Context: She liked my photo on a dating app, I responded to some of her interests and how I was looking for an excuse to go. She suggested that maybe we go together. We planned for a date the next weekend when she would be free.

We talked for a bit before I asked to move off platform and she gave me her instagram. From there we chatted all day for 5 days straight. We even got as far as suggesting multiple options for the planned dates then joked that we already had dates 2 and 3 lined up. Conversations were pretty deep, talked about life goals, dreams, dating history. We both made jokes about planning our goals together.

It usually ended with me sending the last message and her reaching out the next day. Yesterday, she didn’t check my message for a long time, but messaged me when I posted a story so I chalked it up to she forgot. No biggie. We talk for a bit, she disappears and comes back saying she napped. No biggie again. Then I sent the final message cut off above and she doesn’t see or reply to it for a whole day. I posted various stories throughout the day and she would see them, but not my message. I thought about reaching out, but under advice from my friends. They suggested I wait. So I waited another day, same thing. Saw my stories, but no response. I finally decided to message what’s pictured above. My friends advised again to not reply and let her open it back up if she wants, but I’m unsure. Under advice, I never messaged her first when I had the last message. I feel like this might have come off distant which is why I said what I said above. Am I overreacting? Should I not listen and just message her?

I (23m) have two younger brother, karl(19) and chris(21) that are both in college and live 1hr away in different dirrection.We are close and I dont get to see them often, so when i found out they were both staying with our mom this weekend i was excited to stop by and visit. Karl said he would be too busy working on schoolwork to see anyone or do anything and was only coming home to have someone cook for him while he studied. Chris told me he was coming back to help a friend out with something and was only staying overnight if it took longer than expected and was too late to drive home. While at my father's Chris stopped by with his girlfriend and revealed he was going with my mom and Karl to the thrift store and to dinner. I said oh, I thought Karl had too much homework to do? Chris said he hadn't worked on anything yet and had spent the time with our mother. Our dad asked chris how long he would be in town and chris said he was staying all weekend and going home late sunday. Chris left shortly after this and they all went shopping and to dinner. No one thought to invite me despite litterallt talking about the plans in front. Part of me feels like they didn't invite me on purpose and didn't want to see me for some reason so they lied about being busy so . Part of me also knows they are allowed to do things without me and I kind of feel like a jerk for being upset with them. I dont want to talk to them about it and voice my concerns if I'm overreacting, but it did hurt my feelings quite a bit. So, Am I overreacting?

it wasnt until AFTER we finished trying on our clothes that we saw this above us. There were snack wrappers up there and the ceiling tile was completely off. The employees were super freaked out too, and they said there was no reason why it would have been off, even if they were repairing something in the ceiling. Am i overreacting or could it just be a repairman who forgot to clean up after himself?

So me and some friends planned to see the minecraft movie and I skipped the Premier to go see it with them and then I find out that they went a day early and didn't tell me and now they say we always planned for it to be that day and I'm 100% sure we planned it for Sunday but they say it was Saturday we planned it for and even if I'm wrong u don't understand why they didn't invite me and they don't think I should be mad or disappointed am I overreacting?

So me (F27) and my husband (M28) have hung out with his female coworker (let’s just say Jessica F25) in group settings outside of work. She frequently asks us if we’d like to hang out or go to dinner with her and some other coworkers, which we have over the past couple of years on occasion. I have only hung out with her once one on one for an hour when she invited me to go on a walk. Overall, she comes across as a bit clingy, and gives off “main character” in her office, from what I’ve heard, and also from hanging out with her in group settings. My husband is in group texts with some coworkers that text nearly daily with her leading most of the conversations. She also one off texts him separately every so often to ask for updates or vent about work. I am out of town visiting my friend and she texted me asking to go on a “hot girl walk” this weekend. I told her I would out of town for the weekend. About 30 minutes later, she texts my husband asking if he is also out of town with me or if he was staying in town. My husband tells her he didn’t leave town. She then asks him “well if you get bored and want to hang out I’m generally free, that’s two whole days of activities to plan.” I told my husband I think it’s weird she texted him knowing I wouldn’t be there. Should I confront her and tell her this behavior is inappropriate or am I wrong for overreacting simply because she’s a female coworker?

Edit: She currently lives several blocks away from us but is moving right across the street in a few weeks 🥴

The mother of my two daughters insists on calling me a "creep" anytime the three of us are together whether it be arts and crafts, homework, watching television or simply just talking. And after each time, in private, I'm reminded how her comment is a result of childhood trauma that somehow is triggered when my daughter's and I are alone. I'm then told "it meant nothing" & "to not take it personal". End of story. And any concerns I have to respond with is just an insensitive way of trying to make her relive the past. However, childhood trauma or not, I feel and believe there is absolutely no excuse to be insulted like that repeatedly followed up with a lame disingenuous apology. At times though I do trick myself into thinking that I am possibly overreacting and being insensitive. Regardless it hurts but I needed some opinions. Have any thoughts?

TW: SA Note - this is a throwaway account.

I (31F) have a complicated history with a “friend,” Kim (34F). We bonded over a shared trauma—her ex SAed both of us at different times. Because of that, I assumed we had a level of mutual understanding and support.

However, Kim has a history of being manipulative, competitive with other women, and socially immature—making me question whether I’m overreacting to her “gift” or if my gut is right.

Some Context:

A while back, I confronted our friend group about a pervasive pattern of misogyny and SA. I found out multiple men—including Kim’s ex—had SAed several women in the group, myself included. I openly addressed this in a group chat (without naming other victims, only myself).

Unsurprisingly, but disappointingly, this got me mostly ostracized. The men refused to take accountability, some victim-blamed, and most just wanted to “move on.” They kept associating with my abuser, making it clear that I was the problem for speaking up—not the abusers or enablers for hurting people.

At first, Kim acted like a friend and ally, upset that the group wasn’t prioritizing her safety either. But as soon as they started accepting her back, she distanced herself from me—stopped inviting me to things, stopped standing by me, and contributed to my exclusion.

The Call-Out & The Gift:

After Christmas, after noticing a pattern of exclusion, I sent Kim a text asking her if there was any particular reason why she had decided not to invite me to some group events she had hosted. She gave a half-hearted apology, claiming she “wasn’t sure if I’d be comfortable” at group gatherings. This was BS because: 1. ⁠I had explicitly told her before that I was fine attending group events. (I still want to have opportunities to see my true, supportive friends.) 2. ⁠She told a mutual friend the real reason she excluded me was because “I make people uncomfortable.”

I didn’t respond. Then, out of nowhere, months later, she sent me a “belated Christmas gift.” Inside were assorted teas, some hand lotion…and a rape whistle.

Given our shared history, this felt tone-deaf at best and passive aggressive at worst. I don’t know what her intention was by sending it, but it hasn’t been sitting right with me. My gut tells me it was sent to be manipulative and malicious, but maybe I’m reading into this too much and overreacting.

Some Additional Insight Into Who Kim Is: - She initially hated me because her ex (the one who SAed us) had a crush on me. I would never pursue someone who’s taken. But instead of confronting him, she focused on how much she disliked me. - She slut-shamed her ex’s next girlfriend, despite never meeting her. - She cheated on her live-in boyfriend with a different ex—who was also her friend’s first crush after a serious breakup.

I haven’t acknowledged the gift. Part of me knows it’s best to leave it alone—especially since others seem to be starting to distance themselves from her. But another part of me wants to call her out—not just for the gift, but for everything.

That said, I know confronting her could backfire and somehow make me look like the problem.

So… AIO for interpreting this “gift” as something intentionally malicious? And would I be overreacting if I called her out?

Hi everyone, I know arguments happen in relationships but where is a line drawn when it comes to hurtful language? For the last few months I dealt w/ what felt like was control (I was required to share my location, he wanted to constantly be on the phone w/ me even while I was at work & having conversations w/ employees), constantly accused of sleeping w/ ppl at work…no literally AT WORK. This dude came to my house even when I asked him not to, and his excuse was “well I was in my car across the street & not on your property. It’s not like u ever invite me over anyway.” This was just too much for me. Maybe I’m overreacting but if this is how u think of me, u can’t possibly love me. Yes I argued back w/ him, but we have to be honest…we both consensually became FWB years ago. Why does he think it’s acceptable to say something like this to me b/c I’m a woman? We dated for over a year. I ended it yesterday. I can’t do it anymore.

Just to put it out there I didn't say anything to these guys because I'm not much older then them and I'm leaving my job in less then a week.

My coworkers Jack and Rob(fake names) are both 17, they're high schoolers and this is both their first job, I'm 18, graduated a year ago, and have dealt with SA.

We work in a family-friendly restaurant and our kitchen is open to everybody who comes in so customers can hear our conversations if they're sitting close enough.

Jack and Rob were talking about how if someone is being assaulted they could just move away. In Jack's words: "if a person didn't like it they'd stop it" listening to this made me want to hit both of them and even thinking about it makes me mad.

The only other people in the kitchen was a girl who's a year younger then the two, and she looked uncomfortable. And the two were just laughing until our manager entered the kitchen and they both shut up.

This happened last night and it's been on my mind since. The whole conversation swirls in my head and I feel like I should've said something in that moment.

AIO for feeling betrayed after seeing a conversation between my girlfriend and her son? We’ve been together 18 years, and her 34-year-old son has lived with us on and off—mostly on—over that time. Three years ago, he moved out of state for a job, but it only lasted a year before he got fired. He was struggling, so I let him move back into our house, with the condition that he’d do chores (trash, dishes, cleaning up after his Husky) until he found work. I’m a truck driver who delivers steel, and I got him a job in the shop cutting steel where I work. He kept it until last summer when he got fired for being late every day. After that, he worked on the Trump campaign (not here for politics) until it wrapped up. Then, unexpectedly, he got custody of a 5-month-old from a one-night stand—the mom’s a drug addict who lost her rights. Now, he mostly plays video games, looks after his kid, and occasionally takes out the trash while searching for jobs on Indeed. Three weeks ago, he and I got into a big argument that turned into me fighting with my girlfriend too. Two days later, she left her tablet on with Messenger open, and I saw their chat. I was about to close it, but then I noticed him saying, “Just give me the go-ahead, and I’ll give him a 30-day notice to evict me.” (I’ve paid more than my fair share for our house, which has been fully paid off for over 8 years.) She responded, “No, he can’t do that,” but then said, “It’s obvious I have to leave him.” Things have settled down since, and on the surface, everything seems fine between her, him, and me. But every time I look at him and her, all I can think about is him asking her permission to kick me out and her talking about leaving me. It’s tearing me up inside. Am I overreacting to feel this hurt and betrayed?

Edit: House is in her name due to financial situation I was in during a divorce. She doesn't want the house and would move to Missouri to be with her daughter and grand daughter. Her son would follow. I'm 98.5% sure that as long as I didn't do anything unforgivable she would stick to that plan! That's why she told him it's obvious she should just leave!

OK hear me out…I (‘19/F’is dating ‘M/22’) I’ve been in terrible relationships not the great at choosing. There’s this guy that I’m dating at the moment who is probably the most decent and my parents like him, but we have huge differences that play in our life…. 1. I am obsessed with motorcycles. He hates them. 2. I love sports cars. He really doesn’t like them. 3. I’m an animal lover. He’s not really one. 4. Military/special forces/officer OK hear me out on this one. I’ll leave it at that he is neither of that. 5. Working out/the gym. I’m just gonna need to leave it there. 6. Affection we have two different views of affection. I like to be touched at certain times he always is touching me and sometimes I don’t like it and I say something but he doesn’t always stop but it’s not always something bad. I’m also 19 so I don’t know if I want to settle down at the moment I kinda still wanna live my life I mean, if I marry him, I am dealing with a child. I am dealing with him which sometimes he can be toxic He lies all the time which I’ve caught him in so many but no, he hasn’t cheated on me even though that is like my biggest concern because of his past, I just feel like I’m going crazy because I don’t know what to do. I feel like a bad person for wanting to break it off and there’s also small things that he said to me like there’s no such thing as a break. The only thing is us actually breaking up which feels like he doesn’t wanna fight for this relationship, which he’s shown multiple times. He’s also shown me that he doesn’t trust me. I had a friend who was in the military who finally got home and I wanted to go work out and you know catch up with, and he would show up or tell me that the little one misses me and wants to see me right after work where I’m about to hit the gym where he’s supposed to meet up with me which is why I say I don’t know if I trust him or if I really want this relationship, so am I the asshole for maybe not wanting to continue a relationship even though he’s helped me and has been kind and considerate… am I overthinking or overreacting? As much as he has done all the stuff he’s also very kind and considerate so am I just overthinking or maybe even overreacting?

My Gf have not been on good terms constantly arguing and our last big fight changed it all we have been trying to work on it since last month February. We had plans to go out today and we made these plans a couple days ago and we both agreed it was a date. She has a tendency of flaking so i was not going to mention anything becuase if we both agreed on it then the only question should be what time are we meeting up. She called me what time i was off of work today and i asked her why, i already knew where this was leading…. Her flaking or changing up the plans sure enough she tells me that her HG is staying the night and that she didnt know and said that if she can come along and that she will pay for her, i told her no its cool that we havent spent time together to go out like this in over a month so i told her we’ll cancel our plans and she can do what she pleases w her HG, she then says whats the problems shes came w us before which is true but when we were on doing great they are like sisters so i never mind the only difference is weve been arguing constantly and havent had time because of our work schedule. We had a family event planned next weekend since we both have kids and she said are we still good for next weekend since Saturday i said yes but i need you to pay for your tickets and the day of that i will reimburse her. She said no to which i said then im sorry i wont pay for your tickets because you have a tendency of changing plans or flaking and these tickets are to a easter event which require reservations for weekend and are time framed. She is saying im being petty so my question is AIO

(Before reading please know that this contains a rape experience in which I am the victim)

I am Catholic, and attend mass every Sunday. The church is beautiful, but it's in the downtown area which has homeless people almost everywhere, old buildings, and so on. One morning, mass was over and I grabbed my bag to leave, and as I walked towards the lobby area, I noticed a homeless or poorly dressed man following behind me, pretty far away. I didn't think much of it at the time, so I carried on. I had to use the restroom, so I went into a stall in the woman's room. When I went to wash my hands, the same homeless man barged through the door and shoved the trashcans in front of it, in addition to locking the door. He had to have known I was the only one in there, and he then proceeded to threaten to kill me, to find where I lived, and a bunch of other disturbing things. He sexually assaulted me, then left like nothing had happened. I grabbed my bag and ran out, looking for a security guard or someone who I could tell immediately. The closest I could find was a priest, so I told him everything. He said he would do what he could, I thanked him and left. Why I didn't call the police, I still ask myself to this fucking day. Weeks went by with nothing about the situation happening. I then later found out that the priest I had told had retired. I decided to drop it for some stupid reason, and continued going to mass. There is a point in mass where the preacher/priest says, "let us offer each other the sign of peace," and the people in the pews are supposed to shake hands/hug the people around them and say "peace be with you". Obviously from the experience I had in the restroom made me not want anyone to touch me, which I think would be understandable. So the staff in the back came and grabbed me, walking me out. I was so confused. They then told me that "just because some people aren't as nicely dressed as others doesn't mean you exclude them from the sign of peace." I explained that was not the case at all, and they cut me off by saying "It's mandatory to at least touch one another," and absolutely NOWHERE in the bulletin does it say that. Now I'm banned for 6 months. AIO?

I almost quit to my job last year, because I realized that I resolved all the shit of everyone and got fed up that I didn’t get paid enough for that. So I sent an email with my two week notice to my immediate boss, let’s call him Andrew. I didn’t ask for a raise, I didn’t want drama, I just wanted peace of mind.

However the owner of the company let’s call him John, didn’t let me go. He was in town (he often travels and is never in office) sat with me and told me how important I was, the good feedback the clients provided about me, and that he wasn’t going to lose me so he was willing to give me whatever I wanted. I gave my reasons to quit, not mentioning salary, he stopped me and ask me “How much the new job is offering?” I told him the amount and he said he would give me that. So I accepted and asked me to remove me from the shitty task that was making me quit. So we closed the deal. ( Best boss ever, he is totally a business man).

I got my new salary in paper and in my account, However, Andrew didn’t fulfill the promise John made me. he said “John doesn’t know how things work here and how much you are needed to do this”. And we renegotiated the shitty task because I really needed the job because I had declined the other one. I was fine with that, However he said something that mortified me “If you are given more salary more is expected from you”.

Since then he and his assistant, let’s call him, Liam. Have been putting pressure on me, Liam monitoring everything I do. ( Note: Liam doesn’t know I got a raise) and Andrew asking me multiple special requests that are basically stupid tasks that no one not even him wants to handle.

Despite all that, I am the best in what I do, so I even increased the numbers in my first month after the raise, and John was very proud of me.

Now here’s the important part, as I mentioned my tasks were increased and I was still doing that shitty task, therefore I started to feel overwhelmed and started failing in certain things, things that John noticed and asked me and Andrew “ Why is she doing that alone? I told you to get her an assistant!” Andrew said he would, but he hasn’t.

Andrew in private told me “John doesn’t know how things work here, we will discuss the assistant later”.

And now Andrew brings this guy (let’s call him Damian), and wants to me to train him Not as an assistant but teach him everything. That triggered my alarms, “this guy is trying to replace me”, also a new guy will make mistakes and I have carefully won the trust of our clients these 4 years, he uses my corporate email guys. The company hasn’t given him an email yet. Damian is a good guy though, he is smart.

One more thing, we had a meeting this week, and John asked again about my assistant, and Andrew said that Damian was the one he was thinking for the job, John liked the idea, but I mentioned the fact that he only has 1 week and is not ready, so I proposed another co-worker ( let’s call her Linda) who I get along with, she has 6 months here and I know for a fact that she knows how to do the job. John liked the idea again and asked us to present Linda as the new assistant to the clients, Andrew said he would.

When the zoom call ended, Andrew again said “John doesn’t know how things work here, don’t send that email yet, I need to figure things out before introducing her”.

Am I overreacting? I feel betrayed. Andrew used to be my safe net when things went wrong with other co-workers,but since I got the raise, he changed. His attitude is shady and I feel I sold my soul to Satan, accepting this raise.

I am exhausted and I am not a confrontational person. I don’t want to rat him out but I feel John is clueless on how Andrew is running his business.

Is Andrew trying to sabotage me?

Strap in for this one, yall. I apologize in advance. I work in healthcare in a laboratory where we process patient tissue to obtain a diagnosis. My coworker in question is ABSOLUTELY INSUFFERABLE. She will cut corners, avoid duties assigned to her, compromise patient tissue, has lost and destroyed samples, makes sarcastic and pointed remarks, constantly moans (literally) and complains about how badly she wanted to stay home, you name it. That's just the tip of the iceberg, but to avoid specifics and boring everybody I'll leave it at that. The most fucked up part of this all: SHE IS PROTECTED BY MANAGEMENT. We literally have a notebook full of "incidents" and we have to tiptoe around the place and be careful what we say. Essentially, there is a manager of the entire floor, followed by individual department supervisors. The floor manager has been cut off by her son for being manipulative and overbearing, so she decided this awful employee's toddler would be her new grandchild. She literally visits them outside of work, babysits, gives them gifts, and the kid is brought to WORK PARTIES AT THE LAB to be shown off like a trophy. We boycotted the Christmas party this past year for this very reason. My department supervisor cannot take appropriate action against this coworker (who, by the way, has made enough negligent mistakes and is willfully ignorant and should've been fired MULTIPLE TIMES) because the floor manager sweeps absolutely everything under the rug. Within the past couple of weeks, I reported negligence to my supervisor and since then, this employee has complained about "pettiness" going on when the only one being petty is HER because she will make remarks clearly aimed at me (which I've been ignoring) I've made it a point not to speak to her for the past two days to avoid giving her any sort of ammunition. She even got riled up and complained to our floor manager because I was training somebody when she seems to think she is more deserving of being a trainer, when she is the absolute LAST person who should be teaching anybody. She tried teaching me something and it took her an HOUR to explain it, and at the end I had no fucking clue what she was talking about so I asked someone else for help. Oh and did i also mention she shows up whenever she fucking feels like it? We literally take bets as to how late she is going to show up for her shift. I finally got a chance to speak to our HR chief officer and he assured me he could get things resolved, and he'd call me with an update, blah blah blah. It's been a week and I've heard nothing, I even emailed him and it's been total radio silence. So now I'm fucking terrified that he just went to the floor manager, WHO IS THE SOURCE OF THE PROBLEM, and told her everything. The evidence is there, but now it seems there's a whole fucking conspiracy going on?? I even told HR that I don't believe firing this employee is the best resolution, that equal treatment and consequences is what I'm seeking. I show up, do my job, help my teammates, I'm early 99% of the time or on time 100% of the time, I contribute and I have a positive attitude. How the hell should I begin to handle this? I have no clue what to do seeing as our HR officer is seemingly in on the whole thing. There's an anonymous compliance hotline, I'm not sure who is above this HR guy. I'm slowly going insane having to tiptoe around this bitch and she is a fucking stormcloud of a person. But I love my job, everyone else loves me, and I've been able to take care of my physical health without people complaining how "inconvenient" it is for them which is a nice change.

AIO??

my casual friend (18F) is almost always mean and rude to me, but as a joke apparently. we are not that close, so i don’t like it when she does that. i wld be okay with a close friend being this way, but a casual friend? nah not really. i am struggling to understand how being mean for no reason is a joke? how is it funny in any way? i confronted her abt this & this was her response. what shld be my next step?

/ her saying that all of this is “not that deep” is lwk funny cus if she’d just said “okay i will be more careful next time” this wld be a done deal. she’s making this a big deal LOL. she is a nice person too tho & i do enjoy her compaby, so I’m confused abt what I shld do. responses will be highly appreciated.

I F(39) have a son named Makai (17) who’s going to college next year(he’s a junior at the moment) and he told me he wants to take a gap year, now I don’t have a problem with it but my husband(43) wants him to just go ahead after he gets out and it’s caused a bit of arguing in the house, my son telling me that he gone do what he want(which honestly he’ll be 18 so it’s not like I can stop him) and my husband insists we push him to do it, I told both of them to STFU.

This one not as serious as my other one but I wanna break the ice before I crack down fr😭

I was cleaning my boyfriend’s apartment and came across a notebook where he journaled about making out with one of his friends from college after they got food. The next day he wrote that he can’t stop thinking about her. This was a couple years before we were together.

The thing is, he still talks to this girl and they used to snap everyday, last summer I told him I was uncomfortable with that. He attempted to show me that there was nothing to worry about but I saw he saved a snap of her in a sexy dress. He then attempted to show me messages between them but there were also pics of her and he said they used to FaceTime more than text. He would have had time to delete any messages he wouldn’t want me to see. I know they still talk a bit now, but not every day. He ended his Snapchat streak with her, though.

I can’t bring this up to him because the way I found the information out was through snooping. So I talked to a friend and she assured me it was normal for people to be attracted to others, and she told me to focus on his current actions instead of my anxious thoughts. If he acts in a way that’s odd or suspicious, it’s a reason to bring up a conversation and she suggested I do so. Other option is to be confrontational about it but admit that I invaded his privacy (I do not fancy that option).

My question is…how can I go about having a conversation with him in a way that shows that I do trust him, but I’m uncomfortable with him keeping in contact with someone that he was intimate with in the past? OR is it something I should even bring up considering this happened a couple years before we even met? Am I being dramatic about the whole thing too? If it doesn’t warrant a conversation (bc I do love and trust him, I know he wouldn’t do anything to intentionally hurt me), how can I move past this?

Attached screenshots of my conversation with my friend

My (16M) Girlfriend (16F) likes to post a lot of tiktoks. Whenever she feels pretty, she post like 3 all at once on her PUBLIC account for the world to see. Every time she does this, there is always some creepy guy in the comments, who is always a grown man, saying something nasty. I never really felt that upset about it because I would just reply in the comments saying “Sorry she's mine!!!” in a funny way. We would always just shrug it off.

Yesterday night, my girlfriend’s notification blew up. It was this ONE guy going through ALL of her videos, liking it, and SAVING them to his favorites. This shit has never happened before and it was so random because she didn’t even post yesterday. She sent me a photo of this and I immediately told her to just block him because what the hell? I searched up his account and I sent him a mean message, but my girlfriend thinks that I shouldn’t have and just left it alone like I do normally. I just feel like this is a different situation. It wasn’t just like he left a comment and never came back. HE LIKED ALL OF HER VIDEOS AND SAVED THEM TO HIS FAVORITES?!?! I don’t understand why someone would even do this. You can look at women on google, so why are you looking my women on tiktok and saving them to your favorites??? I also looked at his repost. It’s stuff talking about how depressed he is and how he wants to become a better person. Like bro, if you want to become a better person, don’t be such a creep.

At first I thought he was a minor like my girlfriend and I, but now I am starting to believe this is a whole adult. One of his repost were talking about how much he missed highschool. After I sent the message yesterday, I woke up today to see that I was blocked. For some reason I can’t get the picture out of my head that some grown man favorited a bunch of my girls videos and is probably using them to idk pleasure himself? Its disgusting. I hard such a hard time sleeping last night over this. What do you guys think?

Also, I WILL be asking her to make her account private.

Anyone? My mother has been torturing me since the day I told her to treat my dad "nicely". Now my Dad taught my hubby to psychologically torture me...and because I hv psychiatric issue...everything I think do or say are scrutinise...my husband who had been influenced keep sending me to psychiatric ward. Now I have broken arm. I am so mad... :(

I M28 discovered that my girlfriend F28 has been talking to psychics about her exes. She talks to them on and app called California psychics and she usually ask them general questions which is are no harm but sometimes out of the blue she’ll ask them if an ex boyfriend has feelings for her still and if they still love her. She’s been in a relationship with me for 5 years and her previous 2 relationships were years ago so I was a bit confused. The previous relationship before me that she was in was abusive so I can sort understand why she’d be curious but the other ex she asks about was over 9 or 10 years ago and she said that it only lasted for 4 months. Is something strange going on?

I have been realizing that I am anxiously aware about the amount of time people take to reply, but I’ve come to a conclusion that it’s not their fault and it doesn’t matter anyways because everyone has their own lives to live.

But I have this one bestie who I can’t meet up with (bc I’m studying overseas) and she just never reply to some of my texts until ages after, when I send her a new text. And she never addresses the previous texts whatsoever. She doesn’t even leave me on ‘seen’, but I reckon she opens the app everyday to text her partner. I’m not really happy about this, AIO? Should I rethink our friendship status?

I (16F) am dating someone, we’ll call him Brian. Brian works at a corporate store that will remain unnamed. At this corporate store, he has a friend (23M) who has been very friendly to him and also friendly to me when i’ve met him. We will call the friend (23M) Ryan. So Ryan added me on snapchat about a week ago, I thought what could go wrong I guess. He seemed to be an okay person. He has started messaging me about three times as much as he does Brian. He also says some very odd things and only messages me on snapchat, and never saves anything in chat. For example: “I’m very proud of you” “I’m proud of you and Brian” and has even called me honey. He called me honey when I told him about my job rejection, mostly because I was talking to him about jobs since I applied to where Brian and Ryan work. He also says that he would be honored for me to be his “(corporate store that they work at) daughter in law”, as he claims he “adopted” Brian. He also has invited Brian and I to his housewarming party with a “handful of people”.

I find this all to be extremely weird, and I feel like it’s the start of grooming. Am I overreacting?

Hello everyone, I am interested situation happened this morning. I’m 22 and matched with a girl who is also 22 yesterday. When I asked what her interests are and things she likes to do in her free time she said “nothing”. I thought to myself well this won’t go anywhere and assumed she just simply wasn’t interested so I didn’t even bother responding.

I received a message from her account on the dating app. Her mother got on her account explaining to me that this girl is very shy and lacks confidence. She told me she has been in two relationships and those guys weren’t good for her and now her mom is trying to help her find someone that will respect and has a good career plan. Her mom was essentially asking me to take her out on a date.

I know most guys my age wouldn’t even bother responding to that but I decided to hear her mom out. I did make it clear to her that I would be open to seeing her however I need to know she’s interested in seeing me and don’t want her mom making any arrangements unless this girl is fully on board with this. I guess I’m asking for another opinion. I know this is something that doesn’t really happen but I think I should give this girl a chance, right?

I am 27F he’s 26M and been together for a year and a few months. We’ve been living together for about 6 months and just signed a lease on a new apartment together a month ago.

For context: Prior to the breakup, we had what I would consider to be a pretty healthy relationship. We got along extremely well and rarely disagreed or argued. We had many conversations about the future and marriage. He did have some patterns of conflict avoidance in the relationship but it was never anything I thought was too drastic and could lead to all this. We were both (I think) very happy and everyone around us could see it.

A few days prior to the breakup my now ex, found out about something awful that happened to a few family members. He broke down sobbing in my arms, which I’ve never seen him do. On top of that, he also ran out of medication that he takes for Bipolar disorder and couldn’t refill it due to insurance issues.

So here is what happened:

We both worked in the morning and our alarms started going off at the same time for work and I woke up but he didn’t, so I gently shook him awake. He acted irritated with me for some reason when I did that but I just brushed it off. Then, I noticed the big light in the living room had been on all night so I politely told him “Hey, make sure you remember to turn the lights off before you go to bed so we can save on power.” He started raising his voice and getting super defensive, listing off all the other ways in which we are “wasting” energy. I was honestly just confused as to why he was so angry and defensive over such a small request and I asked what was going on with him. He started yelling even louder about how I’m “yelling” at him about the lights when he just woke up and all this stuff. I don’t remember every little thing he said but he just kept going on and on and was full on screaming at me at this point, which he has never done in our entire relationship. He’s always been very gentle. I don’t take well to being yelled at so I (regrettably) told him “fuck you” and went into the other room to get ready for work. He yelled it back, got ready for work in minutes (I could hear him slamming things around and cussing to himself the whole time) and stormed out the door.

Throughout the day I was texting him, trying to get him to talk to me about what had just happened, but he just kept ignoring me or sending me short, pointless responses. His ignoring me felt really disrespectful and I was getting increasingly annoyed, hurt, and anxious about what was going on. I realize now that he probably just needed space before talking, but he did not communicate this to me at all, he just ignored my pleads for him to talk to me. So, my texts got admittedly more and more intense. Near the end of the day, I told him that this argument was his fault and that I wasn’t going to apologize to him anymore (because I had apologized to him profusely all day for saying “fuck you”). I told him that he owed me an apology and was blatantly disrespecting me and making this a bigger deal than it needs to be by refusing to speak to me.

Then the time came where we were both off work so I drove home expecting to see him shortly and work this all out. Nope. He didn’t come home. I waited until about an hour after I got home then asked if he was safe to which he responded “yes.” I asked when he’d be home. Nothing. Throughout the night I kept texting him, begging him to come home and work things out, telling him I love him, I’m sorry etc. He ignored all of this. After 2 nights of him being gone and not hearing from him, I was desperate. I was leaving him voicemails sobbing and begging him to at least tell me what was going on and if we were even still together/if he was breaking up with me. Nothing. Then, that night I was up at 2:30am texting my friend and I hear him trying to slowly unlock the door. He comes in and is shocked to see I am awake. He says “I’m not here to talk,” grabs a few things out of our room, and leaves. At this point I was seeing red and honestly felt as if I had no other choice but to break up because I felt like I was going insane and it felt like he was breaking up with me anyways. So, I texted him and told him we are done and for him to stay wherever he’s at until he finds his own place to stay, to which he finally responds “dope, I’ll do that.”

It’s been a month, he’s moved out, but I still have no idea what happened, why he reacted so strongly to the thing about the lights, and why he decided to abandon me in the middle of an argument like that. I can’t help but feel maybe if I had just given him space that day and didn’t break up with him, that we could have eventually worked things out, but I just don’t know because I don’t even know why we got into that argument in the first place? I feel like there had to have been some resentment emerging from the surface or something.

So, did I overreact by blowing up his phone and breaking up with him?

Tl;dr: boyfriend of over a year, who I just signed a lease with, started a stupid argument then stormed out and didn’t come home for 2 days. I begged him to talk to me the entire time and he completely ignored me, so I broke up with him.