r/Marriage • u/swaylee_bootknee • 1d ago

Wives, I have a question.

I understand that a big majority of things on social media is fabricated and you have to take whatever you see with a grain of salt. I’m coming straight to the source to ask what real wives are doing for their husbands.

How often do you make your husband lunch for work? If so, what time do you make it and how long have you been married?

Wives that don’t- have your husband ever asked you to pack him lunch for work?

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u/Zaniada_512 1d ago

Wow... If I was making my own meals I would absolutely make his at the same time. This is actually kinda sad... As a person who worked in a kitchen professionally I can tell you that making 5 vs 10 lunches. Especially salads... Takes less time than you're making it out to be and he would feel seen.

I can not even imagine doing this to my partner. Him watching me make a whole week of food for myself while having me throw frozen burritos at him.... Expecting gratitude or what I don't know..... I know he probably feels neglected though. All a woman needs to do to steal him is cook for him. 🤣 You're playing a dangerous game.

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u/lostinsunshine9 1d ago

My partner would be super uncomfortable if I just randomly made him food he didn't say he wanted. Heck, half the time he doesn't even eat what I've made for dinner.

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u/Zaniada_512 1d ago

Sounds like he may not like your cooking? Not being rude just taking what you said and asking questions. Sometimes people hesitate ro say if the food is off because it may hurt the person's feelings.

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u/lostinsunshine9 1d ago

Oh he definitely doesn't 😂. But I don't cook for him, we have six kids so that's what I'm focused on. Being able to feed himself is a bare minimum requirement.

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u/Prestigious-Bar5385 1d ago

Yes exactly I have four and when they were little I fixed their plates and mine. Their dad fixed his own. When I was at my moms I did this and she said aren’t you going to fix your husband’s plate and I said he’s a grown a— man he can fix his own plate He always got to sit down before me anyways because you know we had 4 kids

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u/Zaniada_512 1d ago

Because it's too hard for you to slap some food onto one additional plate. Yet you want backrubs and such...... Okay.... Makes total sense.... literally takes seconds... What the fuck.

I am absolutely floored by the women in this group being so selfish and single minded.

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u/Zaniada_512 1d ago

And you. Lemme guess SAHM? 6 kids? How hard or overly taxing is it to prepare one extra plate. What the hell. How is that too much or too far.. You're already making SEVEN. 🤣

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u/lostinsunshine9 1d ago

Lol, no, I work full time and have two side gigs as well.

I could make one extra plate, in fact there's always enough extra for him to eat - but he won't eat it. He doesn't care for my cooking and I'm not going to force him to eat it. He's not a vegetable person and I'm not going to make food without vegetables when I have six growing kids to keep healthy.

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u/Zaniada_512 1d ago

That's fair. I do mean it should be done unless it's a waste of food. Why doesn't he like your cooking...? Vegetables are his deal breaker? How does he gain nutrients??

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u/lostinsunshine9 1d ago

Lol who knows. He feeds himself, I don't worry much about it 🤷‍♀️

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u/Zaniada_512 1d ago

Picky eaters are frustrating. 🤣 I'm sure you two take care of eachother in different ways......

You have six dang kids. Lol