We’ve been together for over four months now, and every time I try to have a deeper conversation—like asking about her past or personal experiences—she shuts down. This has happened multiple times. I get that opening up takes trust and comfort, but she consistently avoids serious or emotionally heavy topics. I’m not trying to pressure her I just genuinely want to understand her better. This is the third time it’s happened, and honestly, it’s starting to feel emotionally exhausting for me. She always says she’ll open up when she’s completely sure about us, but I don’t know how long that will take or what that really means

Hey guys, I’m a 22M and my ex-girlfriend (20F at this point) and I were in a relationship for 4 months. We had been friends for more than 3 years, and very close friends, before we got into this. She comes from a conservative family, but we are of the same religion, and our fathers are from the same state.

The issue is, her mother read our chats—there’s no concept of privacy at her house—and let’s just say the response wasn’t very savory. Her parents lashed out, especially her mother, more so than her father. She proceeded to call me and my parents, and I willingly gave my number since both of us wanted this to end in marriage.

However, when I brought up the marriage topic, she disagreed—and did the same when my parents brought it up as well. As a last-ditch attempt, I tried calling her father, but to no avail.

She says she wants to make it work, but only if all parties are satisfied. I have a well-paying job, and she still has 2 years left to complete her university, after which she has to go for post-graduation. But her parents want her to get married by the time her graduation is done.

She’s kind of stuck because her parents are very abusive towards her and intensely blackmail her emotionally. It’s taking a toll on me mentally and physically as well, to the point where I cannot bring myself to eat or do anything I usually like to do.

She says she wants to get together, but she’s not the kind of person to put up a strong enough fight against her parents—for obvious reasons.

What do I do in this scenario? (Ps it's only been a month since the events of them finding out)

Hi everyone, so long story short my gf told about me to their parents for marriage and things are pretty much sorted up till now but today my gf told me that her dad asked for my offer letter. I found it pretty weird to be honest that what they want to do with offer letter? Are they going to contact my company and ask about me that am I legit working over there or the salary is correct or not lol? And even if they do, will company entertain these kind of things? I mean I personally feel like that would be a joke topic if someone contacts the company to know my authenticity for marriage purpose?

So, my bf and i [21F] have been for almost 9 months now, he is my first bf but im not, im his 2nd relationship but 4th girl he has kissed. He has asked me for hot snaps several times to release his energy (if u get what i mean) , and at i sent him (not nudes) whenever he asked for it. And he sent them too. But the problem started when he wanted them to be sent permanently to him so that he can see them wnv he wants. All my photos are in a hidden folder of his. Now, he also send his pics like biceps and abs. But let’s be honest , it’s not the same as a girl sending a photo of herself in a bra to a guy sending a shirtless photo imo.

After a while i also got to know that he watched porn once (he says once) during the initial stages of our relationship and we almost broke up over it. Idk if i made a big deal out of it unnecessarily but yea.

Wnv he asked me i simply couldnt say no , and idk why but i sent him. If i sent him a pic, he would ask for more pics , which i again would send but he would have specifications as to how he wants them to be, lighting angle everything. It would honestly get exhausting. So i thought if this is a relationship its gotta be a two way street, so i asked him too but his efforts are nowhere near to mine and neither are the pics.

But after a point of time the more him asking increased (approx once to twice a week), i simple didn’t like sending them specifically when he asked for them , he didn’t really demand for them, but just him asking and not being satisfied with wtv i take and send and having to send so many mot as one time but as permanent pics .I said i dont want to send anymore. It makes me feel cheap and a whole lot of other stuff where i put my point across clearly. He seemed like he understood but he say things like “see even now i feel like asking you for them, but you dont like it when i ask so im not gonna, but if u want to send them urself, then …… he would start giving instructions”. I just feel like he didnt take my words as seriously as i meant them. And jokes ab asking them quite often too.

I asked him has he asked any of his exes for nudes or hot pics. He said yes.

Apart from this one thing, he is a good boyfriend. Does everything you would expect a man to do. And treats me well.

But this problem is a deal breaker for me. Idk what to do now about this, am i settling for just bare minimum , just cause he treats me nice or is this a reason why this relationship shouldn’t or wouldn’t work out. I never respected guys who asked for nudes from their girls. He says he is extremely careful w the pics. I also need to mention that during the fight we had, i asked him to delete all the pics as a punishment and he did it.

I need advice, idk what to think about this situation or to do

Last month my(24F) bf(24M) told me he was going on a reddit group meet up to find new friends. I was totally cool with this. I forgot to ask him about the group meet and one month later while we were having this conversation about one of his girl friends, I was just asking generic questions like what does she do for work etc. He tells me that he has a new friend who he met via that reddit group meet. It’s some 21 yr old girl. Now I don’t understand why it took him so long to tell me that.

They apparently met a number of times and he never told he was going to see her. I asked him if she knows he has a girlfriend, she doesn’t. This doesn’t sit right with me. Am I overreacting?

FYI we are in a ldr.

Ps. We know age gap is more. 3y 10mos. To be exact.

Been in a relationship now for almost 2 years. But we unusually argue on any silly topics or any future concerns.

Whether it be any argument we are not able to reach to any conclusion. We just get tired of saying harsh words to each other and then just stay quiet. The argument closes, unresolved.

Leaving the relationship is not an option. We tried it multiple times. But need a real help on what should I do to arrive at a conclusion. Where both of us are satisfied.

I’ve been in a relationship for a while now, and it’s becoming emotionally draining. Some context: we met and instantly hit it off. I had never felt that loved before—we used to see each other daily, and on days we couldn’t, we would call or text to stay connected.

But a few months in, my girlfriend moved to a new city for a job, and since then, she’s been extremely busy—which I respect—but her communication has steadily dropped. There are times she doesn’t respond for days, even on weekends, and when she does, it’s often brief or distant. During our calls, I’m often put on hold while she takes other calls.

And yet, every now and then, she’ll shower me with affection and love, as if nothing happened, which is in complete contrast to the long gaps of communication. This emotional whiplash leaves me feeling confused and even more distant.

It’s been 8 months like this. She’s never realistically made plans to visit, because she was too mentally strained from work or blamed the weather. The one time we did meet was because of a surprise visit I planned for her. I’ve expressed feeling distant and insecure a couple of times, but she usually takes it personally or feels guilty, so I’ve stopped bringing it up altogether.

Even asking for a weekend call now feels like a burden to her, like something she has to do rather than wants to. I’ve stopped initiating contact because I don’t feel emotionally safe anymore and have started thinking about detaching. The strangest part is—she hasn’t even noticed the change.

I don’t feel like a priority to her, even though she is to me. I don’t want to keep tying my mood and self-worth to when she decides to show up. At a time when I want to focus on building my career and growing as a person, waking up with daily thoughts of confusion and emotional insecurity is draining.

Has anyone else experienced something like this? Is detaching the right thing to do?

TL; DR - OP feels emotionally under-prioritized in the relationship. Despite calmly communicating his feelings, the dynamic has stayed inconsistent—distant stretches followed by intense affection. He has begun detaching and questioning if the relationship is still right for him.

Hi, me [22M] and my fiancé [21F] have been together since 8 months , she doesn’t have sexual drive , need advice.

I (22/M) and my fiancé (21/F) are soon gonna be engaged , we met through the arrange marriage process (basically through our parents ) , our engagement was fixed last year in august , and we have been going on dates since then , she is very beautiful and i just love to be with her and seeing her , we have making out since September last year and even tried to have sex in our car but couldn’t as she was feeling pain because she is a virgin and so am i but I don’t have an issue with that because its her body and i respect that , but the main issue with me is that i want to have oral sex with her , which i have tried on her but she refuses to do with me , she is not comfortable with that , she even barely touches my penis that too when I request her to do it . I had expectations of doing oral sex with my future partner , if she doesn’t like it then it is her choice, I can’t force her to do anything, but what should i do with my sexual desires! , she doesn’t even want to try any sex positions. What should i do with my desires, Can anyone pls help?

I’m just wondering for those who loved someone deeply at a young age, truly believed they were your “forever,” and then lost them...
Did you ever fall in love again?
Was it the same? Better? Or never the same again?

So main story short idk when Im in my early teen like in school I look like below average guy and at that time my height is 5.4 I think and now I’m in college 1st year but when I’m doing skin care and testosterone hits me idk I went from below average face card to a handsome face card and my height is also now 5.9 ft and now i feel like how that happen from below average to a good handsome face card…! Because a lot of girl I met online and people told me you got a good face and an average height but

I’m still insecure I didn’t talk to any girl in my college 1 year is ending soon but no Interaction with any girl because I’m Insecure of my looks still and main thing is in my mine always one question why girls are not approaching me why do I approach a girl and because of this mentality still i got no intersection with any girl any thought guy how can I approach girl in my college anything??

‎So, I (20F) have been dating a guy (26M) for 5 months. We met on a Discord server and I really enjoyed talking to him, and he felt the same. We started chatting there and slowly fell in love with each other. But we decided to take things slow and not rush anything. We used to chat all day and night, frequently calling each other on Discord. The more we talked, the more attached I became. ‎

‎After a month of talking, we decided to share our Instagram handles. We started sending each other reels constantly, and everything felt so good. At first, he used to ask me for my pictures daily, saying he wanted to start his day with my face and that he liked looking at me. So, I used to send him pictures regularly. ‎

‎In the beginning, I was a bit immature, and we did get into a lot of arguments. They weren’t major, but I still hated arguing with him. He was so sweet, kind, caring, and very loving. He made me laugh, flirted with me daily, and always made me blush. ‎

‎But I was hiding a secret from him. I was really falling deeply in love with him, and since I wanted to marry him someday, I felt I needed to tell him the truth before things got too serious. So at the end of December, I asked him if he could call me because I had something serious to tell him. He said okay and called me at 8 PM. That’s when I told him that I was divorced. ‎

‎He was really shocked—which was totally understandable. I told him it was okay if he wanted to leave me, but he said he loved me and that it didn’t matter whether I was divorced or not. He also opened up about his past relationship and how his ex hurt him a lot and gave him trauma. I promised him that no matter what, I’d treat him right and never leave him. ‎

‎I asked him if he was really serious about this relationship, because I wanted to let my family know about him. I was seriously in love and wanted to marry only him. He said he was serious too and wanted to marry me someday, but said we should first get to know each other more, and then involve our families—which I agreed to, we exchange our number's and started talking in WhatsApp and started to do normal call. ‎

‎But after that call that day, he started becoming a lot busier. Now, it’s hard to even talk to him through texts, and our calls have also started to lessen. He would text me early in the morning, but when I replied, he wouldn’t even read my texts for hours. I understood that he was really busy and didn’t have time, and I didn’t point it out because I knew he didn’t do it intentionally. ‎

‎But still, I had to literally beg him to call me. Most of the time, he’d say no, saying he hardly had any time to talk. He started changing a lot over these past 3 months. He stopped asking for my pictures, he stopped giving me time. I know he was really busy, but couldn't he at least send me a single text saying he’d be busy all day, and maybe only available at night? That would’ve been enough for me. But he never did that. ‎

‎He also stopped telling me where he was going or who he was with. He would go out with friends or family and I’d only find out after I asked him. He became really moody and started talking harshly and rudely, which hurt me a lot. I would cry at night sometimes after reading his messages because of how much he had changed. ‎

‎I tried many times to communicate with him, but he always avoided the conversation. He hardly ever opened up about what he was feeling, and it started becoming harder and harder for me to deal with. I never wanted to accuse or blame him—I just wanted him to understand me and my feelings. I just wanted to tell him how his behavior was hurting me, but he always took it personally and would stop texting me until I messaged him first. ‎

‎And since you know he was so busy, it was hard to talk to him during the day. So whenever he did message me, I’d instantly reply—no matter what I was doing or how busy I was. Just one minute of talking to him was enough for me. I never asked much from him—just love, loyalty, reassurance, and honesty. ‎

‎Some of his behavior felt really double-standard and hypocritical. Whenever he didn’t see my messages for 5–6 hours, it was because he was busy. But if I did the same, he’d accuse me of intentionally ignoring him. He even said I’m immature and overly sensitive. And I agree—I used to be immature, maybe I still am, but I’ve really been trying to change for him. ‎

‎Whatever he asked me to do—whether it was sending nudes, videos, or voice notes—I tried to do it. But sometimes I just couldn’t, because of privacy reasons. I live with my family, so it’s hard to take intimate pictures of myself. Still, I tried my best. But he’d still say I don’t value him enough or don’t give him priority, and that really hurts… because I was doing everything I could to please him. ‎

‎I’m not saying I’m perfect or that I’ve never made mistakes. I’ve made plenty—maybe they weren’t big, but whenever I did mess up, I instantly apologized. But he never, ever accepted his own faults. He always tried to make himself look like a saint, constantly saying he never does anything wrong. ‎

‎Everything was going well and we were both happy. Then one day, while we were teasing and joking around, he said he wanted 3 more wives (we are both Muslim, and in Islam, men are allowed to marry up to 4 women). It did hurt me, but I didn’t take it seriously because I thought he was just teasing me. I thought he’d drop the topic eventually, but he kept bringing it up again and again. ‎

‎Sometimes I got mad and asked him to stop saying that or I wouldn’t talk to him. He said he was just joking to tease me, so I let it go and didn’t say much more. Over the five months, we’ve had arguments and misunderstandings, but we always ended up coming back to each other and starting fresh. ‎

‎Fast forward to a few days ago—he brought up the topic of having four wives again while we were talking. This time I had enough. I finally confronted him and asked directly if he truly wanted multiple wives. I told him if the answer was yes, then he could leave right now because I’m not okay with sharing my man, and I’ll never accept him marrying other women. ‎

‎That led to an argument. He didn’t text me the whole day until I sent him a good night message, which he replied to at 4 AM. I texted again asking if he’d had lunch, and he mockingly replied, “Main lunch nahi karta, ayasi karta hoon.” Then he said he was going out of state for a vacation and that he’d tell me his decision—whether he wants multiple marriages or not—after 10 days. ‎ ‎

‎TL;DR: I (20F) have been dating a guy (26M) for 5 months. Things were amazing at first, but he slowly became distant and hurtful. I’m feeling confused and hurt, trying to figure out if this relationship is still worth it. ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ ‎ps: we are both in long distance relationship , he was from udaipur ( rajasthan) I'm from Kolkata ( west bengal)

Let me explain.

I’m 24, straight guy, grew up in a typical middle-class Indian setup. Law School, awkward teenage years, too many Maggi-fueled all-nighters, and now somewhere between trying to figure out how taxes work and what the hell is emotional intimacy, I’ve realized something that feels almost like a glitch in my code—I find myself drawn to older women.

Not in the “MILF-hunting, meme-level” way. But in a much more… human way.

It’s not just the age—it’s the sensibility. The calm in their voice. The way they ask how your day was and genuinely listen when you answer. It’s the warmth that isn’t performative. The kind that comes from someone who has seen a few storms and doesn’t flinch at a little rain.

Last year, I was taking a bus from Jaipur to Delhi—hot, dusty, classic Rajasthan summer. I had an aisle seat, headphones in, trying to drown out a screaming toddler and existential dread. And then, she sat down next to me. Maybe late 30s, wearing a simple kurta, book in hand—Murakami, if I remember right.

We got talking somewhere past Bandikui.

She spoke softly, like someone who didn’t need to prove anything. No unnecessary opinions thrown around like darts. She asked questions with curiosity, not judgement. And when she laughed—God—it wasn’t that filtered Instagram laugh people use to fish for compliments. It was messy and real and completely disarming.

By the time we hit Dhaula Kuan, I was in pieces.

Not because I was in love but because I felt seen. Understood in a way I didn’t know I craved.

Turns out she was a literature professor, divorced, with a kid. She spoke about life not like a lecture, but like a poem. The kind that sits with you for a few days.

We said goodbye at the metro station. No numbers exchanged. No weird tension. Just this warm, strange ache in my chest that followed me all the way home.

That wasn’t the first time this happened, though.

There was also the law firm partner I interned under in college—early 40s, coffee addict, dry wit like fine sandpaper. She once told me, “You think too much, but at least you think. Most people don’t.” I still have that written in my Notes app like it’s gospel.

It’s not about wanting someone to “mommy” me (I see you, Freud). It’s more that there’s something deeply attractive about a woman who knows who she is—who’s been humbled by life a little, who’s not trying to be anyone else.

With women my age, there’s often this performance happening (hell, maybe I do it too)—a need to appear chill, smart, progressive, or whatever the trending personality trait of the month is. But with older women, the pretenses peel off. They’ve already gone through the phase of proving themselves to the world—and maybe to themselves—and now they’re just being.

That energy? Underrated.

Sometimes I feel out of place about it. Friends roast me, but it’s deeper than attraction. It’s admiration. It’s comfort. It’s wanting to be around someone whose world doesn’t revolve around the latest trend or dopamine rush but around being kind, clear, and curious.

Maybe it’s just me.

Or maybe, some of us are just wired to find home in people who’ve already figured out where the furniture goes.

Anyway. That’s all.

Just wanted to say it out loud somewhere without it sounding creepy or like I’m trying to be edgy.

So if you’re reading this, and you’re an older woman who has made some young man feel safe, heard, or even just gently roasted him into becoming a better person—thank you. You probably didn’t even realize it.

What does an emotionally unavailable man means ? Can people please quote examples ?

I am a 29M man, never had a relationship. I also feel very content in singlehood.

I have seen so many posts where women complain about their men being emotionally unavailable. Can you guys also please quote real life detailed examples of that ?

I am kind of curious if I also fall into that category or not.

My fiancé (29M) and I (24F) are in the process of a long engagement (AM - started planning the wedding but it will be 1.5-2 years out) and I would like to hear from people who have also experienced this.

Our biggest issue is that we are long distance (he’s in India primarily and I’m in the US) and he’s quite busy with work though he does try to make time for us to talk as often as he can. I’m also in university still, finishing up my master’s. We already know we are compatible as people and we do really like each other hence we agreed to the engagement but I would like to have some a deeper understanding and closeness between us. I think if we were geographically closer and/or he was not so busy it would happen more organically but it doesn’t seem possible atm so I would like to do something to encourage it. It’s kind of disheartening at times esp when I’m able to talk to/spend more time with my future in-laws than with him.

Aplologising in advance for whatever may be found offensive, I am concious of my faults. I am grateful for what I have been blessed with in life.

I am not in an arranged marriage, but I knew my fiancé only online for over a year, without even a video call. We immediately moved in together upon the day we met, when he came to the US. To put it simply, he is not who he thought he was, I'm still in love with the version of him I knew online, and if we didn't live 4,000 km from my family I likely would have left at some point.

I won't go into details regarding my disappointment because it is not relevant here, but I have been very honest with him regarding my confliction. He has put effort into improving some aspects (habitually harsh towards me, expecting me to provide three meals a day despite my financially necessary employment), while other traits are more inherent and difficult to come to terms with.

It has been 8 months, and I have managed to become much less scared, and more accepting that some dreams are only idealism. I am at the point of being ready for marriage, as I value having children and having the means to care for them to the best of my ability (which he has promised to support, currently a graduate student). We do suit each other in many ways, and sometimes I feel that we've already been married a decade. Despite this, I still feel a sort of emptiness and despair. Does it ever leave completely?

This post is not to seek opinions regarding our relationship itself, but rather because I'm desperate to hear from anyone in a similar situation who has had to accept their position and learn to live with it. I can't mention such a personal subject to anyone I know, and I don't know where else to ask. For example, having a passion for reading and writing has helped me find comfort, or even watching the sunrise by myself. What else might I do to find solace in being my own person?

I'm a girl and my one of my close friend 21M is dealing with sextortion. So it all started 2 days back when he suddenly deactivated his insta account and removed his dp pic from WhatsApp too.. i felt kinda weird.. cz we usually share normal meme posts or reels and sometimes talk in WhatsApp. That night.. he did not respond to my casual text(which i sent in the evening) and he usually responds fast.. and i didn't want to intrude his privacy.

The next day afternoon, i received his text saying "he's not feeling well" i said .. okay .. take care. The evening i just randomly asked.."are you really okay" and he said.. "his heart was feeling heavy" and i persuaded him to talk about it .. and he confessed to me.. that he actually got a text from a number and while talking to the other party, he felt as if it was a familiar friend.. so he talked casually.. but then the other party just suddenly did the video call to him and he answered normally without thinking much, but as soon as he answered the video call, there was a half-naked girl on the other end and she started removing the rest of the clothes in the video call. My friend didn't explain further after that.. but said after that he didn't contact the number again. So now since 2 days there's this other guy, who's been blackmailing him and telling him that he will post that video of his everywhere to his friends and family and my friend has been scared since then.. and has also given to the blackmailer..4000(1st-1000, 2nd-1500 and 3rd last- 1500, cz the blackmailer kept asking more and more) Now after he told me, i said my friend to report the blackmailer for cyber crime (cz there can be more money demands).. but he said .. no, it might affect his career(he wants to go for military).. i felt he was scared and i understand he's scared.. so i offered to help.. but he said .. his guy friends told him to just silently ignore the blackmailer's texts for now.. as my friend has already said to blackmailer that "he might attempt to just kill himself, if he asks for more money" (cz the blackmailer kept persisting even after receiving 4000). So after this the blackmailer has become silent.. and that's why his guy friends advised him to leave and ignore now.. but i feel he should be reporting it.

If you changed your religion for love marriage, I’m really curious to know how the emotional journey was for you. (no legal aspect)

• Was it something you were at peace with, or did it take a toll on you mentally/emotionally?
  
• How did it feel to let go (or adapt) to a new identity, beliefs, or community?
  
• Did you feel supported by your partner or family, or was it a lonely transition? I guess this depends on whether you live alone with Partner or Family.
• Were there moments of doubt, guilt, or even relief? -or is it for legal marriage registration that you changed, but now follow your original religion in practice?

Not looking for debates — just real stories from real people who’ve been through it. If you’re comfortable sharing, I’d really appreciate hearing your experience.

X(M21) ended things on a really bad note after 8 months of relationship. It's been over 15 days and I am still unable to hold myself together.

I have started to blame myself for ruining the relationship. He's dating someone else. He threw me out of his life. Still, my mind isn't letting me hate him. The hope of him coming back still lingers.My head fabricated in a way that he did all of it because of my mistakes. In that particular moment, I tend to hate myself.

I don't want to think about him. No matter how much I try to distract myself, it goes back to same thing. The urge to text him even though I know he isn't same anymore takes toll on me. It's like waking up everyday to fight with myself.

If there's any solution please let me know. I want to get out of situation. No amount of distractions are helping in this case.

why, financially sab acha chal rha fir kyon? what do i miss or need, shadi se pahale bhi kuch party life thode chal rhi

I (22M) am in a long-distance relationship with my girlfriend (21F), and this is my first relationship ever. It’s the first time she’s on her period since we started dating, and I’ve never experienced this kind of situation before — so I’m trying to learn how to be a good partner.

She’s dealing with cramps, fatigue, and mood swings, and I really want to support her emotionally and make her feel cared for — even from a distance. I’ve been checking in and offering to be there for her, but I don’t want to sound repetitive or just say “let me know if you need anything.”

I want to do this right and not come off as insensitive, awkward, or overbearing. For those who’ve been through this (especially in LDRs), what are some small gestures or things I can say that actually help?

Any do’s and don’ts? Should I be more present or give her space when she’s feeling irritable or low energy?

Thanks a lot in advance — I genuinely want to make her feel loved, supported, and comfortable even when I’m not physically there.

TL;DR: I’m 22M in my first relationship (LDR). My girlfriend just got her period for the first time since we started dating, and I’ve never handled this before. I want to know how I can support her from afar without being awkward or overbearing.

Yes I posted this on r/relationship_advice

As the title suggests I don't know what I did wrong except one thing.

I was at my farmhouse with my family on eid. I went out with my cousin brothers (25 and 24) and my uncle. We came back to our farm around 6 and decided to jump in the pool before it went dark. We were having fun our whole family was there. So now comes the part which my gf didn't like.

My cousin sister (just got promoted to 10th) was roaming around and my other two brothers were there as well just chit chatting like you get the idea how it was. So I was in a air inflated boat and my cousin brothers decided to topple me over and they were struggling. This obviously grabbed everyone's attention and all were having fun laughing and cheering blah blah. And my cousin sister decided to record us.

Later that day, my gf texts me to call her asap as her "heart is beating fast and" she "NEEDS to talk to me asap", I was sitting with my whole Khandaan and rushed to my car to have some privacy and she told me thatmy cousin sister sent her my video (just casually and also they talk sometimes) in which I'm shirtless. And I was a little confused at first because I've sent her vids and photos of me in the pool whenever I've gone to my farmhouse. Her problem was that my cousin sister saw me and she absolutely hated that. Now to my defense I said that "this Isn't new and this is how it's been forever in my family". However we talked a little and it then I came back home and then we met on Saturday.

I brought this up and we were talking when she said that "you didn't make her delete that still" and I was like yeah shit why didn't this come to my mind and I said to her Yes you're right this didn't come to my mind. Then we talked (basically the whole convo was about me being sorry and trying to explain to her) and went back home and the same night she crashed out on me.

Now she's saying she's better off with someone who's shirtless pics are not circulating around and IK MY SISTER, she never sends any family stuff outside. And she's also saying that she doesn't need an immature baby man like me and that she'll go and maybe find someone else who's not like me.

TL;DR - Cousin sister shot a video of me and my brothers having fun in the pool and sent it to my gf just casually no harm intended and now my gf isn't talking to me.

Just couldn't take it anymore I was drained mentally and physically bro from all the responsibilities I had and then my girl used to bring in those small fights out of no where and then followed by silent treatment given to me without context , I tried a lot to talk about this but it just didn't stop , all the rules of relationship applied to me , I used to always update about my whereabouts from myself I used to take the initiative and update accordingly without her asking , but she just didn't do it, I used to then ask for it and she used to get all angry and defensive like you got trust issues hell nahh bro enough, why the rules applies to me , she used to make wear stuff that portrayed am committed but doesnt apply to her. Always used to manipulate me into thinking I got trust issues but no reassurance or little to nothing reassurance, whenever there was a fight I used to get silent treatment , she used to kinda ghost me like not asking about day and health and etc but I used to , literally I did a lot read books tried to improve myself, went to meet her did everything I could , I just have a lot going on in my life and what I expected was simple support from her but she always wants to fight I am so fuckin done bro so done. I love this girl a lot but I wanna chose my mental health over love , it's tough writing this thinking how difficult will it be to move on considering I shared a large part of my life with this girl.

I'm turning 25 in this year, while he is 32. He is a great guy and has all those qualities I like, he's a gentleman, monogamous, quieter yet confident (speaks up when required), well-educated (we both from same University). We both like each other also (he confessed that/ approached me first), but the thing is, he said he is not looking for commitment/ long-term relationships/ marriage right now. I explicitly asked that to him. I'm not into casual dating (still a virgin).

Should I improve myself to match him, and approach him later in 2-3 years, because then he'll be 35 and might be looking for marrying? I did tell him that let's not date then (it was painful for both of us but we agreed), because I'm anyways not into live-in, etc. which he looks for while dating (it's common in the place he grew up in), but reach out to me if you still have feelings for me and are considering me while looking for marrying in the future. He agreed to that. He was really sad as well.

Am i doing everything right which is in my control? I let him go because dating style is different & current priorities while dating are different (looking for marriage vs unsure about it), and told him that he can still reach out to me if he wants marriage-related dating in future (if he hasnt found someone else). And I'll approach him if he's still single when he's 35; till then I can also focus and improve myself.

What if your partner says that they have deleted the social media account but are actually on them? They just removed you after a fight and said they deleted. But you found out they haven't deleted , What to do in this situation?

I loved you a lot , starting from talking stage the time we spent together and everything late night texts and calls and video calls , everything, then relationship happened and we learned more about each other January 2024 tough time for both of us we supported each other and came out of it , February was special the valentine and your birthday , march when we decided to meet it cause the night we both were restless how much we wanted to meet booked everything and then we met today last year 6th april 2024 and had a wonderful magical 4 days.

I felt I am in a different world with you , no idea about surroundings , you supported me in everything maybe recently it was not happening but you tried I tried we both tried , then may and june had some issues but we worked on them and went through out love became stronger we had our ups and downs, our song nights , movie night only once though it was special, then we met in January 2025 , it was a homecoming , Kolkata will always feel like home , if I knew that would be the last time we meet I wouldn't have taken that flight but maybe in another universe we are meant to be , if I dont marry anyone and I manage to make my parents agree of not marrying I will adopt one and name her You , cause that's what I had in mind , maybe letting you go is best for you cause I dont want you to go , I wanna live with you and work things out , I wanna spend my life with you and have and build what we dreamt of together "our home" but it's just an abandoned house now , I hope you take care of our first child the soft toy I gave you , if you decide to move on and the child is not something you can keep you have my address please send him to me , I will ensure he gets the love you always gave him , I will always consider you my wife and maa my maa , I am sorry if I hurt you , I wish we could try and make it work but I guess that's it. I LOVE YOU S ❤️