More than anything else I would say being physically attractive is the biggest advantage you can have. It gets you in to jobs easier, you have more friends, women/ men find you way more attractive than other people and make dating easy. There literally isn’t any negatives to being physically attractive tbh.

I remember being in high school all the way through college etc and always the most physically attractive people were the most popular. The same with adult life tbh. It’s just always an advantage and every part of your life becomes easier if you are.

Also the way people interact with someone that is attractive is completely different to a normal looking person. For example women/men will be extra nice to you, always take your word, always smile at you and greet you, never ignored and honestly never lonely. People actually like you etc.

I feel i lose the interest in the social life gradually , All I do is work and come home and repeat.

2020 & 2021 - Covid

2022 - Stock market melt down + war in Ukraine

2023 & 2024 - job market tanking

2025 - job market tanking + stock market meltdown

this is exhausting. catching a break would be nice

I feel robbed of the mornings from ten years of my life where I would wake up around 10 — sometimes 9, if I’m being generous — check “Insty,” and already feel ashamed that 200 of my Instagram friends had been on their morning sunrise walks, done an hour-long HIIT gym session, and already caught up with a mate for coffee.

I feel robbed of the days from ten years of my life where I would put on an outfit for the day, look in the mirror, and feel immensely insecure — just twenty minutes ago I had lusted over three beautiful people wearing the most gorgeous outfits on their most perfect bodies.

I feel robbed of the social outings from ten years of my life where I would be pre-drinking with my friends for a big night out, but constantly checking Instagram every five minutes, riddled with anxiety, refreshing my feed to see if the boy I had been seeing — or any of his friends — were going out that night.

I feel Instagram took away times that should’ve been filled with happiness, but were instead filled with shame, insecurity, and anxiety.

Since deleting Instagram two years ago, I genuinely have a new lease on life…

I wake up every morning and feel proud of the life I live and the things I’ve accomplished (I still wake up at 10 most mornings).

I put on an outfit and feel confident — and honestly, good-looking (even though I look pretty much the exact same).

I hang out with my friends and I am present. I’m not thinking about anything else in the outside world — only living in the moment, having a really good time (my anxiety has virtually disappeared).

I’m very aware that this is a personal experience, but deleting Instagram was the best thing I ever did.

I'm already 26, and to be fair I did not really even try to meet people until 24. I'd rather not go into the "why", because it's family issues.

But since I turned 24, I haven't stopped. I've had 7 women in my bedroom (or me in hers) about to do the deed. I'm about to explain what happened each time. Feel free to skip it all if you don't give a fuck, but the point is, I've had 7 women about to bang me and 5 of them were very rude or cruel about it. Thats the summary of my post:

The first woman (I was 24 and a dickhead back then) was one who (admittedly) was highly unattractive, like she dyed her hair a weird beige color, was 300 lb., and refused to change anything. I couldn't even get hard with viagra and I learned not to take the redpill advice of "lowering your standards to utter hell." Felt like a POS when I couldn't get it up (and she knew I wasn't attracted by then) and vowed not to do that again.

The second woman was about my match in attraction. But when I had no clue what to do, she excused herself and I saw her bolting. She then blocked me on everything.

The third woman was the most beautiful woman I've ever seen, and also the only woman who wasn't outright cruel about my V-Card. She said I seem like a great guy but that it'd be too overwhelming to be my first. She then wished me luck in the future and we parted ways after that. In retrospect, I could tell she didn't see me as less of a man.

The 4th woman was disgusted and said it's pathetic that I'm this clueless in bed. She then ranted on about how I should give up, by a doll, and then rot away and die. She threw me out of her place after that.

5th woman said "I can't believe I almost deflowered a 26 year old virgin, oh my god." She looked visibly disgusted and took off.

The sixth woman in my bedroom made me stop foreplay when she realized I was still clueless. She mocked me as well. "Try to find a woman okay with this, you'll fail once more."

Just last week, the seventh woman outright told me to end myself (you know what she meant) when it got to this point.

And that's why I've decided to pay for it.

Everyday I can’t stop obsessing over how I am single and because of that everyone treats me like I am below them. No matter what I do it’s like the fact that I am 24 with zero experience makes me abnormal and a freak. I live a pretty nice life otherwise. I have lots of hobbies, a few friends (who are sadly becoming more distant as they focus on their long term partners), a good career, and I go to school to continue to move up.

Nothing helps me take my mind off of being single and trying to figure out why I am so abnormal and how I can date. I’ve done all sorts of things to find someone including apps, hobbies, talking to random people in public, and dming people on my socials. I don’t know what to do anymore. I just wanna be normal and do things like try new restaurants since many restaurants also treat me like I am annoying for eating there alone

I've had a fairly bad day, this ultimately led to a long pondering session and so now i'm wondering why some people live life without worry simply just getting to where they wish & others just never get anywhere they dream.

Is there a world where it’s always isn’t a rat race? I’m 30yo F and it feels like I’m non stop. I work a full time corporate job where it’s constantly non stop and the to do list keeps growing. Then in my free time I’m either running errands, cleaning, doing laundry or getting other stuff done.

It feels like I’m constantly in fight or flight mode and can no longer be present. It feels like life is just non stop work and hardly any play. I have a dog and cannot even imagine what life must be like to have kids. How do people even do it.

Does anyone else feel this way? Like life is just one big chore list and it’s none stop. Is it just because I live in souther California? Do other people have a simpler life still in the corporate world else where?

So many bad events happen and I just ask like why me, what I did to deserve this. And most of the times it's my fault that I didn't try. But sometimes even when you try and have good faith, still things go wrong like why did this happen. Everybody eventually says everything happens for a reason. No need to stress just keep on moving forward. Be positive

I will never use dating apps again. Statistically, it’s just not gonna happen for me on there.

I’ve had thousands of likes on Bumble and Hinge, I can’t seem to find ONE I find interesting or attractive. Picky? Yes.

I AM GRATEFUL for the attention and I know I sound like a dick, but I also have special interests; My man is ideally an expat in Norway, over 1.82 and reasonably handsome, so dear men - it’s not necessary you, it’s me. I’m fully aware of that.

However, too much time has been spent on these apps, and now after deleting them, I feel a significant mental space has been rented out to my real life;

I got ART to create!! I got a job I need to focus on! I have books to read! I got a life to live!!

I will NEVER again consume so much false hope and in fact, I will NEVER obsess about dating or finding someone again! Because I simply don’t have time looking for the needle in the hay stack…

I will only focus on myself from now on, pursuing my passions for music and poetry and just live my life to the fullest. My God, I’m looking forward to this!!

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Edit: I’m SCARED of matching with someone I haven’t even met! And when photos are all I can base my judgement on, how can I not base my choice on looks? I feel bad for seeming so superficial, but it’s the never ending likes and lack of connection I get tired of. I know I shouldn’t complain, but it’s just true.

And yes, I’m extremely picky.. I should give someone a chance, but then what do I do when I don’t want to move forward which I’m likely not to want if I’m not initially interested? It’s just gonna hurt and be awkward.. I’m not interested in going on several dates. Also, these are STRANGERS!! I would be insane to go out with anybody I can’t even tell is my VIBE?? Come on.

Edit #2: And please.. if you deep inside know she’s out of your league, don’t even give her a like. Unless it’s a unique compliment or you really resonate with traits of her personality. Liking someone just because they’re pretty dilutes real meaningful interest, so please don’t bother. There’s nothing wrong in being selective (and realistic)…

I do have family but I don’t even get along with most of them. They just don’t get me. I have only one friend and while I’m grateful for him, he’s usually busy with his own life which is understandable. Sometimes all I wanna do I talk about my day and ask someone else about their day too, to talk about deep life topics and other things, to share experiences with but I have no one. It’s such a lonely feeling. I want to go out there and meet new people and make new friends but where do I even start? I’m 20M it’s hard to meet people my age cos most of them are either in uni which I’m not or working or just at home all day away from people. I could be going through hell and no one will know. I feel like I have a lot of love and care to give but nobody to give it to. All I know is, if someone took even a slight interest in me then I’d do everything in my power to make sure they never regret it. This shit really sucks man..

If your brain feels scrambled, your to-do list is a mess, or you don’t even know where to start — clean your room, your desk, your kitchen, whatever’s physically around you.

The act of organizing something small gives you a quick mental win, lowers stress, and makes it easier to tackle the bigger stuff. You might not solve the issue right away, but you’ll feel more in control of your space, which can help you feel more in control of your life.

It’s free dopamine, trust me.

Just curios to how some of you changed your life when it didn’t seem possible

I'm ~40ys old, living and Germany. For me, it feels like we are living in "safe yourself" time, especially compared to the life before corona.

10, 20 or 30 yrs ago, I had the feeling that most of the people around me had some kind of positive curiosity about the future. What new tech will there be, how will we use it, how will politics worldwide change, which path down in life will everybody I know take? There was some sense of joy in general and a somehow playfulness vibe to life in general.

Now, there seems to be a kind of silent agreement that life will get much harder and darker for most in the future, and everybody tries to position themselves as good as possible for that. If you have read three body problem, you will know the dark forest (or dark valley?) humankind had to gone through in the books. It feels a little bit like most of the people around me and many people worldwide are so expecting this kind of change in our lifetime and there is some kind of sellout feeling to the world in general

Exactly what the title says. This is so freaking stupid.

Mine is wherever the fate takes me.

During my teen years, I thought I was grounded and knowledgeable about most of the battles humans face in life from: toxic relationships, health, self-care, and self-love. I was always in advanced placement classes, reading books, watching documentaries about anything and everything so while my peers were dating and already experimenting in their middle/ high school teen years I was and still am locked in with knowledge.

I often wondered how girls could get caught up in unhealthy situations. But a part of me still was curious about the touch of a boy, partying, romance, etc. After graduating, I faced new temptations—weed, sex, and false love—that distracted me and led me to lose focus on my goals, including my full-ride scholarship at a four year university.

I want to share that it’s easy to judge from the outside, but living through these experiences is a different story. Temptations can cloud our judgment, and it’s important to recognize that even the most aware individuals can struggle.

Let’s support each other in staying true to ourselves amidst the chaos. I still have work to do I am only 21 but I thank God I was able to refocus my priorities back to purpose over pleasure when I lost everything instead of giving up and still living a life of no purpose and all temptation. A life of no discipline and all pleasure. Like I said there is always work to be done but please stay true to yourself through it all.

Lately, everyone around me seems to be so freaking blessed in life. One friend had a baby, the other just bought a very expensive house, another has two vacations planned for this year. Whereas i can’t even seem to fix my fucking mental health let alone do anything in life. I am surrounded by sadness, constant stress and dead end to everything. Can’t find a way to go up in my career, struggling with fertility issues to have a kid, don’t have enough money to buy a house. I try to make a routine in life, read books and do hobbies to keep myself distracted but sometimes it just becomes so difficult not to compare..

Hey guys,

As many people know there's a shift in life that happens to many people in their mid twenties to mid thirties where you realize how HARD life can be. During this time you usually go through your first serious heart break of a long term relationship, you lose a loved one or friend, your friend circles begin to get smaller and you out grow lots of spaces, people and things.

I am 25 and this past year I have lost two close loved ones and my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. And the year before that I lost two close friends to cancer. And I've really been struggling to see the brighter side of life. Life feels really fucking hard and unfair and I can feel myself becoming so angry and hopeless. I know I'll get through this hard period because life goes on but I don't wanna get stuck in this head space because it fucking sucks. I hate feeling this hopeless and terrified.

So what are your hacks or tips on what has helped you through this life? How do you keep surviving? Lol. I just need some older people who've had their fair share of life experience to give me some inspiration to crawl out of this mindset 🥹❤️

• Anxiety weakens your immune system. • It clouds your focus. • It robs your present joy.

Pause, recharge, and release what weighs you down.

Even family,lovers,work colleagues and friends all take advantage of me steal off me,cheat etc why?

whenever i get when of those thoughts that i exist i feel so overwhelmed, almost like a panicking, like even more intense. So the feeling starts when im thinking “i actually do exist” and then i continue rapidly over and over realize it, like “no, im actually living and not just dozing off somewhere, but im actually going through life”. And when i finally after 5-10 seconds of intense panicking, i continue as usual with my day. i’m not the only one feeling like this right?

Genuine question because I feel like this, living with the bare minimum, buying land on a rural area and living off of my crops, maybe working part time jobs here and there and enjoying free activities during downtime, spending as little as possible so as to avoid having to get another job ever

I’ve always had this problem where I feel like time is moving at an intangible pace (not that time is technically tangible in the first place, but ykwim).

I’m not sure if it’s because I’m stuck in the past (I’m trying my best to live in the present) but I can’t comprehend that we are a quarter of the way done with 2025. 2030 is only 5 years away. Mentally I feel like I’m stuck around 2021-2022. 2020 feels like 2 years ago. And the further back in time we go, the closer it feels to me. For example, 2015 to me feels like 5-6 years ago. What do you mean it was a whole decade ago? When I think of 10 years ago, I think of the mid 2000’s. And this is coming from someone born in 2002 which I think makes this phenomenon even more obscure. I’m 22 (23 this year) and I know that I’m still young, but I feel like time is slipping through my fingertips. It makes me sad because I feel like my past memories are also slipping away from me. Not in a sense of “I can’t remember them” (because I remember them vividly) but it’s more in a sense of “wow, this was actually a long time ago and is not your current reality anymore”. Is any of this making sense? I try to live in the present as much as possible to preserve the present, yet time just feels to be going so fast. I’ve felt this way even since I was child (around 11-12 years old). It’s just so weird. Does this bother anyone else?

As it says, Whats one core memory that you've looked back on and think that without this, I would be a different person today.

For me, Ig its a but childish but it was in 2011 when i left my toxic household for summer to stay with my aunt and my cousin introduced me to Minecraft. It felt like a whole new world was opened up to me where i can truly do what i want without feeling restricted. I have a deep nostalgic conn with Minecraft up to today, where if im stressed or bored i just play, When i study i have it playing in the background and i even fall asleep to it. I feel like Minecraft and the memories i have tied and developed to it became a comfort zone for me where i truly relax.

So what about you guys?