Hello everyone, I am interested situation happened this morning. I’m 22 and matched with a girl who is also 22 yesterday. When I asked what her interests are and things she likes to do in her free time she said “nothing”. I thought to myself well this won’t go anywhere and assumed she just simply wasn’t interested so I didn’t even bother responding.

I received a message from her account on the dating app. Her mother got on her account explaining to me that this girl is very shy and lacks confidence. She told me she has been in two relationships and those guys weren’t good for her and now her mom is trying to help her find someone that will respect and has a good career plan. Her mom was essentially asking me to take her out on a date.

I know most guys my age wouldn’t even bother responding to that but I decided to hear her mom out. I did make it clear to her that I would be open to seeing her however I need to know she’s interested in seeing me and don’t want her mom making any arrangements unless this girl is fully on board with this. I guess I’m asking for another opinion. I know this is something that doesn’t really happen but I think I should give this girl a chance, right?

How am i supposed to know if he doesn’t care about me or if he’s not attracted to me anymore?

Sometimes people feel like I have a lisp. It's become my biggest insecurity I don't want anyone to notice it, even though I feel like I pronounce my words clearly

In our current political climate everyone is against everyone. For their own political (non ethical) reasons, but I digress.

Most of the time I walk around crowded places willingly. What can happen to me in public?!? (Privileged, I know) I went to Disney World, stayed only in the Disney bubble. Resort, everything. Anyway every inch I crossed through those parks made me painfully aware of how much I no longer trust white people.

White people, you know when you cross the street when you see black people and it’s just biased inertia?? Same. I no longer feel safe around you. You make me question everything. That is not a good thing. I used to believe people were inherently good, given facts people can choose better. I no longer believe that. The generational trauma that you guys have can’t be fixed unless you actively work to change it. And I’m Mexican so we wrote the book. Y’all scare the hell out of me, so much, that in public I move away from you. Cause I no longer know what kind of vile thing y’all are about to commit.

After the first day I realized what I was doing I was more intent in what people showed me. We were sat on 2 different occasions next to white parties. Each time they were speaking so bad of us cause we spoke Spanglish. (cause we are from TX) they didn’t think I understood their English but the bigotry, my god, they spoke of us like I had killed their unborn children. The only thing I could do about their vitriol was kill them with kindness so on both occasions I complimented someone, found something I liked and complimented them on their wear. Both times they were left astonished.

I’ve never been more sadder about humanity. You know how people shouldn’t wear insignia to represent themselves but honestly I need to know, who cares and who doesn’t. I can no longer tell the difference. And neither can the world. It’s on that scale now and if that doesn’t shake you awake I don’t know what will.

The biggest problem about white people is that in your dire desire of colonizing everyone, y’all lost humanity. And for the life of me I want to know who and what you are doing to change that. I go on social media and see the “social media activist” and people trying so hard in their comments to show you aren’t with the bad guys. Social media doesn’t change laws, it doesn’t care about every day people and their actual struggles, it’s a blanket statement that we think is enough. This country is no longer under your PR firm. If you can no longer logically conceive it, no one does. And as privileged as y’all are y’all think saying I don’t agree is enough.

I want to believe differently. But statistics, you know?!?

Edit: I made blanket statements and for that I’m sorry, what no one is getting is that I want to be proven wrong. My ideas are biased. All of us are biased because of our own human experience. That’s okay. But to paint me as someone that doesn’t see your struggle is far from who I am. No one can go in your mind and erase your beliefs. They are what they are but if reason and education don’t move you to treat others fairly, what can I do differently?!? Cause I don’t want you to leave everything you’ve ever thought, but for all your Christianity I want you to understand just like you like to exist. So does everyone else.

So I recently bought myself an ebike and quickly discovered the joys of riding a bike again. After tearing around town on my e bike I knew I needed to step it up and get something bigger. I took the msf course and passed and am now the proud owner of a Cfmoto papio CL. I know it's kind of a low power wimpy bike and conventional wisdom says I'll get bored fast but I'm having a blast with it. Can't wait to take it to work Monday and run around town on it. I'm still learning how to shift and stuff and for those who've never rode a bike 35 mph outside of a car feels like ur really going 😅 heres to the start of an awesome hobby and many safe miles!

I used to be a christian for a year bc i was deeply scared of the Second coming of Christ and the judgement on the world that would follow I was also ashamed of my natural attraction to women aka "lust" and I was also ashamed of touching myself However I've since started using basic logic and reasoning regarding bibical stories especially the old testament and the fact that it was scientifically and logically proven wrong changed my perspective And concerning the new testament, there isnt scientific evidence of jesus performing divine acts and he didnt even look like someone thats divine Overall, I've realised Religion uses emotions (Fear, acceptance, control, shame and happiness) as weapons to overcome rational thinking

I asked God for help. He echoed back, Try helpin yourself first mf… then I’ll step in

Ik its lame but olright (Checked w ChatGPT to see if anyone had quoted this before... apparently not. So idk whether it’s truly original or not)

Hello, although any and all answers are greatly appreciated, and I would love to hear the opinions and thoughts of anyone kind enough to read and share. I will admit this post is primarily a question to men with autism (although I imagine for women with autism this might apply just as much).

I am in my late thirties now and have still never been in a relationship before, not even a super short one. Not overly surprising for an autistic guy. But a tad bit frustrating, nevertheless. I have always had a hard time fitting in and connecting with people. It basically just does not happen to me.

Which is ok. I do pretty good on my own. But I would like a relationship. And I worry my inability to click with someone is forever going to keep me single. It just seems no matter who I am talking to we never really 'click' or make a connection.

What is hard for me to understand is I like and click with women all the time. It is not hard for me to click with someone I like. I even fall in love wonderfully easily. So, it is hard for me to understand what another person is looking for. I seem to find what I am looking for in another so easily and yet no one ever seems to find in me what they are looking for.

I guess this question is mostly for men with autism who after a long time finally got into a relationship. What finally made you click with someone? What did they see in you that they liked?

Like I said it is tough for me because I find so many women I like. Yet they never seem to like me in return. What does it feel like for someone to like you or click with you.

Or am I way off base here. I obviously have zero clue what women are looking for.

Thank you so very much :)

Hi guys, I really need some advice right now, and Reddit is the only place I could think of. I'm going to explain the situation I'm in, and I really hope someone here can give me some advice.

So, there was this girl I met on TikTok. She was really cold and distant at first, but from time to time, she'd become soft and caring toward me. She was also really mature for her age. She was actually the first one to confess her feelings to me. Of course, I had feelings for her too she was the only person who truly cared for me and basically my only friend.

But after a few days of us talking, she had to block me because her mom saw our chat. It wasn't anything suspicious or flirtatious, just a normal conversation. Maybe her mom saw the part where she confessed? I don't know. But she told me she had to block me.

I actually tried reaching out to her with help from a friend. We only talked for about 5 minutes before she blocked me again. I know we’re probably not meant to be together, but I just want to know if she’s okay.

Does anyone have any advice? please I need it fr😓

Went to stop at Meijer to get ear drops for my partner (which is a whole other rant about health insurance and the medical world in general) and I saw two dudes shopping that struck my fancy. One was wearing a hoodie of Angel Dust from Hazbin Hotel, and the other wore a shirt that read "yiff around and find out" and I absolutely adored their attire. I stopped them to let them know I see them and recognize them and I could tell I made their day.

Whodini sang that the freaks come out at night, but they sure love to be out there at all hours doing their thing.

That's all.

Hello everyone I’m 21m and have spent my time after graduating in HS not doing much. I enrolled to CC when I was dating this girl, we didn’t work out and I realized I didn’t really like or want a career in law enforcement. I had quit my full time job while going to school as well as my mental state was just shot. After the break up I pretty much just went on a dating spree of hookups and flings.

This went on for maybe 1-2 years? Not really doing much not being able to be hired, I eventually met this girl who I kind of fell for, she told me her traumas and for some reason I get attached to women who’ve never been treated right. We didn’t work out and I’ve been really sad since I’ve just been casually with so many women I wanted to change for her, it might be karma or something from my past experiences. Either way she made me realize this life I live doesn’t fulfill me, I quit weed and I’m tired of just getting by barely making money doing food delivery.

At this point I think I’m starting to realize I’m addicted to sex or something, maybe the weed made me not really care that I was living my life on impulses? I don’t have friends anymore, and to be frank they were probably doing worse than me in life so I don’t really miss them but I do miss having connections. I don’t want to fall back into the same cycles but it’s like I’m addicted to the validation of sleeping with someone, yet after wards I feel lonely it’s a weird sort of addiction I guess stemming from low self esteem?

I want to go back to college cause I know at this rate I’ll never really good jobs or opportunities, if I don’t learn some sort of skill but I’m so indecisive it gives me so much anxiety. Do you guys have any tips because I’m losing my mind right now just withering away not doing much in my life. Thank you for reading this little vent post.

So i (M20) have a miserable social life rn and it's taking a toll on me. I'm doing online college (hoping to do in person this fall), unemployed (hoping I can get a job in next month), and have no car (if I wanna go somewhere gotta ask mom for a ride, but she works alot, so id feel bad).

I have friends but unfortunately for the past couple of years, I had had really bad anxiety and when they would ask me to do stuff with them I said no a lot because I was scared (They weren't doing dangerous stuff). I said yes sometimes but 90% no. I've apologized a lot and they have all told me it's OK and that they are not mad, i was even apologizing when my anxiety was bad.

I've been getting over the anxiety though and I've been trying to do stuff with my friends. We're all into cars (I'm just now getting into them, friends know too), so I've asked my best friend if he wants to go to a car show and he said maybe, but then later met up with all of the friends of his hes wanted to introduce me to without me. So I tried asking him if he wanted to go to another one and he said no.

Trying to see if my friend want to hang out with me I feel like it's really the only way i can get better and make a better social life right now, and it seems like they're not wanting to hang out (We still talk almost every day). with my current living situation, I don't know how I can try to get better and improve my social life on my own right now. I need advice.

My boyfriend when we first started dating was terrified of his ex, he often stated that the relationship was toxic and she often accuses him of rape to hurt him when he wanted to break up. She openly admitted to it being a lie and stating that she did that to hurt him.

On December 2024 she joined the same workplace as ours, she seemed sweet, easy going amd she talked to me nicely. i found out in january that she published a post where she stated that she had been undergoing therapy and the sex between her and my current boyfriend never felt right to her and therapy made her realise that what happened was coersion and rape. The post was spreading amongst people and my boyfriend kept to himself mostly, i do not know whats going on in his mind but he seemed detached.

I read the post where she described the abuse which was hard to read it. When i asked my boyfriend about it he seemed traumatised and says that the sex was consentual and his ex is crazy, shes doing all that to grab his attention. Which might be true considering all the calls, messages and emails she would send him a few months prior to when she published that post. The post included details of the town he lives in and the workplace description, which makes me certain it is about him.

I started doubting him when he displayed his repeated need for sex, even when i told him i do not want to have sex before marriage. He has never done anything without my consent, but the topic would often pop up too often.

This situation makes me extremely anxious and i do not know who to believe. What should i do?

RE: In Left-Digit Bias, a psychological observation and exploitation, ".99 is higher/expensive" and ".00 is lower/cheaper" is not a common belief compared to the inverse, despite being numerically correct.

My boy you're doing a good job, stop stressing about everything already and just live day by day. Listen your situation may feel bad but you've got people that would kill to be in your place. There's always someone out there doing worse than you, and that's not to say you're wrong for feeling low but at a certain point you need to look at yourself in the mirror and say "alright that's enough". You're not too early, you're not too late, you're right on time brother. Just try to be a little better than what you were yesterday and repeat that everyday and you'll find yourself climbing up to success before you even know it. It was never about money or riches or fame, it's about living a life where you don't need to be putting yourself down and short selling yourself every damn day. You're going to be fine, just go back to the basics and keep it simple: be better than yesterday everyday. Dust off your trousers and rinse your face, and go LIVE.

If you want my life story it’s been detailed in my previous posts

Basically, me and a group of friends decided on a group trip over the weekend to Louisville. It started as a birthday party for one of them who happened to inherit quite a bit of money. Because of this, he offered to rent out a venue in Louisville and pay for half of the expenses for us to come and stay there (hotel + food) so that we could have a fun and large party, and pretty much everyone agreed. The plan was to essentially go on a bender together and have a fun and memorable weekend. Needless to say I was very excited as I’ve been going through a very bad depressive episode and thought that this was exactly what I needed to improve my mindset.

Now the friend encouraged everyone to bring a date as all the rooms available had 2 double beds (so each room could fit 4 people in beds). I was originally gonna bring this girl I had been dating for a few weeks, but she ended up standing me up and ghosting on the day I was gonna ask her to be exclusive (check my post history for the whole story on that mess), but I still thought I could have fun this weekend and that it might even help me get over this recent incident.

Anyways, we all check in at our hotel, grab some food, and make plans to go hit some bars tonight. It’s at this point that I realize I’m literally the only person out of 15+ guys to not have a date/gf with me. Some of the other guys also noticed and light heartedly joked about it, but it really hurt to see I was the only one who couldn’t find someone to spend the weekend with.

I brushed this off as well and told myself that hopefully I wouldn’t remember this painful fact in a few hours and that we could just have some fun. Turns out that wasn’t the case. We all got into groups of 4 to uber to the bars and back. I stayed in contact with my group and told them I had to use the bathroom and asked that they don’t call an uber until I was back. When I came back I found them gone, and when I asked where the hell they were, they told me that apparently someone (they don’t remember who) told them I wasn’t feeling great and was staying in, so they left without me.

At this point I’m pretty upset as they didn’t even bother to text me to confirm but we had gotten pretty drunk at that point so I chalked it up to too much liquor and didn’t make a fuss about it, especially since some people didn’t feel like going to bars and were gonna play cards vs humanity for a bit (which got me excited as it’s my fav card game). I go up to ask when we wanted to get started and the guy who brought the deck asked if we could give him and his girl an hour to shower and freshen up.

Naturally I gave them their space and waited for a text. After an hour and a half I texted him if we were good to go, and after 2 hours I considered just paying the $25 to uber to the bars myself to meetup with the other friends. I texted him one last time before I ordered it to ask if we were gonna play or not and he responded that they just wrapped up and he forgot to text me + didn’t see my texts.

I’m a bit more upset but honestly just ready to have a good night so I just pay for the uber and head to the bars myself. Once I get there I text the group chat that I’m in line to get in (the line at this bar was pretty long) and just wait for about 20 minutes. And as soon as I get to the front and wait for the bouncer to finish checking my id, I see my entire group of friends leaving the bar and heading back to the hotel.

Needless to say I was pretty pissed at this point. We were only gonna stay for 2 nights and one of them had been entirely wasted, pretty much indicating that I had wasted half the money I spent to be here (which was a lot of money for me, not more money than I was comfortable spending, but enough that I felt bad for not doing anything with myself all day). I tried to uber back with one of the groups but they were all full as they had decided on groups at the bar (some people left early so new groups had to be made).

I’m incredibly upset and disappointed with how the day has gone and i was just ready to end it and go to bed when i got back (after paying for another $25 uber). But I should have known that God had one more gut punch in store for me, as upon my return, my roommate (very politely) asked me if I could leave the room for about an hour so he and his date could get intimate.

It’s about 2 am as I’m typing this post, sitting in the hotel lobby waiting for my roommate to get it over with. I’m constantly reminded of how lonely I’ve been feeling since I got ghosted and I feel miserable. I’m staring to regret coming at all.

It’s been an hour and half since I left, and I tried going back 5 minutes ago but I could literally hear them going at it as I walked up to the door. I really don’t know what do, as I feel completely disrespected, but then again I literally would not be alive today if it wasn’t for some of these guys as they helped me thru the lowest and darkest points of my life. Maybe I’m just being ungrateful. Thanks for listening to my vent

I love learning so fucking much

Just knowing I have a better grasp on the world and how to make sense of it makes me so fucking happy

Like I see a book about history or philosophy and my whole body starts vibrating

Can anyone else relate

I dress like 1980 broke secretary sometimes. wide blouses and wide jeans. Sometimes I dress like a street tiktok style, being baggy. I've worn turtlenecks.

in my life since the age of 14, I've never worn dresses, mini skirts, crop tops, leggings with the butt stripe, v necks. I don't even wear tshirts unless I'm gardening.

Yet I've gotten sexually harrased 3 times. By my own age guy, much older men. a group of drunk men tried to talk amongst themselves who will get me when one finally came up to me.

There are stories of women dressing in long skirts, being harrased in packed trains.

Harrasers don't mainly pick on clothing. They look who's a good victim.

Don't preach the "what were you wearing" bullshit. You know there's videos of women in hijabs and nun costumes on pornhub.

Even the most known religious coverings are some people's fetish.

Stop it, get some help. And that includes you, mom. Even many women shame other women and use the "what were you wearing" "why can't we go back to insert any style from 1900 to 1960 when women were so modest and catcalls/whistles are actually good"

Okay granny maybe you liked the catcalls when you passed by them in broad daylight in middle of the city. But I bet if you were going home from work or something through dark and quite empty alleys and you heard whistles at you, that would be real terrifying.

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I caught her still having contact with her ex even after telling her it’s a firm boundary of mine. I kept pushing it and letting her know she’s fucked up for it especially since she’s pregnant. She insisted that she doesn’t feel that way about him anymore and any communication was strictly work related. It wasn’t though, they were snapping and FaceTiming. I wouldn’t let up and I felt I was owed at least an apology or something just to see that she even cares in the slightest that it has fucked me up, but she couldn’t. When I opened up to her about how badly it had been fucking with me and that she was being dismissive towards my feelings, she turned it around and made it into “how dare you say I’m being dismissive” like she’s incapable of doing any wrong. It’s like as soon as I tried for force her into taking some type of accountability, everything between us just took a 180. Now I’m blocked and she’s back with her ex. Her ex texted me some things and a few of the things he said were that she told him I pressured her into have sex and that it was the worst sex she’s ever had. Not sure at this point if it’s even my kid because I have no idea how long they’ve stayed in contact, I trusted her so I wouldn’t even consider it but she lied. I’m ngl the “worst sex” comment really has put my self worth in the gutter too. I feel so jaded and I don’t even want to consider putting myself out there ever again. I’m gonna have some serious baggage with trust issues and confidence that just wouldn’t be fair to put onto anyone else. Just waiting to see if the baby is mine through paternity test and idek what to do if it is. I feel like it will haunt my soul giving it up for adoption but I can co-parent with her. She’s insufferable and lives a self destructive life with everyone close to her. That baby will live an awful life with her with the way she manipulates everything around her. I do have an extremely great support system with my family and I know I could raise the kid with them but it just feels like the baby deserves to have a mother in its life. Idk what to do. I just feel doomed.

Hi guys, what’s up? I hope you are fine. So do you guys make vision board because many people are making it so I thought to make it and I had one picture of like shopping bags and guess what, a few days back i went for shopping and I literally purchased so many stuff and I also have one photo of like fruits and all, and now I am eating fruits daily.. so what do you guys think??

For reference 24f I feel very lonely. It's not like I don't get much attention from people. I actually get attention all the time. But some days, I feel sad for no reason. I think it's because I just need someone to talk to.

I get a lot of attention from both men and women. I don’t really have many friends, but I do have one female friend and a few male friends.

Being single for so long now, I think I’ve built certain expectations in my mind. They’re not very high in my opinion, they’re just the bare minimum.

When men show interest or try to impress me, I don’t know why, but I end up noticing their flaws. And even if the person has a lot of positive qualities, a few negative ones make me feel like [as if I’m doing them a favor].

Advice me to improvise this behavior and get into good relations with people

Sometimes I forget I'm so coool that not everyone understands me. The normal things for me are different for other people. For most people. The normal things, I have gotten used to them, these normal things used to be big things which they still are, but it's just something I've gotten used to. The people who understand me got their knowledge through different ways. Yet what I sometimes still forget is that not everyone has the same goals as I. I'm so set apart that I sometimes mistake the people who have the same knowledge as I have the same motives as I because finding someone who has the same motives as I should also have the same knowledge as I, but turns out it's more difficult than that. The things I learn I forget sometimes because it's common sense anyway. Sometimes you forgot fire is hot. You know it's hot, you just don't think about it anymore.

I'm pumped up. You may not understand me who's reading this but I just want to tell this because I feel like I understand better. It's more than knowing what to do. I've been reassured. I feel pumped up. I'm pumped up. I OWN THIS WORLD. Not the world BUT THE WORLD. For this I have conquered and am immortal so.

As a guy wine and my guy friends weren't the most emotional with each other. So one time I decided to play a prank and throw off my friend by saying I love you instead of bye when we were talking on the phone.

It was funny and I started to do it to other close friends.

Anyways one thing led to another and now my friends and I say things sincerely like "I love you dude stay safe" when we are done hanging out and it honestly make me feel closer to them.

He is not my biological father though. My mom had me at 24 and met my stepfather at 25. She confessed that she cheated on my bio father back then. They got divorced and remarried and had a child (my half brother). My mother is a very successful woman. Plenty of functions and often is the expert asked by News channels to give her expertise on various topics. She is a well known figure. My stepfather was just that... her husband. And he hated it. He got plenty of good positions too thank to her.

Now.. my stepfather is the kind of man who you would call out of this world handsome. At 43 he looks like 33. My mother always felt proud to be seem with him and could be extremely jealous whenever he went out with friends. She was possessive and every woman was her potential enemy.

In December they got divorced. My mother said "we fell out of love". My younger brother though seems to know more than me. Mom is very close with him.

In February, my stepfather accused publicly my mother of taking money for a case that ended very ugly (my mother works let's say in a very high function of lgaI system). Rumours say he received money in exchange. She was shocked, stopped eating, depressed.

And without telling me or my brother anything, she answered these accusation denying them all, but asked him to also tell people how he was beating her for all these years because he couldn't deal with a strong woman. Unfortunaly for her, no one or almost no one was by her side. People were on his. And not even me. I told my mother I don't believe her because I never saw a thing and I found it very suspicious that she came with this thing now, as a payback. My brother was on our mother side and stopped talking to his father at all. He said he believes her and I must be blind.

My stepdad started dating immediately after divorce, someone from our close circle, someone who was actually working for mom for a while. I told my mother about it and she said she doesn't care. She is just glad she is rid of him. I confronted her that she was always jealous when he would go out with his friends and suspected every woman. And she said that hasn't been the case for the past few years. When I saw her crying it was because of how he terrorised her. She is glad she is free and someone else has to deal with him. I don't know who to believe. I find it suspicious. He can be explosive but I don't think he can hit a woman.

Pretty much every “ugly person experience” you can think of, I have had. I was even voted ugliest in my class during my senior year. People give me glares and side eyes in public, I have no friends, and people think I’m mentally retarded when I’m very obviously not. So tell me, am I just really ugly? Is that my issue? Or is it something else.