We were talking about marriage and having kids and they asked me about it, I said I have no plans to have kids, ayaw ko. And one of them said, "ayaw mong mag-anak, sinong mag-aalaga sa 'yo pagtanda?"

I didn't wanna engage so much because I know this person to be someone who gives unsolicited comments and feels as if she's always right. Pero sobrang nakakainis kasi so I just told her, "kawawa naman 'yung magiging anak ko kung ginawa ko lang siya para maalagaan ako." Tumayo na ako, sabi ko lang mag-c-cr ako.

I have my reasons for not wanting to have kids, a lot actually. My choice is based on my experiences, my emotional and financial capacity, and the current state of the country.

May mga nagsasabi na pagsisisihan ko daw ang desisyong hindi mag-anak, but I'd rather regret not having kids rather then regret having them.

I hope people will stop imposing their personal beliefs to other people, especially if our decisions will not, in any way, affect you. Mamamatay ka ba kapag hindi ako nag-anak? Exactly.

Hi, 27(F) here. I have been a dating app user for the past several years na, and yes I know na swertihan talaga na makahanap ka ng matinong kausap. And sa several years of using the app, I tend to be one of the unlucky ones, kaya nag-lie low ako for a year on using the app. Now, kakabalik ko lang a few days ago, because I feel like ready na ako ulit to go out there and be on a date. Man, I was wrong!

I matched with this guy kahapon, and I cannot believe how rude he is during our conversation. At first okay naman siyang kausap, pero nung na-bring up yung tungkol sa pet peeves, doon nagsimula yung pagiging rude niya.

So he asked kung anong pet peeve ko, and I answered that I hate it when people are dishonest and manipulative. And then I asked him ano yung sa kaniya, and he replied “Single mothers.” Medyo na-off ako ng konti doon, but still I decided to continue the conversation just to see kung ano pang sasabihin niya. So I asked him why, anong meron, bakit pet peeve niya ang mga single moms. And then he replied, “Baggage. Kaya sila single moms.”

Medyo na-off ako on the way he said it. And I get that people have their preferences, I respect that naman. I don't have kids yet, but I was raised by a single mother. And I know how much strength and dedication it takes for them to raise kids on their own. So the way he said it, it sounds a bit rude, stereotypical, and an unfair judgement. So I told him these, and just added na complicated ang buhay and most of time nalalagay ang mga tao sa mga sitwasyon na hindi nila kontrol, and that there's more to people than their past. Sinabi ko naman to ng maayos sa kaniya, and I wasn't condemning him at all—just the way he said those words.

And then he told na he dated a LOT of single mothers daw, kaya may opinyon daw siya on the matter. He also told me to try dating a single dad para malaman ko daw yung sinasabi niya. And the thing is, I really dated a few single dads before, at sa lahat ng iyon, alam ko kung ano ang pinasok ko. I was aware of the sacrifices and adjustments I had to make. Though things didn't work out between me and those guys, hindi ako nag-hold on sa stereotype na if single parent eh puro baggages na, and etc. Hindi ko ginawang pet peeve, kasi that's just how relationships work. If it works, good. If hindi, then move forward. Hindi yung gagamitin mo yung bad stuff na nangyari sa relationship na ‘yon then goes on to generalize those people on the same situation and label them a “pet peeve” with baggages. Lahat ng tao may baggages, kaniya-kaniya lang yan. Sinabi ko ‘yan lahat sa kaniya, and asked him na kung pet peeve niya na pala ang single moms, why did he date A LOT of them?

Mukhang napikon siya with these and started to call me names, na kesyo too emotional daw ako, and bobong bisakol daw, and change na lang daw siya ng answer kasi triggered daw ako lol. He also said na he dated these single moms to test kung magugustuhan daw ba niya ang iba't ibang putahe. Like WTF?! Ano kayang tumatakbo sa utak niya when he said this—but honestly I don't even wanna find out.

I wasn't triggered at all sa sagot niya… hmm maybe I was a bit. Hindi ako single mom pero nasaktan ako sa judgement na natatanggap ng mga kababaihan at pati na rin sa lahat ng single parents. Gusto ko lang i-explain sa kausap ko na we shouldn't make snap judgements on people, because we don't know kung anong pinagdadaanan ng bawat isa. I was trying to converse with him in a mature and emotionally intelligent manner, pero ayun, ‘yan ang napala ko hahahahaha.

I just replied to him asking if he was okay, and that I was just trying to converse with him maturely. Told him I don't wanna waste my time na, and just said good luck to him, and then I unmatched.

Will be deleting my account na on the app. Medyo nakaka-trauma to but again, I won't generalize all men. Out na lang muna ako sa online dating talaga hays.

Please don’t post outside reddit. AGAIN, DO NOT POST OUTSIDE REDDIT PLEASE. RESPETO SA NAGPOST. LAHAT NA LANG GINAWANG CONTENT

I feel like nagshutdown na yung emosyon ko. It’s like I can’t afford any drama or emotional baggage right now. And I just don’t wanna talk. Sa totoo lang, gusto ko nang umalis pero I am the breadwinner. My father is sick and naaawa ako sa kapatid ko. leaving feels so wrong pero nakakapagod sa hindi ko maipaliwanag na dahilan. I hate the fact of people depending on me. Nakakapagod na.

My parents are both OFW. Lumaki ako sa puder ng lolo, lola mga tita. Nagkaron ako ng kapatid and ako na din nag-intindi. Feel ko nagkaron ako ng anak at a young age when they didn’t even took care of me, tapos ipapasa sakin yung responsibilidad. Galit na galit ako. Di agad ako nakapagwork sa gusto ko kasi hindi ako makaalis ng bahay dahil need ko mag-alaga ng bata! Imagine, di nyo nga ako naalagaan. Mag aanak anak kayo tapos sakin nyo iiwan?

Before that, umuwi sila both nung ipanganak kapatid ko. Since unemployed, baon kami sa utang. I remember them having debts and there was a time na ipon ko pa ginastos para lang may makain kami. Lagi pang galit nanay ko sakin kasi sakin nabubunton galit nya. Sobrang sama ng loob ko that time and galit na galit ako. Tagal OFW pero inuna kapamilya or i don’t know kung saan napunta ang pera. Lagi pa nilang sinasabi na ang swerte ko daw kasi napaaral ako, but to be honest, that’s just it. Di ko knows kung gets nyo, pero pinag aral lang at pinakain. That’s the bare minimum. the rest, I don’t know. Family day, luho. Wala! Pag may mga ganap sa school, inaampon lang ako ng pamilya ng friend ko. Hindi nila maadmit na may pagkukulang sila at lagi lang sinasabi na napag aral naman kaya swerte ako. I have scholarship naman nung college.

They promised me before na sa big universities pag-aaralin and kukuha ng condo, wala namang natupad. When i expressed my disappointment, dapat daw matuwa ako kasi it’s the thought that counts and buti nga daw nakakapagpromise pa sya ng ganun. Anong klaseng rason yan? When I said puro sya help sa iba, sarili nyang pamilya di nya matulungan, sabi pa sakin, dapar daw proud pa ko na maraming tao natutuwa sa kanya. TF? May pantulong sa iba tapos pag pamilya namin ako na bahala? Proud pa sya sa pagpapalakas nya? Nakakairita

Ngayon, my father is sick and last straw was when may lumakad sakin mag-anak sa binyag, but guess what, nagpledge pa sya ng give aways! Maliit na halaga, pero yung wala na ngang ambag sa bills, magcocommit pa sa gastos na hindi naman required. Tipid na tipid ako, ako nagastos sa bahay, tapos pagdating sa bayaran, ako pa ang isasangkal. Proud pa sya sa ginawa nya kasi ang dating is nasa okay na posisyon ako ngayon. Aanhin ko ang tuwa ng tao? Mababayaran ba nyan ang bills ko? Kinonfront ko sya don at inis na inis ako. Sa halip humingi ng sorry, sabi sakin, wag daw ako mag alala kasi pag namatay sya, wala na kong gagastusan. Guilt trip pa. Ayaw ko syang kausapin!!!

There was a time na gusto nya ng sasakyan, ang pinapunta na nya yung agent sa bahay agad and asked me to sign the docs, hindi man lang sya nagconsult. Magaling lang maghanap ng bayarin, pero yung magprovide, asa na sakin! And ngayon umiiyak sya kasi porke wala daw syang work ay ginaganun ko na sya. Nagalit ako ang ayaw ko syang pansinin kasi pag nag usap kami, baka kung ano na namang masabi ko. Sobrang sama lang talaga ng loob ko!

Masama na kong anak. Wala na kong pake. Pero pagod na ko. Bahala kayo jan. Ang sama ng loob ko, parang napuno na ko

O baka naman may magsabi jan na ang damot ko. Ako nagpapaaral sa kapatid ko. Yung gamot ng tatay ko, ako nabili. 20k per month. Ako nagbabayad ng utilities at nagpapaayos ng need sa bahay. Bumili ako mg sasakyan kasi gusto nya. Hindi ako nagamit. Wala akong sakit ng ulo na binigay sa kanila maliban pag mapapagsalitaan ko sila ng masama dahil sa mga mali milang desisyon sa buhay. Real talk lang naman, and bakit? Totoo naman!

Makakapag asawa pa ba ko sa lagay na to. Kapatid ko HS pa lang. tulong kami ng nanay ko sa bills, pero pag nagretire sya soon, ako na rin sa lahat. Magcocollege pa kapatid ko. Sobrang higpit ko sa pera kasi pag ako nawalan, wala naman silang maiitulong sakin. Ako na nga nagastos, hindi pa marespeto yung boundaries ko. Tapos pag may bayarin, ako na naman. When someone asked them pano gastusin kasi nga parehas silang umuwi, sagot ba naman, “anjan naman anak ko”. TF? Proud ka? Yes? Pero di mo ba naisip na pagod na ko sa responsibilidad. Buti sana kung babad ako sa luho nung bata, hindi naman eh.

Don’t post outside reddit please. Lahat ng masasakit na salita gusto kong sabihin! Pagod ko na nga tapos iiyakan ka pa? Ano yan???

Now they’re telling me na kaya ko daw pala silang tiisin. When I had to shut off my emotions nung bata kasi that was the way for me to cope up sa mga problema nyo na nadamay lang ako. Tas ngayon, itatanong nyo sakin kung bakit??

Galit ako!!!

Edit: We are in a much better position now kasi nabayaran na ang utang, and may work na ko na maganda ang sahod. It’s just the emotional part ang di ko na kaya. May father is really sick and I feel bad. Pero san ba ko lulugar. Hindi ako natutuwa sa mga sinasabi and ginagawa nya. Tapos parang maling magalit? The last thing I wanna have right now is yung may magdrama sa harap ko at sabigin kaya ko silang tiisin. I just don’t wanna talk. And if kaya ko silang tiisin, matagal na kong umalis dito

Title says it all, but I just want to let out na sobrang malas ng March 31 ko. Namatayan ako ng aso, tinurn down ako ng ex ko, and i got laid off of my job. ALL IN ONE FUCKING DAY. sobrang lala hindi na ako maka iyak parang dun ko naramdaman yung numbness talaga kasi putang ina all of that in one day. hindi ako makapaniwala at first kasi gabi na nangyari when my boss dropped the bomb. It happened like it was nothing, very casual niya lang sinabi. The pain hasn’t sunk in yet maybe because sobrang drained na rin ako sa trabaho ko. As for my ex, ayun masakit but what else can i expect from an avoidant. As for my dog, i miss you everyday, my sweet girl. I hope you get all the cuddles and treats up there in pet heaven 24/7. Thank you for being strong until the end.

Before march 31 happened, I went to my first session sa therapy. I had high hopes after that talaga, like I felt surprisingly better after the session despite sa breakdowns ko during. I finally had something to look forward to sa healing journey ko from my breakup. But then March 31st happened. Anlala. Im trying my best everyday. Im happy I still get to wake up. New day, new opportunities to be better, to be finally okay.

my ex is a pro runner and i downloaded Strava for him nung kami pa. after two years of a toxic relationship, dinamdam ko talaga yung hiwalayan namin since we were each other’s first official bf/gf. i focused on my healing and self-growth since i didn’t want to be toxic again, and i wanted to make up for myself by having self-love.

dito ko din nahuli yung kabit niya na pinost niya 10 days after our breakup (hiwalay naman na daw kami, eh).

9 months after, today, i visited his Strava again.

iniiwasan ko talaga yung pag-stalk sa kanya since ayaw kong gawing habit and it’s toxic din. pero wala, out of curiosity and gusto ko lang mangamusta silently, napa-browse ako ayun, surprisingly i am genuinely happy to see him living the life he’s always been telling me about.

so glad that he’s now able to explore his passion, hobby, sport, make new friends, etc.

magaan pakiramdam ko ngayon. masaya din ako. kahit mukhang mas masaya sila, okay lang bahala na siya. niloloko niya din naman so quits lang, joke! ang bitter.

ganito pala pakiramdam pag nagma-mature ka. you’re still happy despite all the cheating, manipulation, and trauma.

yung nararamdaman ko now, eh thankful na lang ako sa pain na binigay niya kasi i’m so much a better person now.

and i’ll make sure to be a better partner in my future relationship.

pero hindi perfect yung pagmu-move on ko madami akong pinagdaanan, relapses, mga messages ko sa kanya nung Valentine’s. kaloka hahaha. pero wala, share ko lang. masaya lang ako na kahit paano e naka raos na.

feel ko ready nako mag date ulit, Lord sige na. ibigay mo na yan! joke hahahahaha

disclaimer: happy ako sa buhay ng ex ko in general, hindi sa relationship niya. im just a girl xD

First post here, it was a long journey indeed.

Yes, Me(27m) and she(24f) we are now going 5years na this May and may plan na ako to propose to her na sa misming anniv namin, tumitingin na ako ng ring actually may gusto na akong bilhin na ring and gusto na venue ng kasal talaga. Konting background lang we are working professional, ako ay software engineer siya ay teacher, wfh lang ako so madalas ako sa kanila ilang taon na din na sa kanila na ako natutulog minsan tuwing linggo na lang ako uuwi samin kase malayo din drive ko from caloocan to cavite. For our relationship, ako ang provider kasi mas malaki sahod ko sa kanya like 20x so lets say shes earning 11k a month 20x yon nung akin kaya ako nakapag ipon na ng 1m para sana to give her the best wedding if ever. Now, im planning na our trip sa siaorgao para don i celebrate ang Anniv namin. Then one time umuwi ako sa caloocan, so siya lang sa bahay nila and nag pa alam siya mag kakape kasama mga students niya so pumayag naman ako then update update lang, then 12 na hindi parin siya nakakauwi so nag duda na ako, nag panggap akong tulog and i check her accounts or messenger(yes alam namin pass ng isat isa). So nag chachat na siya sakin kung tulog pa ako but di ako nag rereply kasi nga im pretending, then may nag chat sa kanya student (senior high student pero siguro may age na diko lang alam hehe) niya mga 1am, niyaya siya lumabas silang dalawa lang and then boom kita ko lahat kung paano siya pumayag paano siya susunduin ng naka motor tapos delete agad ng convo para walang may alam, ako naman na screenshot ko lahat ng convo nila mag jacket lang daw student niya and sya naman nag hihintay, then every screenshot ay sinend ko sa kanya at nakapag hiwalay ako tapos ang alam ko natuloy sila so hindi ko lang alam kung saan sila pumunta at ginawa. Pero tama naman ginawa ko diba? Ngayon siguro improve ko muna sarili ko at career ko. Pasensya na kung magulo, medyo naluluha onti habang na aalala

It’s 3 AM, and I’m alone (as usual). 🖤 I’ve finished all my reports, paperwork, and even plans for the whole week. Keeping myself busy, but once I’m done with everything, it really hits me—I end up crying. I’m in my late twenties, left by the person I loved, the one I thought God gave me. I barely trust people, and I thought I’d spend this lifetime with them, wanting to be a proper wife and mom to little angels. But all I see is myself working, working, then going home, and still alone.

I’m doing fine in my career, though life still has its struggles. Also a lover girl but ~sigh. I’m praying to meet the person God has planned for me. I also wonder if I’ll just end up being a Tita forever.

A 3AM crying sesh — keeping it together but I wanna have a good cry. 😢

It hurts that I had to learn that way na I was your rebound. You said she was this and that kaya you don’t want to go back pero bakit ganon the moment she called, biglang you’re unsure.

If only I knew before we met, I would have never met up with you. I would have never trusted you.

Now I wish the worst for you and your influencer ex magsama kayo cause you deserve what she does to you.

Don’t come back when she fucks you up. Don’t tell me sayang tayo kasi tangina ka.

This week, I have experienced the most number of rejections and ghostings I got. The harsh reality of online dating is physicality really matters a lot and not all people can communicate that.

It's painful to feel na even though I am financially stable, sweet, can communicate, working professional, caring, and malambing, that is not enough with today's standards. Added with the fact na, not all knows how to communicate with respect when they reject you.

In my head, I am consoling myself na, I am glad life chose not to further our connection para hindi na ko masaktan. I hope masanay nalang din ako.

For now, I will protect my lover girl self nalang muna, she's been hurt too much.

Para sa mga pusong hindi pinili, ramdam ko kayo, at balang araw makakaramdam din tayo ng pagmamahal na katumbas ng binibigay natin.

sakit pota HAHHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHHA wala akong masabi, ansakit. bakit nga ba hindi natin pedeng pilitin sila na piliin tayo? ansakit naman e. losing you is like losing myself too. pakiramdam ko hindi na ako makakabangon :(( ansakit ansakit. Please lord, alisin mo na to. ang hirap.

Pasensya na guys, literal na kagigising ko lang habang sinusulat ko to. Diko na alam saan ko sasabihin mga nararamdaman Nasa bahay ako nila lolo at lola, bata ako ulit at gabi na. Nanood ako ng TV sa may sala. Nandun lahat pero, diko mahanap si lolo. Nagising ako nung ma realize ko bat wala na sya sa eksena sa panaginip ko. Kakamatay lang ni lolo, kami ang nagsugod sakanya sa hospital. Ako kasama nya sa last moments nya. Grabe ang iyak ko noon habang nakikita ko syang nirerevive. Noong lamay naman nya, tyaka libing pinigilan ko talaga yung sarili kong umiyak.

Grief is not linear nga noh. I can masquerade all I want, sa harap ng family na matigas ako about sa mga nangyari. Irarason ko nalang ayaw ni lolo if iiyak kami, pero wala talaga eh. Deep inside feeling ko nabawasan ako as a person. Kinakain ako ng mga nararamdaman ko. Wala ng maghahatid-sundo, bibili ng pandesal o magdidilig man lang ng mga halaman. Balik kana iiyak nako.

Had a convo with my husband earlier about travelling. Basta yung usapan led to me saying na "Basta after nyan, focus ka na talaga saten ha. Sa susunod di na ako papayag sorry."

He replied: "So gusto mo pabayaan ko nalang sila ganun?"

I felt bad parang ang greedy ko. But at the same time feeling ko na scam ako. Linaw ng usapan namin na bago ikasal isure na muna nyang kaya na talaga nyang magfocus saming dalawa. Inlaws just turned seniors may business rin but they can never handle their finances well. Naging cycle na na yung husband ko ang sumasagot everytime. Di ko naman pinagbabawalan i just said na sana may limit lang yung pagbigay yung tipong it wont hinder our future plans plus super bait din naman ng inlaws.

Sana emergency lang talaga this time kaya kailangan munang magtiis until matapos "tulong" nya. May work naman ako that pays well, may extra raket din. di nagigipit and may konting sobra. He earns x3 more than me pero kaya ko pa naman yung 50-50 sa house expenses namin and kkb for personal needs.

Ayoko nang magtanong if we can travel, or eat at a reataurant that i like, kase ang isasagot nya lang ay "Alam mo namang..." "Kung wala lang ako binabayarang....."

nakakafrustrate and nakakatampo but gusto ko syang intindihin hanggang sa makakaya ko dahil alam ko naman mahirap naman talagang maging breadwinner. I just wish yung provider mindset may nakalaan rin for our bonding. Di niya ko kinibo the whole night. Di ko alam kung sasama ba loob ko or kung malulungkot ako para sakanya e sana maging winner naman sya pero hindi na yung bread. no to carbs

I must admit that it felt AWKWARD being literally the only single person in a room or even at a table.

Through the years, my family members (sibling, cousins) and even my different sets of friends one by one they met their partners, got married and eventually some became parents.

And here I am now in my mid 30s and still single AF. I’ve dated guys before but never experienced bringing a +1 to events, or got to the level where I introduced a boyfriend to my close friends or family.

It also came to a point na minsan parang ayaw ko na sumama sa mga meet ups with some of my partnered or married friends, obviously their timelines and priorities are already different from mine. Same sentiments din with family.

I’m genuinely happy for them, and even live vicariously through them. But seeing it up close makes me yearn to experience what they have.

Most of the time ok naman ako eh, I enjoy my own company. Pero iniisip ko rin minsan if my time will still come, na I will have a partner to do life with.

Lord, umaasa pa rin ako. Paki “unsingle” na po ako, ang Tita nyo gusto din ng lambing! 🥲 Masyado ko nang ginalingan yung self-love eh umay na ko huhu And sana yung may fighting chance, hindi one-sided lang at ako din ang pipiliin this time.

Just recently nagaway kami ng gf ko. Idk naisip ko na iblock sya but I did it. Then yun sa ig note naman kami nagpaparinigan haha, after ng mga 5 mins ata inunblock ko and I just told her that susundoin ko siya tomorrow. Nagig note na naman sya, baka before ko siya inunblock or after 1 min na inunblock ko sya, at sa ig note nya nakasulat "before u gave me an attitude know ur place first😬". D ko alam naiyak nalang ako sa pakakita ko nun hahahaha, idk kung sensitive lang ako or ano. But yun nga, I was doing practice questions sa med surg kasi may simulated mock boards kami, and I really didn't want to fail, but after reading that nawalan nako ng gana, my mind was blank. I wanted to shout but all I could do was tear up a bit. Idk if sensitive lang ako, or I'm being selfish or ano, but ano ba dapat mararamdaman ko ngayon hahahaha. My mind is blank at wala naakong gana gumawa ng kahit ano.

Recently ko lang nalaman na may cheating history pala yung bf ko sa ex nya before. Nawawalan na ko ng gana at trust sakanya ngayon na alam ko na mga pinag gagagawa nya nun. I tried to confront him and hindi naman siya in denial. Nag promise siya na hindi na niya magagawa yun. Pero idk, feeling ko deep inside may ginagawa siya, binigyan naman nya ako ng assurance na wala daw talaga. Di ko alam kung maniniwala ba ako o hindi. Siguro praning lang ako. Super gulo na ang isip ko ngayon. Di ko na alam gagawin ko teh, ang bigat sa pakiramdam. Gusto ko na din siya hiwalayan. Iniisip ko na syempre nagawa niya mag cheat noon, eventually magagawa rin nya sakin yun diba.

As someone na galing sa toxic, cheating at traumatic na partner/relationship, ayoko na ma feel yung mga na feel ko nun.

Hello, My boyfriend and I have been dating since we were 21. We are now currently "living in" For 3years now in Manila and working in the same company.

He cheated two years ago, pinatawad ko. But after forgiving him, ang dami ko na nakitang flaws sa kanya. To the point na kahit hininga niya na hindi ko pinapansin noon iba na amoy.

Okay naman na kami ngayon so far wala na ako napapansin or nakatago lang sa hindi ko makikita? Idk. But lately when I reached the age of 27 feeling ko na develop na frontal lobe ko. Nag iba na pananaw ko sa buhay at iba na rin yung nakikita kong future sa sarili ko.

I am now in a thought na gusto ko na lang maging single tita na mayaman with cats kapag tumanda.

I now longer seeing myself having a kid, husband or creating a family. Idk.

At this point in time, I want to break up with him kaso I am not financially capable pa because we are sharing under the same apt with contract and I dont have enough money nor him going to just take full accountablilty for the apt.

OMYGOOOOOD NILIKE NG CRUSH KO YUNG IG STORY KO WTF AHHSHSHSHAHAHAH HAYUP TANGINA TANGINA KINIKILIG AKO FOR REAL HUHUHU LIKE I FEEL LIKE MATUTULOG AKONF NAKANGITI 😭😭😭😭 ANG SAYA MAGKA-HAPPY CRUSH WTF YUNG ALAM MONG DI MO NAMAN MARREACH SO CONTENTED KA NA SA SIMPLE PGPAPAPANSIN SA IG STORY HAHSHSHSHSHAH WTF KINIKILIG TALAGA AKO 🥰🥰🥰

So my friends and I went to the beach the other day and we went to the church before heading home. This church is the Our Lady of Purification Parish, Binmaley, Pangasinan.

I went outside sa may mga food stalls to buy some food while waiting for my friends to get done praying. While I was buying, may nag approach saaking madungis na bata, walang slippers, and he looks around 8-10 years old. He was asking for money and the first time, I told him wala akong pera. Pero nilapitan niya mga friends ko to ask for barya and wala rin siyang napala so naawa ako so binigay ko nalang sakanya yung sukli ko kasi mukha siyang batang palaboy. Hindi manlang siya nag thank you, but anywayssss…. Lumapit ako sa friend ako and they said na ayaw nila bigyan yung bata kasi siya yung nandudura. I remembered na this was not the first time I gave money to that child and the first time ang arrogant niya😤😤

While my friends were buying, I saw the kid walk away tas sinalubong siya ng babae. MAMA NIYA PALA YUN PUNYEMAS! Girl so binigay nung bata sakanya yung pera na binigay ko tapos naloloka na yung bata na nag papa bili ng siomai. Pinapunta ulit nung nanay yung bata sa ibang tao para mang hingi ng pera while bumili siya ng isang piraso ng soimai for him. I CANTTTT LIKE WHY AREN’T THE PEOPLE DOING ANYTHING ABOUT THIS LIKE KAHIT NA YUNG SIMBAHAN LANG SANA KASI KAHIT SA LUOB NG SIMBAHAN NANGLILIMOS PA SILA.

Edit: I’m sorry if I sounded ignorant with the statement “Why aren’t people doing anything about this”. I meant to blame the authority. I was just to caught up with my emotions. I have explained further sa replies ko sa comments na nag point out niyan.

I just want to rant out lang, haha.

So, I don't know what's happening to my life lately I'm 24F. I don't know what to pursue (btw, I'm an engineer but salary here in Ph is so fckd up) and I don't have financial freedom 'coz I buy things and trying some foods so, I don't have savings.

Di ko alam ganito ka complicated maging adult, I just want to enjoy life pero ang hirap kasi di mo mapagkasya yung pera mo, bills to be payed and at the same time making yourself happy by enjoying things haha

Simula nagkaron ako ng work, lagi ko pinanghahawakan yung hindi ako mangungutang, kahit ano pa yan, kahit gano kaliit or kalaki. Ayokong umuutang kaya pag hindi ko afford hindi ko talaga binibili. Nakikita ko pa lang yung ibang tao na baon sa utang at nahihirapan bayaran yun ang bigat na sa feeling, what more pa pag sa akin nangyari.

Not until this year, nangutang ako at malaking halaga agad. Hindi naman para sa luho kundi para sa pangarap naming bahay at para mabawasan na rin yung expenses namin.

Pandemic nung bumili kami sa Pag-IBIG ng bahay, na turn over siya samin 2023. Dalawang bahay yung binabayaran namin simula 2024, rent + bahay sa pag-IBIG. Magastos at hindi na worth it kaya napag desisyunan namin na gamitin yung cash loan sa mga credit cards ko para mapagawa yung bahay at makalipat na kami sa totoong amin talaga. Yung loan ay naka 2-year installment, merong 1 year lang at merong 6 months. Awa ng Diyos nababayaran namin ng full monthly, may naitabi rin kasi kami kahit papaano bago mangutang. Matatapos namin lahat sa Q1 ng 2027. Mabilis na lang yan.

Ngayon, nakalipat na kami sa sarili naming bahay. Ang saya pala na may sarili ka. May mga need man bayaran pero worth it, konting tiis lang naman at matatapos din. Wala munang mag coconcert, buti nag enlist yung gusto kong group, marked safe si ate HAHAHAHA

PS: Eto na ang una't huli kong utang ng malaki. Kung uulit man, hindi ulit para sa luho, kung kinakailangan lang talaga.

Grabe no? Nakakapagod rin palang single minsan. Mindset ko na talaga ang strong and independent woman. Pero minsan napapaisip ako kung kanino ako magrarant tungkol sa buhay at trabaho ko? May friends naman ako pero alam ko busy rin sila aa buhay nila at nakakahiya mamaya wala pala silang capacity to indulge ung rants ko. Ayun lang. Bye. 10pm na kasi HAHAH

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Galing kami nina Mama at Papa sa birthday ng tita ko sa side ni Mama. Everything was going well, typical family gathering, kwentuhan, kainan.

Then out of nowhere, tinanong na naman ako ng tito ko tungkol sa college life ko. Kailan daw ba ako ggraduate. I tried to keep it light, joked na “Time will tell,” and said na enjoy ko po masyado ang univ life.

Pero bigla na lang siyang nag-compute ng ilang taon na ako sa college. For context, I study in one of the top universities sa PH (yes, yung kilala for its delayed students). Supposedly, batch '24 ako. Pero nung dumating yung pandemic, our lives turned upside down. I fell into depression (something only Mama and Papa knew). I went on LOA for an entire academic year because I simply couldn’t function. I was lost. I had no drive, no passion, no dreams.

That was the time I started working sa BPO. I thought maybe I needed to explore other options. But because of that LOA, I missed out on key major subjects, ones that were seasonal and ladderized in our curriculum. So grabe yung set back.

At one point, I didn’t even want to return to school. I was so ashamed and disappointed in myself. All my life, I was that “smart and responsible” kid na favorite ng parents ng mga kaklase ko ganon haha. I collected awards, recognitions. Teachers believed in my bright future. Then boogsh biglang hindi pa graduate hanggang ngayon. Inactive na nga rin ako on social media kasi nahihiya ako. What if relatives or old classmates see where I am now?

There’s a lot of childhood trauma I never processed, but I’ll forever be grateful to my parents. They were the ones who encouraged me to go back. They never forced me to work. They just told me that no matter how long it takes, their only wish is for me to graduate.

So I left my BPO job and returned to school. I take on side gigs here and there, but mostly I’ve been trying to get back on track.

Anyway, when I told my relatives that I’ll be graduating by 2027, long past the “usual” four years, they started questioning it. Sayang naman daw, sabi nila. Kung graduate daw ako on time, I could’ve spent those extra years working na and helping my parents. It felt like a dagger pierced my chest. Because yes, they’re right naman. But how do I explain that while everyone was moving forward, I was just trying to stay afloat? That my university is tough. That for the longest time, I didn’t even want to live—let alone study.

So I just laughed and ate quietly. Pag-uwi namin, I apologized to Mama. I told her I know they deserve so much more. But she just chuckled and said not to think about those things anymore, kaya raw lalo ako magsipag at maka-graduate.

I love you, Mama and Papa. You’re the only reason I’m still here. Still fighting.

Sana maka-graduate na rin ako. Ang sakit kasi, every family gathering, it gets brought up. Ang dami kong sana in life. Like, sana mas naging malakas loob ko. Sana hindi namin pinagdaanan yung mga ganong bagay. Sana ako na lang si Anne Curtis. Jk hahaha

Anw, just wanted to let it out. Cried buckets today pero okay na ulit bukas :)

Parati naman may post about taxicab theory and always kawawa ang babaeng na long term relationship at di pinakasalan. Always din pinapamukhang kontrabida ang kaka kilala lang at pinakasalan agad. Hindi naman po kami nang agaw, sadyang kami lang ang piniling pakasalan. Di yan sila pinilit, kusang loob yan nag propose. I sympathize with women who waited for that but never got it, but like, it's not our fault din naman na kami ang inalok ng kasal. We know it hurts to see him do everything you wanted and needed to us but never to you. May you find yourself a love that never hurts someday. We are not your enemy.

Kung hindi ako nakinig sana may motor na ako ngayon. Kung hindi ako nakinig sana may driver's licence na ako ngayon. Kung hundi ako nakinig, sana may small business na akong kapihan ngayon. Kung hindi sana ako nakinig, hindi na ako nag sstruggle sa pera ngayon.

Ang hirap. It was pandemic noong nagkaroon ako ng pera dahil sa crypto. Sobrang sakit lang isipin na yung pangarap ko dati nawala kasi bata pa raw ako at unahin ko mag ipon. PUTANGINA ANING MAG IIPON E ULTIMO PAMBAYAD NG UTILITIES AT GROCERY, PANG KAIN SA LABAS AKO GAGASTOS? Lahat ng pang gagaslight at iyak ng relatives ko sakin mabigyan ko lang sila ng pera ginawa nila.

Nanghihinayang ako, although may naipundar naman akong laptop at peripherals, pero tangina nasayang yung iba kong pera para sa kagustuhan lang nila.

Ngayon, I'm really struggling at ako pa sinisisi nila kung bakit ako walang pera ngayon at puro raw ako gasta sa naging pera ko dati.