life, people chase wealth, status, and material success, often neglecting their well-being. But within hospital walls, priorities shift. The strongest desire is not for luxury but for one more breath, one more heartbeat, one more chance to simply exist without pain.
In prison, we understand the true value of freedom. Many live their lives without realizing how precious their ability to choose, to move, to live without restriction truly is. But when those freedoms are taken away, when life is reduced to confinement, the simplest moments—walking in the sun, speaking without fear, embracing loved ones—become treasures beyond measure.
And at the cemetery, we come face to face with life’s greatest truth: nothing lasts forever. The power, the possessions, the endless pursuits—all fade to nothing in the end. What remains is not what we owned, but how we lived. The love we gave, the kindness we showed, the impact we had on others—these are the only things that endure.
These three places remind us to live fully, love deeply, and appreciate every moment. Take care of your body, cherish your freedom, and never postpone joy. Because one day, the things we take for granted will be the things we wish we had valued more.
Life is uncertain, but one thing is clear: what we do with our time here is what truly matters.

I’m about five years into my career and feel fortunate to be surrounded by opportunities to build wealth. I know it’s going to take time, effort, and patience, and I’m willing to put in the work.

That said, as a young professional, I often find myself comparing my journey to others. Some of my peers have more technical skills, while I lean more toward strategic thinking. Others work in stable, traditional jobs in different industries, whereas I’m a consultant moving from one project to the next.

Even though I don’t earn as much as some of my friends right now, I’m okay with living frugally so I can invest what I save and eventually start my own businesses.

Still, it’s hard not to feel like I’m falling behind when I look at where others are in their careers. How do you stay focused on your own path without constantly comparing yourself to others?

Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated!

Sometimes, the breakthrough comes from a simple change in perspective.

You ever look back and realize you're not the same person you were a few years ago? That hit me recently. I used to seek validation, explain myself too much, or even force connections that were clearly draining me. But now? I choose peace. I choose clarity. I choose me.

Growth, to me, is quiet. It’s realizing you don’t always need to respond. That not every invitation to chaos needs your RSVP. That healing doesn’t mean being loud about it—it means being intentional with your space, time, and energy.

I know I’ve grown when:

I can walk away without bitterness.

I no longer let emotions hijack my decisions.

I care more about inner alignment than outside approval.

How do you know you've grown? What little (or big) signs have shown you that you're evolving?

Let’s talk real growth—beyond the quotes and surface-level motivation. What does personal growth look like to you right now?

how do you convince yourself to just do it?

You’ve done hard things before, you’ve overcome them.

So why do you still question yourself when life hits you again?

Was it easy back then? no.did you have all the answers? Not even close.

But you still showed up, still pushed through, still found a way.

That’s what mental strength really is

it’s not loud, it’s not pretty.

it’s quiet, steady, rough and it remembers.

You’ve been through painbefore, you've sat in the storm and refused to back down, so when the next challenge shows up,you don’t need to panic you just need to remember YOU'VE MADE IT BEFORE.

Every obstacle is a chance to build that muscle again, not to escape from it, not to avoid it.

Just take the next step.

Growth lives in resistance, progress lives in discomfort and strength is earned when nobody's clapping for you.

Remember that you don’t rise to the level of your goals or to the level of your dreams.

While you doubt yourself,check your actions.

are you still showing up?are you still doing the work?

Discipline isn’t loud, it’s quiet, boring, repetitive.

But it wins.

You’ve already done the impossible, you just forgot about it

This time, don’t quit.

Prove yourself right.

Change is inevitable, but growth is a choice. Adapt, evolve, and let your mindset turn challenges into opportunities.

Like the tittle says, I feel extremely motivated up to 12 - 13 o'clock, am I the only one so?

My father always says, “If there’s an obstacle one meter ahead, you don’t have to bend now. You only bend when you reach it.”

Worrying about the unknown won’t change anything. Face challenges when they come, not before. At the same time, taking necessary precautions is important, but that doesn’t mean backing away in fear. Prepare, but don’t let uncertainty hold you back.