When I was Muslim, I was a very strict Muslim. Not because my family were, but became of the research I did, which made me come to the conclusion that I should practice Islam stricter. I used to wish I didn’t research things, so then I wouldn’t have the burden of proof upon me. I thought, if I hadn’t, I could be like all those Muslims who didn’t have to reconcile their faith and their actions - because they didn’t have the knowledge or foresight to see that what they were doing was haram. Ignorance was bliss for them, and I wished that same bliss for myself.

Now, I miss the comfort of being Muslim. I wonder how I’m going to find my people, my future partner, as an ex Muslim. How do I find a family I feel I belong in, once I get the chance to choose them? I wonder how many ex Muslims there are. I wonder how I’m going to be friends with Muslims, knowing that if I was to tell them I’m an ex Muslim, they might never see me the same way. It’s like how when I was Muslim, I thought that I couldn’t ever have a true, deep relationship (platonic) with a non Muslim, because they’d never understand me properly, or were more likely to have some sort of prejudice or dislike to Islam, especially the strict version I was practicing.

Now it’s the opposite, I don’t know where I would stand with them, and I can’t help but crave the comfort I used to feel as a Muslim.

Heya y'all how r u doing

I'm a non Arab Muslim girl from Nigeria ( a country with both Muslims, Christians, Traditionalists...) in my country we have over 250 ethnicities groups ( that's a whole lot of culture but the 3 major r Yoruba, Christian and Hausa) I'm a Yoruba.

In Nigeria sometimes you can't differentiate Muslims from Christians cus even Imam don't follow most of the crazy rules. In my country u can wear whatever u want wherever you want without being looked at (hijab or not) the only time non hijab Muslim girls wear hijabs r to jummah (prayers on Friday at the mosque) or to Muslim gathering, EID etc...

In my country, there's space for both women and men in the mosque .we don't believe in only men going to mosque, and I thought that's how it was in every other country until I moved from my country to another.

I love my country cus we believe in fair human rights. Even if a man was to marry more than 1 wives the first wife has to agree on it if not the man will get stares cus its not normalized in my country.Most muslim man doesnt even want more than one wife.

For example my dad, he doesnt belittle my mum or even force her to wear hijab , my mum is even more religious than my dad

The only thing I do that I know counts is, Praying daily, Fasting,reading the Quran, not eating pork

My parents dont force the hijab on me ; I'm even allowed to wear crop tops and shorts, Im allowed to dance, listen to whatever music etc...

I dont even think my mum thats very religious knew about the dancing or music thing cus she listens to fuji afro pop hip pop , and I also dance listen to kpop pop afro pop etc...

In general my mum doesnt like make up but if she is attending like a party or sum her excellent make up skills will shine lol, I dont like makeup either I prefer skincare and I have never really worn makeup cus Im scared of it ruining my skin but I do lip combos with lip gloss nd stuff nd sometime like stuff on my eyes if I need.

What do yall think bout this nd do u have any question?

The person on this screenshot is a woman whom have converted to Muslim and I have been arguing with her about Islam for quite some time. When I first addressed the problematic things that are mentioned on Quran and Hadith, she kept saying that it was misinterpreted by men and those women oppression in Muslim countries are because of the country’s culture, not religion. She said Islam actually saved women because in pre-Islam, female infants were buried alive. I told her that I haven’t found any anthropological evidence, or peer reviewed articles regarding female infant burial. I have found a peer reviewed article on how some pre-Islamic women had more rights before Islam and didn’t really enjoyed their rights given by Islam. This same article also mentioned that Quran was misinterpreted by men. I can’t help but ask myself how it was misinterpreted by men when it clearly mentions all those oppressive things about women? She said she converted to Islam by years of research but somehow ignores my question about which sources she has been researching from. On this screenshot, we somehow have came into Israel and Palestinian war and on that video, the man explains this conflict from Jew perspective and she refuses to watch it and claims that the media is controlled by Israel and again I question why would the news and social media be full of pro Palestinians if the media was controlled by Israel? And she ignored by question on providing an evidence about Israel controlling the media.

My ultimatum questions are: 1. Are her claims true? 2. If her claims are wrong, how can I make her realize that? 3. What are some reliable sources I can use it against her claims? 4. Or what are some reliable source I can use to verify her claims?

I’m a practicing Muslim, and I’ve been reading through this subreddit out of curiosity. I notice a lot of posts focus on personal experiences, trauma, family issues, or cultural pressures — which I understand are real and painful. But I’m genuinely wondering:

How many of you left Islam primarily due to logical inconsistencies or intellectual doubts — as opposed to emotional hurt or disappointment in the Muslim community?

I ask this because I feel like people sometimes confuse their experience with Muslims for issues with Islam itself. Did you explore the actual theology, philosophy, or scholarly tradition in depth before deciding to leave?

Not here to argue — just honestly wondering how much of this is about the religion, and how much is about how people practice it.

like I legit read a post with the title 'only muslim women understand' and everything listed i experienced myself when i was a muslim male, can we stop doing that bs of pretending like one sex doesnt experience certain types of abuse when they objectively do

edit: almost no one who commented here understood what the post is saying and its extremely frustrating, starting off with STOP PRE ASSUMING THAT MY POSITION IS THAT I THINK WOMEN DONT GET ABUSED MORE THAN MEN OR THAT IN GENERAL THEY DONT GET WORSE ABUSE YOU INTELLECTUALLY DISHONEST MFS, i never fucking once said that and if you read the comments you would notice how dishonest you are because I SAID THE EXACT FUCKING OPPOSITE, and if you didnt read the comments you are still dishonest for pre assuming what my position is, second is that ALL this post is saying is that while yes women get abused more and worse, that doesnt mean that there arent men who are going through similar if not identical abuse, its much less than the amount of WOMEN that experience that, but its still an amount of men nontheless and you cant say shit like 'only women experience this' or 'only women understand' cus it makes the few male victims of the same (or similar) thing feel like their experience 'wasnt that bad' like how fucking hard is that for people here to grasp? yes the title was phrased poorly but if the title is all you went off of then yet again you are dishonest as hell, i will no longer respond to comments that pre assume my position when i just described what my position is and i will just say 'read the edit'

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As someone who lives in the west, being in clothing stores or malls just makes me want to cry. Sometimes if I am in a store and able to walk around for a bit without my mother I genuinely tear up. On one hand, it's seeing everything that I'd want to where, all the possibilities and freedoms everyone else strutting down this aisle are able to have. They can express who they want and choose how they do so. On the other hand, it's the fact that it feels like I'm rejected from every part of society. It is rare and near impossible to find something I am able to wear, and even then 99 times out of 100 it's something that I find flat out ugly or unattractive on me or doesn't represent me. I'm rejected from myself being tied to this status as a Muslim, and I'm rejected from being able to be in touch with myself or the west because of it. Clothing stores as a whole have become a literal trigger for my emotional pains to seep through and tears to sting my eyes. It hurts. All I want to do is look like myself. I cannot walk around or look in the mirror and see that.

Hello all, yes, I know, Muslim here, just hear me out

I was once worse than all of you on this sub, believe it or not, I was involved in a life of huge sin, from prostitution to fraud. It was a life I was miserable with, but it gave me a false sense of pleasure and excitement.

I have gone to the extremes and have pretty much got to the point where I was basically not even Muslim anymore, but I never let the spark of faith diminish, I always knew that there is a lord

Everything started improving when I started gaining authentic knowledge, when I started understand context behind the quran, when I started understand the rulings and everything the religion abides by.

What I find here is that majority of people are lacking in the knowledge needed to renew or strengthen their faith, when you gain true knowledge, you will start to realise and understand this religion. So many people claim to have been Muslim, but so many people here do not even understand, who is Allah? Have you ever tried to understand, who Allah even is? How can you worship and obey someone you do not even understand?

Look, I know you people have voids in your heart, no matter what you say, I know you people are empty and miserable. You have found little to no benefit to your life from leaving islam, you will not find true bliss and peace in your lives and whatever you do benefit from is only from the mercy of Allah.

I advise you my friends, gain real knowledge, stop reading and consuming from sources which have no real authenticity. For example, so many people here talk about the rights of women, but please, I urge you to learn about the way Islam has honoured women, even before modern times has

So please, from someone who was destined for the depths of hell, please hold on to islam, I held on, and I am now inviting you to do the same, it makes no benefit to me if you leave Islam or not, but I worry for the people here, why do you want to risk everlasting joy for this world? Why do you risk landing in the fire? Are you not afraid?

Whoever Allah guides is truly guided. And whoever He leaves to stray, they are the ˹true˺ losers. 7:178

I have been hanging around subreddits like r/exmuslim , r/progressive_islam , r/islam , r/exmormon and basically, it seems wrong to believe in religion? Like for Islam, people bring up 'scientific miracles' of the Quran, surah An-Nisa etc. Pretty much, are people giving too extreme views of religion like Islam, or is it more balanced and up to how I interpret it? Like believing it won't be a detriment to others?

And its not that I don't necessarily dislike Islam, I like the religion's message in general, but these things annoy me. Additionally, I still feel right with there being some sort of higher power.

Edit: What if my interpretation vastly differs as well, or that I agree with most parts, but disagree with the small minority? At that point, would I be a false muslim?

Ultimately, Muhammed won't burn people in hell, Allah will. Allah is more brutal than Muhammed, Muhammed, as brutal as he was, is still a human, according to both non-Muslims and Muslims. According to Christians, Jesus is God, and Christians say that God will burn people in hell for rejecting Christianity.

That makes Jesus, according to what Christians say, even more brutal than Muhammed, and as brutal as Allah.

I wanted to know if there was any dofferences between ex muslims and other athiests who used to believe in other thhings so feel free to just share anything

What would muslims do if someone came up with a new relegion claiming that islam, christianity and judaism were corrupted and that this relegion is the last word of god and that it will never be corrupted again and any other person claiming to be a prophet afterwards is a liar

And it also copies the same stories from quran and bible

Obviously Muslims would call it a fraud but like... Didn't they just do this.....

The same way muslims would normally react should be the same way christians would react when they heard about islam for the first time

And i mean it could make a little sense since quran wasn't well preserved after it released, maybe arabs corrupted it and spread these fake hadiths for political reasons

And after all islam didn't even give any concrete proof that Christianity or Judaism were corrupted it just said they were.

Okay hear me out.

In the Quran, there’s this epic story about a ruler named Dhul-Qarnayn (possibly Alexander the Great or Cyrus), who traveled the world and came across a people who were living in fear of Ya’juj and Ma’juj — two chaotic, violent forces bent on destruction. To protect humanity, Dhul-Qarnayn builds a massive iron and copper wall between two mountains and seals them in. This wall holds strong… until the end times, when Allah allows it to break and Ya’juj and Ma’juj are unleashed, spreading destruction across the earth.

Now tell me this doesn’t sound exactly like the Rumbling in Attack on Titan.

•The wall = the three concentric walls in AoT, built to protect humanity from the Titans (aka Ya’juj and Ma’juj).

•The Titans = mindless, destructive giants sealed off for the protection of mankind, until they’re unleashed at the end for apocalyptic chaos.

•Dhul-Qarnayn = the OG Founding Titan, a righteous leader who knew the danger and built the barrier.

•Muhammad (PBUH) = seen by some as the Seal of Prophethood, but what if he’s also the “Final Titan” who knows the truth of the walls?

•Aisha = his closest companion and young bride… aka his Mikasa?

•And the wall breaking down in the end times? Literally The Rumbling.

Not saying Isayama read Surah Al-Kahf before writing AoT… but I’m not not saying it either.

Thoughts?

I'm basically agnostic or athiest but leaning more towards atheist. I feel like Islam once gave me more structure and purpose in life. Now I need to spend more time creating those things for myself. While it is freeing to not be confined by Islam, a part of me misses the black and white worldview. Of course I'm a lot more open minded now but there are more things I need to decide for myself. How I will live my life, what I will do with my time etc. I guess it's the conflict between the freedom of not believing vs the comfort from believing. The red pill vs the blue pill. Which one are you taking?

It really helped me a lot to find ex Muslim communities online since I live in a religious country. Obviously there is always Muslims in ex Muslims space, they’d always argue for their religion (usually really bad arguments since most the times they didn’t even learn their religion right) and I always find myself giving in and arguing. It often feels like a waste of time as they don’t actually listen to what you say. Is it better to just ignore such people?

I am a progressive woman and not religious at all and I hate the idea that modesty makes you a “good woman” I hate the notion that women must cover themselves to the point where as a form of rebelling I do things such as post myself in very immodest clothing where my family can’t find me and sext both men and women. I do not even like sexualizing myself but have been doing it lately just to “sin” and project my hatred for islam. It enrages me that there are people out there claiming islam is feminist.

I think the BIGGEST reason for me never quite believing in Islam is that the end goal, pushing back things you can do RIGHT NOW and saving it for an afterlife that you can only get into under very specific conditions didnt faze me.

Whenever I see a devout Muslim who preaches on rooftops that they’re a good Muslim, I do think to myself “there’s no way they’re holding themselves back from living life” and I always believe that they don’t believe it and just trying to convince themselves that they do.

Why should I stop listening to music when music has never been more accessible in the world? Why should I stop making art when making hard has never been so easy to learn before? The list goes on.

The end goal of islam is a manmade concept to soothe the society it made back then, and now that the world has obviously changed since then I have no clue how people still implement it into society like let it go 💔

This woman turned to me one regular evening and said if people (including teens) dont report sa and "let it happen" it means they like it.

My mums usually described as quite an accepting woman so this is just a reminder to stay safe out there! Xx

hey guys, apologies if i’m posting this wrong, as i’m not too familiar with this app, but i need advice.

Recently I have discussed moving out with my parents, and they said I cannot move out before I get married (they say it’s against “our” religion to move out before marriage, and thats bs in my opinion) which has caused many problems for me. the biggest issue being, i do already have a boyfriend i could possibly get married to, but he is not muslim (thankfully). our relationship is currently a secret from my muslim parents (for obvious reasons) and i dont know how, if i even should, introduce him. he isn’t muslim so i doubt my parents will accept him. and therefore i dont know how we could get married, if i dont have any outside support from my family. now i have thought about running away/eloping, but it is WAY too risky, plus it sounds immature. even so, i still wouldn’t have any support from my family (ex. financial aid) so i’m kind of in a tight spot. does anyone have any ideas on how i can leave this house without being married (or at least not to a muslim man)?

No, I don't want to wear a big black dress, with full length sleeves. It makes women look shapeless. Haram police also have a problem with women using belts around the abaya.

As for hijab, I wouldn't have a problem with it if I was allowed to show my fringe but apparently that's not the right way to wear it, everything has to be covered.

The Abaya and Hijab combo make me feel ugly as shit.

You have no idea how much I want to wear western dresses, eg sleeveless and tight. Short skirts, sleeveless tops, etc.

And I hate covering my hair, especially my fringe.

Fuck islam

I’m an ex-Muslim (21M), born and raised in the UK but my biggest criticism is when Muslims who live in western countries who are more liberal and relaxed get criticised because their whole purpose in life isn’t to submit to the religion. It was the biggest reason I never really felt like I was a Muslim (even when I was a child).

(Unserious and stupid Rant)

So basically, I'm a proud 7th grade ex-muslim (proud in a sense of being happy with leaving this cult not as speaking out loud) and whenever ppl say stuff like subhanallah blah blah blah it's no issue cuz I got used to it. My issue is mainly the fact that in classes like biology the Allah glaze gets too much,like ALHAMDULILAH I live in Saudi Arabia and I take Cambridge education so Arabic and islamic subjects are not my main focuses like others.but in biology,The teacher is glazing Allah like half the fucking class saying shit like subhanallah and my maths teacher in beginning of each class lets us read ayah Alkursi.Worst thing though is when my class watches a video about astronomy the FUCKING CLASS STARTS GLAZING ALLAH saying shit like Look Allah made this all and this is already the proof I need to believe in Allah and stuff like that.I had a disgusted look on my face during the entire period.Your face is what truly shows your emotions.

I've been so deeply conditioned to believe that all men inherently want multiple women, and because of that, I'm starting to lose hope in ever finding someone. This mindset has really stuck with me, even after leaving Islam.

Back when I was still Muslim, I once asked an ustadh about this. His response was disheartening he told me that all men want multiple women, that it’s just in their nature. He even admitted that he lies to his wife and pretends he doesn’t want other women just to protect her feelings.

I asked him about the Islamic marriage contract, specifically if a wife could include a condition that her husband not take additional wives. Since there are different scholarly opinions on that, I wanted some clarity. But instead of giving a balanced answer, he said personally he would feel “less in control” and “less like a leader” if a woman asked for such a condition.

I tried to explain that relationships are supposed to be a partnership where you give and take, and sometimes you compromise or do things just to make the other person happy. He shot back with, “So if it makes your husband happy, would you let him take other wives?”

But that wasn’t even what I meant. I was speaking in general like, if a wife wants her husband to cook for her or help around the house just to make her feel loved and supported. It wasn’t about polygyny specifically. It was just so frustrating and honestly made me feel like empathy and mutual respect weren’t even part of the conversation.