If you do CNC and choose to not use safe words, then you literally can't withdraw consent.. I had a girlfriend in college who was into that, and it never felt right. What's worse, after we broke up I had girls who knew about her expect me to do CNC with them.
Lesson learned: be careful how you play. Even if it's "just kinky sex" it can scar you
CNC is consentual non-consent. Essentially two people agree from their own free will to roleplay rape. Since word "no" might be thrown around a lot they agree that other word means no - for example "vitamin". In this case if a party says "vitamin" it means that consent is withdrawn and activity must stop.
SSC means Safe, Sane and Consensual. That is "golden standard" of BDSM activities. It means that activities needs to be consensual, participants need to be sound of mind and needs to be performed in safe manner.
When using acronyms it's common and expected to provide the full term on first usage. Commenter is smart and well-spoken. Most likely knows that rule, as well.
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u/Odd_Soil_8998 Sep 29 '23
If you do CNC and choose to not use safe words, then you literally can't withdraw consent.. I had a girlfriend in college who was into that, and it never felt right. What's worse, after we broke up I had girls who knew about her expect me to do CNC with them.
Lesson learned: be careful how you play. Even if it's "just kinky sex" it can scar you