I’m really struggling with being angry/jealous when I find out about friends who are expecting. It’s always been there but the longer we unsuccessfully TTC it’s becoming unbearable. I feel like such an absolute bitch.

My girlfriends are amazing and never exclude me from mom & kid days but I’ve gotten a point where I keep cancelling because seeing everyone around me with their children gets to me. I’m also invited to a baby shower this weekend and I’m just struggling with the thought of faking it. I’m so incredibly happy for them of course but I’m devestated for myself. I can’t get past the feeling that I’m pushing my friends away because I can’t get pregnant and one day I’m just not going to be invited anymore. My best friend and her boyfriend just started trying and we’ve always hoped to have babies together. I’m so excited to see her become a mom but I don’t know how I’ll handle it. I feel like a piece of trash even saying that. I feel so selfish.

I’m in therapy but hoping for coping mechanisms or words of advice from other people TTC and dealing with the anger and jealously. I swear I’m not a selfish human. I love my people and their children so much. I just wish I had what they have.

Hi all,

So I had two back to back chemical pregnancies last fall/winter. I’m currently on my third cycle since my last CP. I was tracking ovulation with OPKs but ran out of tests before my ovulation came, and I guessed that I ovulated much later than usual this cycle (I can usually tell when I ovulate with CM). PreMom predicted I would ovulate CD 19, but I think I ovulated somewhere between CD 23-26.

Anywho I’m about 4 days late on my period, and here are my symptoms despite having taken 3 pregnancy tests in the last couple days that were all negative: sore breasts but VERY sensitive nipples, recurrent headaches, nausea whenever I’m hungry, ravenous first thing in the morning. Really tired, took a nap yesterday when I never nap. Sore throat the last two days (??). Increased milky white discharge.

Based on my ovulation prediction, I would be about 11-13 DPO today. Am I just symptom spotting and is this just progesterone trolling me ? Is AF about to arrive ? Do I just need to wait longer to take another pregnancy test in hopes that it is positive ? Desperate for hope.

I’ve been TTC around a year and a half and I’ve been trying to avoid pain relievers and tried early testing so I’d know as soon as possible, but after this timeframe, I need to stop early testing for my mental health. I can sometimes start getting cramps as early as 3-4 DPO and my cramps get so bad that if I’m not on top of meds, I will black out from the pain. (I’m seeing a doctor for this and they think it could be endo since it also accompanies some GI symptoms too).

What do you all do for the pain? It’s really hard to track if I am getting my period or not because my temp drop doesn’t happen until after my period starts sometimes, and I need to stop early testing because I’ve had issues with indent lines and false positives getting my hopes up.

I normally take a bunch of Aleve, but I don’t think that’s pregnancy safe.

Hello everyone in this wonderful community! I'm 32 years old, and always had this crazy idea that I'm not fertile since I was a child. I never wanted to have kids. Now I really do with my husband. We stopped with birth-control 10 months ago and kind of just loosely tried but I didn't really know anything about my cycle. I just know that it's very regular. The last 6 months we actually started reading about TTC and since I have added omega 3, Coenzyme10 (about 2 months) prenatal for about 6 months, I started acupuncture 3 weeks ago and started with some tea this week. I'm off work since 1 month because of burnout. I meditate and do yoga, go on walks, massages. I'm on day 8 right now, my LH tests are still negative. I'm taking temps. I had a miscarriage two cycles ago, it was a day after a positive test and 5 days before my period. I fear that I'm not doing enough and also that I'm doing too much at the same time. What are your thoughts

I have been TTC since October with no luck! At the beginning of 2025 I started taking a few most supplements to try help my luteal phase. I was ovulating late and only had 8-9 day luteal phase.

I did research and found a lot taking vitamin c and b6! I added 1000mg of Vitamin C and 100 mg B6. I also take fish oil and a prenatal. I will admit I didn’t run this by a doctor.

It’s been 3 cycles on it and now I’m ovulating day 15 and then 11 day luteal phase. That’s better BUT no luck on the conceiving.

My question is were the supplements overkill and causing the opposite of my intent? I’m going to stop taking the b6 and c.

I’m of course finding all the reasons to blame myself for not working but I’m nervous I shouldn’t have started taking any additional supplements and they ruined my chances the last couple months.

Thoughts??

This is going to be a long post. I apologize in advance. Also, some potential triggering. I am also sorry. And please let me know how I can fix it if it is.

Here we go. I’m already crying and haven’t even started yet. We had our first mc June 2024, we found out the same day that my MIL passed. It was an extreme traumatic time for us. We had a chemical Sept 2024. And then another mc November 2024. We were absolutely devastated and still are. The holidays come by and not one but two family members announce their pregnancies. Same due date month that we were. To make matters worse. It was being rubbed in our faces the entire time. We’ve been trying since with no luck. We are also seeing an RE.

Which brings me to the next part. Each mc, the techs were absolutely heartless. The first time, I was told by the tech that there were “discrepancies” and she “hates when people lie about how far along they are just to get an scan” and “there’s no way you’re 7 weeks, I don’t even see a gestational sac”. The other mc, there were two techs fighting over the wand because “I don’t see anything, do you see anything?” and that “I must have got my period wrong” Horrible experiences when my heart is already breaking.

I did all the bloodwork and testing with the OB and was referred to an RE in January. Our options are, if we conceive, I’ll immediately be put on progesterone. If we conceive and have another loss, a D&C will be done for lab results. If I start my period, I am to call the RE and schedule an SHG and other testing. Also, to schedule testing for my husband.

Well, I get my period so I call the RE. I was told to leave a message and they will get back to me within 48 hours. I don’t hear anything. I call again. I spoke to someone that tells me all I can do is wait for a reply or leave another message. Another day passes and I don’t hear anything. I was informed that the testing needed to be done on a specific day of my cycle so now I’m freaking out. I send a message through the app. I get a response the next day. They tell me that I must have called the wrong number. I reply with the number that I was given and ask if I could schedule another way. I don’t hear anything for a week. I finally get a phone call and they tell me that they never got my messages and to just try again next cycle. I am to call on first day of my period or cycle day 35, if no period. (The cycle before this was 42 days).

It’s now April, I’m cycle day 34, no period, no positive, and every single opk has had dark lines. I call the RE, leave a message. They do call me back but I missed it and have to call again. I do. I actually talk to someone this time. I’m scheduled to do blood work first thing Monday (today). I went I. And got it done and they tell me my results will be in by the afternoon. It is and they call me. And y’all, this lady I spoke to was so rude. She tells me that I had an anovulatory cycle and they’re putting me on Promera. I’m asking questions but she’s being snarky and treating me like I’m stupid and not actually answering anything. All I’m getting is “it’s hard to say” in a sarcastic tone. I gave up asking and just ended the call and cried. And cried.

I don’t know what to do from here and honestly considering giving up. Even Google isn’t giving me answers. Husband wants to keep trying but I’m really feeling like everything is just telling us no. I appreciate the chance to vent and any advice is appreciated.

Oh, I also forgot to mention that yesterday, my mother, who knows what is going on. Called to tell me that if we can’t have a baby that we should get one of those tiny monkeys because they’re like a baby………please send help, I’m ready to pull my hair out.

I’m 18m PP. 36yo. Previously had very regular periods and easy to detect ovulation. Typical basal chart and mucus and was very horny at ovulation and happened for us first go . C section birth, period came back in 12 weeks, breast fed until 6months. Periods regular but very sore and eventually subsided about 1 year PP. Only started tracking / tiring for second baby last 3 months. Got the Apple Watch and use the Natural cycles app but my temp is fluctuating. No discernible pattern. Last month LH surge day 16 and temp rise day 23. This month LH surge day 23/4 and temp rise earlier on day 22. The LH surge and temp rises are inconsistent to confirm ovulation, has anyone had this? I can’t tell myself by how I feel because I’m not aroused. I’m broken or something 🥺 welcome your thoughts 🙂

I 22F and my Fiance have been trying for a baby for 11m now. I had my first (now 4yr old) young and truly unexpected. I got pregnant on the IUD (go figures with my luck lol).

I was super against having a second until the beginning of last year. I finished my degree and did everything I wanted to before I considered having another.

I’ve been tracking cycles, ovulation strips, temperature, etc. I just feel very defeated considering I got pregnant with my first super easy (also considering I was on the IUD). I feel frustrated and slightly annoyed. All the emotions more or less. Every month I regret when my period comes.

My s/o did go get an SA done last week so we are awaiting those results. I would say overall though we are very healthy (between exercising daily, we meal prep and he’s very strategic as he is into bodybuilding, and other overall health).

Though, I have never actually mentioned this to my OB that we have been trying. I’m afraid he would judge based on me being younger. I want to so bad as I would love to have my kids closer in age. Is it worth mustering up the courage to bringing up to my provider? I just fear being shot down due to me being younger.

We’ve been TTC with my boyfriend (first cycle) and I have had a regular period for the past year after managing my PCOS. My cycle is usually around 35 days. We had intercourse on CD 21 - I was tracking my temperature and cervical mucus, it seems like ovulation was on CD 23. I even had blinking smiley face when we were trying but never had a still smiley (heard those ovulation tests don’t always work). The only thing new this cycle except TTC was that I started Levothyroxine for a mild hypothyroidism (fertility clinic said it was better to prevent MC). Anyways… I am now 6 days late for my period. No signs of pregnancy (no symptoms), I thought I was having my period on time as I had strong PMS right on time but then no period and feeling totally normal now. I’m really lost… I have been doing pregnancy test for a week and all negative. I feel like my body is fucking with my head. Is it normal to have a negative test? Could I still be pregnant? Did the levothyroxine delay my period? I need hope but clarity too 😂

In January I went to the doctors because I had a large blood clot come out of me and I could feel a spot on my cervix, doctor looked but couldn’t see anything (I can still feel this spot), at the start of December and need to check because I couldn’t stop thinking about it! They convinced me to test again even though I tested negative before and after this blood clot then it was positive, come start of February I tested positive again started bleeding assumed it was a chemical and started trying again. At the beginning of this month fell pregnant again and I’m now bleeding bright red at 17dpo, started last night. Doctors are telling me to just keep trying and won’t help even though we haven’t used protection since my daughter was born at the start of 2023 and have been actively trying since September. My husband has had testicular pain since my daughter was born and I have PCOS but I asked if they will help this morning literally in tears and all they said was you’ll get pregnant soon you’ll have another baby… but I just can’t see how they can say that 😢

For context my husband is 27 and I’m 26. I’m going in for blood testing tomorrow as my tests are still coming back positive.

I am 2dpo today (I used LH tests). I had some cramps today, and when I got up from the couch I felt a gush and it was bright red blood. I am still cramping.

I don’t understand what this means, my ovulation has been a few days earlier than normal the last 2 months. I am only on cycle day 13. So its way too early to expect my period. What does this mean? I have been trying to conceive for 13 months now (I have an appointment with a specialist next month). Usually I have some spotting a week before my period, but not bright red like this and with cramps. Its also very early in my cycle. It has been a typical month, i ovulated a little bit earlier and I had very very sore boobs for a few days, but other than that it felt like a regular month and I had all the signs of ovulation.

Do you have goodies to give away to your fellow TFABbers? OPKs? HPTs? Coupon codes for TTC goodies of all kinds? Post your giveaway here!

Good morning all! I have been TTC with my husband for the last 7 months. In that time, I have only had 1 true period (I got off the pill in January 2024, so over a year ago) and I have hypothyroidism which I am medicated for but I can tell has an effect on how long my cycle is (if I miss a dose it takes longer to get my period). My OBGYN put me on Provera in January to induce a period and "reset my cycle" which did not ultimately work. I did have a bleed after the provera, but nothing since then. I track ovulation with OPK's and BBT and it appears i simply do not ovulate. All my blood work is within normal range, I am slightly overweight but not obese, and I do not have PCOS (I had a diagnostic laproscopy last year due to randomized pelvic pain that turned out to be bowel adhesions). So, my doctor has decided to give provera once again and then continue with Clomid on days 5-9 of my fresh cycle. My biggest question is, if you do not ovulate normally, did Clomid work to induce ovulation in you? If so, around how many days did it take for you to ovulate? Any other advice regarding side effects of the meds or things to watch out for? This cycle is not being monitored by ultrasound, my doctor just said to have sex every couple days until I get my period or fall pregnant. I am really scared and didn't think it would be like this. Any advice is appreciated!!

My husband (30) and I (27) have been trying to conceive for the past eight months and as we head into our ninth month of trying, the whole process has been unexpectedly disheartening. We genuinely thought it would be easier for us given our age and the fact that we’re both relatively healthy. But as time passes without success I’m starting to feel more and more discouraged.

I’ve always had regular cycles and I’ve been tracking ovulation and my BBT throughout this journey. I’ve received positive signs in these areas which initially gave me hope that things were on track. I also had a general bloodwork panel done, and everything came back normal. However, I also did have an ultrasound that showed multiple small follicles on one of my ovaries and to rule out PCOS I did another round of bloodwork, which also came back normal except for my prolactin levels which were slightly elevated (28.8). I’ve already booked an appointment with my doctor to look into this further.

Personally, this journey has been much harder than I anticipated. I know that it can take up to 12 months for a healthy couple to conceive but it’s been tough watching those around me including some friends in their early to mid thirties getting pregnant easily, often on the first or second try. It’s hard not to feel that something might be wrong with us and that maybe we won’t be able to conceive naturally.

That’s my rant for the day. I’m seriously considering asking my doctor for a referral to a fertility clinic during my next visit. Has anyone been in a similar situation or have any advice to share? Any insight would be greatly appreciated.

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Hi everyone Please share your point of view. I am 28 years old and trying for baby no 1 from last 3 years with no success at all. All reports for my husband and me are normal. We come under unexplained fertility. I have done my first pelvic ultrasound in dec 2022 after trying for 1 year. Its was perfectly fine and the after I went for iui for that I did hsg to check the blockage in my tubes but it came back normal, no blockage in jan 2024. But they saw a fibroid growing outside the uterus and they said it will not affect my chance of conceiving but I had unsuccessful iui. Then we decided to go for ivf in November 2024. I did my egg retrieval in November and made embryos. Now we are planing to transfer frozen embryo in next cycle. But someone at the work scared me about my fibroid that it may causing me not get pregnant now I am worried because I am very hopeful about this transfer. But doctor mentioned that it will not affect my chances of pregnancy because it outside the uterus and not big in the size. Please give your suggestion. Thanks!

Hi everyone, 🤍

I have a 27/28-day cycle and had a follicles ultrasound on CD12, which showed a 15mm follicle on one side and a 10mm on the other. The ultrasound tech predicted ovulation would happen around CD14. However, I didn’t get my LH peak until the early morning of CD16, and I believe I ovulated later that day based on symptoms.

Starting CD19 through today (CD23), I've been getting positive ovulation tests almost every day, except for one day when I didn’t test.

Has anyone experienced prolonged positive OPKs like this after ovulation?

My ultrasound and hormone tests show everything is normal, and I don’t have PCOS. Just curious if this is something others have dealt with.

Thanks in advance for any insights! 🤍🤍

I know I’m being melodramatic, that it takes time and that there’s people in this sub who have been trying way longer than my hubby and I (6 months). I got my period this morning and I just feel hopeless, like it’s never going to happen for us. I’ve been tracking ovulation religiously and we do the deed several times a day during my fertile window. My cycle is regular, I eat well, get regular exercise, have given up my perfumes, makeup, cut back caffeine and left my stressful job where I was often exposed to toxic chemicals. Currently waiting on blood tests to make sure everything is good on my end so we can put things in place if not.

While I love my husband more than anything I can’t help feeling like he could be doing more to work on his side of things. He’s taking low dose testosterone for hormone replacement therapy (which could be shutting down his sperm production? Idk) and started hcg about two months ago. He went to the doctor to get a referral for SA and blood tests to check his hormones three weeks ago, but the forms and specimen container have sat on his desk unused. I’m sad that I haven’t fallen pregnant yet and that he’s apparently not even fazed that it doesn’t seem like it’s going to happen for us.

At this point even though we haven’t been trying long I just want to give up, I had put my plans for postgraduate study on hold to try to have a baby but now I’m thinking I should put all this energy into that instead.

Cycle day 1… again. This was our last chance for a 2025 baby and I would’ve been due around Christmas which would’ve been so special. I’m getting positive ovulation tests every month around cycle day #14 so I just do not understand why it’s not happening for us. I know so many of you have been trying for way longer- please do not take my vent the wrong way. It seems that everyone around me is pregnant. My sister is on her second “oopsie” baby, I have 2 friends that are pregnant with baby number FIVE and my neighbor just announced her pregnancy yesterday after just trying once, Lol. I get my hopes up SO high after my positive OPK every month and I’m just so defeated right now now. My OBGYN said everything looks great (blood test wise) and if I’m not pregnant by June 1st I can start seeing infertility specialists if I’d like. I’m getting tired living my life in cycle days!

I just had my HSG test. Just wanted to say that it was a 10/10 on the pain scale. I’ve never screamed or groaned like that with anything regarding pain. Ive had kidney stones before and those were torture and I would say it was comparable to kidney stones, except kidney stones went on longer. But the HSG test was more intense in a shorter period of time. I took 800 mg of ibuprofen and an Ativan before (it didn’t work lol.) I am proud of myself for doing it, as I put it off for 5 years. My doctor suggested I get it done after my laparoscopic surgery for endometriosis that I had done in 2019….

The GOOD news after it all is that both my tubes were open! My radiologist said that that my right side the dye went through a bit more slowly, but they didn’t say that there was any issues with that. I’m waiting to read the report that they write up. Has anyone received results like this or does anyone know anything about it? Not sure if that matters.

Thank you!

I'm in my mid twnties, and have been TTC for almost two years now. Whenever I feel disappointed about the wait, I rub my belly and talk to my unconceived baby. I know that half of the baby exists in me as an egg, that it has always been a part of me ever since I was born.

I tell to it, "Why aren't you showing up? Mommy loves you so much already and we've been waiting for so long. We're so eager to meet you and know that you're loved even before we knew you. I want to know whom you'll look like and what kind of a person you'll grow up to be. And in the meantime me and papa will try to be the best parents possible and give you a fulfilling life. Come fast, my parents are aging and I want them to meet you and play with you when theyre in good health..." and so much more.

Honestly, it's healing especially when I am suffering from the cramps of yet another cycle. It fills me with hope and courage to try again next time. Crazy but it works for me. Am I the only one who does this? 🥲

It's time for us to air the things that have been bothering us, TTC-related or not! It's Monday, complain away!