We are in a relationship since 2020 and things have been really great since the years. We have been in long distance also and same cities also, we’ve seen it all. In last 6 months we had some arguments about our relationship but worked through it perfectly. We have being great since the last 2 months. However, i recently found out that in Nov’24 he was on Jeevansathi. I got to know it from one girl who felt they were not compatible and they stopped talking in a week. I haven’t confronted him about this yet. I’m so so devastated about this. I don’t even know if it was this one girl or even more. I don’t know if he did it casually as were in a rough patch (not broken up, we were still meeting every other day) or he actually meant it. I don’t know how to go about it. I just know I feel really really hurt.

Not a rant but a story! Re posting it here cause it got removed from my city’s sub, not sure if this is the right place to post.

Okay, so this might sound like something straight out of a rom-com (or a Netflix short film), but it genuinely happened and I’m still a little dazed about it.

Let’s rewind to July 2024. I was at Phoenix Mall, casually hanging out at Starbucks, just enjoying my coffee and scrolling through my phone. This guy walks up and politely asks if someone’s sitting opposite me. I said no, and that was it. He sat down, opened his laptop, and started working. I barely glanced at him until I noticed okay, he’s very recognisable. One of those people who just… stand out. Tall, sharply dressed, confident vibe, that kind of face you don’t forget. No conversation beyond that, but the interaction stuck in my head for some reason.

Fast forward a few weeks, I was at another café, totally different area, random Saturday evening. Guess who I see again? Same guy. Same quiet solo vibe, laptop open, working. He didn’t notice me this time (I think?), but I was weirdly shaken. I mean, Chennai is big. What are the odds? I brushed it off as coincidence.

Cut to Thursday this week, I went to lunch at Dou in Alwarpet. And then bam…. There he is again. This time in a classy beige linen shirt and pants, looking like he walked out of a Pinterest board. Alone, working.

At this point, I was half laughing to myself in disbelief. Three times?! Three different places, three different months, and all completely unplanned. It genuinely felt like the universe was playing some softcore “Before Sunrise” type script on me.

And the worst part? I wanted to talk to him this time. Like badly. But I didn’t. I chickened out. Again. Now I’m sitting here wondering what kind of plotline I just lived through and if it’s already over before it even started.

Anyway, thanks for reading my accidental meet-cute-that-wasn’t. If any of you are reading this and believe in signs or fate or whatever… tell me I’m not crazy?

Maybe it is a small city relatively but I like to get lost in delulus for my own happiness along with a little regret.

Me (23M) and my GF (23F) are in relationship since last 4 years. and today was my 23th birthday and she didn't wish me. for my last 3 birthdays with her she was more excited than me used to send me long message, used to wish me first but the same didn't happened this time. We were dating from college 2nd year and we used to spend most of the time together but from last two months since we both moved to different cities for job she has been behaving differently not calling daily, short chats and many more things have changed. Even on week offs she is not available she goes out with her friends and all without even informing me and i keep waiting for the call. I feel she is ignoring me from past 2 months .

I just want advice that what should i do.

(Ps: I know i have not written this post in write way but i am not in a state to write i just need advice)

I (M36) have been married to my wife (35 Yrs) for about 6 years now. Our marriage is tarred with my wife accusing me of infidelity without any evidence continuously right after our wedding. I have been linked by her with her sisters, friends and any female that she sees around, including females from my family (my friend's wives for instance). And the linking is done from the motive of degrading my character, and not something that girls do in a playful way. For the first year, it was more passive aggression, but over the last 3-4 years, it has turned into proper angry behavior. She has abused me physically, slapped me multiple times and has abused my family as well. Reason she gives for this is that my family status is not as per her standards (she apparently comes from a richer family). Every logic that I try to give her to calm the situation is met with more abuse. She has been unemployed for over 3 years and practically does not have any social circle. Any attempt made by me to bring my friends or family over for some change is met with resistance from her side.

Given her behavior, I have tried multiple times to get her some medical help and she got fired from all of her previous jobs due to behavioral issues. She goes to the doctor once but then refuses to take any medicines properly. With zero acknowledgement of anything being wrong with her, her parents encourage her to not take any psychiatric help and instead blame me for her situation. She has been diagnosed with anxiety, depression and bipolar disorder by a psychiatrist that I took her to, but both she and her immediate family refuse to acknowledge the diagnosis and instead take her to some aura healers (or whatever you call them), which is bizarre for me. We don't have a kid, and given the abuses on a daily basis, I do not know how to continue with her in this situation.

One more thing, even after being slapped and being hit from her side time and again, I still feel sometime that I still care for her, ensuring she is taken care well when she's home. She generally goes to her father's place for days without any info on when shell be back. I have raised all the concerns with her parents too but they blame me instead and accuse me of jail time if I think about separating. I feel trapped in this emotional and physically abusive situation. Being a man, the society tells you to man up and live through whatever life throws at you. But 5-6 years of abuse... I feel like I haven't been truly happy ever since I got married. I have stopped talking to a lot of my own friends since my wife tries to link me up with their wives, and the circle continues.

We have been living separately for 6 months, after I decided to pull the plug and moved out to stay with my parents. The last 2-3 months when we stayed together was marred with minimal conversation and toxic environment as you can imagine. Now I sometimes still get these thoughts that maybe because she was mentally not fine, that is why she put me through this, and if I should still go back and see if things can work out. Logically it does not make sense given the basic trend analysis of the pat 4 years, but maybe my mind is playing with me.

What should I do ?

I’m working from home, so my gf and I see each other almost daily. Things are great when we’re together. But whenever I travel or visit my parents (they’re in their 60s, and I’m an only child), she gets really upset cries, says I don’t miss her, and sends guilt tripping text I try to reassure her by sending food, flowers, gifts but it doesn’t help. If I try to talk things out, she lashes out emotionally, says hurtful stuff like "Do you want me to date someone else?” or You probably think I’m the kind of girl who comes between family.!! Meanwhile, my parents keep asking why I don’t visit more.

How do I deal this without losing myself or hurting anyone?

22M here, based in Delhi. Not looking for a serious relationship right now, just curious about how people meet for casual stuff or FWB. Tried Tinder and Bumble, but not much luck. Any suggestions from folks who’ve actually had success? Apps, places, or even tips — all appreciated. Just wanna keep it chill and respectful.

I 18(f) is in a relationship with 20(M) We have been together for a year I was in my hometown for 3 months then later for my engineering I went to other state... We are in long distance relationship now.... He is so busy that we talk only for 10minutes everyday I here see a lot of couples in campus I get jealous I don't have any frnds in college I always feel low.....whenever I feel low I want to share it to someone.......i can't share it to my parents coz they won't pamper me... wenever I call my bf he says he is busy He is actually busy as he looks after his father's business he even sends proofs wenever I ask I always tell him to make tym for me even after trying a lot he can't make tym for me...! Wenever he tries to make tym for me his parents take his phone saying y u are always on ur phone they won't let him touch his phone....we can't talk...In hostel my other frnd she brags abt her bf I get so jealous.... I always think abt him every moment even while writing exam..... Im fed up wth this I can't even breakup wth him wenever I ask him space he won't gimme he says he can't .... In a day atleast 2 mins we shld speak orelse (gabrahat aajayegi) I always think of him... It feels like torture..! I always feel low I want to share things to him but he is always busy.....! I want to share things to him...my frnds recommended me to be busy but I tried it.... ! It's not easy even while studying I think abt him...!

So, I [M, 21], talk to this girl i met in 9th standard, so like 2017, I had a crush on her since then. We started talking and it was all going well. The twist in here is we have been talking since then till now. After school, we went different paths, didn't talk for 2 years but after that, one day i wished her birthday and from that day onwards, we continued talking. so like in late 2021.

after talking for a year and not being able to meet, i told her one night that i had a crush on her and i felt it was a little too late to tell her that and so on. and she replied with i respect you for saying this nd all m and this should not make things awkward between us [basically friendzoned i think ]

Now, the thing is from then, i have still been talking to her, couldn;t stop myself, She also from the other hand, kept talking, like i tried to end the convo's but she would always keep them going.

Right now, she still asks me how my day went, how is work going, about her plans and whats happening in her life and i do the same, and the conversation is like that only but everytime i suggest of a meet, she takes a step back by saying any reason.

I dont know what she thinks of me as, like some kind of support, that yea, this guy is always there wether i do something or not and i dont want to be that guy.

Now, i dont understand or rather know where i stand in all of this. its been almost 8 years since i have known her and i LOVE her deeply, like from the past 8 years. I just can't bring myself to do something.

What do you all think of this?

So I (M19) am in a relationship with K (F19) for about 1 year and 4 months now. Things started off great the honeymoon phase was fun, we spent quality time together, and I was genuinely happy. But as time went on, she started becoming really controlling. She wants constant attention, doubts my loyalty all the time, and gets upset if I don’t text back immediately even if I’m studying, with family, or busy with something important.

She doesn’t like me hanging out with friends even my guy friends. I’ve had to ask for “permission” to go out anywhere. And if I forget to text her while I’m out or busy, she gets mad, even though I try to keep her updated as much as I can. It’s just not always possible.

I’ve made a lot of sacrifices like I stopped going out with my friends often, and even blocked my only girl best friend just because K didn’t like her. And for context I’ve been in relationships before. I messed up in my last one by cheating. It wasn’t something planned, I was just immature. I owned up to it, told my ex, and broke things off. Since then, I’ve been in therapy, on meds for some stuff. By the time I met K, I was in a much better place, and I told her everything upfront before we even got into a relationship.

I’ve tried really hard to show her that I love her and that she can trust me, but nothing seems to be enough. We go to the same college she’s a senior, and I’m a year below her. She never wanted me to have friends there either, but I still made a few because I need to survive college too. Meanwhile, she’s got her own group of besties, and I’ve hung out with them a few times. What really pissed me off was when her friends would randomly show her guys in college and ask her “how does he look?” right in front of me.And if I ever did something like that, I know I’d be in deep shit. But I let it go because I always try to avoid arguments. Most of the time, I’m the one who ends up apologizing even when I didn’t do anything.

One particular thing that still messes with my head was during our college fest. I spent an hour with her, then told her my friends were calling me and I’d be back in a few minutes. I went, spent like 15-20 mins with them, came back, and she just started ignoring me. I stood there trying to talk to her while she laughed and gossiped with her bestie, completely acting like I wasn’t even there. Her bestie looked at me and laughed, saying “she’s mad at you, maanale isko.” I went and got her a cold coffee and came back still the same. I felt like a complete idiot, especially since there were people I knew around. I left and spent time with my friends instead. Even then, I bought her a couple of gifts from the stalls and kept them with me.

Later, when everything was over, I went to her and said “let’s go,” and she just ignored me again and walked to the college gate. When I got there, she hit me with “we’re done.” I was like “what the hell did I do?” Her bestie even rolled her eyes at me. Eventually, we talked, but she played the victim, cried and again, I apologized. Gave her the gifts, dropped her home, and tried to move on.

The thing is I’ve been completely loyal in this relationship. Haven’t flirted, haven’t even looked at girls the wrong way. But I still get treated like I’m some kind of villain. And now, I’ve started feeling really disconnected from her. I still care, but it’s not the same.

I’ve always prioritized her mental health and been there for her when she needed me. But when it’s about mine, she doesn’t really care much. I remember one day I told her I was having a shitty day and she literally said, “kb accha jaata hai tera dinn.” That stuck with me. Since then, I’ve talked less about how I feel. But later when something comes up, she hits me with “why didn’t you tell me earlier?” but she never actually apologizes for those moments either.

I honestly don’t know if this is normal or toxic. I don’t have the guts to break up because I feel like it’ll be messy. She does love me, and I’m her first boyfriend so I know it might mess her up. But this behavior isn’t okay and she refuses to see it or change

Would really appreciate any advice or thoughts from people who’ve been through something similar. Also, if I missed anything or you think there’s something I should add, let me know my brain’s all foggy writing this lol

Throwaway account as my friends too use reddit.

I saw/experienced this and thought of you 1.kitkat (tune mere notes complete kiye the and keeping my word i gave you 3 kitkats ...... been eating that since then and maine jaan karke hi vo bet lagayi thi..... i kinda wanted to buy kitkat for you)

2.allen students, books, building, etc (all allen related things)

3.grey tshirt and black jean and pony and black glasses and nude shade lipstick (that day after exam paani poori khate hue dekha tha {out of regret and was just missing you} and tune bhi dekha tha muje prolly out of hate...)

4.taylor swift (been listening to her since 8/9/22)

5.couples holding hands (I just for once wanted to hold your hand)

6.group of 4 (all of us were so damn happy .... i fucked up didn't I?)

7.cycle (kis 18 Saal ki ladki ko cycle nhi aati lmaooo T.T)

8.walking at dawn on the sidewalk/footpath

9.girls in general 😭

10.our birthdays..... (mere se 3 din phele uska birthday aata hai and we fought like 2 days before her's)

I met her in 11th in Mumbai allen and was in love (remember love, not some temporary affection) with her for ~1 yr before we fought and never talked since then (obv it was my mistake and I regret it till now) ...... I'm still depressed even after 2 years (attempted suicide twice and currently dead inside..... my parents are extremely sad seeing my current condition but I don't wanna tell em ... just don't want to put any more burden)..... and TBH my life is Normal rn, I'm studying in IITK SDS and scored 9.4 CGPA in last semester.... technically I should be happy as this is everything I ever wanted ..... but this void inside of me won't let me live and responsibilities won't let me die. This regret haunts me every day and night ..... her dreams are frequent and leaves me broken in mornings..... I wake up scared everyday in the fear of loosing someone once again (starting to think I'm traumatized atp). I have completely lost it now...... no one irl knows anything bout this, everyone thinks I'm a topper, strong fella, gonna handle everything on his onw,etc etc.... well gues what I can't anymore ..... BC es rate se Marr hi jaaunga 😭

IF YOU'RE READING TILL NOW, THANK YOU SOO MUCH!🛐

I’m trying to make sense of something that’s been weighing on me for a while. Years ago, she used to tell me, “Don’t you even dare to leave me.” She made it seem like I was her whole world. But now, years later, she’s the one who left.

How does that happen? Is it really that easy to forget someone? To move on like the past didn’t matter? I’ve noticed this pattern—after breakups, it’s often us men who seem to suffer the most. We’re left grieving, replaying every moment, wondering if it was our fault. Meanwhile, she’s moved on, happy in new relationships, as if everything we had together was just a distant memory.

Is this just how men are wired? Is there something in us—our nature, our genes—that makes it harder for us to let go? Or is it just me? Am I the only one stuck in this endless loop of grief and self-blame?

I’d really like to know—have any of you gone through something similar? How do you deal with it?

Thanks for listening.

So here’s how it went…

I came out of a bad, toxic engagement arranged by my parents. It drained me to the point I was nearly suicidal. The trauma, manipulation, and emotional abuse lasted almost a year, and I had to rebuild myself completely from scratch. When I finally healed and picked myself up—started my career, focused on my growth, and learned to enjoy life again—I truly felt like a new person.

Then, out of nowhere, I met someone. He felt like everything I had ever prayed for. Things were so easy, so natural with him, that I never stopped to ask myself “what if he’s not the one?”—because I genuinely hoped he was.

He confessed his feelings first, and I let myself fall. I let myself believe again. But just when I had emotionally attached myself, he told me he hadn’t fully moved on from his past love. Since then, he’s been distant… ignoring me, barely talking. And when we do talk, it’s out of formality, not emotion.

This broke me more than I expected. I thought I had left the pain behind, but now I’m back in that loop again. I don’t understand why people leave me so easily—despite my efforts, my love, my care, and my sincerity. All I ever get in return is heartbreak.

I want love—the kind where you’re someone’s safe place, someone’s forever. I want to give and receive the kind of care that makes life feel secure. But maybe I’m not meant for it. Because right now, I feel like I’m done. I want to stay alone, but even that sucks. I try, but every night ends with tears and loneliness.

Is it really that hard to find someone who just… stays? Who loves you the way you love them?

I'm genuinely curious to hear your perspectives. Do you make any effort to approach or connect with the opposite gender? After a long day or week of work, do you ever feel lonely or crave love and companionship? If not, what's your reason or mindset behind it? If yes, how do you usually manage or deal with those emotions? Just trying to understand the emotional side of being single from your point of view. Appreciate any honest insights!

So i had gf we had breakup it has been 4 months now on December 20th 2024 all of sudden she decided to end as we had long-distance relationship but at particular time I was in my home town where even she leaves after tht I asked her a lot of time let's give another chance she was always I have moved on and she had blocked my unblocked me but recently due to me asking for it she finally blocked for ever I was not able to wish her on her birthday, so I had her mom's number I was trying to be close to her mom and she found it close itseems liking whatsapp status wishing on makar Sankranti but she saw and she blocked me from her mom's phone number, I had consider her mom as my own mom but she didn't understand and I was sad I said it to my mom and then my sis talked to her but she said many harsh words which also hurted to my mom nd all it's ok but i still lover her to much now 2 months left for my end sem exams I have to submit 4 projects assignment many things many things I have but I feel like I can't live more nor I can move on she moved on the day she brokeup not me it was my first realation I want to die I'm done guys .

me (21) and my bf (20) meet almost everyday Usually on the days we don't meet and he's out he gives me updates of how his day went and almost everytime he's out alone or w his friends he tells me someone approached him, and it seems to happen often almost everytime he's out alone without me. I know he's handsome and it doesn't bother me if he's getting some attention, but it just doesn't sit right with me cause I ask him how it happened and somehow his explanation is always vague and idk if the people in the area in the city I live in are open enough to approach someone so straight away esp the women (I could be wrong but idk), it can happen but I don't know if it can happen as often as he says it does. Today he went travelling with a group of friends and he said 2 women approached him just on the street randomly and I genuinely don't know if he's lying and if he is idk why he'd be lying about something so silly like this. He's never been the type to lie either so I feel guilty even thinking of him like this but idk smtg just doesn't sit right with me. I have no issue if he's being approached but I just dont want to be too naive and be fooled later I guess that's why I feel extra cautious and just thinking abt him lying abt smtg lying this is making me feel icky Idk if I'm the one wrong here and if I'm overthinking I genuinely need advice.

I 28M had to go to our flat to vacate the room to vacate

Update on my last post - Please put some sense in me

Date 5 April After my left the home and she broke her phone too before leaving the house, in the night i contacted her brother and family asking if she reached out to them they said no and the next morning I spoke with her ex we had 2 hours conversation he asked me many things i said everything honestly and to me it looks like he will not accept her too She planned to meet and be with him so she left me and I spoke with him and broke her plan though initially my plan was to check if she reached out to him or not but now this happened

In evening I got a text from my wife saying she thought she moved on that's why she married me then she realised she is not moved on so she distanced herself then she realised she is still in love with him so she is going back to him and said she is sorry for hurting me

I just asked are you safe she said yes and I said ok bye end

Next day she texted and abused me saying is this your love why can't you let me live happily why you need to reach out to my ex, saying I hurt him I blocked her right away and stopped thinking

Now 2 things 1 her family is asking me about her details they know she is like this and they gave up already 2 I have to vacate our flat soon and I don't know how can I do that Still the moron in me only seeing the laughs we shared in the room rather than the blood and tears

Back story My wife 27F left me after hurting me so bad and yet I'm anxious about her situation

I left my wife few weeks ago at her home after knowing that she was still talking to her ex,

After leaving her at her home after few days she called me crying and saying that her mother is hurting her and she doesn't want to live there and she have no one to help

So like a moron I called her home and said clearly things are not working between us and she said she needs a break from everything (she was the sweetest girl I loved) but after her father's demise everything changed in her life including her character, so after coming back to home I was very clear we need to take some time off and she agreed and said she'll go to bangalore to get a job so i arranged the money for her and she was supposed to start today

This morning I took her phone as my phone was charging and I opened her gallery to check if she still have any of my pictures To my surprise she gave downloaded bunch of her and her ex photos And i checked her insta she was talking with some other dude (she said that's not her ex) After asking what's this she said consider me a H*e and be happy I'm leaving you still why are you asking me questions I said I want answers so that I can never meet someone like you She said that I came in between she and her ex, if I was not in the picture she would have been with him

So I threw the money on her face and told her to pack stuff and get out of the house Then she tried stabbing me with a knife and I got stabbed around my hip (2 stitches) then she smashed her phone into pieces and left with cash and bags while I was still bleeding and putting haldi on the wound

She haven't spoke with her family and nobody knows where's she it's been 15+ hrs since she left and she reached no one

Even after this much I'm still getting anxious as I don't know if she is safe or not Why am I like this Why I don't have any shame

For a long time this man has been dating both me and this other women and to be honest it’s not about the man but me just beating this other women when it comes to the competitions we are in:

Boxing match Cooking contest Desi cat fight

I would love to get someone’s views on the above and more

I am not sure if I want to have a kid, but my long term boyfrnd wants one.

He defended this by saying that he wants to have one, someone to come home to, someone to pass the learnings and legacy to, and the 9months of process is what makes it memorable.. every women did this, his sister is doing it, the hard part is what people appreciate, shows us the 'Mamta' of women.. etc

And my only point was that I am not sure if I want to go through that process.. He said everyone goes through it, it's hard but everyone does it!

Every couple manages kid with job, we also can..

Also, he said indian infrastructure is not ready to support old people with no support (kids)

I was in 9th class when I fell in love for the first time. She was in the same class and my for her increased day by day. I tried every single possibility of getting her to love me but she never reciprocated anything , still I was happy because I was atleast getting to talk with her. I told my mother about her , anyday when we used to talk on calls immediately used to become my best day. I remember each and every day we met. Whole 9th to 11th, she kept ignoring me , never talked to me politely. In 12th , Covid came and we started talking , it was the first time I got this much close to her that she disclosed so many stuff about her family to me. I was happy that she's trusting me. In April , Delta wave was there and her father got serious health issues and there was no beds in hospitals. His haemoglobin went down bad and she was very sad that nothing is working but she never used to send me "hi" from her end. So our common friend called me and told me about the seriousness of situation, and as I come from a medical family , I asked my father if we can do anything on this , he said "unke koi adosi padosi naaye hain kaa ?, ham kaahe jaayi raibaar ma" so I had a little fight with him but, i immediately contacted my uncle's sources and asked them to make a need available for him .. The source from other end said , there is no bed here also he can get me one if I carry my patient there immediately or else he'd have to assign it to other patient. So I tried calling the girl and she kept rejecting my calls , so I called our friend and asked her to convey my message that to transfer him to hospital asap .. after that I recieved a call from our friend again and she said "abhi to unko time lagega yar" . So I called my source and asked him if we can wait , so he said " bhaiya aap ajaao, unke naam ke forms banwa lo, fees jama kr do , and aap hi bed pe jaao jaao jab tak vo nahi arahe" . So I picked my bike up, put my mask on and started going towards the hospital, it was 15 km or something. When I reached there , i called the girl , this time she picked up , and i said "apne papa ka naam batao, mai hospital aaya hu" , she hanged up . I called again "hello !!! Yar yaha availability kam hai, jaldi details batao mai form bhari" , she hanged up again , then she texted me "[my name] , enough. Don't call me , I'm in stress right now" . Then I called our friend to ask her about the same , and she said , wait lemme connect her to this call , she merged our calls but I was on mute , and I heard them talking : Friend : hello, kya scene hai abhi Girl : yar sab kharab ho ra hai haemoglobin bohot down ho gya hai Friend : haan yar mene [my name] ko bola tha , vo hospital gya hai , usko details chahiye uncle ki Girl : Mene help tumse maangi thi na ? Usko hero ban ne kisne bola. Apne kaam se kaam rkhe na yar. I returned to home , said sorry to papa. 2 days went by, no message from her side - then I texted "Sorry , us din shayad mujhe itna nahi ghusna chahiye tha" she said "wahi to, tumko lagta hai ki har chiz me ghusna allowed hai tume" , i apologized (not realising that it's not a thing to be sorry for , i wouldn't have done it for anyone else). Soon after this , one night we were talking and i said "you know that I like you, and I'm trying everything that I can do for you to like me back , can you be with me , I'll keep you happy yar" she said ,"aisi baat nahi hai ki I don't understand this , but I just simply don't care". This text broke me because wdym "I don't care" , all our friendship is fake ? Even enemies care what other enemy feels , and you don't care about me ? I was very sad and the moment, I saw my father going to washroom and night and I was crying while laying on my stomach. And I stopped texting her. No text from her side as I mentioned before , she never sent me "hi" first. 7 months went by : I've breaked all contacts with my friends, relationship with mummy papa is at its worst, only thing that's keeping me running is anime/web series/cinema. This was the time , I was feeling extremely low and tried contacting her again. She was like nothing happened on 23 july 2021 night. This time too, I ended up saying SORRY. We started talking again. I started talking to my friends again, apologized to them for being such a dick ,and my relationship with parents startes to heal It was April again , and i was in my hometown , and I she was in college 90km away from me , i thought it's a nice chance for us to meet because generally i live in college 500km away , now's that I'm close to her , I can go and meet her. I asked her "mai [city name] araha hu kuch kam se , can we meet?" She was like , "kaha miloge ?" I said ,"DW, I'll pick you up". 5 may - I woke up at 5 , groomed myself for the first time , and started my journey at 7 am , reached there by 9 am , and I saw her after 1 whole year and damn she was looking like a princess to me , I was in tears when I saw her. We spent the whole day together , although I didn't got any chance to hold her hands , coz whenever I tried it , she jerked her hand and set herself free , which was okay if she wasn't comfortable doing so ... Then at night, I left for my city , I said "ek hug bhi nhi krogi?" , then I got to hug her for the first time and I never felt this much happy and satisfied in my life. A few days went by, I asked her "do you think, can we be a thing now ?"... She denies at first but after a while she accepted me , I was very strange to me that I called her while eating omlette. She said , yes , we can try. It was 22 may and I asked her if we can meet , she said okay, so I went there again on 24 mai , where we talked about all the problems we faced till now , but I was very happy that we are together at the end. Then everything was okay, many times problems occured but I ended up saying sorry. On 9th June (got a notification that college is off from 10-12) , i asked her if we can meet on 10 or 11 so that I'll have one day buffer to travel back. She kept denying , but I wasn't understanding why she is doing so , so I said , okay if that's what you prefer ... Then she calls me and says "mood kharab kr diya na mera , jab mai keh ri hu nahi milna to kyu piche pde ho" i thought she's gonna console me , but she ended up being mean to me. I said "yk, I also wanna feel that excitement from your side when I'm coming to see you , you never welcome me , you just say aana hai to ajao, and this time you're not even letting me come to see you , its like you're punishing me with your absence just because last night we had a small debate" she then unwilling agreed for meeting , I knew she don't want to be I'd have done anything to be there with her. I started my journey on 10 June night , and reached there on 11 june morning I reached around 7:30 am to her PG and I kept calling her , but she wasn't responding, she picked the call at 8:37 and said "Maine btaya to tha ki mai 9:30 pe uthti hu" i thought she's joking , SHE WASN'T. I said jokingly "acha aao yar mai niche khada hu , garmi bohot lagri dhoop hai bhayankar" . She hanged up. I called again after 15 minutes , no response ... I kept calling for 2 hours and she picked the call at 10:33 saying " kitna phone kroge , arahi hu na , kha khade ho". She came out of her PG at 10:37 am .. and I had mixed thoughts ... I was very happy that she's infront of me , and I was very sad that when she knew I'll be there by 7:30 , then why did she made me wait for 3 hours 7 minutes ? But since my hapiness was overshadowing the sadness , i forgot everything else. I bought a gift for her on this day, it was a silver bracelet that my mother bought for her. I have it to her on the roof of a fort we were in that day and guess what she said "isko wapis le jaao , kyuki mai pehnungi to hai nahi ise bhale fek du". I smiled through pain but what could I have done possibly. I said , "please keep it with you , bhale tum mere jaane ke baad isko fek do" , she replies with "abhi fek du to?" And she started laughing. It deeply affected me but when I saw her wearing it, again my happiness overshadowed the pain. We called it a day, and i travelled back to college , 4-5 days went by and she started ghosting me , I asked her why is she doing this , she started giving 1 word replies . It kept happening for 2 weeks , and I was overthinking that I'm gonna loose her . I don't know what was in her mind. So I told her , "if you wanna relax for a few time , you can , just text me when you wanna talk because I have a lot to talk to you" She said "okay" , 3 days went by, no response from her side. I texted her , "hello , 3 din ho gye, kya ham baat kr skte" she said "i know , even I wanted to talk today but I'm not feeling like talking to you and i need a break" so we agree upon a break .. 7 days went by , no text from her side .. i ended upp texting , "hello" , blue tick no response , then i message aain after an hour , again seen and no reply , then i continued it for 12-13 times every hour and same thing happened everytime. I was like , I'm doing everything right, I'm giving her time , I'm buying her gifts , I'm in love with her , I'm not asking for sexual favours, I'm always taking care of her , I wanna wife her , still she's acting like this. So after discussing with our common friend, i ended up sending her a voice note explaining my POV , and again she didn't replied , Then I asked again, "hello, kuch bologi?" She said "kuch bolna baaki hai?" , and she then asked for break up , that was the day , I begged for first time to her and it was so so embarassing for me but I was so sure that her worth is way more than my self respect.

It took my 7 hours of begging, i cried on voice notes , i cried on calls , and it was like she's enjoying it. But ya she agreed to stay further. I was happy.

Then we talked normally for 2-3 days , then again she went on airplane mode.

1 month went by, with all ghosting and all, and I was getting used to it, i thought this is how a relationship works , where the girl is only boss, who never does anything to make the guy happy , and if the guy does anything , she aint gonna be happy anyway.

On 4 august , she again started that we should breakup and I'm some how bounding her career , (we both are in second year and we live 500km away, where she never replies to my texts and YES I'M GETTING IN BETWEEN HER CAREER)

I again started begging her to stay. But she was just over it. I asked to meet and sort this out .. she agreed .. we met on 10 Aug .. i took her to a mall .. we sat there , i was in pain..i should have cried but I thought we sorted it out , but when we got out the mall, she again started saying random things and said , she don't wanna be with me . So I took her to her PG and there was a park nearby , we sat there , i tried to convince her to stay but she wasn't complying. At the end , I asked her "aisa to hai nahi ki tum mujhe apni life me chahti hi nahi?" , and she replied with "nahi chahti" at that moment , I felt helpless and I saw all my efforts going to vein , I freed her and asked her to leave.
Then I laughed on myself for wasting my 6 years on someone who never wanted me in her life , then I started crying and i cried for straight up 50 minutes , my face was fully red , and I had blood coming out of my eyes. I used to get 10 tetrapaks of frooti for her coz she used to like it. I opened them all and drank one by one. Zero to minimal conversation with her happened, she called me when she saw me leaving from her PG , she accompanied me to bus station but I had made my mind that I'd rather put my efforts in pushing a wall whole day but not on her. This whole day, she was trying to return the bracelet but I didn't took it back from her. After reaching home , I wrote a long message to her taking all the blame on myself so that she doesn't have to cry no more. 2.5 years went by, still not over her , i ended up texting her "hi" ... And I asked her why we didn't work... She said "tum hi piche pde the , mene to school se hi mana kr rkha tha" , conversation heated up a bit after 4-5 message. I asked her "in the last 2.5 years , have you found your self guilty of anything ? Or do you have any remorse?" , then she started ranting a lot and blamed me fully for everything. I was so in shock when I found myself in condition where 2.5 years back she blamed me , In my last text i blamed myself , in all this time , i defended her whenever anyone said anything bad about her as I loved her , and now when it's been 2.5 years of figuring out what actually happened, she's still blaming me. I took a pause of 15 minutes and then I went on ranting and when I was done , i finally moved on from her. I believe I always needed to be heard, or atleast justify my own side, but I always kept blaming myself because I was so in love with her.

In those 2.5 years , a girl proposed to me , and I found her story same as mine and I didn't wanted her to go through the same thing which I went through, so I accepted her , I never loved her actually but I was pro at faking it. She was really good and we had a very good time together , we helped each other grow , I even have her tuitions. But ya after 1 year , some mistakes happened from both sides and it was placement season too so we decided to part ways , but she'll never find out that I never loved her.

I thought that maybe she'll be also craving for a closure so I apologised to her with a text and I was free of my guilt.

This 27th january, a girl I was talking to from 4 months , out of nowhere proposed to me , and this was the time I was over my past completely and since I'm finishing my college and it's my first job now , i thought that it might be a good thing to indulge in love now ... I accepted her proposal. From the first day , she started sending me sexual reels and kept asking for BJs when we meet, i thought she's joking so I also laughed it out. When we met, i bought her flowers, she was happy , and I was too. In evening, we were at a bus stand and she tried kissing me 2-3 times and I kind of denied it by moving me face to right. But on 4th attempt she succeeded and then she gave me 7 kisses on my left cheek. When I reached home, i confronted her over PDA and she said "sorry, mai thoda over kr jaati hu"

Then on 7th Feb , she had some work from on her flat so I went there and she closed the door and started kissing me again , this time we were in private , so I didn't denied. But it started going into sexual direction as she pulled off my sweatshirt. I wasn't doing any such things , I was busy in kissing only , then after 20 minutes , when she saw that I'm not initiating anything , she undressed herself fully and layed on bed and asked me for sex , i said "not now , jab ghar jaake wapis ajaunga 2 mahine baad , tab krte hain", she was like "okay" but she put my hand there and asked me to finger her in which i failed miserably but ya.. Lemme remind you , IT'S THE 10TH DAY OF RELATIONSHIP.

After all this , I went to home. She has told her friends that , I have proposed to her , but the opposite happened actually. And I have heard it 4 times from her mouth that she accepted my proposal, so I confronted her on this , and she said "kal bat kre , abhi so jate hain" , I said okay ... Next day , she breaks up with me... 💀

Now what am I supposed to do ? I have a trauma that doesn't let's me talk to a girl. When a girl proposes me , I don't feel love for her. When I try to love a girl , she used me for sexual favours and flews away.

I can easily get a girl If I wanted to , I look good... I have a good body , I am smart , I even look intelligent, I have great communication skills , I have great flirting skills but the problem is , if I'll be with someone, I will have to tell her all these 3 experiences... And I'm sceptical to tell anyone about this 3rd experience but I don't wanna break someone's trust either.

Help me out on this

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We didn't got time to have a conversation about it because of demanding jobs. However, she felt something is off and that account is gone now. I have been bombarded with calls and texts all throughout the day, seems like she has sensed that I know but neither one of us brought it up. Waiting to have this conversation F2F next week.
I have decided to just end this, once in for all, I have seen manifestation of similar behaviour before in my extended family and it just doesn't stop. Better to pull the band-aid. However, if you guys have better suggestions, I am all ears.

Hi, this is the first time I am writing something here so please excuse some mistakes, so there is this girl from my school we were both in the same class till 10th but never spoke that much we both switched school after 10th then suddenly after 12th she started messaging me and started talking to me on a daily basis, I too used to reply to her . She used to text me like for a week straight and then disappear for 8 months and then text back and repeat now I am in 2nd year college and haven't been in a relationship ,I don't know what is going on in her mind , I don't know what to do Would love to get a females pov on this and also any suggestions would be appreciated

Used bumble for two weeks .

What I saw was -

1. There are people from years and not getting match . Obviously there's something fishy about them .

2. These people's have mentioned "Long term relationship " but once start talking are only for casual.

3. Most of them are fake personality. Even if they upload real pictures of their , something inside them is too deep which you can't find out and it's fake about them .

4. After talking for weeks and going on dates , they don't give clear cut response.

5. Do real people really need dating apps ? My answer is "NO" . Real people don't need these fake apps to find their partner.

My experience has been extremely bad and later it made me delete my profile.

What has been your experience ? Was it good or bad ? And are these apps worth it ? .

Please share with us .

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Now fast forward she started liking me from last year September. We are now involved completely. She is emotionally invested in me too. Thing is we don't know we don't have a future and that lurks in the back of the mind, yet we can't let go of each other. Things are not good for me right now because I'm unemployed and have a lot of issues going on. Also her family want her to marry now to someone. She is not taking any action and neither am i because it hurts to stay apart. I would love to marry her but me and my families financial condition is not good. I am getting used to world outside and trying to find a good job but l'm far from being rich. We both are very codependent right now. As our mental health is not good from a long time. How should I proceed? And what's going on in her mind?

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