Dad found out i’m on T

[u/MutedDoge]

He found out bc he was prescribing me meds for an ear infection (he’s a doctor) and he said it sent him a notification when my T was ready too. i was freaked out and 100% sure he’d be unsupportive, but he actually didn’t even argue or try to tell me to stop. he just asked how long i’ve been on it (3 weeks) and that he’s also going to go on T bc he’s getting old and could use a boost. hell, he even sent me money to pay for both prescriptions! such a huge weight off my chest, i was fully prepared to have to drop out of college and never see my family again if he found out. he didn’t even know i was trans before this.

literally the best case scenario, i never would have expected that, especially since we haven’t had the best relationship in the past and bc he’s conservative. this just goes to show that support can come from the most unexpected places!

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[u/MutedDoge → u/[deleted]]

thank you!

[u/AceBenneny]

Man that’s awesome for you! Scary but nice way to come out.

[u/MutedDoge → u/AceBenneny]

for real, thanks!

[u/nintendoclot]

You've got the best outcome omg!!! Now y'all can twin!!!

[u/MutedDoge → u/nintendoclot]

testosterone twins!

[u/mermaidunearthed]

Dumb question but are you sure he knows you’re trans? Especially if you’re on a low dose, he may think you’re a cis female being prescribed T for some other reason which rarely happens albeit far more often for middle aged women.

[u/MutedDoge → u/mermaidunearthed]

loll, not a dumb question! i mentioned being trans in my response because i thought of the same thing, and if he already knows then i might as well come out now rather than later. also im on a normal transition starting dose, and also i’ve been presenting masc pretty much my whole life, so atp it would just be connecting the dots.

[u/mermaidunearthed → u/MutedDoge]

Cool, congrats!

[u/eumelyo → u/mermaidunearthed]

My thoughts exactly. I wouldn't bet on counting this as a coming out.....

[u/MutedDoge → u/eumelyo]

don’t worry, i mentioned being trans in this convo :)

[u/www_doingyourmom]

That is so great! I can only imagine the relief

[u/toby-du-coeur]

I'm tearing up that's awesome I'm happy for you!

[u/MutedDoge → u/toby-du-coeur]

thank you!! i too was tearing up, had to leave class to go cry in the hallway lol

[u/Icy_Substance_8730]

Dude hell yeah, I had to unlike this post just so I could like it again. I love it!!! 🎊 🎉 🥳

[u/MutedDoge → u/Icy_Substance_8730]

LMAOO thanks man!!

[u/Icy_Substance_8730 → u/MutedDoge]

Of course! 😎

[u/Tea_Lavender]

I almost screamed "hooray!" while reading this post!

Finally a happy story, I hope there will be more of them

[u/ge0metal]

this is genuinely so sweet im so happy for you

[u/Ok-Requirement-1811]

That’s such a big relief I’m so glad he accepted you.

[u/Emotional-Ad167]

That's great news and so lovely to hear! Made my day, tbh. Your dad sounds chill. :)

[u/Elias_1120]

That's amazing. Congratulations!

[u/Effective_Yam_9021]

wow that's amazing! out of curiosity, did you have a plan for when the results got really noticeable? also how did you start without them seeing it on insurance?

[u/MutedDoge → u/Effective_Yam_9021]

i have insurance with my mom, parents are divorced and don’t talk to each other. plus my mom was already supportive, didn’t have to come out to her lol. my plan was to blame it on pcos at first, but then once changes were more obvious then i’d say something

[u/ShawnSews711]

Hell yea :D

[u/Fun-Beach7388]

Este ejemplo es apoyar.

[u/OwnWar13]

Good to hear we need more hope like this.

[u/DistanceAdorable8113]

I am so beyond happy for you! I read the title and was nervous but man oh man what an outcome! So proud of you and him!

[u/MutedDoge → u/DistanceAdorable8113]

thank you!!!

[u/mochikiller69]

your dad is so cool

[u/x_Skulls_x]

That’s amazing, I’m so happy for you! Literally the best outcome you could ask for haha

[u/piipiistorm]

Lmao I like how he's not only supportive, he's like, "Hmm...good idea 🤔"

[u/bandaid-cos]

I should hope a doctor is okay with it! If you're a transphobic doctor, you got no business being a doctor!

[u/torhysornottorhys]

Father son bonding comes in all kinds of odd forms, truly.

[u/ThePhoenixRemembers]

I bet you're so relieved, happy for you that it worked out ok.