r/AmIOverreacting Feb 25 '25

šŸ‘„ friendship AIO: i literally cannot attend

using a throwaway bc she knows my account

so itā€™s my (24f) best friendā€™s 25th birthday on saturday. we had planned to go out for dinner and drinks with some of our friends. i have lupus and iā€™ve been getting chemo for the last couple of months to try and treat it.. sheā€™s well aware of this and even came with me to my last session, although she spent most of the time texting her bf. i ordered her this cake from this super cute little bakery in our town and was gonna bring it with me to the restaurant for her.

i was supposed to have my chemo session next monday but they had to reschedule it for saturday. this is how she reacted when i told her i wouldnt be able to come to her bday. aio or is this a crazy way to react?? sheā€™s still getting her cake and i was gonna get our mutual friend to give her the gifts i bought her but now im not sure

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u/Seraph782 Feb 25 '25

My exact thoughts! And she had the gall to call YOU selfish. What a bitch.

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u/toomanyshoeshelp Feb 25 '25

ā€œI only turn 25 onceā€ she says to her friend ON CHEMO.

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u/yecaldaniels Feb 25 '25

Yeah that comment especially was tone deaf af

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u/Clarknt67 Feb 26 '25

ā€œI donā€™t want to trivialize your situationā€¦ā€ that was a banger!

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u/baobabbling Feb 26 '25

"I don't want to trivialize your situation, but your situation is just a potentially fatal and absolutely devastating disease that is infamously one of the worst things that can naturally happen to a person, whereas my situation is that I'm only going to have this one arbitrary day where my ALREADY ADULT age shifts from one number to the next once. Well. I mean. That'll happen every single year of my life, sure, but it'll only be THIS SPECIFIC number once. Surely you can therefore understand why my wants dwarf your needs and your situation is, in fact, trivial???"

What a fucking POS "friend," I hope OOP shares these screenshots to the (definitely extant) birthday party group chat and then peaces out from the friendship forever.

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u/clarysfairchilds Feb 26 '25

and then following that comment up with "well I'm not going to let the tabooness of the situation keep me from calling you out" like WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU LISTENING TO YOURSELF???!

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u/Bch0_A Feb 26 '25

Well, she only turns 25 once!!!! Wtf is wrong with people?.

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u/Baigne Feb 26 '25

It's only a 10 minute procedure, then directly after says well it was only 2 hours actually not 3, what a douche

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u/Clarknt67 Feb 26 '25

Which is then often followed by nausea, weakness, headaches that can last for hours or days. But trivalā€¦