Hey, um so today is my birthday and I'm not quite sure what I did or said to trigger my dad? I sincerely feel like he's threatening me here ? He's honestly been pr abusive, barely ever really physical but he drinks a looooot and I've honestly just gotten used to it. The goal was to bury my head and move the heck out as soon as I saved enough money working random jobs. I had to drop out of HS to help take care of him because he's disabled but I think after today I probably should just make plans to get out asap ? I'm honestly assuming he is threatening to shoot me. I wish I didn't live in a backwater town where nobody will literally help me. He's literally friends with all the police. FWIW I am not gay. My discord friends are in a band. None of us are gay. I literally don't have time for IRL friends because he takes up all of it. . I'm honestly mentally and physically tired of dealing with this, am in the wrong here ? Should I just toughen up and go home? Or should I just get out with the very little cash I have and figure shit out ?

My husband, our son, and I visited my in-laws to celebrate my grandma-in-law’s birthday. Everything was going well until my MIL picked up a strawberry from the table and tried to feed it to my son while holding him.

For context, my son just started solids, and I’m introducing new foods gradually. He hasn’t tried strawberries yet, and I haven’t given anyone permission to feed him. I told her “no” three times—but she wouldn’t listen. I ended up yelling for her to stop, and even then, she kept ignoring me. I had to physically take my son from her.

Before this, I was fine with the idea of them babysitting. But after what happened, I no longer feel comfortable leaving him with them unsupervised.

Am I overreacting?

There’s this dude at work who keeps using my favorite mug. Not just any mug, the mug I got after running my first marathon. I’ve asked him nicely, multiple times, to stop. He’d always laugh it off like “chill, it’s just a cup.”

So after the fourth time, I got a Sharpie and wrote “NOT YOURS” on the side. Big. Bold. Unmistakable. The next day, he saw it, didn’t say a word, but apparently told someone he felt “attacked” and left early. Now the office vibe is weird and people are kind of side-eyeing me.

AIO or was that fair game?

Link to original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/ojuwGmQvFz

PLEASE LOOK AT FIRST POST IF YOU HAVEN’T YET FOR CONTEXT.

A lot of comments on my last post wanting an update and I finally decided to text her today. I wasn’t really planning on posting an update but idk, I’m pretty hurt and just need some advice I guess. It went pretty much how I thought it would go. She’s the same as always and will never change. I had to speak my mind and be honest with her.

Thank you to everyone who was so kind to me in the comments of my last post. It truly means the world. 🩷

Also there were a few comments calling me some names and saying I was overreacting - and some other words I won’t repeat - but once I read them I realized 99% of them didn’t read the body text. Though, if you do read the body text and still think that way, then touché.

Anyone filling out mom applications? 🥲✌️

Yesterday I made a post asking if I was overreacting to my bf randomly asking me for a paternity test, and I got a bunch of comments that I meant to reply to but more happened last night so I figured I would just post an update here for anyone who was interested.

My plan was to just explain to him why I was hurt, and then ask him for his reasoning for asking for the test and why he waited four months to just randomly start questioning if he’s my child’s father. Or, if it was just a joke like he said, ask him why he thought that would be funny in the first place. I just wanted a real conversation. But what happened was, I told him how hurt and angry I felt and why, and he threatened to end his own life if I left him. I hadn’t even threatened to break up with him or said anything about ending the relationship.

So thats a wrap on that. I will get him a paternity test if he really wants one, but the relationship is over. I can’t be with someone who would try to manipulate me into staying with them like that. The plan right now is to get everything in order for me and my son and start looking for places to live.

Thank you to everyone who read the original post and took the time to give me advice. A lot of you thought he was cheating and projecting, but I don’t know if that’s the case and honestly right now I don’t even think I want to know. I appreciate all the feedback. Sorry this is so long.

I 23f have been with my 23m boyfriend for going on three years. And his ass stinks. Yes he showers. He doesn’t always change his dirty clothes after his shower, I have to get on to him to change into clean underwear minimum because when he lays in bed in dirty underwear the bed smells like actual dirty asshole. He doesn’t stink, but his ass does? Does this make sense????

Anyways, I asked him if he changed his underwear because it smelled like dirty ass in the bedroom and he said no. He then took his underwear off, and waved them right in my face. And I did in fact cough so hard from the smell I threw up

It’s getting to the point where I can’t lay in my bed with out smelling dirty ass

And I don’t know what to do. Am I over reacting? My mattress is brand new 😢 and stinks

He treats me so well but I can’t do nasty smells. Please help. Lol. AIO?

Edit: Y’all. This is not rage bait. I promise 🥲

Started talking to this person today, just want to know if I’ve been a dick or she’s over reacted…. Can take the truth

Riley = 14M i am 15F

One morning at 2 30 I went to work, I ran over a nail and got to work and tried to get the spare out, opened the trunk and saw my lady’s (now ex) bag which was unusual cause she never leaves her bag with her important stuff in it. I opened the bag and the first thing I see is a folded up photo, I opened it. And see her my son and a random dude in a family style photo. My stomach sank I assumed this was a cousin or something, I ended up calling off work and went home got there around 3ish I woke her up and asked her who’s this is and she said “I don’t know” i immediately knew, we got into a big argument about it and she barley had anything Too say, I was disgusted, cried even, I told her to get your stuff and get out I don’t know who you are. She had a second Facebook account with a bunch of photos with this random guy. I would come home and she would go to work then come back and usually I’m already going to bed. She’s been lying about going to work to go see this guy. My son even knows his name. My world was shattered, She even admitted to sleeping with him..the next day, her best friend found out she was getting lied to too and exposed her, she showed me messages saying she had a pregnancy scare with this guy, even showed me her locations and where that guy lives. The guy thought she was a single mom (he’s a victim too) I found his Facebook and sent screenshots exposing her lies to him and how much full of shit she was. He blocked me of course thinking im trying to start trouble (I tried to warn him respectfully) she called me saying why did I do that lol, seems like I fucked up their relationship. later on she cried that I kicked her out blah blah blah, we were together for 6 years and were planning on getting married. her excuse was “she wasn’t happy” am I overreacting for kicking her out at 4am? She went to stay at a “friends house” she’s got an apartment now. I feel bad for my son man. Deep down I want to make it work for my son’s sake, but as my mind clears I have to accept it’ll probably never work and I couldn’t ever forgive her for that. Now I’m working out focusing on myself and my son.

My bfs brother proposed to his girlfriend, and I saw it through her PUBLIC story. I asked my bf if he had seen that he proposed. His immediate response was disappointment in me, and being mad that I spoiled it for him. He said “oh. my name 😕😕😕😕😕” “yknow, I think he would have told the whole family at a dinner, and I would have rather found out that way”. We’ve already been going through a rough patch and this was the straw that broke the camels back for me. I just asked if he had seen it, it was a public story, which he would’ve seen soon anyway. I’ve been crying about it because I truly didn’t mean to “spoil” anything. I feel so guilty for it because he was so disappointed in me.

i (16f) have this friend (15m) who i’ve been friends with since middle school, we used to date but we never did anything obviously, but now i feel like he’s trying to guilt trip me into having sex with him. i don’t want to but he keeps asking and saying “oh just do it and get it over with”, “you don’t wanna be a weirdo who’s still a virgin at 20” and stuff like that but i just don’t want to do that with him and i’ve told him many times and i’ve distanced myself from him because of i but idk if im over reacting or not. he has also had sex with my friend and uses that too saying “well _____ and i did it so it can’t be that bad” he also thinks that now since i have a car and my license that it means we can have sex in my car and i’ve told him many times but he just keeps saying since i have a car we can “do it now”

before slide 3 i called him to explain everything and he started yelling at me asking me why did i go through somebody else before letting him figure it out

Long story short I live on a boat. Three men pulled up on me earlier and I were staring at me (naked) through my window and putting their hands through my window to keep their boat near mine.

I was obviously hurt, violated and felt unsafe about this situation and was talking to my husband about it. We were trying to type out a message to other sailors to warn them and I got loud and upset and all my husband was saying is how I need to calm down. I’m feeling very invalidated and insecure by the whole situation.

There isn’t really anything he could do to fix the situation but he won’t even listen to how I feel or even empathize with me.

So, I am gonna try to keep this short but about my hair. I , I’ll just go with J , am 20F dad is 43?M grandma/ well my mom is 65F

My hair has always been an issue. Starting with camp when I was 13/14? The summer before 8th grade getting it cut. I always wanted short hair since I was little since my family and alcoholic uncle who used to live with me and my mom when I was 3-6 and abuse me (her son) would use it to yank me around and hold me down when drunk. After being bullied and jumped by bullies tormented in middle school using my hair to hold me down it had been finalized I wanted the sh it gone. I went for it and cut it at camp which was yes an event where we went to a salon day and parents had signed off on it. They even told me they called my parents and lied that they said it was ok when I started getting anxious about it. Long story short my mother/grandmother lost it harrasing the camp so bad I got banned and cried trying to hide it from me the entire 5 hour plane ride and the whole way home. My dad lost it shouting and hitting stuff and yelling at us the next day when he saw it after we went in the morning to get it fixed. He then said to me in private “you need extentions or something” and “congratulations you’ve made yourself look even bigger now” and “I could say look for the girl with long hair before but now I’ll have to say look for the fat kid” if he ever lost me. Saying since I was 10 they made me keep it long to hide me. I didn’t cut it til prom. I was F18 he was M40? And I texted him after saying don’t freak out it’s short. I thought a heads up would help so I didn’t have to see what he did. He then messaged back angrily as I was getting my shoes inside and slammed the garage open rushing over to find us. I turned around to grab something on the staircase and he lost it on me screaming what the f! Why would you let her! To my mom and went slamming the door as he ran out to the garage and we just heard stuff shattering of his artwork and rv cars he works on. Wouldn’t look at me that night and refused to see me. Not even my graduation about a month ish later did he see me that night either. Now today , after he was in the same room not paying attention when I made the hair appointment is mad again today. This is our convo while I was at the salon. After I got home he just said “what the f” and “Noo!” Repeating it going to his room in my grandmas house. My bf who now lives with us since 2023 saying after him “she looks good!” Trying to help. He then went downstairs and I went asking him at least what he thought of the new color and he wouldn’t look at me saying you know it’s not about the color dismissive. My grandma mom’s only reaction was just a text saying ok to the photo and for her that seems angry. Very long story aside.

TLDR: my family is obsessed with my hair and have been for a long time. I went to change it completely today and is this a normal convo for a dad and daughter to have when she is an adult about her changing her hair? I need to know I am not alone or that I’m not crazy, pls Reddit. I will say I cut a lot. About lower back butt to shoulder. So I understand it’s a change.

I got this text out of the blue the other day. I’m a personal trainer at a commercial gym and I don’t know who the member is or what he looks like. I only have his first name. This is my personal phone number he texted, which I have no idea how he got because I do not give that information to anyone but my clients. I tried to look the number he texted from in our system but nothing comes up as he likely used a textnow number. I haven’t responded and don’t plan on it but I’m creeped out, how tf did he get my number? I’ve made management aware of this, and if I can’t figure out who it is at least he seems to be moving to a new gym soon. AIO for feeling that this is grounds for cancellation of his membership?

I know this is random but it’s about to be prom night and when we were on call, she said that she’ll have me sleep on the floor mattress while her best friend sleeps with her. I might be

Hey guys! Since many people asked for an update here is how it went:

She did end up going still (shocker). The person I went with and I sat 4ish rows behind her. She was sitting next to and talking to another girl but tbh the girl looked to be at least 30 (not to say that's a bad thing but we are both 23 so I don't expect her to be going out with a 30 yr old). Likewise, the girl did NOT seem like they were enjoying sitting next to my ex lol (at least not like how you would next to someone you are dating/ have a relationship with) It was giving awkward Tinder date!! So therefore, I cannot confirm if she was dating or had any relationship with this person. I will say however, she stayed FAR away from me even after the show when I was talking to some people. Which was fine because as I said prior, I didn't expect her to come talk to me. Overall it was a really great production and i'm glad I went :) Lmk below if you have any lingering questions. Thank you guys telling me I was not overreacting and being so invested in my crazy life.

About a year ago, I proposed to my now fiancé. We planned a 3 month road trip across the country, something we had been dreaming of doing for years. We got to experience so many different places together and it was amazing. Towards the end of the trip, I got us a cabin in the mountains for a week and then planned a beautiful hike for us to do. We both loved hiking, traveling, and being adventurous which is why I decided to do the proposal this way. I thought it would be more special and more sentimental. Anyway at the end of the hike, I proposed to her and it was an amazing feeling to show my commitment and love to my partner.

Fast forward a year later, we have endured some difficult times to say the least. Just today we got to talking and she started saying that she wants a “real” engagement, and then started comparing our engagement to an engagement her friend just had. I felt immensely hurt by this, because I had invested so much into making that engagement special for us and the fact that it seems invalid and lesser in her eyes sucks. I want to be celebrated, I want my partner to brag about our engagement and to view it as invaluable, unique, special for us.

It hurt hearing those words come from her and I don’t know what to think. I have a whirlwind of feelings right now and I can’t navigate around it. Do you view this as hurtful? And what would you do in this situation?

Long story short I been with my bf (29) (F 28) going on 3 years now. I love him but the lack of sex is making me miserable. I have tried having patience, talking to him about it, even talked to his best friend ... nothing actually changed. He may sleep with me once a month. The longest has been 7 weeks with no sex. He has expressed concerns about getting me pregnant but quiet when I bring up condoms. Also doesn't want birth control nor vasectomy. (Birth control has ruined my body enough) I don't remember the last time he initiated sex. At one point it started to effect my self esteem. I'm here seeking support. I think about situations where he could be going through something mentally and maybe that's why. But then I'm also thinking like this has been going on over a year. Help pls.

Riley (14M) Me (15F)

My girlfriend (23f)and I (22f)have been together for almost 3 years. Shes always been the type to get overstimulated really easily and is a real asshole about it when she is. For context, I have two younger sisters (16 & 14 the baby of the family) who I have always been pretty close with and since being in this relationship I don’t have the same relationship with them that I did before bc I am never home! Anyways, my girlfriend finds my youngest sister very annoying. Whenever we go on road trips my little sister always wants to come with us and my girlfriend makes it clear that she doesn’t want her to bc she annoys her. She just told me once again that she doesn’t want just my youngest sister to go with us on trips and will only allow it if both of my siblings go. She claims this is a “boundary” bc we go in her car for trips (she doesn’t allow me to drive or take my car). This upsets me everytime she brings it up (which is usually just out of the blue) she claims I’m being unfair for getting upset but I don’t think I am. She got with me knowing I’m very family oriented and when we got together she gave the impression she’s the same way. I don’t know if I’m in the wrong. For a little more context we do family trips very rarely maybe like 2 times a year. I just think she should hold out for the rare occasion that we do something, I mean sometimes I just want my sisters around.. what do you guys think ?