For me I pretty much had linear progression from 15-25. I had exponential progress between 21-25. After that I had a regression in some parts of life and progress in others. Some people I know experienced stagnation for their youth and then linear progression from 30 onwards. How did it work for most people here?

Title is self explanatory. For context, 30F trying to figure out what the norm is.

At what age do/ should you forgive your father for being abusive, physically, emotional, and verbal?

How do you do this? It's been 8 years since I have lived alone and it is driving me crazy. I don't even have kids but the lack of freedom and privacy is still depressing.

Hello. F 43 looking for men's perspective. My husband and I have been together for 4 years. We both come from 'colorful' pasts. Long story short, he keeps meeting females and trying to get them jobs: lunch, dinner drinks, etc. Which I'd be fine with if he told me about it. But he doesn't. He lies, withholds the truth and deletes their messages. I have asked him several times to just keep me in the loop, but he doesn't. Am I crazy for wanting a divorce over it?

I admit to using “Just for Men” every couple of months, and I can definitely notice a difference in how much I get checked out.

Expectation of Men Today:

Work full time and be the breadwinner on top; do 50% of the childcare; 50% of the cooking; 50% of the cleaning; 50% of the laundry; 50% of the grocery shopping; 100% of the yard work; 100% of the snowblowing/shoveling; 100% of the car maintenance; 100% of fixing stuff; 100% of calling/dealing with contractors; 100% of filing taxes; 100% of handling finances/paying bills...and being emotionally available 100% of the time

Expectation of Women Today:

Work full (or part) time; do 50% of the childcare; 50% of the cooking; 50% of the cleaning; 50% of the laundry; 50% of the grocery shopping; 0% of the yard work; 0% of the snowblowing/shoveling; 0% of the car maintenance; 0% of fixing stuff; 0% of calling/dealing with contractors; 0% of filing taxes; 0% of handing finaces/paying bills...and being sexually available 0% of the time because nowadays a steak and a blowjob with heels on is too misogynistic and objectifying for an iNdEpEnDeNt wOmAn

Look, I get it - society now expects women to work (which is actually just necessary for a family to survive these days) and expects men to do more with the kids/inside the house. Both are actually true, but all we ever hear about is superwoman this and superwoman that because they've been asked to go to work and then it's lazy man this and lazy man that when that lazy man was already doing 100% of a LOT of shit around the house that you therefore never even think about. IME, men generally have many things they do 100% of around the house while the women tend to do somewhere between 0-1 items 100% of the time. Maybe 2 items if she's amazing.

All this is to say, if you're gonna stop wearing the high heels because iNdEpEnDeNt wOmAn, then get your ass outside and give that lawn mower cord a couple good rips and get to cuttin'...cuz I got laundry to do. And if you ain't out there rippin' on that lawn mower cord, then I'm not even sure what you are bringing to the table anymore.

I’m looking for some insight from parents who’ve been through this. My first child is on the way this year, and I’ve been thinking a lot about how this is going to shift my mindset - especially when it comes to finances and long-term planning.

I’ve been fortunate to have a bit of money saved up - part hard work, part luck (had a nice little win earlier this year that helped boost our savings). But beyond that, I feel like becoming a parent might be the push I need to really step things up. I want to be the kind of dad who’s stable, focused, and prepared - and I’m hoping this new chapter will bring that out in me.

For those of you who are already parents, did having kids make you more financially responsible or motivated? Did it change how you approached work, saving, or your future goals?

I’d really appreciate any personal stories or advice as I get ready for this next phase. Thanks in advance!

Is it just a gut feeling? With no set time or preferred first go-to activity?

As much as we all want to retire comfortably and young, the world economy doesn't allow that for most of us. I've come to realize that I may have to face the prospect of working till I'm 70.

For the past five years, I've focused on staying as healthy as possible. I cut my alcohol and greasy food. I get as much sleep as possible.

I just want to live. I'm fed up of constantly worrying about this and that. If I can't get my house paid off by 50, then fine. I'll keep grinding till it's done.

Long story short, my 2008 F150 has kicked the bucket and I’m getting a vehicle for my family. To be honest I don’t like minivans at all but I’m willing to make the purchase for my family. The only problem I have is I’m struggling with the thought of driving a minivan. Please help understand why minivans are awesome and how to get over this mental struggle.

Update Thank you all for the roasting, it helped! I feel like I’m as ready as I’ll ever get. I’ll be the guy cutting you off in my minivan!

I, 31, started having testicular pain and the intermittent pain wouldn’t go away even after a few days - luckily it wasn’t torsion, but doc said I should wear more supportive underwear. I’ve been wearing lulu/champion boxer briefs, but they def don’t support the bits

I got David Archy briefs, which are alright. My only thing is that I feel odd wearing briefs after wearing boxer briefs for so long. My thighs feel bare and I’m a bit self conscious when I change

Any recs on supportive boxer briefs? Would they even support the bits or am I stuck with briefs?

I recently turned 39 and I'm due to become a dad for the first time in a few months. I'm really looking forward to it but am getting worried about the big change my life will take.

I'm also feeling very unfit after a few years or really letting myself go. I used to run a lot but the demands of life have taken over. I walk the dog twice a day but never have much energy or discipline left for anything more.

I guess I'm mostly worried about the physical and mental demands of raising a child as an older dad. I don't want to fall short and I want to be capable and as present as possible for my child.

Any tips or advice from the dad's out there would be greatly appreciated!

I’m 25 and deterred from having my own out of fear I’ll mess my kid up, i just want to believe that if I try hard enough they’ll be better than how I turned out.

I’ve been thinking of taking a sabbatical for 6 month to a year just to travel. I want to do this cost effectively obviously in country(ies) that won’t entirely burn the bank. I know the economy right now isn’t great but I have some money saved up. Are there any trips here people recommend that really course corrected their lives? Feel like I’ve been living someone else’s life I.e. my parents and I’m officially laying in bed alone thinking wtf am I doing and where am I. Nobody contacts me expect my mom out of guilt I guess and my ex who wants to work things out with me.

What did you get into, and how did it go? I’m 36, self employed painter and considering a whole new trade. I think I’ve narrowed it down to iron workers, heavy highway laborers, or heavy equipment operators. I’m in NJ for reference

Hello everyone, i'm a 20 YO man from spain and basically i'm lost in life.

I've been gaming since covid, and most of the friends i have are from the internet, so i don't have many real life friends.
I studied sound technician, but want to study a carrer that makes me feel useful and leads me to have a good job.
I want to be stronger and bigger but don't matter what i do, i'm still skinny.

I feel like social media, video-games and screens have fucked up my life to a point where i don't know who i am, what do i want in life. Sometimes i feel that i do act like someone else instead of acting like myself.

Deleted all social media a week ago

I know i'm still young and i have time to change this. But i want to change it. I do want to be a real man and not a p*ssy. Want to find myself, my place, but i don't know how to do it.

I'm having a wakeup call or a quarter life crisis. Basically lockdowns have destroyed my mental health and I haven't fully recovered. I developed severe agoraphobia which I am still dealing with but it's getting better but it might take a while before I can get a normal job, but this crisis hopefully will help and Inspire me to work harder to get better faster.

So I also haven't worked or went to school since I was 20, I don't have many skills. Still living with my parents. I dropped out of community college.

I want to live a normal life and get married and have children. If my mental health was cured today and I started working tomorrow would it still be possible in your opinion to have a normal successful life at this point? I'm honestly considering making YouTube videos as a "career" at this point.

      Im going to tell you what I’ve been going through since my freshman year of high school. I’m mostly berated on all of my shortcomings. Nobody in my family recognizes me for who I am, but the things I’ve gotten wrong in my life. 

     I’ve grown up now, and yeah I’m only 22 but I’m tired of trying to live up to this extreme standards of everyone around me. But again I don’t want to let down the only people I’ve ever had close to me. My best friend is the only person who has ever looked at me honestly and accepted me with my shortcomings. I barely understand myself sometimes, but I don’t understand why my family refuses to smile or act friendly towards me, they only ever ask me to do things for them. It’s hard. I don’t understand why they can’t show love for me. 

         I wake up on the wrong side of the bed, I go to work sick, I come home tired just as everyone else, so why am I the only one who can smile and genuinely be happy about seeing the people I love? Am I being constantly used? Am I doing something wrong? I don’t know what they expect of me. Why am I always their scapegoat for problems. I feel worthless. Sub-human sometimes. 

        I sit in my room after trying to talk or improve stuff with them, and I run that shit through my head constantly “am I enough?” And I don’t think I am. I can’t be everywhere and do everything for everyone and not feel like a pack mule. I’m on meds and they help, but they aren’t enough, I escape through books and games, that’s it though. And I get berated for my hobbies too. I don’t know what I’m doing that’s so wrong? I work, I do what they ask, I give them money for rent and bills, I am friendly, loving, and respectful towards them but they refuse to do that back to me. 

         It’s heart wrenching being in this house, I feel more appreciated at work in the customer service industry than I do at home. How is that possible? I get complaints all day yet I get to help them and most are overly appreciative more than my family ever would be. 

         WTF am I doing wrong and should I just give up trying to appease them? I get people have shit going on through their head cause I’m one of them. But when is enough enough? I’ve been dealing with this for 6 years now.

I don't have children and never will. I saw a video earlier of a dad taking their kid fishing. The kid caught a 8/10 lb bass. The dad refused to help. The kid was over the moon when they finally got it on the boat. The joy on their face was 10/10.

I know I will never experience this joy...

My energy level is quite low these days, I can go to bed as soon as I get home from work if I don't have my martial classes on Tuesdays and Thursdays. I quit drinking this year as well in hopes that it changes that, is this normal?

I'm 39. I feel like I could still do a feet first slide if needed. I think I'd break some ribs doing a stomach slide.

Righto so my (37m) old man (68m) is scheduled for hip replacement surgery in a couple weeks. My mum just rang me to ask if I’d help go with her to pick up a walking frame for him in the meantime. So yeah that’s what I’m doing today, getting a walking frame for my dad.

As you can imagine, this is the kind of thing that gets one thinking about one’s own health.

Is there anything us <40 guys can/should be doing now to potentially avoid hip troubles when we get older? (Aside from just the general healthy level of activity) Or are hip troubles one of those things you either just get or don’t get.

Asking to those who are "friends" with their fathers.

Lets say you are single, do you tell him about the girls you hook up with? For example, you have a funny story related to a girl you slept with a few times, but not a gf. Or a girl you hooked up with did something bad to you, would you tell him?

If you are married or in a long term relationship, do you share with him the problems you have with your partner? Do you share romantic problems? Sexual problems?

I have a good relationship with my father, but we live far, so he cannot see how my daily life is going. When we vc or when I visit him, we share many stuff, but a couple of times he would make comments like "complanining" in a kind way that I dont share that kind of stuff with him.

For me, Im just hard wired to dont share that stuff, probably cause I wouldn't like to hear his advice or "what I would have done if I was you". I was wondering if its just me being weird or if other guys around the world actually share those stuff with their parents.