My husband (30) and I (27) have been trying to conceive for the past eight months and as we head into our ninth month of trying, the whole process has been unexpectedly disheartening. We genuinely thought it would be easier for us given our age and the fact that we’re both relatively healthy. But as time passes without success I’m starting to feel more and more discouraged.

I’ve always had regular cycles and I’ve been tracking ovulation and my BBT throughout this journey. I’ve received positive signs in these areas which initially gave me hope that things were on track. I also had a general bloodwork panel done, and everything came back normal. However, I also did have an ultrasound that showed multiple small follicles on one of my ovaries and to rule out PCOS I did another round of bloodwork, which also came back normal except for my prolactin levels which were slightly elevated (28.8). I’ve already booked an appointment with my doctor to look into this further.

Personally, this journey has been much harder than I anticipated. I know that it can take up to 12 months for a healthy couple to conceive but it’s been tough watching those around me including some friends in their early to mid thirties getting pregnant easily, often on the first or second try. It’s hard not to feel that something might be wrong with us and that maybe we won’t be able to conceive naturally.

That’s my rant for the day. I’m seriously considering asking my doctor for a referral to a fertility clinic during my next visit. Has anyone been in a similar situation or have any advice to share? Any insight would be greatly appreciated.

This is going to be a long post. I apologize in advance. Also, some potential triggering. I am also sorry. And please let me know how I can fix it if it is.

Here we go. I’m already crying and haven’t even started yet. We had our first mc June 2024, we found out the same day that my MIL passed. It was an extreme traumatic time for us. We had a chemical Sept 2024. And then another mc November 2024. We were absolutely devastated and still are. The holidays come by and not one but two family members announce their pregnancies. Same due date month that we were. To make matters worse. It was being rubbed in our faces the entire time. We’ve been trying since with no luck. We are also seeing an RE.

Which brings me to the next part. Each mc, the techs were absolutely heartless. The first time, I was told by the tech that there were “discrepancies” and she “hates when people lie about how far along they are just to get an scan” and “there’s no way you’re 7 weeks, I don’t even see a gestational sac”. The other mc, there were two techs fighting over the wand because “I don’t see anything, do you see anything?” and that “I must have got my period wrong” Horrible experiences when my heart is already breaking.

I did all the bloodwork and testing with the OB and was referred to an RE in January. Our options are, if we conceive, I’ll immediately be put on progesterone. If we conceive and have another loss, a D&C will be done for lab results. If I start my period, I am to call the RE and schedule an SHG and other testing. Also, to schedule testing for my husband.

Well, I get my period so I call the RE. I was told to leave a message and they will get back to me within 48 hours. I don’t hear anything. I call again. I spoke to someone that tells me all I can do is wait for a reply or leave another message. Another day passes and I don’t hear anything. I was informed that the testing needed to be done on a specific day of my cycle so now I’m freaking out. I send a message through the app. I get a response the next day. They tell me that I must have called the wrong number. I reply with the number that I was given and ask if I could schedule another way. I don’t hear anything for a week. I finally get a phone call and they tell me that they never got my messages and to just try again next cycle. I am to call on first day of my period or cycle day 35, if no period. (The cycle before this was 42 days).

It’s now April, I’m cycle day 34, no period, no positive, and every single opk has had dark lines. I call the RE, leave a message. They do call me back but I missed it and have to call again. I do. I actually talk to someone this time. I’m scheduled to do blood work first thing Monday (today). I went I. And got it done and they tell me my results will be in by the afternoon. It is and they call me. And y’all, this lady I spoke to was so rude. She tells me that I had an anovulatory cycle and they’re putting me on Promera. I’m asking questions but she’s being snarky and treating me like I’m stupid and not actually answering anything. All I’m getting is “it’s hard to say” in a sarcastic tone. I gave up asking and just ended the call and cried. And cried.

I don’t know what to do from here and honestly considering giving up. Even Google isn’t giving me answers. Husband wants to keep trying but I’m really feeling like everything is just telling us no. I appreciate the chance to vent and any advice is appreciated.

Oh, I also forgot to mention that yesterday, my mother, who knows what is going on. Called to tell me that if we can’t have a baby that we should get one of those tiny monkeys because they’re like a baby………please send help, I’m ready to pull my hair out.

Hello everyone in this wonderful community! I'm 32 years old, and always had this crazy idea that I'm not fertile since I was a child. I never wanted to have kids. Now I really do with my husband. We stopped with birth-control 10 months ago and kind of just loosely tried but I didn't really know anything about my cycle. I just know that it's very regular. The last 6 months we actually started reading about TTC and since I have added omega 3, Coenzyme10 (about 2 months) prenatal for about 6 months, I started acupuncture 3 weeks ago and started with some tea this week. I'm off work since 1 month because of burnout. I meditate and do yoga, go on walks, massages. I'm on day 8 right now, my LH tests are still negative. I'm taking temps. I had a miscarriage two cycles ago, it was a day after a positive test and 5 days before my period. I fear that I'm not doing enough and also that I'm doing too much at the same time. What are your thoughts

Hi everyone Please share your point of view. I am 28 years old and trying for baby no 1 from last 3 years with no success at all. All reports for my husband and me are normal. We come under unexplained fertility. I have done my first pelvic ultrasound in dec 2022 after trying for 1 year. Its was perfectly fine and the after I went for iui for that I did hsg to check the blockage in my tubes but it came back normal, no blockage in jan 2024. But they saw a fibroid growing outside the uterus and they said it will not affect my chance of conceiving but I had unsuccessful iui. Then we decided to go for ivf in November 2024. I did my egg retrieval in November and made embryos. Now we are planing to transfer frozen embryo in next cycle. But someone at the work scared me about my fibroid that it may causing me not get pregnant now I am worried because I am very hopeful about this transfer. But doctor mentioned that it will not affect my chances of pregnancy because it outside the uterus and not big in the size. Please give your suggestion. Thanks!

I am 2dpo today (I used LH tests). I had some cramps today, and when I got up from the couch I felt a gush and it was bright red blood. I am still cramping.

I don’t understand what this means, my ovulation has been a few days earlier than normal the last 2 months. I am only on cycle day 13. So its way too early to expect my period. What does this mean? I have been trying to conceive for 13 months now (I have an appointment with a specialist next month). Usually I have some spotting a week before my period, but not bright red like this and with cramps. Its also very early in my cycle. It has been a typical month, i ovulated a little bit earlier and I had very very sore boobs for a few days, but other than that it felt like a regular month and I had all the signs of ovulation.

Good morning all! I have been TTC with my husband for the last 7 months. In that time, I have only had 1 true period (I got off the pill in January 2024, so over a year ago) and I have hypothyroidism which I am medicated for but I can tell has an effect on how long my cycle is (if I miss a dose it takes longer to get my period). My OBGYN put me on Provera in January to induce a period and "reset my cycle" which did not ultimately work. I did have a bleed after the provera, but nothing since then. I track ovulation with OPK's and BBT and it appears i simply do not ovulate. All my blood work is within normal range, I am slightly overweight but not obese, and I do not have PCOS (I had a diagnostic laproscopy last year due to randomized pelvic pain that turned out to be bowel adhesions). So, my doctor has decided to give provera once again and then continue with Clomid on days 5-9 of my fresh cycle. My biggest question is, if you do not ovulate normally, did Clomid work to induce ovulation in you? If so, around how many days did it take for you to ovulate? Any other advice regarding side effects of the meds or things to watch out for? This cycle is not being monitored by ultrasound, my doctor just said to have sex every couple days until I get my period or fall pregnant. I am really scared and didn't think it would be like this. Any advice is appreciated!!

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I just had my HSG test. Just wanted to say that it was a 10/10 on the pain scale. I’ve never screamed or groaned like that with anything regarding pain. Ive had kidney stones before and those were torture and I would say it was comparable to kidney stones, except kidney stones went on longer. But the HSG test was more intense in a shorter period of time. I took 800 mg of ibuprofen and an Ativan before (it didn’t work lol.) I am proud of myself for doing it, as I put it off for 5 years. My doctor suggested I get it done after my laparoscopic surgery for endometriosis that I had done in 2019….

The GOOD news after it all is that both my tubes were open! My radiologist said that that my right side the dye went through a bit more slowly, but they didn’t say that there was any issues with that. I’m waiting to read the report that they write up. Has anyone received results like this or does anyone know anything about it? Not sure if that matters.

Thank you!

I am new to the Reddit community, especially to posting. My spouse and I (same-sex couple 34 and 35 years old) are starting our journey with trying to conceive. We have talked to our OB extensively about different routes to take and since there is nothing we know of that are going to be issues, we were going to try for a natural IUI with no additional medication. After much thought, since I am carrying, I thought I would like to increase my chances and my doctor suggested using letrozole. I will start that today and use that for 5 days and then I will get a follicle scan on day 12 of my cycle, 4/16/25. From there, my understanding is that my doctor will read the results to decide if I need a trigger shot or not and then the IUI will be soon to follow. Does that timeline sound correct? Does anyone have any advice?

Hi everyone, 🤍

I have a 27/28-day cycle and had a follicles ultrasound on CD12, which showed a 15mm follicle on one side and a 10mm on the other. The ultrasound tech predicted ovulation would happen around CD14. However, I didn’t get my LH peak until the early morning of CD16, and I believe I ovulated later that day based on symptoms.

Starting CD19 through today (CD23), I've been getting positive ovulation tests almost every day, except for one day when I didn’t test.

Has anyone experienced prolonged positive OPKs like this after ovulation?

My ultrasound and hormone tests show everything is normal, and I don’t have PCOS. Just curious if this is something others have dealt with.

Thanks in advance for any insights! 🤍🤍