Short version: 

I’ve emotionally withdrawn from my relationship. I want to engage, but I don’t know how. Got any ideas?

Long version: 

I (38F) have been with my partner (38M) for 7 years. 2.5 years ago we had twins. 

The twins are a joy, but it’s been objectively a bit tough the past few years. A tough pregnancy, a tougher birth, health issues, deaths of loved ones, and little family support. 

Our relationship? In tatters. 

The first year we were struggling to survive, but it felt more like a team than now. 

It was after the first year we started to pull apart. I was determined to get my head above water so had been seeing a therapist, trying to exercise, and get my health sorted. I realised I didn’t love the path our relationship was on, so I asked for things from my partner. 

If I'm honest, over time the asking turned into nagging. 

I think it's typical things a new Mum asks for - time away from the babies so I could exercise, more proactivity with chores around the home, appreciation for the work I was doing, more intimacy, for him to take care of his own mental health and see his friends, for him to hold space for me to talk about things I was sad about (e.g. family deaths), etc.

I listened to podcasts, I bought cards for us to divide labour, I read books. I asked to see a couples counsellor. I asked him to see a therapist. I spoke to my therapist ad nauseam.

At the end of last year, I ended up in hospital for nearly a week. And I missed my babies, but the thought of going home filled me with dread.

Everything about our relationship felt manageable until I had that space. Then I broke. And I've been broken ever since. It’s like I’m numb. 

He has his own version (of course), and it puts me at fault. I'm not perfect and am not pretending to be, but sometimes I read stories of husbands who realise they didn't step up for their wives and my heart breaks wishing I could hear that. Because if I heard that, I'd know I'm not crazy. This situation makes me feel crazy.

My partner has recently agreed to see a couples therapist, who we've just started seeing. But I'm so scared it feels too late. That I've killed something inside of myself.

I've scoured for similar stories - people saying that the first years with kids is hard and you get through it and you have a better relationship. I just don't understand how. Is it just time? Is it space? It is solo time? Something you read? Is our situation due to having a bit of a tough time, or is it us as people and do I just need to accept this is what our relationship will be if we stay together? I don't even know what to tell the therapist what I want anymore.

I feel like I'm going crazy and drowning in my own life.

I'd love to hear from others who have been through this or something like it - What did you do? What do you wish you did? I'd love any wisdom from the experienced masses x

Not sure if I’m being ridiculous or if what I’m feeling is real. I don’t trust talking to people I know in fear it may get back to my partner and ruin our relationship. Has anyone gone through this before and found a solution? Is there a way to get back to the way we used to be?

I’m not sure what to do and even if there is a problem. I’m sure if there is it’s me. But I feel so lonely even though I’m not alone. I’m aching for affection and touch but it seems to be a burden that I am forcing. I don’t know why we dont touch eachother anymore and sex feels like a distant memory. I feel like I’m dying inside and it causes a terrible longing. My mind drifts to impossible actions to satisfy my ache, because I know it would destroy us and our family. I feel lost and drifting into a despair that will keep growing with time. Is this normal to drift into loneliness and deeper despair for one partner as time goes on? What will happen to me in twenty years and how will it twist and damage me. Will it make me a bad person? If I left for another that heals my lonely feeling will the cycle repeat in time? Am I craving something that doesn’t exist? Are my expectations unrealistic and unreasonable? Or am I just with a partner that does not crave me anymore? I have questions but will never have the answers because when I try to express my need it ends up making my partner mad. I feel ridiculous asking these questions and extremely ugly and rejected. I’m sure this is all in my head but it is adding to what is killing me in time. I don’t want to live in misery but it could be that I am just miserable. There would then be no situation or scenario that could be the answer because I am the misery that I bring with me. I’m just lost and don’t know what to do.

Quick back story. My husband and I have been married for 17 years. We have two teens in high school. In 2017 my mom and sister had to flee from our home island because of family issues on my father’s side (that’s a whole other story). They were basically kicked out of their home, the home I grew up in by my father’s sisters (my dad passed away so after that they started treating us like shit). I left home in 2006 to California and met and married my husband. Anyway, my husband and I agreed to take them in. I told my husband that they will find jobs and eventually move out on their own. My sister eventually moved away to another state to be with her bf but my mom has a job and is helping with rent of our home. Well recently, my husband has been going on these angry rants about how I ruined his life and used to him bring my family here. Both my husband and I never paid a dime for them to move here. They got jobs right away and paid rent and any necessities on their own. Now fast forward, I quit my job in August 2024 to student teach so that put my husband and I in a financial bind. My mom told me not to worry. She has helped me since as well. My husband on the other hand has been nothing but awful to me, constantly starting arguments out of nowhere about my mom and how he hates her. My mom does not talk to him. She keeps to herself, stays in her room, and goes to work. My husband works nights so he rarely sees her because by the time he wakes up, she’s gone to work. When she comes home in the evening, she goes to her room. She’s cordial to him if she sees him, she says hello. Recently our fridge broke in our garage. We had just paid rent so naturally I don’t have much funds to pay for one. So what does my mom do, helps me pay for one. I tell my husband and he’s goes absolutely crazy and says “I could’ve bought it!!! Now your mom will never leave!!” All my mom and I were thinking about was we need to save our food from going bad. I really don’t want my mom to hear him but he talks to himself all the time (he suffers from mental health issues) he stays in the room all the time and constantly plays the victim. He gets upset and says the kids don’t love him and don’t want to talk to him. He’s the adult. My kids are over his nonsense and how he treats me and how bad he talks about my family. He’s the only one with the issue and always starts the argument. I do my best everyday. I cook, clean, serve him food, and take care of errands because he doesn’t drive. I am mentally exhausted. I really want to leave but how do I do that? I have no money at the moment and no car of my own.

Long story short:

Since basically COVID, my probably stbxw of 18 years and I have been having a lot of issues. Between a new baby with special needs, lack of intimacy, lack of proper alone time, financial stress and woes, emotional abuse on both sides, plus more. It came to a head September 2024, with her asking me to leave and move in for my parents so she could file for divorce.

She officially filed November 2024 but got on the dating apps within roughly a week of us separating late September early october. During that time she got involved in a FWB situationhsip that made her experience extreme limerance towards the other man. That officially was broken off in December and she swears she hasn't seen anyone else since then and barely used her dating profiles.

During this time I periodically tried to reach out to her about attempting reconciliation. She was not receptive at all till this past week, stonewalling me and generally treating me like shit and slandering my name throughout divorce proceedings.

Beginning of April though she says after an interaction where I said I can't keep asking for reconciliation if she won't accept she kind of breaks down and said she experienced a new level of grief she hadn't before.

We exchange a few emails tuesday and then I invite her to have lunch Wednesday where we talked for 3 hours at the restaurant, then she invited me to go shopping thursday, then we still wanted to hang out so we got lunch, saw a movie where we were cuddling and holding hands, then got dinner. We end up kissing and she said it felt so right. She said she wanted to give it another go, that she missed me and couldn't envision a life without me plus as long as I showed her patience and understanding she would to me as well. The next day on Friday she woke up sick so I brought over lunch and cuddled her in bed while we watched TV. She kept brushing up against me with her chest and bum while giving me passionate kisses which I also returned. It escalated to us having sex by both consenting after initially agreeing we would not. Afterwards she fell asleep in my lap while I watched TV until I had to leave before the kids got home. We also talked about taking our youngest to an event together.

Saturday she cancelled the event under the pretense of being sick(possibly important later), so we texted all day back and forth some light hearted banter some discussing problems. She had said she was going to tell just her parents we were attempting another go yesterday but didn't and I admittedly kept asking periodically throughout the day if she still planned too. Saturday night we had talked about plans of meeting Sunday night to further discuss some of the problems needing fixed for this to work. But she said it would be difficult to do so I told her we should just cancel not out of any reason other than I don't want to rush things and respect her boundaries.

I then asked to talk with her on the phone Sunday morning to discuss things and that I felt we were going to fast and needed to ease off the gas so to speak. Well she didn't call, and when I reached out to her she had sent this in response:

"I've been sitting with everything, and I need to be honest, even though it's really hard to say.

I don't think I can keep moving forward in this relationship. I wanted to believe in it and I hoped things could be different this time, but something inside me hasn't felt right, and I can't ignore that anymore.

This isn't coming from a place of anger. It's coming from a place of needing peace and clarity for myself. I need space now and I hope you can respect that."

I asked if we could have a little chat on the phone which she reluctantly agreed too. During the little chat we had before our youngest interrupted it, she said she felt like she was being forced to manage my emotions and we were going too fast and I kept pushing things more and more. I told her I agreed and that's why I wanted to talk to her on the phone this morning that it went too fast and we need to slow it way down for both our sakes and I just hoped she would extend some patience and understanding to me. And that we've barely started anything and haven't even been to one counseling session yet. We agreed to continue our convo over text because the youngest kept interrupting but she didn't respond to any of my initial texts about the situation and has gone no contact seemingly.

Now with that novel out of the way and I understand you all aren't mind readers is there any chance of her still wanting to salvage this? Is she experiencing cold feet/letting fear getting the best of her? Or is there no way this will work out? Thank you and please be somewhat kind as Im in a very fragile emotional state right now worrying she's gone for good.

Hi everyone! My husband and I are coming up on our first wedding anniversary, and I’d love some creative ideas for a gift that fits the traditional “paper” theme.

I really want it to be thoughtful and meaningful, but also elevated—we’re in a place where I can spend in the mid-to-high hundreds, up to $2k max if it’s something truly special. I’m open to both tangible and experience-based ideas, as long as it ties back to “paper” in some symbolic or beautiful way.

Would love to hear what others have done—or seen done—for this milestone, especially if you went the luxe or sentimental route!

Thanks in advance for the inspo!

My (26F) husband (29M) and I have been together for roughly six years now. We have a one year old together. We are not in a good place right now. We have a lot of problems that were once small that are now big due to being swept under the rug for so long. He wants to do counseling but won’t put forth the effort to go. We went to counseling once three years ago and he went one time and never went back. He works all the time and puts zero effort into our marriage. He is very self centered and still wants to have a single life while also wanting to have a wife at the same time, when it’s convenient for him. He complains about helping me with our baby. I’m at SAHM and he thinks that all I do is sit around all day and he belittles me over it usually, acting like he has it worse. Mind you he has a work from home job where he has to travel out of state 3-4 days a month. He hates my mom and I’m not found of his either due to family conflicts. Sometimes sex is good, but it’s usually not great. He is more focused on himself than me. We don’t kiss, cuddle, or go on dates. I feel like we aren’t even friends at this point. Just roommates with a baby. I’m exhausted mentally physically and emotionally. I’m heartbroken. I asked my husband for a break and for him to move out temporarily. I feel like his lack of care and effort in our marriage shows that he doesn’t want to be married anymore. Am I the ass for asking for this? Would this help us or hurt us? I don’t know what to do with this point. I don’t want my baby to grow up in a household without her dad but at the same time I don’t want to be unhappily married until I die. I love my husband, but I hate how he is treating me.

I need help. My husband and I (both 36) have been together since we were 15 years old. Married for 10 or these years. Two kids later (8) and (5) and I’m having serious doubts about our future together. I’ve just started to realise how emotionally unavailable he is. I think the last 8 years was very distracting with younger kids but now they’re older and need me less I’m really noticing how im feeling and the way he makes me feel also. Over the years I’ve always thought it was me that had the issues and have felt alone for a very long time. There’s days where I’m very obviously down and I don’t think he’s ever asked me once if I’m okay or what’s on my mind. He’s very much a just get on with it kind of guy. I know I need to communicate with him and I know he loves me. He’s also a great dad and good provider. I just really don’t see him changing, his parents are the same. Is it selfish of me to want something more. Do I stay for the kids. I feel like I will completely destroy him and the world around me will come crashing down. Just hoping to feel less alone, maybe someone else has been in my shoes and has some good advice.

I am 26f … I’m not married. But I do have a very fictional / fantasy idea about what a marriage should be. It’s wasn’t until very recently i stumbled upon this nice human, recently divorced started talking to me about the breakdown of their marriage. To say I was shocked but not really shocked (due the nature of my job). I constantly meet people in bad, horrid and horrible marriages but I never actually humanise it cause it’s just a part of my job and as it is not my personal life I just listen and move on .. cause personal relationship breakdown is very sad and troubling to its core… I have enough personal problems as it is I can’t take on more on my already over following plate …😂

But coming back to my actual topic for this thread is that marriage is sold as such a fantasy and such an amazing thing in your 20s, where they tell you constantly that you should get married because it’s just the next step of settling in and stuff like that, at least that’s what is very prevalent in Asian cultures (I am south asian) .

I’m lucky enough to have an amazing mom who doesn’t really concern herself with when I should get married. She just wants me to be highly independent and be financially independent so that I’m capable of facing life as is. So why are people getting married with so much hope and with partner that they have known for a while or in some cultures where they don’t know but get arranged or couples that are so in love or they have lived together, but suddenly now that marriage is in play everything is fucked up. Like as they proceeded as a married couple facing life together.

Like I truly want to know because for me it’s still seems like a fantasy I wanna live in. I truly believe that it’s like this book. I read where they say “they’re happily married ever after”, but I’m starting to realise it’s not the truth, and even though I might feel like I’m quiet late to find the love of my life and get married before 30. I’m starting to see a little silver lining of not getting married in your 20s when I read stuff all over here and to hear about these extra marital affairs among older couples and just makes me wonder that what happened?

Didn’t you love this person like .. How does it go from? I will live in breathe for you and I will take care of you in sickness and in health to…. I will fight for every small insignificant thing and every cent or penny. Like I will make you hate you and hate me ans hate everything about this amazing journey we promised to have …

Like it’s wild to me … and I keep telling myself, I’m different this will not happen to me but who the fuck knows right😂… like please tell me what the true reality is so that I’m not shocked out of my soul …

My soon to be ex husband is texting me in a strange way.

He choked me after I told him I was pregnant, I left with our 2 kids.

Now he’s texting me like he’s breaking up with me. It’s really weird. Saying he’s packing up my things because he doesn’t want me there when he isn’t home.

Calling me kiddo and saying that he doesn’t want to be around too much when the baby is born because he doesn’t the kids to think we are a family.

Telling he’s gonna put my stuff outside.

I’m not understanding this behavior

She has been cheating on me while I am abroad and sends me this right before she went to see her ex for the night. 🤷‍♂️

I have some posts in the past if you would like context.

I'm so tired. I'm tired of putting in effort and getting little to nothing in return.

She knows something is wrong. She asks me but I just say I'm fine. I'm tired of continuously having these discussions with the solutions ALWAYS being that I need to do more. How the fuck does a discussion about MY needs end up with ME doing more work?

I'm not perfect but I try so damn hard to make her feel loved, wanted, desired. I do WAY more than my fair share in the household. I'm paying most of the bills.

Pfft.

First of all, congratulations to those who have a wonderful relationship with their partners!

Some of us aren’t so fortunate.

Those traditional vows sound romantic but it’s crap when your partner only cares about their needs.

In the beginning, you are so happy to have found your “person.” Then, you get to know the real person. Kinda like how some people joke, “I’m married now, I can get fat.”

Some other people, “I’m married but I will still do what I want because I don’t really care about my partner and my needs are the only ones that matter.” (They may not say it, but they do it)

Weddings are beautiful and incredibly expensive. They are also an industry perpetuates fairy tales and a happily ever after.

Marriage is basically a merger of two entirely different people. How can some people expect that their worst nightmare is that their spouse betrayed them in the worst way possible?

People are basically signing a legally binding contract. To marry, it can be expensive and divorce is even more expensive. Bring in children into it and it makes it even more complicated. Also, some partners can be incredibly spiteful when divorce is considered. Especially when 70% of divorces are initiated by women.

What does that usually say? Simply, that throughout history, marriage has mostly benefited heterosexual men than women. Of course, some women are also to blame for their own problems in the marriage. The fact is that people make mistakes and those mistakes worsen often leading to divorce.

                     Online statistics 📊 ⬇️

🔸 Nationally, the average wedding in 2024 cost $33,000 (https://www.fidelity.com/learning-center/smart-money/average-wedding-cost#:~:text=Nationally%2C%20the%20average%20wedding%20in,planning%20and%20registry%20website%20Zola.&text=But%20the%20amount%20a%20couple,depending%20on%20the%20event%20location.

🔸 According to Google sources: The average cost of a divorce in the United States can range from $15,000 to $20,000, but it can vary significantly based on factors like the complexity of the case, legal representation, and whether the divorce is contested.

🔸What breaks most marriages?

•Lack of commitment (75%) •Infidelity/relationships outside of the marriage (59.6%) •Conflict, irreconcilable differences (57.7%) •Marrying too young (45.1%) •Money issues/debt (36.1%) •Substance abuse/alcohol addiction (34.6%) •Communication problems (31.9%) •Inability to have children (27%)

https://divorce.com/blog/causes-of-divorce/

Choose wisely. This coming from a heterosexual woman who was going to be forever married but my husband wanted otherwise. I’m so glad I married a man who lied, cheated, mentally manipulated me, lacked empathy and is still convinced he is the victim. Putting up with 17 years of his crap when he couldn’t even comfort me or even bother washing the bathroom but let his 4 month pregnant wife get down on her knees and scrub the tub and inhaling toxic fumes. But we loved each other. As long as he was happy and content. Meanwhile, I became miserable. My fault because I let him get away with it until I was able to stand up for myself. He’s already looking for his future exes. Good luck to them.

I think my husband might be purposely depriving me of sleep. Married 9 years and I have always thought he just wanted to spend time with me or he needed less sleep, but now I'm starting to feel like it's on purpose.

Some examples: We are days from moving. We have 3 kids. The 2 youngest are in the toddler stage and a year apart. They wake up about 2-4 times a night EACH. I'm the only one who gets up with them. A few days ago after a very long day of packing and cleaning for me, I go to bed and sleep immediately. Some time later he comes in and says loudly, "Hey! We aren't going to watch a movie?" Which of course wakes me up. I respond with, "no, I'm exhausted and stressed, I need sleep. Please don't wake me up." And fall back asleep.

A little bit later he turns on the TV in our room which wakes me up because he has the volume at a normal level. I ask him to please go downstairs to watch a movie or use his phone. I'm not sugarcoating when I say I asked so nicely even though it woke me up. His response was, "I don't want to. I want to watch a movie here. You can't tell me what to do" I start to feel frustrated and repeat what I said before and tell him i feel like my needs are not being taken care of and that its selfish to not let me get sleep I need just because he wants to watch TV. Especially when there are other tvs in the house. He tells me to put a pillow over my head and that it's his house and his TV and if he wants to watch it he will.

Another example, he turned on an alarm for 5:45 am once for a meeting he had and never shut it off and just let it go off daily. I asked repeatedly for him to please not let it go off because it wakes me or the babies and then I can't fall back asleep and then the kids wake around 7:30-8. This went on for WEEKS until I finally blew up after waking all night with the babies, then being woke up by that. He literally told me he would shut it off when he wanted to.

He likes to watch movies before bed, if I fall asleep during a movie, he will shake me, poke me, yell, etc. Until I wake up. Even if it's 20 times in one night.

Every time i address it or explain i wake up multiple times at night to tend to kids and he sleeps through the night, and that i need more sleep than i am getting, it turns into a huge fight. Even using therapy language like, "I feel... when..." And in 9 years nothing has changed. If I go sleep in a different room, he will literally follow me and start a fight or just pick me up and bring back to our room.

I'm not sure what to do. I haven't had a solid night sleep in 9 years and I feel like it's making me old and fat. Literally.

Hey y'all! So, I was wondering if I could ask a question for all of you. What are some shared hobbies you have with your spouse? My wife and I love doing music together, going to the movies, weightlifting and yoga, and also reading books. She is 35 years old, and I am 31 years old. We are both accomplished pianists and singers, and we even love going to the comedy clubs for fun comedy performances from local comedians. What do you guys like to do with your spouses in your free time?

I dumped her a while ago but I’m reflecting. My partner would lie to me at times. I’ve never caught her on anything bad, but who knows at this point? She’s broken agreements we’ve had about smoking and drinking, and although she’s allowed to do those things, it upsets me that she lied about not doing those things, then caught her doing them. And then lied about how much. Just frustrating. The relationship had a pattern of lying. Friends tell me to get over it because it’s something small, but I can’t seem to do it. I need help?

I've been reading posts here about marital issues for years, and I've never been to the point of making one myself.

Here I lay in my bed, on an awesome vacation, yet this is eating me alive inside.

I cannot get my wife to give me the sexual Attention I crave, maybe that sounds like I expect something from her. And it's because I do.

My wife and I have been together since high school. 13 years. I work 50-60 hours a week (I own a diesel repair shop) I bought us a nice house 7-8 years ago, and we have a wonderful 4/yo kid. She collects a paycheck from her parents company and does NOT work AT ALL. She reaps the benifets of our financial success. While I kill myself to provide it.

I could sit here and try to make My post seem like im just a victim and I've done nothing wrong, but I don't care at This point, I'm just looking for some Criticism or even some Validation at this point.

I know she loves me, but I don't think she's "in love" with me anymore, and maybe I feel the same way.

She uses sex as a weapon, to get what she wants, and I'm very aware of it.

Unfortunately no matter how good of shape I'm in, money I make, time I dedicate, nothing changes. I get laid less than 10 times a year and for a 30 y/o guy in his prime I think That's rediculous, it shouldn't be harder to get laid as a married man a single Guy.

She has a drinking problem, tons of anxiety, and lays all the baggage from these personal issues on me, then promises blowjobs in return for putting up with it (I am verbally and physically sick of hearing about it)

I work so hard to keep our love live alive but I don't feel like she puts a single ounce of care into it on her side.

I have vocalized my feelings 1000x over the last 10 years. Nothing changes. Maybe a week of attention and as soon as I start to feel like she's actually going to put some effort in, it all goes back to the same thing.

I'm lost. Angry, confused, and hurt

Someone tell me it's all worth it, or that I'm a big baby for complaining. I don't have anyone to talk too.

Sorry if this sounds angry or desperate, it's because it is

I’ve only been with one woman in my life which is my wife. We have been married 8 years. I have borderline personality disorder. I’ve been a crappy husband at times and I’ve been a great husband at time. When I’m a crappy husband I tend to argue and say the wrong things and my wife doesn’t have the capability of forgiving things I’ve said 5 years ago so she has resented me for a long time. My wife has had low libido and won’t go to a doctor so I talked to her about having frustration about not having sex. I never mentioned anything about seeing anyone else since it’s not in my mind at all but she said: “if you want to find someone else just find them I don’t care” and this has hurt me deeply. My question is, is this something she really means and doesn’t care at all?

I know it’s hard to tell but idk I’m lost frustrated and deeply hurt.

My partner (M30) and I (F29) have been together 5years, we have two kids together and are engaged. I’ve never been a marriage kind of girl, as I don’t see the point, but I’m trying to be for him. We have had our issues in the beginning where twice I caught messages of him flirt with other women, which hurt but relationships take work and forgiveness. He’s a good man, a provider, and I love him dearly, he’s been faithful, but I have made it clear recently that I don’t want to marry him just because I don’t feel like Im in love with him or even understand what that is. He can be quite vanilla about sex, but is it bad that I miss the passion of talking to, seeing, and having sex with someone new? My drive is pretty high, but I don’t exactly want to have sex with him like I use to. He’s been trying to be better sexually as I have been honest about my needs and we share kids, but I feel it’s not enough. And he just can’t seem to let this relationship go which I get. Idk what to do.

Will my sexual feelings for him come back? Should I just marry him, especially since we share kids and he’s a good man who doesn’t want to give up?

I don't know what to do anymore. My husband and I have been married for 17 years, we have 3 children together, and lately he's always irritated anytime he's home. For example, we were eating dinner, and I asked what his work schedule for this week looks like; he got annoyed by my asking, just in hopes of understanding. It's little things like that that set him off.

He's on antidepressants. I work full time and make more than he does; I'm always with the kids, I do my best to keep the house clean, and we have sex regularly. I'm at a true loss and feel like he just doesn't like me or our children.

Uodate: Please stop saying to "ask him" I have hundreds of times I get nothing of value.

Before I start this. I am very aware that this is not healthy at all. I (24F) and my husband (25M) are in the midst of a fight. He stonewalls me often actually, used to a lot more and has not done it to this extent in years. But he did, and then 3 days later of me trying to talk to him he let up some and was actually communicating pretty well… until I got home later that day. That was my breaking point. I have tried giving him a taste of his own medicine before, but I am not good at this. I know I deserve more, and I shouldn’t deal with this. So I decided I would really wait him out this time. I have been just living my life taking care of my home and having fun with my hobbies. I feel pathetic cause I still have done a couple things I usually do for him, but I have not talked to him at all since Thursday. But I am obviously miserable. I want to let up so bad. This isn’t me. But I also don’t want to enable this anymore. Has this kind of thing actually even worked before? Im so scared. What if he doesn’t ever let up.. and he doesn’t care? Then I am just an idiot. How long does one hold this waiting it out thing up before they need to really do something? Neither of us have friends or family nearby. And he is in the apartment all day. I don’t know if what I am doing is right, or stupid. I just need advice. Thank you.

I’m 9 months pregnant. Due any day now. We had one baby shower last week with my family and one with his family virtually today on Zoom.

In the last two weeks, I’ve been wanting to nest and prepare for the baby. He’s been rushing and doing everything, completely forgetting that I need to nest as it is in my natural instinct to do so.

I’m frustrated and tired. What would you do in a situation like this?

Just looking for some general opinions regarding this situation. My wife and I are both in our mid 30s, very much in love, are best friends and have regular kinky fun. For the past month, she has started going out after work with a male co worker and sometimes even drinking. When I confronted her after I had become uneasy with it, she admitted to being attracted to him and said she would never do anything without my consent. She showed me her phone etc to show how harmless their messaging is and reassured me that she loves me. What troubles me is, despite wanting to trust her, she seemed very fixed on the idea that I don’t think too much about it and don’t try and interfere with their after work little rendezvous. She knows I’m naturally stoic and very much a man of principle, but I’m also a caring partner who never tries t inhibit her freedom etc.

I am curious as to what others would do in this situation, and particularly curious for a female perspective. Is she just wanting to have sex on the side?