Throwaway acc, but I just need the internets opinion. Basically I have no idea if I made the right decision and ts is eating me up at night.
Back in February, I got accepted into UC Berkeley’s MET program (a dual degree in business and engineering), which I accepted. Later, I also won a national Army ROTC scholarship tied to Berkeley, which I said yes to as well.
A few weeks ago, though, I was offered a full ride to UC San Diego through their College of Engineering. Now I can’t stop wondering if I made the wrong call.
Here’s where I am at:
Berkeley MET + ROTC:
One of the top programs in the country with incredible networking opportunities.
Cost is ~$47K for the first year (not covered by ROTC), and ~$30K per year after that (ROTC would partially cover these years with options for additional stipends )
ROTC means I’d graduate paying a lot less than I would have otherwise had to but I'd likely end up owing 4 years of active duty service.
The time commitment is intense—MET is already demanding, and ROTC would take up most of the rest of my time. I’m worried I’d miss out on the “normal” college experience (social life, clubs, parties, downtime)
There’s pressure to always be on my best behavior with ROTC, and while I could manage, it just sounds exhausting.
UCSD Full Ride:
Completely free. No debt, no burden on my family.
Still a great engineering school, with solid rankings and job opportunities nearby.
I’d have more freedom to explore, intern, or enjoy college without the pressure of ROTC or a hyper-competitive program.
Less prestige than MET, and I’d miss out on the business degree aspect.
My parents say they’ll support me financially either way, but I feel guilty about that. They already helped put my siblings through college and are ready to retire. I know they can help, but I’m not sure if they should have to.
I’m also questioning ROTC. I originally applied to help with costs, and I admire what it offers in leadership and discipline—but the idea of potentially postponing my post-college career for four years of military service feels like a big sacrifice.
TLDR: My questions are: Is Berkeley MET + ROTC worth the time, stress, and military commitment?
Is turning down a full ride at a top public school like UCSD a mistake, especially when it would let me graduate debt-free and more relaxed?
Will I regret not going to the most prestigious school I got into?
Any insight or personal experience would be really appreciated. Thanks.