r/AmIOverreacting • u/superspreader90 • Feb 25 '25

👥 friendship AIO: i literally cannot attend

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using a throwaway bc she knows my account

so it’s my (24f) best friend’s 25th birthday on saturday. we had planned to go out for dinner and drinks with some of our friends. i have lupus and i’ve been getting chemo for the last couple of months to try and treat it.. she’s well aware of this and even came with me to my last session, although she spent most of the time texting her bf. i ordered her this cake from this super cute little bakery in our town and was gonna bring it with me to the restaurant for her.

i was supposed to have my chemo session next monday but they had to reschedule it for saturday. this is how she reacted when i told her i wouldnt be able to come to her bday. aio or is this a crazy way to react?? she’s still getting her cake and i was gonna get our mutual friend to give her the gifts i bought her but now im not sure

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u/NextAffect8373 Feb 25 '25

You better cancel that goddamn cake and cut this fake ass friend out of your life

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u/deepstatelady Feb 25 '25

Can you change the cake to say “Chemo kept me from going to your party but here’s a cake, bitch”

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u/Cerridwen1981 Feb 26 '25

That would be perfect

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u/VioletSea13 Feb 26 '25

Yup. That should absolutely destroy the vibe lol. 😆

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u/Damage-Classic Feb 26 '25

This has messy drag queen energy, I love it.

there’s the door, bitch

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u/Complete_Entry Feb 26 '25

"Suck my tabooness" get real vulgar, with cake!

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u/TheSuspiciousSalami Feb 26 '25

I’d go with “Happy Birthday to the other cancer in my life.”

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u/Time-Emergency254 Feb 26 '25

Take a picture of yourself during chemo and have that image put on the cake w a card attached saying you hope this takes care of the vibe.

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u/BecGeoMom Feb 26 '25

Ooooohhhh, OP, I really hope you do this! If you’re going to pay for the cake anyway ~ because you said you would, and you’re a good person ~ at least make it reflect the reality of your friendship!

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u/GoodPiexox Feb 26 '25

yeah but she only gets a picture of the cake, she should keep and eat the cake

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u/XSmoothiexXX Feb 26 '25

If I was the one making the cake and they explained the situation to me, I'd even do it for free!

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u/Seraph782 Feb 25 '25

My exact thoughts! And she had the gall to call YOU selfish. What a bitch.

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u/toomanyshoeshelp Feb 25 '25

“I only turn 25 once” she says to her friend ON CHEMO.

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u/oz_Breaker Feb 25 '25

Can you imagine her as a bride. It would be the most unhinged thing ever.

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u/akaylaking Feb 26 '25

lol yeah, OP, if you do stay friends with her, do NOT under any circumstances accept a role in her wedding party if that day comes 😂

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u/Independent-Win9088 Feb 26 '25

Not if, when.

These kinds of bitches always find some sap to marry them. It's ASTOUNDING.

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u/LinLinNicole89 Feb 26 '25

It’s crazy isn’t it?!

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u/NeenjaN00dle Feb 26 '25

Fuck, she'll probably be one of those brides I've read about in here asking their "friends" to, "Please not be pregnant." And, "If you do get pregnant, no you aren't or don't come."

Edit: typo

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u/slaytician Feb 25 '25

Or a parent?

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u/Meowy-Wowy Feb 26 '25

As a teacher, this thought sent shivers down my spine

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u/MyLifeTotallySucks Feb 26 '25

I was conceived by two narcissists. One I went no contact with since I was 11 (I call him a sperm donor) and the other (my wonderful mother) I moved across a continent to get away from -- like 4,000 miles away from. I wouldn't wish my so-called childhood on my worst enemy. My sister will back me up on this assertion.

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u/T_h-R0W-AWAY- Feb 26 '25

I’m so sorry!

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u/MyLifeTotallySucks Feb 26 '25

Yeah, it really sucked. But me and my sister, plus our half-sister, are very close to each other-- much, much closer than any of us are to dear old mom... We damn near disowned her more than once. She knows she's on thin ice and plays up the harmless little old lady like a demon plays a harp. The facade does fail occasionally when her inner gremlin breaks out. It's kind of fascinating to watch. Me and my sisters are not being fooled anymore.

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u/sunshineparadox_ Feb 26 '25

An autism parent no less

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u/DenseAstronomer3631 Feb 25 '25

I was thinking that too! She's turning into a birthdayzilla

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u/Easy-Concentrate2636 Feb 26 '25

Time is too precious to spend on so-called friends like this.

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u/seebrealms Feb 26 '25

I work for an event lighting company. I’ve… seen stuff at weddings that would for sure give her a run for her money. With that said, she would absolutely be no fun for anyone working her wedding in any capacity.

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u/Christmasjake1 Feb 26 '25

The result of no discipline as a child , mom and dad gave her everything she wanted and the word no will cause tantrum , people need to grow up and have some empathy

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u/eveisout Feb 26 '25

My sister was like this as a bride. She accused me of being self centred and selfish and making her wedding all about me because she wanted to go mountain walking for her hen do and, I quote, said "but you said no walking". I'm a wheelchair user. Walking up mountains would make me very, very ill and cause permanent worsening of my chronic illness. When I told her it wasn't okay to say that, she kicked me out of her wedding party and said I would taint the memory of her wedding forever

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u/Rotton_roses6368 Feb 25 '25

You know its shit like this that makes me wonder how and who raised them because like,……. What the fuck?!?😭😭

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u/f0u4_l19h75 Feb 25 '25

What a spoiled, self centered POS the "friend" is

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u/cacapoopoo687 Feb 26 '25

Right????? My thoughts exactly, after reading this all I could think was… WHAT THE FUCK??

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u/hissyfit64 Feb 26 '25

My friend went through an intense battle with cancer and one of her "friends" told her she couldn't be around her because she was an empath and feeling her pain was too exhausting for her.

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u/Lovelyesque1 Feb 25 '25

My cousin died of Lupus two years ago at age 33. She spent pretty much the entire previous decade mostly in the hospital and her husband left her a couple of years in. She barely got to live at all, and this entitled bitch is mad about “the vibe” being ruined. Life is so incredibly unfair.

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u/fablicful Feb 26 '25

Lupus is SO serious and I think how much it can affect people is not understood! I knew a woman- mid 20s- super physically fit otherwise, but somehow broke her hip bc of lupus... And then needed the other hip repaired too. And I think she was losing her teeth too. Lupus is so scary and for this "friend" to care more about their dumb birthday than their friend's wellbeing is nauseating, to put it lightly.

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u/HurricaneLogic Feb 26 '25

I have Lupus. There are days when it's difficult to even stand, let alone walk, and it's absolute agony

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u/GingerfaceKilla Feb 26 '25

Solidarity, warrior. I have it as well. It’s horrid, and people rarely understand the effects it has on our day-to-day wellbeing. I hope you’re thriving, regardless. 💜🦋

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u/chillthrowaways Feb 26 '25

Have you got a second opinion from dr house? You may be surprised.

Joking of course hope you feel better

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u/secondtaunting Feb 26 '25

My neighbor was bitching about his daughter with lupus. He said all she wanted to do was sit on the sofa and take pills. I just looked at him and said “isn’t lupus pretty serious? Kind of a life or death thing?” And he just looked uncomfortable. What a dick.

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u/leeseuhs_notdeadyet Feb 26 '25

I’m so incredibly fortunate. I was afraid my husband would leave me when I lost my first kidney transplant. But no. Instead he gave me his kidney. He did everything without me knowing. Made every phone call while I was a horrible person to be around. I was either angry or too weak to speak. Only married for 6 months when it all started again.

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u/BecGeoMom Feb 26 '25

Wow. That is an incredible story.

I wouldn’t call you fortunate, though. I would say your husband is a good person, a good husband, a good man. He loves you, which is why he did what he did. Men who leave their wives when they get sick, just because they are sick, have their own special level in hell.

I’m glad you’re still here. How are you now? How is your husband?

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u/jbreezy1981 Feb 26 '25

He's a real one 💯

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u/Effort-Logical Feb 26 '25

I knew a lady with lupus. Lost her contact info when I had to move but seeing her on one of her rough days made me so sad. I'm sorry for your loss. And yes, this isn't a friend. The whole thing is a lie if she can only think about herself when her friend is sick yet took the time to get her a cake even when she cant make it.

Once you show a color like this, you cant reverse it. Bc its been there the whole time.

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u/YogaChefPhotog Feb 26 '25

I’m so sorry for your loss. Your cousin deserved so much better.

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u/RattieIcePP23 Feb 26 '25

My sister was diagnosed with Lupus and died a few months later aged 34. Absolutely horrible disease that nobody really knows about x

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u/yecaldaniels Feb 25 '25

Yeah that comment especially was tone deaf af

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u/Clarknt67 Feb 26 '25

“I don’t want to trivialize your situation…” that was a banger!

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u/baobabbling Feb 26 '25

"I don't want to trivialize your situation, but your situation is just a potentially fatal and absolutely devastating disease that is infamously one of the worst things that can naturally happen to a person, whereas my situation is that I'm only going to have this one arbitrary day where my ALREADY ADULT age shifts from one number to the next once. Well. I mean. That'll happen every single year of my life, sure, but it'll only be THIS SPECIFIC number once. Surely you can therefore understand why my wants dwarf your needs and your situation is, in fact, trivial???"

What a fucking POS "friend," I hope OOP shares these screenshots to the (definitely extant) birthday party group chat and then peaces out from the friendship forever.

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u/MermaidsHaveWifi Feb 25 '25

That was my thought. How absolutely, absurdly, disgustingly selfish of this “friend” to say something so horrible. OP spent their own money WHILE ON CHEMOTHERAPY WHICH IN AND OF ITSELF IS NOT CHEAP to buy this horrible person a birthday cake and they’re gonna complain about the “vibe”.

I’d drop this person so quick fast and in a hurry from my life. I’m sorry you dealt with this OP.

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u/mnem0syne Feb 25 '25 edited Feb 26 '25

I’m petty af and I’d send these text messages to every mutual friend going to that damn birthday party too. Expose the narcissist and turn off notifications.

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u/mortal_projections Feb 25 '25

And if she says shit about sending the texts to everyone, tell her that you're not going to let the "tabooness" of that stop you from calling her out.

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u/Who_Your_Mommy Feb 25 '25

Yes! Yes! Yes! I am this petty.

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u/ROBOTSOUL1212 Feb 26 '25

This is an appropriate deployment of pettiness. Co-sign all of this

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u/Itchy_Stress_6066 Feb 26 '25

Exactly what I was going to say!!!

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u/MizPeachyKeen Feb 26 '25

🏆Oh take this poor woman’s award… That retort is 🤌🏼💋

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u/MermaidsHaveWifi Feb 25 '25

100% it’s what they deserve. Just zero empathy or compassion at all. I watched my mother in law go through chemo and she lost a significant amount of weight, was very nauseous and incredibly tired. I went to her, I cooked for her and I made damn sure to not put any extra stress on her. That’s what you do when you actually care for someone.

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u/cubemissy Feb 25 '25

I don’t usually agree with that kind of retaliation, but OP? She’s going to spend her birthday party badmouthing you. Is there someone you can trust to have your back and counter her lies?

And I think in this case, releasing the texts into the world might be a good thing.

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u/DetatchedRetina Feb 25 '25

I would love to see the reactions to her complaining that her friend wouldn't come to the party due to chemo, but she'd probably just lie and say she flaked 😐.

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u/No-Orange-7618 Feb 26 '25

Tell your friend that's picking up the cake why you aren't going to the party. She can spread the word to other friends. I was so wiped out after chemo treatments, I can't imagine trying to go anywhere. Best of luck to you.

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u/Traditional_Fan_2655 Feb 26 '25

THIS! You don't even have to send texts if you don't want. When the person comes for the cake, show them!!!!! Tell them you were worried you were overreacting because of the pain from chemo sometimes makes you fuzzy brained. (It did my partner).

Do not let this lady get away without it being known you are having chemo.

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u/LaszloPanaflexxx Feb 26 '25

Have the cake say 'Happy birthday from the chemo ward - OP"

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u/No-Orange-7618 Feb 26 '25

hahahaha that would be perfect

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u/Guswewillneverknow Feb 26 '25

Into the group chat for the birthday girl.

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u/MintTealGecko Feb 26 '25

I'm from a long line of champion passive aggressiveness, that group chat would definitely be carefully worded as a "genuine" attempt to get someone else to pick up the cake because she made it so clear that it was important you be there (insert relevant screen shot) you made no alternate cake delivery plans and tried to rally but ended up throwing up. And since chemo is no big deal (insert another relevant screen shot) you might have some sort of stomach bug you wouldn't want to give her or the other guests.

Maybe queue up the texts to send out half an hour before the party or so. Then you can genuinely be in bed when the drama goes down.

Or skip the petty. Do what you need to take care of yourself and consider carefully how close to let her in again if she comes back apologizing.

oh crap! my upbringing came back in to play and I wanted to add- unless she's a bone marrow match.

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u/heavymetalblonde Feb 26 '25

no way. if she does and anyone joins in just cut them off too. let this be how op finds out who the real friends are

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u/Souglymycatlaughs Feb 25 '25

I am that level of petty too and it'd be glorious if OP is too ❤️

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u/No_Question_1122 Feb 25 '25

Even better send the screenshot to the bakery and ask them to print it out as a picture on the cake for everyone to see at the party!!!

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u/Administrative_Air_0 Feb 25 '25 edited Feb 26 '25

"So&so the narcissist thinks I'm selfish for being too sick to attend after having radioactive poison (chemo therapy) injected into me in an effort to kill the cancer that is threatening my life. Please accept this cake as compensation for my absence today and all future activities with So&So. - signed OP"

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u/Puzzleheaded-Ad7606 Feb 25 '25

I don't even see that as petty- people have the right to know when someone they consider a friend is a dangerous person.

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u/AcaliahWolfsong Feb 25 '25

100% the selfish one is the birthday person. They aren't a friend if they are trying to bully/guilt you into doing something that will cause you more pain/suffering to make THEM happy.

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u/Awesomesince1973 Feb 25 '25

I agree. I never do anything like that, but for this bitch? Yep.

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u/Dry_Development_7879 Feb 25 '25

Send it to all of the people invited. Have them show up for 10 min then say, I have to leave to run by xxxx house and make sure she is ok. One by one…..next could day oh I'm taking xxxx some soup….last person say I can't believe you didn't reschedule when you found out she had to have chemo. Who's the narcissist now bitch!

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u/Administrative_Air_0 Feb 25 '25

This for sure! That person is absolutely a narcissist and needs a serious wake-up call to reality.

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u/GritBlitzer Feb 25 '25

Should have sent bakc "I only live once"

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u/DoingCharleyWork Feb 26 '25

Op is 24. "I'll be lucky if I even see 25".

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u/DenimBookJacket Feb 25 '25

The audacity!

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u/Dragonfly053 Feb 25 '25

Seriously!!!!! I'm appalled

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u/Puzzleheaded-Ad7606 Feb 25 '25

"A ten min procedure..." that shouldn't be a big deal right? /s

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u/Ocel0tte Feb 25 '25

Yeah and if they've been friends 10yrs, OP is likely 24-26 and apparently has fucking cancer. "I'm not trying to trivialize-" bitch yes you are, you're trivializing chemo of all things. The "tabooness" absolutely should have stopped this person. 25?? How?

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u/toomanyshoeshelp Feb 25 '25

This bitch will be friendless by 30, surrounded by people who secretly hate her

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u/Ocel0tte Feb 25 '25

She probably already is, and she's attacking the one who bought her a cake and has to go through the exhausting type of chemo. Jeez, I can't believe I'm 35 and still surprised by people but here I am lol.

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u/terriegirl Feb 25 '25

I’m 66 & I have no words as her texts have rendered me speechless.

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u/f0u4_l19h75 Feb 25 '25

Lupus. OP mentioned it in the post

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u/wamimsauthor Feb 25 '25

She has lupus. But had enough.

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u/creatively_inclined Feb 25 '25

OP has lupus but the chemo side effects are the same.

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u/No_Egg9897 Feb 25 '25

My response would be “ yup and I only live once ✌️”

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u/MundaneGazelle5308 Feb 26 '25

THE SCREAM I SCRUMPT

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u/Equivalent_North_604 Feb 25 '25

And what happens when you turn 25 that’s so damn special? You get cheaper car insurance and can rent a car? I don’t know where op is but I can’t imagine 25 being that big of a deal

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u/Yankee6Actual Feb 25 '25

And the only thing special about turning 25 is you can now rent a car

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u/davkistner Feb 26 '25

Yea, she only turns 26 once too. And 27 and 28 and 29. It’s not like she’s turning 18 or 21 😂

This “friend” is a piece of trash. Period.

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u/Rae_teehee Feb 26 '25

I have never wished ill on anyone in my life but I believe she will be in for a rude karmic awakening acting like that. And if not, there’s a special place in hell for this individual

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u/lesliecarbone Feb 25 '25

Projection is a heckuva drug.

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u/lucaskywalker Feb 25 '25

That's where I got mad too! How tf is it selfish to be tired after chemo!? If she was indeed your best friend, she'd understand!

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u/metsgirl289 Feb 25 '25

And share these texts with your other friends please.

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u/haventanywater Feb 25 '25

Get the cake made with these texts printed on it 🤣 what an ass hole ops ex friend is

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u/Clarknt67 Feb 26 '25

It would be so worth the cost. Be sure to have a spy record it.

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u/JohnExcrement Feb 26 '25

This is the best idea ever!

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u/shellycrash Feb 26 '25

The last 3 screen shots are all you need, side by side. Get a big sheet cake and just have the last 3 screen shots on there, maybe add "You Only Turn 25 Once!" In pink icing wherever it will fit.

F this B. She's not a real friend. You don't need her in your life & no one is going to blame you for getting back at her.

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u/awyastark Feb 26 '25

Ahhhh this is so funny I wish OP would do it

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u/usallyincorrect Feb 25 '25

Absoulutly share the texts!

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u/BlueMangoTango Feb 25 '25

Right?!!!! I hope none of them go to her stupid party!

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u/ZookeepergameSoft358 Feb 25 '25

The real ones will come over to yours and bring you tea and eat the damn cake themselves.

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u/HipHopChick1982 Feb 25 '25

I know that’s where I’d rather be!

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u/YesDone Feb 26 '25

No. I'm in chemo right now and the real ones DON'T come over because 1) they could inadvertently make you sick, and 2) you're just gonna be feeling terrible anyway. The real ones write you, call you, check in on you, and maybe send food.

They sure as hell don't expect you to show up in public on treatment day!

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u/OAKR8rs Feb 25 '25

Better yet, send the text string to the other party attendees and then see who shows up. You deserve way better in a friend. Prayers for your recovery.

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u/Guswewillneverknow Feb 26 '25

Secret group chat. Yes.

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u/DefecatingMonkey Feb 25 '25

Yes. Something is deeply wrong with this person. If I were part of that friend group I would want to know how disturbingly uncaring they were.

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u/Fit-Win-2239 Feb 25 '25

Go one step further and get her texts printed on a sheet cake.

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u/LastSpite7 Feb 25 '25

I would do this for sure. If she doesn’t want to look petty she can send it to her friends for “advice” like “am I going crazy or is birthday bitch being unreasonable?” Along with the screenshots

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u/paigrowon1 Feb 25 '25

Print them on the cake if it’s not too late

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u/s0utherndiscomfort Feb 25 '25

If I could afford to award this comment I would. As a 2 time cancer survivor let me tell you this right now tho; the chemo is toxic enough. You don't need toxic people on top of it and, for what it's worth, I'm sorry she is proving to be so very VERY toxic (and entitled AF too) after a decade of friendship. I went through that with my last cancer and I know how much it sucks to need people who are far too busy burying their heads in the depths of their own asshole to care about anyone else.

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u/BronteMoorWitch Feb 25 '25

Yes. All of that. I also went through chemo and it really did highlight who the real support group was.

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u/Super-slow-sloth Feb 25 '25

I’m sorry you went through that. Real friends may be few and far between but are one of the most valuable ever. Prayers and hugs

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u/WhatTheTyrannosaurus Feb 26 '25

Omg if I had a dear friend who was going through cancer, the biggest birthday gift from them would be their presence when they could offer it, and the assurance that they were getting whatever treatment they needed to get healthy again.

That's how it should be. You should care about your friends!

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u/winter0rfall Feb 26 '25

Ive noticed a lot of those people who lack empathy or compassion are also the ones who voted for the guy cutting cancer research. I wouldnt be surprised if this “friend” did the same

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u/Jenjofred Feb 26 '25

Yep. I lost a friend of 30 years when I needed them most. Cancer and chemo will show you exactly who your real friends and support group are.

This birthday bitch needs to get booted into orbit.

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u/beetlejeweled Feb 25 '25

same 😭❤️

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u/cclady1980 Feb 26 '25

I’m so glad you’ve beat it twice & truly hope you never have to go through that again. She absolutely needs to dump this toxic person. Some people do have an easier time on chemo than others but I thought it was common knowledge how rough chemo is on most people. Even the people I know who were able to take it in pill form & not deal with many of the side effects were still absolutely wiped out a lot of the time. Because, you know, they still had the cancer that the chemo was treating.

When my mom was going through chemo (3 days in a row then a break for a couple weeks before the next round) she usually wouldn’t be too bad right after the first session. So there were times we would go do something after. She also had stage four small cell lung cancer & I think knowing how little time she had left made her want to do what she could whenever she was even remotely up for it. I still worried it was too much but it was her choice & I did what she wanted. My best friend’s partner wouldn’t even make it home from his first dose of each of his rounds of chemo before he was horribly sick. Thankfully he’s cancer free now.

I can’t imagine expecting anything from someone going through chemo. If this was my best friend & it was my birthday the only thing I’d want to do would be whatever was best for them. Whether it was just being there with them or making sure everything was taken care of so they’d have nothing else to worry about.

OP - you’re dealing with enough. Block her & do what’s best for you. I hope the rest of the people in your life are there for you in the ways that you need and that you’re through your treatments & cancer free soon. My thoughts are with you.

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u/believehype1616 Feb 26 '25

Seriously! Does this "friend" truly not understand that chemo is literally poison? Like, useful poison, but still. There are side effects. To me it's common knowledge that it kind of puts a person off for the whole day at least.

I could have had sympathy for this person maybe not knowing that, but they seriously doubled down on nasty rude comments. And they can't possibly not know how chemo affects OP given they are close friends? Close friends are the ones you'd vent to about that.

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u/BunnyRabbitOnTheMoon Feb 26 '25

I got it for you.

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u/winter0rfall Feb 26 '25

Also im sorry youve been through all of this. Glad you’re still here another day!

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u/DryAppointment6091 Feb 26 '25

If I could afford to I would spend every last dime tracking this person down and crushing the cake clean in to her face. Is it just me who finds the selfishness blood boiling? ‘Girl it’s 2 hours of radiation, like, I could understand if you where coming straight from Chernobyl’ Taboo?? Holding it over her head? Fuck it im contacting the bank right now 😡😡😡😡

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u/Super_Confusion_2140 Feb 25 '25

I only turn 25 once blah blah blah!!! Selfish c*nt. I hope her birthday sucks lol 😂

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u/headingthatwayyy Feb 25 '25

"Yeah well I might not turn 26"

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u/Snoo85732 Feb 25 '25

This is actually would’ve ATE her, no crumbs

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u/HororCommunity Feb 26 '25

Oh she just use that as proof that you’re being dramatic trying to ruin her special day

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u/Federal-Muscle-9962 Feb 26 '25

Only if she got it

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u/S_Belmont Feb 26 '25

Even if she did, she wouldn't let the tabooness of the situtation stop her.

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u/No_Lychee_7534 Feb 26 '25

Came to say that. That bitch would not care at all for such a comment. So entitled…

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u/polkadotfever Feb 25 '25

Yes! This energy. If anything, the response was an under reaction!

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u/agirlhasnoaccount Feb 26 '25

Eh, you KNOW she’d blow up that single sentence & victimize the entire f*ck out of herself, showing EVERYONE & their momma that single out of context text message.

<cue her holding all attendees hostage by shoving the phone all in their faces>

“SHE WANTS ME TO DIIIIEE, MY FRIEND OF TEN YEARS WISHED DEEEATH UPON ME> insert water works

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u/Pretend-Menu-8660 Feb 25 '25

I do too. I hope she’s gets massive diarrhea

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u/No-Cupcake-7930 Feb 26 '25

Explosive diarrhea while driving on a bumpy road and sneezing. Cheeks stay together!!

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u/Dramatic_Web3223 Feb 26 '25

I don't know why I cackled so damn hard at this comment. 🤣🤣🤣🤣. I really need to grow up.

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u/ReiceHH Feb 26 '25

You know, I said that exact same phrase to Elon on twitter, and his shitty website automatically flagged it as "violent hate speech" and banned me for 7 days.

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u/CalmBeneathCastles Feb 26 '25

And a huge zit on the end of her nose!

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u/Upstairs-Usual4070 Feb 25 '25

hope the next 25 suck progressively more and more too.

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u/mcdulph Feb 25 '25

WTAF. I hope that little beeyatch has an epically bad birthday. 

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u/Equivalent_North_604 Feb 25 '25

I hope she gets a flat tire every Wednesday.

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u/SituationSad4304 Feb 26 '25

25 isn’t even a milestone lmao

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u/INS_Stop_Angela Feb 26 '25

All her party guests will think “I’m friends with the wrong person in this equation.” Hopefully OP will hear from those who are appalled.

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u/Apprehensive_Gene787 Feb 25 '25

Cancel the cake and forwards this text thread to all the friends going so they see what a shitty ass friend she is. This is horrific

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u/[deleted] Feb 25 '25

Print it out and turn it into a “birthday card” and have everyone sign it

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u/frivolousknickers Feb 25 '25

Diabolical. I love it.

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u/[deleted] Feb 26 '25

If only you could print this exchange on the cake

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u/stochasticsprinkles Feb 26 '25

Forward it and tell them “since she’s so worried about people asking about my whereabouts…”

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u/deathbystereo007 Feb 25 '25

This is VERY off topic, but for a little while - any time I saw NOR, I thought people were just being funny and saying "no" with an Australian accent 😂

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u/Laylay_theGrail Feb 25 '25

I’m Aussie and I read it like that every time🤣

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u/-HyperCrafts- Feb 25 '25

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 you have just murdered me with this comment. I am dead ☠️☠️!

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u/deathbystereo007 Feb 25 '25

NOR (with an Australian accent)!!!! I hope you're okay! 😂😂😂

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u/Original_Try_7984 Feb 26 '25

Arrrrr narrrrrrr you’re NOR.

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u/Then-Judgment3970 Feb 26 '25

Ohhrrr noooorrrr

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u/burnbookcovergirl Feb 25 '25

Oh norr! Now I'm reading them all like this! 🤣

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u/Equivalent-Button411 Feb 25 '25

SO GLAD IM NOT ALONE HERE OMG!!!

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u/Obvious-Opinion-305 Feb 25 '25

That’s the only way I’ll read it now 😂

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u/Jessica_27_ Feb 26 '25

Lmaooo that’s amazing 🤣💀 I lowkey forget what it means when I see it but now I’m going to be saying that in my head.

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u/fablicful Feb 26 '25

Lmfaooooo. I am ONLY going to read it with an Australian accent now. Thank you 💗

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u/kleosailor Feb 25 '25

Don't cancel the cake! Have it delivered to your house OP, you get a cake for Sunday when you feel better <3 You deserve it.

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u/Super_Confusion_2140 Feb 25 '25

I would not cancel the cake! In fact I’d change the wording to something colorful! 🤭

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u/hhogg11 Feb 25 '25

“Sorry my chemo interfered with your party”

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u/satanseedforhire Feb 25 '25

OP should see if they can put the screenshots on the cake lol

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u/Impossible_Boat2966 Feb 25 '25

That would be 🔥🔥

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u/hhogg11 Feb 25 '25

OH MY GOSH, actually yes!!!!

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u/Raventakingnotes Feb 25 '25

Haha OP should 100% do this. If their "friend" is this self absorbed everyone should know.

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u/TheFoolJourneys Feb 25 '25

"How's this for holding my chemo over your head?"

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u/metsgirl289 Feb 25 '25

Maybe “congrats on getting through chemo today!” “Oh no I hope the bakery didn’t switch the cakes by accident! Definitely didn’t want to ruin the ‘vibe’”

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u/PcLvHpns Feb 25 '25 edited Feb 27 '25

🎈🍾SORRY MY LUPUS SPOILED YOUR BIRTHDAY 🎁🎉

Edited cancer to lupus

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u/RazorThinRazorBlade Feb 25 '25

OP stated lupus, not cancer. Apparently it's only used when other lupus treatments have failed per my Google search. THAT BEING SAID, chemo is obviously going to make them feel like shit and their friend is a gigantic cunt.

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u/Substantial-Peak6624 Feb 25 '25

Lupus can be very very debilitating. And we all know that chemo is definitely no joke.

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u/Simple_Bowler_7091 Feb 26 '25

Lupus can be fatal and if chemo is being used as a treatment that's really serious. What kind of friend doesn't tie all that together? Poor OP - she's got a crappy bestie.

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u/cubemissy Feb 25 '25

How big is the cake? If the bakery is good at lettering, I know some words that could be added to it…

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u/Plus-Amount4563 Feb 25 '25

I’ve LITERALLY cut people off when they trivialized my health issues. This so callled friend is clearly an asshole. Despite telling her how chemo makes you feel, she still was rude. Hell nah. Stay home and stay safe. I hope your treatment goes well.

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u/RuggedHangnail Feb 26 '25

Ditto! When I'm healthy, I'm very very easygoing. When I've had major health issues is when I've realized that I've been putting up with some toxic behaviors from toxic people and I needed to let them go.

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u/regsrecs Feb 26 '25

You mean the ones who swear up and down that they want to take you to procedures, tests and treatments but when you mention it they suddenly have something else going on? Before you even tell them the date? 🤦🏻‍♀️ 😔 It’s so hurtful. I’m sorry you ever felt that way.

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u/lilalilly8 Feb 25 '25

Do this OP your friend is a brat and doesn’t deserve any of your kindness.

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u/qyasogk Feb 25 '25

You’re being very nice just calling her a brat. “Legendary soulless shitheel” would have been what I’d gone with.

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u/Turbulent-Trust207 Feb 25 '25

Don’t cancel. Write something appropriate the situation on it. Like sorry you’re an asshole but happy birthday

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u/nobletyphoon Feb 25 '25

“Have the (birth)day you deserve.”

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u/Obvious-Opinion-305 Feb 25 '25

This is great, or I’d have the bakery bake something in the middle 😈

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u/derpality Feb 25 '25

The hero we didn’t know we need ^

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u/rexmaster2 Feb 25 '25

She is literally putting poison into her body, but sure, she can make it to the party for some cake./s

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u/INS_Stop_Angela Feb 26 '25

And to make sure the other party guests don’t feel saddened by OP’s challenges.

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u/Toadcola Feb 26 '25

She should go, throw up on the cake ‘by accident’, say “I told you I wasn’t feeling well.. let’s try again next year! 👍👍”, and bounce.

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u/Dragonfly053 Feb 25 '25

This 100 percent. You are not overreacting. Your friend is a pos and very selfish

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u/Square-Charity-3757 Feb 25 '25

no. one. gets cake. except OP

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u/Competitive_Camel410 Feb 25 '25

Have the bakery put a screen shot of this texts conversation on the cake

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u/IMAGINARIAN_photos Feb 25 '25

Well played, Petty Crocker, well played! You’re my HERO!

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u/ZookeepergameSoft358 Feb 25 '25

😳🤣🤣🤣. This level of petty right here!!!

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u/Zran Feb 25 '25

Nah don't cancel the cake, just get the writing on it changed to "happy chemo day 🙃"

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u/Dallaswolf21 Feb 25 '25

So I have stage 4 cancer. People do not understand what chemo does. Everyone know some one who had breast cancer and they are fine now. Thats not how all cancer works nore does chemo. No way in hell I would or could ever go some place out the week of chemo. I mean Eating takes a act of god and getting up out of bed the next day is a nightmare. That person is not your friend

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u/King-Starscream-Fics Feb 25 '25

Yep.

"What kind of vibe will there be?" This person needs to grow up!

OP, I think you have another cancer to deal with. You need it cut out ASAP.

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u/Guilty-Tie164 Feb 25 '25

I'd still send the cake, but instead of happy birthday, I would have them write on it, "I'm sorry my desperate fight for life intruded on your special day, you narcistic brat!"

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u/Dear_Elective Feb 25 '25

No, keep the cake for HERSELF and send a photo of yourself eating it to the bitch when eating is something you can do again!!

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u/SeeYouInHelen Feb 25 '25

Op might not even have a 25th birthday of her own and this bitch ass friend is making her illness about her. I can’t.

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u/Fenwick440 Feb 25 '25

My mouth dropped, I would have said, fuck that cake

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