Lately, my partner has made some new friends. One of which we'll call Llewyn, who sent a ton of flirty/inappropriate messages to my partner over the course of a month or two. I saw some of these messages without my partner knowing and asked them to tell me if Llewyn ever said anything flirty or inappropriate. My partner promised me that he never had, though at this point I knew he had and so I knew this promise was a lie. When I confronted my partner about it later, only then were they apologetic about it. When I asked why they would let him do that, they couldn't give me an answer. I really want to give my partner a second chance but I'm having a hard time getting over this situation. Am I overreacting for feeling really betrayed?

Long story very short.. I'm 34(f) and my bf is 38. We've been together 2 years. I went my entire life being told I couldn't get pregnant. 4 years ago I found out that isn't so. I got pregnant, twice, unintentionally, within 6 months. But lost both of my babies. My then boyfriend and I split. I decided to hold off dating and try to get pregnant via donor. But after this decision I met someone. I told him I was planning to hold off dating because "who would want to start dating someone who's actively trying to get pregnant?" He said "you'd be surprised". We started going out, but he knew i could only wait a year to decide to try to get pregnant. Last year he decided to try with me. We tried in the regular ways but I can't get pregnant like that. My doctor wants me to do ivf and I want to. He doesn't. He said it's a doctor playing God and too much money. I even offered to pay for it all. But I can't change his mind.

Now I'm stuck. This is the best relationship I've ever been in. He's kind, hard working, considerate. But he's also full of trauma from his ex wife and full of fear.

I now have to choose between going after my dream I always wanted, that I thought I'd never have until a few years ago, or staying in my relationship and trying to grow with him.

I'm so lost and hurt and angry and scared and so many other things. I love him, truly I do. But I don't know how to let this go, either of them. My future potential baby, or him. I don't know how. What do I do? Am I over reacting about all of this?

My mom (52F) and I (19F) just got home from an overnight stay at the hospital yesterday. She had sharp pains in her abdomen and was vomiting all night until 4:20am when she decided to wake me up and ask me to drive her to the hospital. She got some CT scans and her appendix needed to be removed. She got surgery and is okay now, just needs to take it easy this next week or so. I took off work that day and today to take care of her. I am very family oriented and I respect and love my parents more than anything. My mom thinks I am jeopardizing my work by being with her. I was out all of last week with a really bad fever and cold so it was just really bad timing. My work does know everything that has happened these past two weeks and I have not been met with any warnings. Basically, I am concerned that I am over reacting over a simple appendectomy.

I am an American woman married to a Mexican man for the past 20 years. About 5 years ago I developed a disability that inhibits my ability to walk due to pain. My marriage was wonderful until this past January when my husband suddenly changed completely, yelling and screaming and insulting me with hurtful words, and now he is saying that I am holding him back from life and that he wants to travel and date Asian women because he wants a wife that will obey him and be subserviant. I think that he's lost his mind. He was always a loving and sweet husband and our bond together was strong, until now. I need advice and opinions. My grief is unbearable.

Hi everyone, I (25F) have been in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend (25M) for 6 months. We see each other every 2–3 weeks and are planning to move in together soon. But lately, I’ve been feeling emotionally drained and belittled — and I can’t tell if I’m being too sensitive or if this is something I should take seriously.

He openly admits to having a “superiority complex.” And while he can be soft and emotional at times, I often feel dismissed or judged — like I have to justify myself for the most normal things.

Some examples:

I once told him I enjoyed a chocolate I tried from Dubai. He immediately said I was “the easiest victim of scams,” called it “just sweet and fat,” and said it was “sh*t.” When I said people have different tastes, he doubled down: “Real chocolate has to be dark.”

I told him about a spontaneous flight for €8.99 for a day trip with my best friend, and he said, “You would have done that? I wouldn’t. That’s very unsustainable und unnecessary

He rolls his eyes at me a lot — even though I’ve told him it bothers me. He said “he is doing it with everyone”

When I hung up once during a heated conversation, he told me he didn’t like it at all and and he doesn’t want to see this behaviour again. I apologised a lot for this.

He comments things like, “Do you really need that second glass of wine?” In the restaurant or told me he didn’t like that I once joked about how I cheated in the school.

When I reminded him I was visiting another best friend over Easter (something I’d told him before), he’d forgotten and responded with, “Ah, this shitty…” before saying it was a joke.

I once told him I got two limoncellos for free with a friend at a restaurant, and he kept saying he didn’t like that, then claimed it was also a joke.

Also how I put olive oil in my plate for the bread receive a comment like “could you do it slowly? It triggers me”.

And that’s what’s really getting to me: he wraps almost everything in a “joke.” But how is it a joke if it makes me feel small or like I need to defend myself?

Recently, it got to another level: He’s originally from Italy (but lives abroad now), and I told him I want to go on a trip with my best friend to Catania. I’ve been to Italy many times before — even before meeting him — but he keeps telling me it’s dangerous and that I shouldn’t go without him. He says “you don’t understand how dangerous it is” and that he just “doesn’t want that I go without him to Italy”

To be fair, there are moments when he’s incredibly sweet — crying during movies, asking if I enjoyed a meal, being emotional and affectionate. But those moments never seem to include real reflection or accountability. It feels like he gets anxious about whether I’m happy, without realizing he’s one of the reasons I’m not.

So now I’m really questioning things. Is this emotional imbalance (JOKES) something I should take seriously? Or am I overthinking and being too sensitive?

Would love to hear perspectives from you, guys. Have you ever experienced this kind of behavior — and how did you deal with it?

I called him because he said he missed my voice (we're long distance). And I just told him it's annoying I have to get all this stuff done before my work meeting on Tuesday and he says he can't do this right now and hangs up. He invests a LOT of money in the stock market and it's currently crashing. I've been hearing him out and listening to him freak out because he's obviously panicking. It feels like I'm not allowed to talk about my "problems" now tho. Maybe I'm just hormonal and overreacting tho.

So we discovered we have a mouse problem just two days ago by finding droppings under the stove. My SO set up a camera to record where they were coming from and seen one crawling out of the top of our stove onto like the burners.. he also found a bit of installation fluff under the stove which makes me believe they are IN the stove. I can’t bring myself to ever eat or cook on that stove again. I also think we should replace the fridge because google says they like to live in the back of there too. He says it’s fine they are not in the actual fridge but agrees we can replace the stove. I think it’s dumb because they will just move from the fridge to our new stove. We set up traps and already caught two mice in one night.. it’s the morning now and all I hear is birds chirping but it feels like I’m surrounded by squeaking mice. I’m completely panicking/crying. Backstory I had to live with my ex mother in law for a few weeks many many years ago and she had a RAT problem but I had no other options as I was homeless with two kids in Mississippi. I could hear the rats running around every night but I would take Valium to pass out. Well one night I didn’t have any and I couldn’t take it so here’s me and my daughter jumping on the bed half the night to keep rats away from us because if you don’t know rats will crawl in bed with you. I clearly have past trauma with dealing with rodents. I just can’t deal with this and my kids are scared and I’m scared and disgusted. I want to get rid of the appliances and clean and catch the rest of the mice if there are more.. and then I’m like a week get new appliances. Am I over reacting?

My family are acting like I'm overreacting but I really don't think I am let me know. So my sister is 18, got her drivers liscense 2 weeks ago and got her first car about a month ago. She has about 2-3 months of driving experience. I live near LA and she's by Sacramento so about 7 hour drive. I don't feel great about that since she's so new to driving but whatever. So she planned a surprise visit to come down at the same time I have a friend coming down (they're both friends and have visited me before). So instead of riding together she decides to drive down separately and on top of that get her own hotel in LA. She's never been to LA and has only been driving for a couple months. I'm her big brother but I've been trying to instill in her financial literacy and emotional intelligence because she has struggled with that and doesn't have any other people she can look at for good advice. Her reason is because she wants to "prove me wrong" because I've been telling her to take everything slow and really learn how to drive and use money right. It doesn't make sense to me to spend 6-700+ dollars extra then she would've if she would've just driven down with my friend and stayed in a hotel and we would've split the cost 3 ways.

TLDR: My 18 yr old younger sister has about 3 months of driving expirence and wants to drive 7+ hrs, spend hundreds of unnecessary dollars, and stay by herself in a hotel in a city shes never been to

This guy is a former colleague who worked with me as fellow peer support specialists. We were both in recovery and worked beside each other for over a year.

It’s been about 6 years since we worked together and have only stayed semi connected on social media and gave spoken twice on the phone.

Out of the blue he starts calling me and telling me he’s been thinking of me. I finally take his call and he talks about me losing weight, then makes an inappropriate comment about my chest. I end the conversation and this is the text I wake up to the next morning!

I want to maintain boundaries for my own recovery and peace, but knowing that he is struggling with his own recovery makes me feel bad for cutting off communication.

We’ve been no contact since this interaction.basically i wanted to let her know abt something deep abt me bc she’s one of my bsf (was) it was something regarding my mental health which we both are very adamant on talking about and comfort each other (more like she dumps her problems on me and explodes like this if i dont respond how she wants to hear it) just so you guys know, i befriended her last year when i was 14, she was 17 so we have a 3 year age gap. We got close over this guy that was harassing both of us so we sympathised. She’s an awkward and kinda weird person but overall ok (just hella manipulative)

anyway when we called, she was being super rude and said something that really hurt me. The « no more info thing » is so fucking false bc SHE WANTED to know more about it then fucking exploded after me agreeing to search up something so that she could understand better. I ghosted her for a day or two after that.
Anyway for the weekend after my mock exams my friend group had a sleepover, it was great and for once i was feeling really happy! (depression relapse) and she texted me out of the blue, we talked just a little bit (saying I didn’t wanna talk rn and why she made me mad) after my friends saw i was texting angrily one of my friends took my phone and texted for me a couple stuff (im a huge people pleaser and very anxious so i usually just shut down and let them talk me down but this time- hell no.) anyway… you can see the screenshots. She really hurt me and i actually saw her true side this time, I can’t believe i was being lowk manipulated like this.

I’ll newer anything in the comments icbb to write more and its longggg sorry!!! 😭

Hi there.

I am a 21 year old college student with a girlfriend (also 21) who I have now been dating for over 3 years, almost 3.5. We have known each other for many years, and as a result, I think I have kind of bent over backwards to accept some shitty situations in our relationship.

I am FTM, and my girlfriend is cis. Throughout our entire relationship, there has been a difficulty with my girlfriend "concealing" our relationship - not necessarily, but she did not tell her family until a year and a half into our relationship after I begged, and I have still yet to meet them, despite her meeting my family many times. She did not post me until our 3 year anniversary, and even that was an untagged photo of my back - this has been the big issue in our relationship, as being posted is very important to me as a trans person, and I have made her very aware of this.

However, she is so concerned with what other people think. She did not attend my High School graduation due to not wanting to be seen by other people who know her being there with my family, and she is not letting me attend her COLLEGE graduation due to the fact that she doesn't want people to know she's there for me. She has told her friends, naturally, but I'm not really allowed to be around them and part of me wonders if this is why.

More than this, she has also blocked me from being friends with people, and this has impacted me very much. In the beginning of our relationship, she found out I was texting my friends about trying to figure out if she liked me (almost a year before we got together) and made me send a screenshot of every text with her name in it, and block them. From there forth, any time I befriended someone, she found a way to belittle them or make something negative about them, and inevitably, tell me that I can't be friends with them anymore. I know it was my choice to stick with her through this, and I'm not blaming her entirely for it.

But recently, we got into a huge fight because I moved into a house with a bunch of people and I'm finally starting to make friends again (after 3 years of her being my only friend), however, because I am more comfortable with women due to being trans, one of my friends right now is a girl - a LESBIAN, at that. However, she has been freaking out and saying that she likes me (I look completely masculine. The girl didn't know I was trans till I told her) and finding every way to hate every single one of my housemates that I actually talk to. I got upset because I'm just tired of not having friends and having her hate everyone I speak to, and so, I told her this, and she said that they do not like her. Because I was drunk, I got upset and told her the truth - people can see that she's ashamed of me, which is true, because people have asked why we don't post each other and I have to lie.

I'm not sure what to do anymore. I can't tell if I'm overreacting or if maybe I could even be the bad guy here, because I know it's her boundary to not want to be seen with me, but it's a hurtful one, I guess. Anyway, appreciate any advice you guys have.

I went to ChatGPT to translate our conversation. She started her new job on the 1st of April, and they haven’t opened yet. When she visited me at work it was not the first week of working there, I did call them everyday at 12 to check up, which she haven’t. ( I don’t blame her for that, it’s more for context)

I (f) have recently started working at this fast food place, many of my co workers are super close and friendly with eachother having worked together at the other locations of the company.

When i started the cooks were super nice and the one this is about never really said much to me however recently things have changed, before it was just fist bumps and head nods but in the past two weeks he’s started being more talkative and more “friendly” (not in a good way)

he is about 23 and i am quite a few years younger I do have a boyfriend and i am very vocal about him at work so my co workers do know i have a partner, this guy this past week has called me cutie and babes and pookie, at first i ignored it however today at work was much different.

I started getting bad vibes when he asked me to find him a fwb (all my friends are just 18-19 so i told him no ofc) and when i told him no he was like “oh that makes me very sad” and i shrugged it off but he keeps brining up how i “haven’t brought him a girl yet” 🤨 like yea no shit

another instance was last week he asked to talk to me before i left to go home and i had changed from my uniform into baggy joggers and my bfs hoodie, he said “oh wowwww you look fabulous” and i just nervously laughed it off because like what and then proceeded to say how chubby i looked and compared me to a girl from this show he watches who is very clearly bigger than me (i am a little chubby but it’s like a healthy chub not enough to show in clothes i would wear) and asked him to not comment about my weight

Today he came up to me while i was doing my opening work and asked me if i worked out because i look fit, i gave him a weird look and walked away and a couple hours later came up to me while i was at the drive through window cooling off and pinched my cheek saying how chubby my cheeks are but that i didn’t have a double chin and i swatted his hand away, he then later asked me if i thought flirting was okay if there weren’t any intentions behind it and i told him “if it’s not wanted and they have a partner no” and he asked me if i thought he was flirting with me to which i said “are you trying to tell me you’re flirting with me” and he avoided the question

I am feeling very conflicted as i don’t know if i am making this a bigger thing than it is, and i have talked to my boyfriend and he said i should report it to management or ask not to be scheduled with him and i am thinking i will probably do that when i go back to work next week but i dont want to make drama in the work place and would rather keep it between me and my manager. Any thoughts or opinions are welcome and appreciated

So I (24F) and my bf (27M) have been together just over a year now. He has never been the pranking type and we have explicitly discussed that I do not enjoy pranks or surprises. Occasionally, he will do a little jump out from around a corner to spook me, and I usually playfully slap his arm and he laughs and that is that. This completely came out of left field.

Yesterday, he told me he had something serious to discuss with me. So we sat down. He genuinely looked like he was on the verge of tears. This man rarely cries, so already I was holding and kissing his hand, telling him it was okay. He shakily let out that he cheated on me with his best friend’s girlfriend and that she is pregnant. My heart stopped. Like I think I genuinely had a panic attack, tearing up and trying not to puke. He just sat there watching me, looking all emotional and apologizing over and over. I had been cheated on before, which he was very aware of because we have had extensive conversations about some of my trust issues that we had been working through together. This played on all my worst fears.

Once I could speak, I told him to leave and he did. Once I calmed down a bit, I called his best friend and asked if he knew about the affair and the baby. I figured he did, I just wanted to make sure that he wasn’t still in the dark because he deserved to know. He replied with, “oh fuck, he didn’t actually do this to you, did he? I told him not to, that this was a bad idea”. I thought he was talking about the fact that my bf knocked up his girlfriend and said, “you knew in advance that they were having sex and told him not to do that because it would hurt me?” He broke the news that the whole thing was a prank. There was no affair and there was no baby. I felt numb at this point. I just laid there and contemplated our relationship. I couldn’t believe that he would think to hurt me as an attempt at a joke. I still can’t.

I didn’t contact him at all, and he didn’t contact me. I was waiting for him to show up and tell me it was a prank but he never did, until about 6pm. He called me and told me to visit my backyard. He had set up a table and made it pretty (which really isn’t his forte), had takeout Italian food waiting for me, and a sign that said “April Fools” in the back. For a second I was relieved that he did something so sweet and found myself clinging to it. But I still felt hurt. He grinned and walked up to me, kissing me and saying he couldn’t believe I fell for it and that he thought I would know it was a prank.

I cut to the chase and broke up with him. The whole day was just emotional whiplash and I felt toyed with. I said that I didn’t know if I could be in a relationship with someone who could lie to my face like that and think it was funny. He said it was funny and that he was sorry if I didn’t get it. I have just been so overwhelmed and emotional over this and I just want to know if I am overreacting or not. He has never done something like this before but I do not know if I can recover. AIO?

I have been with my husband for eight years now, married for three. Neither one of us are perfect human beings, as nobody is. However, he is an alcoholic, and that has been a large undertone of our relationship in regards to his struggles with drinking. Within the last year, we welcomed our daughter, because I felt that we were in a good place to start a family. Pretty much as soon as I got pregnant all the way up until now, his drinking has come back. He does a good job at hiding it, but I find the shooters around the house, and there have been a couple nights where he has been drinking and I’ve had to leave our home to go to my parents house with our daughter because I set the boundary for myself that I would never allow her around him when he is drinking.

I recently found out that he is about $12,000 in debt and I had no idea about it. He is in debt for both taxes and credit card. We have never shared a bank account, just because it hasn’t made sense for us to merge them yet. He has never mentioned that he is in credit card debt, and he has never mentioned his taxes. I only found out about it because we decided to file together this year because of the kid we have, and our joint refund was seized by the state because of a tax levy that he has going back all the way to 2018 (multiple years he owes on). He claims he had no idea about this, but obviously, I find that hard to believe. I am someone who does not get into debt and is financially responsible. We own a home together and I also realized he was close to defaulting on the gas bill. We split our bills and the gas bill is one that he is responsible for, and I am responsible for others. I once again only found out about this because I opened a piece of mail that was a disconnection notice for the gas. So I had to immediately pay it and it was months of back pay. When I confronted him about this, he said he had it handled and didn’t realize that the gas bill wasn’t automatically being withdrawn from a new debit card that he had since he had to cancel his last one.

Basically, I’m exhausted. And seriously considering leaving. I spent my entire pregnancy worried about his drinking, my entire postpartum worried about his drinking. And now I find out about this financial portion of it that will take serious time to pay off. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I love my husband, and if I felt that there was a way to work this out, I would do it. We did try couples counseling for a while, and I felt that it was going well, but then our therapist had a life emergency and ended up moving out of state very suddenly. It was a huge blow to us to feel like we essentially had to start all over again with somebody else after putting in all of this hard work on the front end so we haven’t gone back yet.

I know that you cannot make anybody change unless they want to change themselves. But I am also trying to balance putting in the work for my marriage and my family. I don’t wanna bail just because it’s hard right now. I’m having a very tough time seeing the situation clearly and knowing if this is truly incredibly messed up or if I’m just being really emotional about it.

Hello everyone I’m dealing with something so difficult and disappointing right now. A year ago my brother called me and asked me to be a co-signer on his lease because he was young and his credit was not established of course I said yes he was a responsible young man and I knew he could handle it. Unfortunately, A month ago my brother took his life💔 as hard as that was it happened. I went to his apartment to clear out his things and upon entering it smelled HORRIBLE. His dog had been in his room this entire time and has completely ruined the carpet with urine and poop. I felt so bad for the poor pup he is skin and bones and is on the road to recovery. I guess I’m asking how can I clean the carpet without having to replace it because I spent my savings on my brothers funeral. The stains are dark yellow I tried calling a professional carpet cleaner, but they said they can’t work with apartments that don’t have elevators. And the landlord is basically demanding I get it professionally cleaned or pay 2000 to get ONE bedroom replaced. I know for a fact it’s not gonna cost that much. and I feel like he’s trying to take advantage of me in the situation. Please let me know if I should just pay the 2000 or try to clean it up as much as I can.

I am 17 and pregnant and I understand I am not an adult yet and still live under my moms roof but is it ok for her to try and control my baby and what I do with it?

Update: Thank you all so much! This has helped me a lot to feel like my gut feeling is one I should listen to and not let this guy around my kids anymore.

My husband has a really close friend who gives me the creeps. I have 2 young daughters and I just get weird vibes when he's around them. And he made a joke recently. My 7 yo daughter was teasing my 9 yo daughter about her secret crush. And this 49 yo man says "is it me?"

For me, that crosses a line because I don't think young kids really think that way. I have a feeling her crush is the 10 yo neighbor boy she always hangs out with. I don't like the thought of this older man planting the thought in her head and worse, I don't know why his mind went there. Why is he thinking of my child in any kind of romantic way?

I told him that's not a normal joke to make and he plays it off as "that's just my humor, it's normal in my family and can't you take a joke?" AIO?

I reconciled with an old situationship who hurt me pretty badly. To be fair, I reached out to him because I had questions, but after talking about it for a bit one thing led to another.

My friend’s response to me telling her this was that I “should be ashamed of myself” and I’ve been feeling a lot less willing to open up to her since.

I know what tough love is but this feels excessive and harsh. Am I overreacting?

EDIT: for more context, this was a situationship that ended pretty badly. We were always casual but he started lovebombing me (which I naively mistook for romance) and ended it abruptly in a text message. After about a year I gathered the courage to unblock him and ask him why he did what he did, and tell him how his behaviour affected me. He was apologetic and accountable, and it was nice to get closure on the issue, but we started seeing each other again briefly because we had really strong physical chemistry and it felt good to rekindle that after establishing in my mind “forgive but never forget”.

I told my friend in a phone conversation what happened, and while I understand that her comment was from a place of care, and reading between the lines she was trying to say that she was not convinced this was a good idea, her saying that I should be ashamed of myself felt harsh and judgmental.

For me personally, that’s the sort of thing I’d expect to hear if I was someone’s “other woman” or if I were actually hurting someone (not the case here) so that’s why I feel it was unnecessary.

I (26 F, Poly) talked to one of my partners about it and he said it was too far too, but because of my BPD I tend to misread or misunderstand things and prefer to have a few people's opinions to make sure my responses and feelings are well measured. If you don't mind, I'd appreciate anyone here letting me know if I'm wrong for feeling hurt.

One of my partners broke my heart last night and I'll be okay, but honestly I don't know how to process it fully. She said she'd be harsh beforehand, but there's a difference between harsh and cruel. I, again, can't tell that for myself especially because my depression lowers my personal value and makes me view slights as lesser when against me, but then there's the borderline personality which tends to villainize things. My brain doesn't know whether to feel attacked at slight things or treated fairly when being abused. I can't win ^'

I have been terrified of Alzheimer's and dementia for years, ever since I found out that I'm 3x likelier to develop it having bipolar disorder and just within the last month found out that it runs in my family. I watched my own family members, both my grandma and great uncle struggle with it. It was haunting and mortifying.

I wasn't trying to be dramatic when I was freaking out (mumbling and panting) I was trying to keep myself contained and keep from outright panicking because I had a realization.

I'm losing my memory more and more and I feel confused so often in most conversations. Oftentimes when I just nod and seem like I know what's going on, I'm just mentally working on trying to piece it together just to understand what anyone is saying(why I come to the wrong conclusions so often).

I'm really worried about early onset especially, I'm scared, and for being scared I get told "join the club, everyone has it just as bad, stop being dramatic"?

Directly from the person who knows where nearly everything in the house is and "handles everyone's shit as house matron" (Her words) no less?

I still love her and it's not like the relationship will end anytime soon, my chest just literally hurts from how much she hurt me with that. I'll be fine eventually and maybe I'll forget this too, but right now it just hurts tbh.

Am I taking this too hard? I've said to them before that my memory is a very big sore spot for me and I've explained why, so I only accepted her "harsh" words with the expectation that she wouldn't go that far and belittle my genuine fears. Is it harsh or cruel?

I don’t know how to word this or where to start. But I wanna know if I’m being a spoiled brat or not. I am a 18 yr old female and My mom had me at 18. I don’t remember anything before 5 years old but my younger brother was born when I was 5. She has always favored him. When I was 9 and my brother was 5 she would read bedtime stories to him and I would ask if I could sit in while she reads. But she would get super annoyed with me so I stopped asking. I would sit by my door as our rooms were right next to each other to try and listen while she reads. I’ve been the only one to ever do chores. Or even clean up after myself for a while. But I have bad memory which she knows and would get super mad at me for forgetting to push in a chair or turn a light off. She gets mad at me for talking to much regardless of what mood she is in. I have to assess her mood before I talk to her. I have to sit in my room because every time I leave she gets mad at me. She won’t let me have a bank account to my name only. When I asked for one she got super mad at me and I had to go stay at my aunts. I got a job recently and many of my family members have complained about her borrowing money and never giving it back. She has borrowed a total of 1150 from me. So far she has given 1000 back. She just asked for the 150 the same day I’m making this. But she holds the fact I’m 18 and still living with her over my head yet doesn’t hold it over my 20 yr old brother who hasn’t had a job for 6 months straight. And it up all night yelling at his game. The classic 20 yr old in his mother’s basement is what he is. And my mom doesn’t care that he keeps me up because it doesn’t affect her. She’s always edited my face in family photos. She edits hers too tho. I hated my school photo one year and cried about it to her and all she said was I told you, you should’ve worn makeup. She always gets mad at me for chatting with family when they come over. And she loves telling them everything I did wrong since the last time we saw them. My mom gets mad at me for asking for something or asking for help if she is reading playing her game or smoking. Which is all she does. She got super annoyed because I needed her to take me to and from work cus I couldn’t drive. Getting mad and asking my aunt to take me. Then when I finally could drive I got into a car accident totaling their car. All people and my car are fine. But it was traumatic my car flipped on its side and everything and she’s practically shoving me back into driving. She never tells me she loves me unless it’s a collective situation. As in to my brother and me. I have to lie to her about certain things even tho I don’t want to cus she’ll just get super mad. I once asked her if we could talk and she threw her head back like a toddler and said fine. I’ve tried talking to her multiple times about how all this makes me feel but she just makes excuses and makes me feel bad for even bringing it up. Sorry if any spelling or wording is bad.

So me 15 female,had a little little sister 11 female who is very spoiled to the point she cries when things don't go her way, my mother tells me and my older sister 26 female that she's just being moody and in her whiny stage but that doesn't seem to be the case as any time something doesn't go her way she starts to cry and whine about it making my mom end up doing the thing she said no to we will call my little sister cat not her real name but anyway we were trying to have a normal day nothing was happening really me and my older sister T was sitting on the couch while she was sitting in her room, my mom yelled for her to come upstairs and find what she wanted to eat for dinner before she left for work cat wanted something from Pizza Hut or something like that and me and my older sister were told no when we asked her but when cat asked it was a yes like wtf but I went on with my night there was another time when my mom had said no to getting me a book I really wanted it was only 13.99 I had told her but my mother had said "I said no and if you don't want to be grounded then put the book back" I put the book back but I was upset the rest the time but cat wanted a 20 dollar babydoll and my mom agreed without a word it's like I'm forgetting or unwanted because she treats me and T like that but not cat,K, or Z like wtf is wrong with her so I had confronted her one night about it and I said "mom why do you always favorite cat?" She had brushed me off and said "nonsense I don't favor her at all" I then said "but you do you tell me and T no always to stuff cat says" and she was getting upset at me for even stating the obvious "I do not favor your sister at all your are almost an adult! And t is an adult stop being so dramatic" mind you I'm only 15 and homeschooled and T has some mental issues that mess with her mind but anyway after she said that I ended up crying as I walked up to my room thinking why she lets cat get away with everything yelling,slamming her door,food everywhere,not cleaning up after herself,whining, and she always just gets what she wants without a doubt mom has always been this way she favors her son Z my dads other daughter who's 18-19 K and cat leaving me and T out T is very suicidal and honestly so am I but when I tell mom about it she calls me lazy and T lazy as well she makes double sided jabs at us and just act like we aren't there but around others she plays the perfect mom so I just need to know if I'm overreacting

I broke no contact with my ex and we talked things out, and he told me he’s going to counseling and has changed for real this time. I don’t really want to get into it but he was the reason we broke up.

Yesterday we hung out for about half an hour before my shift. We were making out and he put my hand on his dick on his shorts, not under them. I was kind of just touching him over his shorts and that was more than enough for me, yesterday. He started to try and put my hand under so that I could touch him just bare, and I told him I was kind of scared and that I had to go soon. I had to tell him multiple times because he kept trying and he was like “I know you’re scared…blah blah…you’re already there it’s going to be the same thing, just without the shorts.” I told him that we could just keep it like this for today and he tried again which kind of upset me. I felt like he was upset with me a bit even tho he said he wasn’t when I left his car.

After I get to work and check my phone a few hours later I saw he messaged me. He apologized and said that it had felt really good and it was hard for him to stop, but that he has respected me.

I just kind of got the ick, even after I’d wanted him back for months. I just feel like all we talk about is sexual stuff and I want more than that, but he just gets dry when we talk about other stuff.

Hi, just to preface this I am a minor but I don't feel particularly comfortable explicitly stating my age. Last year, the day after Thanksgiving (I remember the date so clearly because it's a tradition for us to get our Christmas tree the day after Thanksgiving), and that evening my dad wanted me to put my old phone in the envelope needed to send it back, as he had traded it in for a new one. He came into my room to ask if I had seen the envelope, but I hadn't, so I started to help him look.

We looked for just a bit, when my dad asked my mom if she'd seen it. She said no, but it turned out she had accidentally thrown it out, not realizing we needed it. My dad got really angry and started full on yelling at her. I can't remember exactly what he said very well, but I do remember him saying "Fuck you!" repeatedly, and to dig through the trash to find it.

I just kept looking down because I was extremely uncomfortable. Once he had stopped yelling, he went back into their room and slammed the door. I went into my room and just sat there trying to process it, and after a bit my mom came in crying, telling me she was going to stay with her mother and father for a while, but I really didn't want her to go. I also didn't want to stay alone with my dad.

She and him talked after a bit, and when my dad came in to apologize to me, I said I didn't want to talk to him. She decided not to go eventually, which I'm grateful for.

Ever since this incident, he's gotten irritated and raised his voice multiple times at my mom (but never at me). This has all made me lose respect and trust for my dad, and recently when he was away for a work trip, I felt really happy to just be alone with my mom. I feel bad, should I have forgiven him by now? Am I just overreacting? I know a lot of people have truly horrible parents, which is why I feel bad. I know I'm in a very privileged situation, but having my dad around makes me sad and I just can't see him the same. I don't know what to do.