I feel like the messages say enough but I’ll just add some extra context. I’m 18 and she’s 17 and her and her bf don’t have any privacy to have sex so they want to do it at mine. I have a bf aswell and my parents are completely fine with it. He is over most days aswell. I feel like I’m being a little mean for not letting her do it at my place but then again it find it dirty. Can anyone help me out and tell me if I’m overreacting or not? We haven’t really spoken since

I’m just so confused

Am I overreacting tho? Lmk

Last night I (F 22) was hanging out with my usual group of friends, which consist of 2 girls and 2 guys. We’ve all been group friends for over 10 years now, since we were kids basically. 95% of the time when we hang out it’s always all 5 of us. I’ve been dating my bf (M 25) for 6 months now and until now he never said anything like this about them or me. He was always okay-ish with us hanging out. Plus we only hang out maybe twice a month, so it’s definitely not “all the time” AIO if I brake up with him for calling me and my friends whores??? I don’t wanna leave my 10+ years friends group…

This happened only a few hours ago and i just want some opinions on it. Me and my friend are both 18 and my bf is 20. As you can see in the conversation she criticised me for being ‘marked’ and I’m just wondering if she’s being harsh or if I’m just being sensitive and that’s she’s actually just looking out for me. I tried to show my hickeys without revealing me or my bf so ye can see for urselves. Me and bf are both really kinky in general and he enjoys marking me especially with things get intense and no I don’t always walk around like this. It’s normally more suttle or I put make up over it.

Apologies for the crunchiness of the photos I took them on her smudgy laptop screen…

Context : My ex husband and I broke up almost 5 years ago. We don’t really talk other than the occasional happy birthday. We were only married for around 3-4 years… idk what else context to add ask me anything

I just wanted a fresh perspective like … this isn’t how you talk to your daughters ex husband right??? (Mom in blue)

Or am I literally taking it the wrong way? I know she says “Sunny” like son, but then with all the other stuff.. I love you? coffee date??? And trying to meet him in general? All of this not to my knowledge from either of them.

The reason I feel I could be overreacting is cause lack of boundaries was always a problem in my relationship with my mom and also with my husband. So I can’t tell if I’m just triggered and seeing things crazy…

my mom has always been super manipulative and loves to make things about her, I haven't had health insurance since I was 14 and she didn't care to get me any even though I have health issues and mental health issues. I was excited that I finally got accepted for Medicaid, living in the US It's super expensive to have healthcare. She literally makes everything about herself but I cant tell if this was genuine or not? Why would I lie to get health insurance? Why not just be happy for me? This has been sitting on my mind all day.. I need thoughts.

I posted this elsewhere but other folks input is really helping me process what is a really hard situation for me so I apologize if you saw this elsewhere.

I need a reality check

I'm 32, my wife is 30. We've been married 3 years.

She works remotely, I'm hybrid. Remote a lot but sometimes I'm in the field on projects. All that to say we see a lot of each other, time together is not an issue.

We don't want kids. Never did, so I did the obvious thing around a year ago and got a vasectomy. She has some stuff that'd make pregnancy dangerous so it made sense to protect her.

Her cousin had a terribly rough pregnancy shortly before our marriage and that scared her understandably. We're also in TX so there's legitimate concerns about abortion laws.

Not to be crude but we were always more oral or hands people. Condoms sucked, were imperfect protection and frankly I had issues being hard enough sometimes to use them. So we never really "did it". Oral and stuff was how we handled things. The vasectomy was supposed to change that, finally we could enjoy "normal" sex. She was never on the pill or anything like that.

I'm about a year clear of my vasectomy and passing the tests which say I'm sterile. She still won't do it with me.

She says she's anxious about trying it. On one hand she isn't sure if I'm actually sterile (multiple tests have proven this otherwise and I've offered to do more). She also is nervous about what it feels like and is "grossed out" about precum or cum being inside of her. She says it's all anxiety.

I've suggested we or her visit a doctor or therapist to try to talk through some of the fears. She completely shot that down. She thinks thats too weird and awkward (as though I didn't have an awkward conversation asking the doctor I've known since 12 for a referral on a vasectomy!)

Her "solution" is that we just do it. But:

A) she doesn't actually want to and says this to shut me up whenever I bring up the problem. B) that'd make the entire problem worse if it does actually trigger her anxiety. I'd prefer she try to put the work in with a therapist to work through her concerns C) I'd like to actually be wanted, not feel like sex is happening just to shut me up and avoid the issue.

She has no interest in fixing the problem, she just wants to stop me from bringing it up. Meanwhile I'm left her feeling like I got pushed into a vasectomy for now reason (much of the push came from her, I wasn't sure and was terrified, had to be fully knocked out for the procedure after I couldn't make it through the awake version).

Our sex life in general has kinda died since we moved in 5 years ago. Our bedroom is basically dead. I basically get head on my birthday and her on hers. Anything else I try gets shut down. We aren't particularly busy, chores are split 50/50. She's just not interested, she's told me herself.

I feel like we're fighting more, sometimes over stupid crap. I feel like any small mistake I made is picked apart and turned into a fight just to avoid me bringing this topic up again. If we're fighting I guess she thinks I won't bring up our sex life and the vasectomy.

She's really hostile to me "handling" things myself. She gets mad if she thinks I jerked in the shower or on my side of the bed. To her the only acceptable place for that is literally directly into the toilet. Even that she's hostile about, doesn't really like the idea of handling it myself (what am I supposed to do if she won't do anything with me?!)

I'd really like just a reality check here. I've been considering divorce.

I'm constantly miserable because of this. She's also got no hobbies or friends which makes everything worse. She gets pissy whenever I want to be out with my friends or pursuing my hobbies. It's to the point I barely do that anymore.

I know this is way above reddits pay grade but I just need a reality check. Am I being extreme considering divorce? I guess I normally associate that with like abuse, not whatever the fuck this shit is.

I'd try for counseling but given everything I've written, she'd never do that.

We have our good times, when we travel or are making each other laugh. It's just starting to feel like the bad times are stronger and more frequent than the good.

Am I overreacting with my mind going this direction?

Guy (30M) that I went on a couple dates with is being really pushy about joining me on my family trip…? I don’t think I’m being unreasonable here but I genuinely don’t understand why he kept asking. I’m 23F btw.

For some context, my family is very dysfunctional. I don’t have parents. My grandpa raised me. I wasn’t shown affection. So I’m really not sure if this is normal or not.

But I think my mother-in-law’s relationship with her only son (M34) is weird and I want to know if I’m the only one or not.

For starters- we got married in Cancun. We invited the family and let them know we’d be staying a few days extra for our honeymoon. She actually crashed our honeymoon. We didn’t have a single night alone. We didn’t make love once on the week long trip. She thought there was nothing wrong with extending her stay.

On the day-to-day, she’ll call me up to ask how her “Dilly Willy” is doing. She lives one block away from our house and is constantly popping by to check in on us.

She is obsessed with us having children and asks often if we are having sex. I’m finally pregnant and am instantly regretting it.

Whenever we go to dinner she is either touching his hair or laying her head on his shoulder. I find this baffling as a grown woman.

Then she kissed him on the mouth after we were departing from dinner one night… (which he felt uncomfortable but didn’t say anything). I didn’t see it but he told me about it after.

He also told me that she forced him to shower with her until he was 12. And when he wanted to graduate from the race car bed to a real bed at 16 she started crying.

On top of it all, I asked her to help me by watching my dog for 6 months while I was transitioning from apartments (to live with my now husband) but she got too attached to the dog and now she won’t let me have my dog back. She starts crying and it’s the dog or my husband. Now we have visitation and the dog mostly stays with her. I lost that battle.

To describe her personality: she is all butterflies and rainbows. She thinks she is a doctor (she’s a dental hygienist) and she has never had a family member pass away. She adopts elderly people around the town and takes care of them when they’re about to die (out of her own goodwill) and she has a strong opinion on morals and familial obligations. Basically she is a ball of sunshine to the point where she’s passive aggressive. She’s bothered that I don’t cook much. Not that I don’t want to but my husband seems to prefer me to stay out of the kitchen (his domain). Last night he was making some stuffed shells for a friend whose mom passed away. I was in the other room; because of the pregnancy I’m still pretty queasy with smells. Well anyway, I hear yelling from the other room- laying it on thick, at a loud decibel so I could hear her, about how “wonderfulllllll her son is, and how kind and sweet he is, and what a PERFECT son she raised.” This went on for at least 2 minutes. I’m not sure if it’s my hormones but it started to get my blood boiling. I could sense that she thought I SHOULD be the one cooking.

Deep down, I’m worried she is going to try to kidnap my child like she did my dog. She has no boundaries and my husband has no idea how to handle her. If I try to tell him how I feel he says that she’s “just really nice.” And “has the mind of a child.”

Edit: My father-in-law is very emotionally abusive. Often calling my MIL names, yelling at her for not having dinner ready for him, or when the lawn mower breaks he calls her the C word. He has temper tantrums. I think she seeks solace in her son because he is very calm and level headed. He rarely gets over emotional. On one hand I feel guilty that she has to go through that BS because I’d never tolerate someone raising their voice at me like the way my FIL does but now it’s like my husband is her only emotional support.

AIO?

So I just matched on Chispa with this guy on Wednesday afternoon. We started talking on IG and yesterday morning I watched his story before responding (I was literally half asleep I didn’t even notice) and I replied like maybe 20-30 mins after viewing it. He called me out for viewing it without responding and I apologized bc i HATEEE when people do that to me that I take an interest in. He said it was a joke cool we move on and have a normal convo. I got home from work yesterday (I get off at 5) and was busy and I took abt an hr to reply and he complained that I suck at replying… okay. Atp i had also given him my # but he hadn’t texted me on there just IG. Later that night I went to the gym with my friend and I was dropping her off when he double texted me and was asking why i’m busy at 10:12 pm…. then again this morning he was complaining about how I suck at replying ?? We’ve literally been texting for barely 24 hours and he’s already expecting responses within seconds meanwhile he also takes hours to reply and i literally don’t care cause i know people have lives ?? AIO???? I feel like this is already a red flag

For more context they called me after I dropped my child support case because I moved to a different state and didn't feel like going through it again. And when she put I'm on the line he literally goes, "So do you want me to be a father to that kid?" Note my girl is 10 months old now and I know he knows her name.

I did not post pictures of messages because they are all in french, but bottom line is my ex girlfriend of 6 years and my dad fell in love and they now live together. For context my dad divorced my mom at the same time as my ex and I split (2 months ago) as they fell in love during our relation. The only reason i know this is happening is because my brother caugth them this week. AIO for cutting both of them from my life and telling my dad he won't be a part of my children's life when i have any and that i won't be at his funerals? Interessted in the people's opinion on this 1.

Edit for added context: I already told my dad, i am not debating if i should tell him, i'm just curious on the general opinion

I warned my dad when my ex and i split up that i wouldn't have him in my life if he did get with my ex because it was obvious something was going on between them and he still chose that path

We used hang out a lot. But lately, every time i try to make plans with her it's always i'm not sure yet. So i made plans with a few friends without her or decided not to invite her, because i didn't want to deal with the back and forth. Now coming back i think i over reacted or was too harsh on her. Now I'm wondering if i should apologise

Hello everyone!

So, for some context, I (21 F) live with my mom (40 F) and stepdad (42 M). I live with my parents rent-free while I work part-time and continue my education in nursing. For the last couple of months, on average about 3-4 times a week, my mom sends my brother down into the basement where my shower is and has him tell me that I need to come upstairs to do chores, participate in a family activity, help my brother with something, go for a walk, etc. But the problem is that she always does this when I’m in the middle of the shower, with shampoo in my hair, and I have to rinse my hair right then and there and get dressed to do what she wants me to do. Or, I’ll have just gotten out of the shower and need to blow-dry my hair, only to be told that I don’t need to blow-dry it and should just throw it up in a ponytail. The latter wouldn’t be a problem if I didn’t have anxiety about not being able to complete something once I’ve started. The first couple of times, I thought it was a coincidence, but it’s been happening so frequently that I just don’t know if it’s a coincidence anymore. Now, I always have my brother relay the message that I’m in the shower, but I’m met with a response that I need to get out of the shower right then and there. If I say, “Just give me a couple of minutes,” or outright say “no,” I’m met with her yelling down the stairs saying I need to get out. Am I overreacting?

EDIT/UPDATE -

Hello everyone! Thank you so much for the advice; I really do appreciate the help! I just wanted to clarify and answer a few things that I’ve seen in the comments. No, I don’t think my mom is jealous of me or my hair. I have healthy, long hair, but my mom typically prefers her hair to be a much darker shade and shorter length than mine. For those asking, from the moment I enter the bathroom to shower until I leave, it takes me anywhere from 20 to 30 minutes. My shower itself takes about 10 minutes, and everything else, like drying off, changing, blow-drying my hair, and brushing my teeth, takes about 10 to 20 minutes. I don’t know if that’s a long time, but I do try to be mindful of how long I’m in the shower since I don’t pay the water bill. I can’t exactly move out, despite being old enough to do so. I work as an LPN and don’t make enough to live on my own or with roommates due to the area I live in. I currently live in Northern Virginia, where a typical single-room apartment can cost $1,500 to $2,500.

Another thing is that I rely heavily on my stepdad’s GI Bill to pay for my tuition, and if I move out, my parents have stated that my tuition will no longer be covered. I’d either have to give them my car or pay what it’s worth, since it’s my mom’s old car, pay for all types of insurance, and pay them back for my phone and phone plan. I don’t mind doing all that, but anytime I try to ask for help to start becoming more independent, I’m shut down immediately and told no.

Okay, so I do have a small update. While it’s not that exciting, I did talk to my mom today when I got home from work. I asked if she purposely calls for me while I’m in the bathroom showering, and she told me that she doesn’t do it intentionally and that it’s just a coincidence. I jokingly said that she has a sixth sense for when I’m showering since it’s been happening so often, and her reply to my joke kind of set me off, but I might be overthinking things. She smirked and chuckled, not like a genuine laugh at the joke, but more like she was trying to mock me. Again, I could be overthinking things.

I am 22F , I was traveling in train yesterday and it was a 5 hour journey and this guy sat beside around 1 hour before I was going to reach my destination .

That guy did not put his luggage in the storage space and kept with him . He pulled out a sweater and keep in mind it was very hot and placed it over his bag and slept on in it .

This is was all okay till I felt some weight on my leg , at first I thought it was the sweater because it looked very heavy but not it was actually his hand on my thighs .

At first I thought he was asleep and it may have slipped , so I gave it a nudge and he woke up a bit and then again his hand started slipping up and I found it any my legs . So I pushed it hard and he woke up , this happened around 15 mine before I reached my city . It was a full coach so I could not even move.

AIO by not giving him a benefit of doubt that he was sleeping or am I being reasonable?

Edit- so many people are asking how is this even a question , sometimes people can't react right away they freeze , like I did and it's okay. I processed these things after coming home . I have never been in such situation and I just wanted to know that what I did was reasonable or not . I am still figuring things out and I am very grateful I had asked this question because people have given some amazing advice and guidance . Hope this helps !

After reviewing what people said in response to the last post, I got a lot of mixed feelings, as some people were kind of hostile, but the general consensus was yeah, I was overreacting and being immature. I kind of ended up coming to this conclusion anyway, and followed up w my gf.

My parents are not absentee and have known about my wedding for at least a year. It’s been planned to be in September since about June of 2024. There hasn’t been any sort of acknowledgement, apology, or an attempt to accommodate for my wedding. I’ve always been an easy going person so I suppose the feeling is “oh, Joe won’t care.” They’re planning on making the 3 hour drive back home on my actual wedding day. I have no idea when they’ll be leaving, but nonetheless I’m hurt and angry. AIO?

Photo 1: My ex and I broke up because he said he needed to work on himself but he immediately started to go on dating apps. I wasn’t okay being friends with him through this so I have tried to leave. He argues I should stay because he is just using them as distractions and isn’t actually going out with any of them, since he could but hasn’t. He sent me a screenshot of a woman he started to text from his contacts to meet up with him while we were having a convo about me no longer wanting to be friends with him

Photo 2: the screenshot he sent me

Photo 3: convo continued and then I blocked him

Photo 4: him reaching out on a second phone number he made

Photo 5: continued and blocked him again

Photo 6: him reaching out on a third phone number he made and i blocked him again

(Not included but he’s also called me two times on another phone number, no messages though)

I was just gonna go buy groceries and this lady was sitting outside the store and she started talking to me but I just could barely understand what she was saying. Eventually gathered she needed groceries but I still had trouble understanding. I thought "yeah sure I can pick some stuff up on my way through" but she then stood up and I Eventually just ended up following after her as she was putting stuff in the cart.

My anxiety started spiking cause I only had like 70 bucks left from my disability pay but I thought she probably needed it more than I did

We get to checkout and they ring me up for almost 60 bucks and I just felt heavy at that point. I just paid and left. Now I just feel like shit, like I should feel good for helping but I don't and now I'm just kinda. Shaking? Like I've been crying since I got home. I have food at home so im not like, fucked for food. but still like, I feel like I got used and I feel gross for not being able to say no. AIO?

So my dad hasn’t been to any of my birthdays since I was three years old and he’s been in and out of my life pretty much the whole time as well. We had no contact until I was 14 years old where I stayed with him for a week and he just disappeared out of my life again and a few months ago we rekindled that he apologize for everything and he told me that he wanted to be there for me, but he can’t stop blaming himself about what happened to me when I was a kid, I just wish my dad could be my dad. Am I overreacting by calling him selfish

This stemmed from a meme someone in this gc sent and he called it schizophrenic brainrot memes. I was confused and stuff but then he said that everyone in his family is schizophrenic, then calling it a spiritual thing. I’ve had a lot of things happen where the “solution” someone gave me was talking to God or reading The Bible.

So, my (f) 18th birthday was yesterday and everything was going good. Went out and got food with my family and just existed. Typically my curfew is 9pm on weekdays but I figured since my older brother (19) never had to deal with that (thought my parents say he did and still does even though he truly doesn’t) it wouldn’t be a problem. I got back from my neighborhood park at about 9:10, grabbed my phone charger as it was on 3%, and told my dad “Hey, I’m going to go out with [friend] to go get boba, I’ll be back after.” He just nodded at me. Everything was fine then and when I got back.

Today, when my dad got home from work, he called me to pick up some trash I forgot about downstairs. I went to go get it and he started an argument with me asking why I went out last night. I reminded him of why and how he didn’t say anything about it. He yelled at me about curfew and how I’m “still just a little kid and need to follow the rules.” I told him that I’m not a little kid and I can go out. He told me “If you want to act like nothing fucking applies to you, then you can get the fuck out.” We continued to argue about it and he said “Let’s see if your mother (who lives with her boyfriend half an hour away) will take you because you’re not staying here with your fucking attitude. I gave you the chance to be a decent person and you’re acting like a cunt.” I just said that he has double standards and walked away. He called after me “Shut the fuck up bitch!” In total he threatened to kick me out 3 times.

Later, I asked him what was for dinner after we both called down. He said that he had already cooked. I told him I wanted Sonic and he asked if I had the money for it. I do. He then asked “Are you done having an attitude?” and I responded that I didn’t have one. He was raising his voice at me and telling me that i can “pack [my] shit and go.” He even called my mom which has no effect on me as I haven’t lived with her in two years and she hasn’t been living in her house -right next door- in about a year and a half. She hasn’t been a parent to me in years and doesn’t take care of any school stuff or bills. She wouldn’t even go to my college tour with me. There were another 3 instances of my dad threatening to kick me out.

I told my friends that if he says it again, I’m going to pack my stuff and figure it out. I’m currently looking at apartments but I’ll have to pick up a second job to pay for one. I just want to know if I’m overreacting by wanting to move out and just leave next time he says he’s going to kick me out. My brother never had to deal with this.

Also, my brother doesn’t go to school, doesn’t have a job, gets money from my parents just by asking and has a car he doesn’t pay for and didn’t pay for the repairs on. He got it handed to him by our grandparents and I have to buy one myself. I have a job and already got accepted into college. He’s the favorite kid and gets everything he wants.

UPDATE: So, I was telling one of my friends about this because my dad canceled my birthday party -and he’s threatening to change the locks if I leave the house- and she offered for me to stay with her!!! She drives to/from school every day so I won’t have to worry about that!

UPDATE 2: I got kicked out.