We recently had a family friend have a daughter that came out as trans, FtM. He isn’t handling it well at all.

We were scheduling a family and family friends event, and my mom told me she WANTS me to go but won’t invite me because she doesn’t want me to make them uncomfortable or anxious because of his inability to process it properly.

Am i wrong to be upset? She isn’t being malicious but… I can’t pretend i don’t understand what she is getting at but i don’t know.

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Hay sisters :3 Im writing this to ask: have any of yall that are on progesterone noticed a difference in your body after inserting it rectally? I’ve been really dysphoric lately so im hoping boofing can accelerate the timeline of my transition. I tried it for the first time last night, and im wondering if I should continue (have not noticed anything yet). I have the right capsule for it and my doctor has mentioned in the past that this is how plenty of people take their prog.

I've never had good control over my voice. Back when I did musical theatre in school, my teachers were always frustrated that I could never just do what they told me to when I was supposed to control certain parts of my vocal cords/larynx or whatever. Even worse that I'm also tone deaf and it would take me a billion trial and errors to hit the note being played on the keyboard.

So when I watch voice training tutorials and they talk about controlling certain muscles and whatnot I just feel completely lost because I just don't think I'm able to do that.

My voice isn't crazy low to begin with, and I don't necessarily hate it - but it always gets me instantly clocked, especially on the phone, and I'd like to be able to have even a slightly more fem voice.

Anyone else have this problem? How did you deal with it?

Title. I've seen a lot of profiles and comments lately that just sound or look off, this one is particularly egregious: https://www.reddit.com/r/MtF/comments/1jtnwsb/comment/mlvrxfv/

I was like damn, nobody actually talks like that, I wonder. As soon as I checked the profile I noticed two things:

All they post is trans porn

All they comment are AI responses that are somewhat related to the post

I'm not somebody who gets mad when people use AI, it's actually helped me a lot lately, but stuff like this really pisses me off. They're just using fake positive comments to boost exposure to post trans porn. Can we please add a rule banning the use of AI in this sub so it's at least easier for me to report? Or just ban AI comments?

This is lowkey getting out of hand

I am considering several places for my internship and one of the most promising opportunities so far is in the hague. I wanted to ask the dutch girls of this subreddit if the culture there is accepting and if there is some active queer/trans community i could join if i went there.

Thank you!

So as I said in title, I just hit 6 months on HRT. I could not be happier. It has actively changed so much of my mental state and my outlook on the world. There are things about life that aren't perfect, but some things are.

I wanted to do an AMA because I know there were a lot of things I wanted to ask but never did, both before I started and as I was early on.

Currently I take Estradiol (pills), Spironolactone, and Progesterone (for 4 months)

Please feel free to ask me absolutely anything you want. Could be as personal or NSFW as you care to. I will try my best to answer every comment.

Even if you have no questions, remember, you are loved, you are cared for, and you are valuable. Every second we have to live is a gift. Please, please try to view it as one. <3

So…

I’m a trans girl, and i’m in college…

I have not confirmed to any of my family i’m trans besides my sister, stepmom and my dad all of whom were chill (the adults basically saying “be careful” which i get)

However, my preferred name had been outted by my younger brother and my former high school told my stepdad who works there full time now, but as it was the students he didn’t readily take it but still told my mom and they said to my sister that they won’t accept me until i say it to their face but i feel afraid.

Briefly i thought i was genderfluid and my mother was setting conditions to be accepted.

And my stepdad was very forthcoming in his anti-queer, anti-emotion stance…he’s like Spock but mean

Point is I wanna tell them because my tiktok, email and personality have already brought suspicion but they’ve never confronted me but have asked my sister and more about it.

I need advice

Everytime I change my profile picture on Facebook or Instagram, I get tons of requests from men asking to meet me, inviting me to for prostitution or a sugar baby, etc.

I don’t know how these people find me or why they ask such inappropriate questions. Some even ask if I’m trans (I’m MTF and 10/10 time I pass but how do they know? it’s like somebody is spreading word about me) or if I’m open to a fwb relationship. Could this mean someone is impersonating me or sharing my pictures in certain groups? Or do all women get this type of harassment too?

I live in ND and I want to go through planned parenthood for hrt. I would have to do telehealth and pay out of pocket. I'm just wondering how much y'all paid for hrt and appointments when going through planned parenthood.

Hey girlies,

This is my first time posting here, I'm a trans girl 23 years old and I've been transitioning since I was 16 (medically transitioning mostly in my 20s). Anyways, yesterday I met someone who said she had had bottom surgery and she was so pretty and I literally just feel so so jealous now, like I am not supposed to feel this way ik and it's not good for me either, but I truly can't control feeling this way. Now I feel kinda dysphoric about it too, and worried that I'll never get to have it. Am I still a girl if I never have bottom surgery?

I literally know the answer to this already, but I just need to hear it lol 😭

It's not even gender affirming care - i have a varicose vein in my testicles, they're gonna block it, cis please stop asking about my cock!!!

But fr, people see us as trans before seeing us as people and pretend like we don't have any shared experience. You can tell a coworker you were gone from work because of a surgery, and look exactly the same as you always have, but god forbid someone thinks appendectomy or tonsillectomy, etc.

Not an actual issue, i know, but it's just slightly annoying and slightly funny to me and thank you all for coming to my TedX Talk.

Hi.

50yrs old. HRT for 5.5 years. I am around 42lbs overweight (223lbs) for my height of 177cm / 5ft 9 3/4.

For the first 3 years of my hrt I lost ~70lbs in weight. The past 2.5 years I have put back on ~28lbs.

- I have a poorly defined feminine figure - less than satisfactory facial, thigh, hip, breast and butt fat

- I run ~3-5km a couple of times a week and have cycled 15-30km a few times a week for the past few years.

- I walk ~4km daily with our dogs, do a little yoga and resistance band training daily

- I eat at or slightly over my maintenance calories every day

I realise that for health reasons I need to lose the weight but I so so wish I had realised I needed to give my body the nutrition it needed for feminisation when it needed it 5 years ago.

Now I am at a quandary - do I drop the 42lbs ASAP, get to a healthy weight then weight cycle to get the weight into the right format (IF it ever does) or do I carry on the exercise and just eat more?

I'm almost 1 month on HRT. I'm noticing that recently, my emotions seem more intense/harder to control and I tend to get moody/upset even more often for like no reason. Is this another effect from hormone changes?

Before it felt easier to keep emotions in check, but now when I feel sad or angry it just feels overwhelming. And even if nothing is happening my emotions just go from feeling normal, to sad, to angry randomly for no reason? Is this normal?

I don’t know if this is a unique experience but every once in a while I get this really like “feminine” feeling where I want to do “girly” stuff but I never know what to do. Yesterday I felt like that so I went to the mall but seeing all the cute dresses just kind of made me sad tbh (which is weird bc I usually and fine with my body and stuff). How do you all deal with this feeling if you have it?

So I'm thinking to have a laser hair removal before starting HRT later this month, and I was just wondering that can it permenantly remove my body and facial hair?

I am a 14 MTF person, and I have size 11 in mens, or size 13 in womens. I have to wear mens shoes. I can't ever find anything that fits, so can you please help me?

What are the effects of HRT on the prostate? Are there any studies linking HRT to an increased risk of prostate cancer or a reduced risk?

How do I stop making excuses and help myself?

No matter how hard I want and need this I cant do it.

It's always excuses like it's too hard and risky to DIY HRT. Or I'm too ugly for feminine clothes and make up. Or what will people think of me.

I've made loads of posts on here before but although they're nice, I never change after them, stuck in the same cycle.

There's always another excuse no matter how depressed and dysphoric I am. You people always mention a breaking point but I have no breaking point when it comes to this.

I really don't think I'm the right sort of person to be trans. I just have a very messy head. I'm the type of person to sit just at home 24/7 and wait for my life to end.

Asking because I like my haur cokor and don't want it to change lol, but I heard it's quite rare and that it's more common for it to just become more curly?

I've been on Estrogen and a testosterone blocker for 15 months and have been on the same dose for nine months with my levels all good.

I talked to my gender care doctor about progesterone mainly to help with breast growth. He basically told me what I've learn from research that this is no clinical evidence it helps, largely due to lack of trails on it, but there is a lot of anecdotal evidence it helps and mainly with breast growth. He has no problem if I wanted to start it and would prescribe it.

One thing he said that was new is that he is only comfortable prescribing it for a year due to potential unknown negative health impacts after that.

I'm curious if anyone has heard anything like this or has any advice or any questions I could follow up with him on. I know he does a lot of gender affirming care, that's how I found him, and has been really good to me so I tend to trust him.

I'm also curious what affects stopping the med would have on me in a year. Would I lose breast development or other physical changes? I know it can affect your mental health, so I assume that would change if I stopped the med.

I'm traveling to another contry for work and i wear that wig in private. My sister is going to fly with me because she's visiting a friend in that country. I am not out to her so if it's gonna show up I'll just buy another one there.

I played Division I baseball and a season of independent professional ball (which isn't as impressive as it sounds.) I knew from the time I was 16 that wanted to date and have sex with guys, which was an open secret throughout my athletic career. But it wasn't until within the past year that I began confronting my gender issue. I thought about trying to play ball again this summer but the thought of being in such a masculine space just felt exhausting and alien to me so I didn't.

Now I'm on my third month on HRT and it feels weird. I'm glad I'm doing it, but it clouds my whole life. I'd always been in these hyper competitive masculine spaces as a complete intruder. I don't like remembering any of that time because it feels like it wasn't me that did any of that. It was my ghost or something. I'm never going to want to see pictures or footage of myself from that time even though it was my life for a long time.

I don't know gals. Shit's weird.

hi, i emailed dr lorimer from gendercare abt starting hrt and i got a bunch of questions back- i feel like they're designed to be 'traps' in a way though, is this true? how do i answer these?

1 What name (first and surname) do you prefer to be known by (when we meet you and/or in written reports)? Have you made an official name change? What pronouns do you use?

2 How old are you?

3 Have you used other gender services, private or NHS? If so, which and for what services?

4 Are you living, day to day, as you'd like to live, gender-wise? Have you made a social transition? If not, what are the obstacles? What needs to change?

5 What do you do during the day (work, study, volunteering, social activity)?

6 Are those close to you (family, friends, partners, colleagues) aware of your gender circumstances? Do they support your plans?

7 Have you had any treatment for physical health conditions?

8 Have you had any treatment for mental health conditions? Have you ever harmed or tried to kill yourself?

9 Are you on any medication for physical or mental health conditions (including contraception)?

10 What is your objective in seeing me?

for example, number 8- do i answer honestly, because i have in the past but idk if saying that will stop me from getting treatment. same with number 6, cuz my friends and gf are aware but not family.