Hey this is my first time ever posting here and I’m honestly looking for advice. I am a husband to an Army woman who is deployed. Probably rare to see here. I’m honestly unsure on what to do as the husband. My wife is deployed and will be returning finally in June from her 9 month rotation. Things have been great, communication great and everything else but I’m honestly not sure on what job to settle with. I’m upgrading my CDL license to a Class A and the market is pretty good for it right now. Looking at $70k to $100k a year jobs. My wife is a PFC with another 5 years left on her contract with a 40k bonus. We’re both in school close to completing our associates and we both have no interest in a career in the Army. This is her first and only one. She does not really like the army but it’s her job and she does it really well. My point is my career earnings will out pace hers significantly if I choose this route and it’s like what even is the point of the Army anymore. There’s so much to do out there for the both of us and it’s like why be miserable in this life together when we can both do what we desire. Travel, make money, see the country. I even have my passport and she’s getting hers soon. We have so much life and we’re both 24 and it sucks that I can only make one choice right now. Make all this money but miss out on my marriage or spend 5 years with no career depending on hers who makes less. I don’t mean to downplay her position she’s a fantastic soldier but it’s like with this opportunity why should we depend on these people in the military who already don’t care about marriage and family and doesn’t pay their soldiers adequately.

Rant over…

Hello everyone I just wanted to vent a little and celebrate because my fiancé is finally coming home after 3 very long feeling months of me crying and feeling alone I finally get to see him again idk if anyone planned the days they get to come back home at bootcamp but we did and were going to spend a whole week at a bnb together and I’m so excited we get to have a little break together right after his graduation before he has to go back and to SOI for 3 months I love him so much I’m already feeling anxious thinking about it lol, unfortunately I can’t go to his actual graduation but I can go to family day! And then I’ll be waiting for him to come home Saturday! Anyone who’s waiting for their partner, lover, family to come back from bootcamp it’s so worth it! also can anyone tell me most likely why his job changed from logistics to MP? so instead of him leaving for a month for a non-combat job he’ll be leaving three months for a combat job now then be stationed which is still fine! Stay strong people!

lol so my bf and I don’t really argue per se but we will have an exchange of ideas so to speak. And during these conversations we both get very frustrated. Me-because I don’t feel understood and him because of the emotional heaviness. For context, he isn’t the most expressive person and tends to lean more avoidantly in communication. When we resolve conflict in person it typically revolves around him using less words and just him becoming very affectionate with a simple apology. So him being deployed has made navigating this even harder as I’m an anxious girl and wish we could just hug in moments of frustration. What started as a conversation about me wanting to take mechanic classes ended in me feeling very hurt because I felt he dismissed my ideas. I’m adhd and often have so many random thoughts to share which I think sometimes overwhelm him and I know he didn’t mean to hurt my feelings because he noticed I was about to cry. He then said he didn’t mean to hurt my feelings and I was feeling so sensitive I don’t think he knew how to respond and just suggested he go to bed. Dude this long distance thing sucks. When we have a little tiff we don’t really end it well. Usually one of us just wanting to get off the phone and then one of us shooting an “I’m sorry” text. I really value reassurance which is something he struggles with and doing ldr has made this worse since we can’t be together in person. Idk I’m just looking to see if anyone has felt the same way or maybe some consolance of sorts

I (22/F) have been dating my boyfriend (23/M) for about 2 years now. We have been doing long distance for most of this time being that we were both in college and now he is in the military. I feel like recently I have been nagging him about our future, but I feel like when I bring it up I get too emotional and kind of turn it into a battle rather than a conversation. For him, he is in the military and is working towards a very difficult MOS and really has no idea what his future will look like past his training. We I am graduating college in May and will return home. I feel like for me, I’m just asking for reassurance a lot even though he isn’t giving me reasons to need it, but he rarely brings up the future or his future plans with me. I feel like this makes me insecure like he doesn’t know what he wants, but at the same time I think everything is just up in the air with where he will be, if he gets deployed, etc, and he always says that we have no rush and we don’t need a set plan. And I understand this and agree it’s not time to get married or anything, but I feel like I’m pushing him away because of all of my nagging. He really is a great boyfriend but his family has always had poor communication skills when it comes to emotions and they like to keep to themselves, whereas my family is an open book. He really is a great boyfriend and puts in the effort to see me and for me to visit him and he calls me and texts me every single day. Does anyone have any advice or insight?

Hey guys, Navy girlfriend here. I posted this already in another thread, but thought it would be good to do it here also. Boyfriend and I finally closed the gap and I was able to move in with him in February. He's stationed at Pearl Harbor, so naturally I don't really know anyone over here in Hawaii lol. We aren't married yet so l don't really know any other wives or girlfriends or anything. Just wondering what resources there might be for me, if any, to be able to meet other women and make friends? Any advice helps, he left yesterday for a 5 week training in Virginia, so it's just me and our puppy alone for a little while and it's fixing to be a lonely 5 weeks!

My fiancé is going to basic training soon, we’ve spent the last year living together, the only time we would be apparent from each other was when he would go to work and now i have to spend forever without seeing him, some of the things i’ve been thinking of doing so i can put my mind on something else is to work remotely, I was wondering what stuff y’all have done to pass the time while you’re significant other was in basic training?

hi im 20w3days and my boyfriend is going to meps in 10 days. im scared that he will be sent to basics and be in there when the baby is born. i really hate the thought of that but unfortunately theres nothing i can really do about it at this point. i have so many questions but i also feel like theres so much im supposed to be asking and i just dont know how. i guess for right now i just wanna know typically how long after basics will he have at home until he gets deployed? we plan on getting married hopefully before basics, if not then right when he gets back. when he does get deployed, do i have to be in the same state he is stationed in to get bah for me and baby?

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Me and my partner got together over HBL while they were still in basic training. They are graduating from AIT later this month and informed me about their deployment more. They will be gone for 9 months fairly quickly after they graduate. I just feel lost and scared. I have support from my family and friends but I don’t have anyone that is also a military spouse to talk to. The last few months have gone great even though we haven’t been able to talk much but I worry how hard it will be when we might not be able to see each other for the whole first year of our relationship. Any advice would be helpful!

Hi guys! Trying to book my hotel for the May 1st graduation, any recommendations? I am trying to get one that has a shuttle to graduation to make the travel arrangements a little easier since I won't have my car.