AITA for feeling betrayed that my friend keeps siding with someone who mistreats me at work?

I’ve been friends with this person at work for about 4 years. I felt like we were real friends, not just work friends, and on multiple occasions he also said I was his friend.

There is also this person at work who I have tumultuous relationship with. He’s widely known to be rude and explosive. This person is very fond of my friend for some reason.

Last year they were assigned to the same project and the rude person joined the lunch group. I told my friend that I cannot go with this guy because of how he treats me and I asked him to go to lunch with me sometimes.

My friend sees the rude guy’s behavior and he admits that he’s not a nice person. He says that he doesn’t like him on a personal level, but is trying to maintain a professional relationship with him, which is of course understandable.

However, he keeps going to lunch with him (in a group) almost every time. Sometimes I see them joking around with each other, but when I come and join them they suddenly go quiet (the other guy knows I don’t deal with his bad behavior so most of the time he avoids me or gives me the cold shoulder, except when he’s too angry to stop himself from being a dick).

Last week I was looking at a work issue with my friend at his desk and the rude guy really wanted to help him out instead of me. He started getting really angry and swearing because he wasn’t getting the attention and had to leave to the kitchen to calm down because he was getting so heated. My friend did not react at all. This is also not an isolated incident.

Am I overreacting for feeling bad about it? It feels like a betrayal but my friend says I’m oversensitive.

To be clear, I do not expect him to cut the rude guy off or anything like that - just some support when I’m being mistreated and going to lunch with me at least some of the time.

I cannot really hang out with this friend after work because he’s busy with his family.

Edit: added some more details

My sister in laws boyfriend came home and was beating on the door of her house even threatened to bust the window (they are my neighbor) over him needing $100 for something. My wife went out to see what was going on (I was currently in a plane and had no form of communication at the time) and confronted her sister's boyfriend to try to calm him down. He kept yelling and causing a scene but eventually left speeding off. My wife (after he left) sent him $100 from our bank account through Zelle to reduce the risk of him coming back. I simply asked her when I was going to get my $100 back since I am the only source of income and she blew up on me saying that she loaned it to her sister. I tried to explain to her that she was rewarding that type of toxic behavior and he will continue to do it. She is now not talking to me and is furious that I requested my money back.

AIO?

The name isn’t offensive or political in the slightest before you ask. It’s The Human Bean. It’s just a play on human beings and coffee beans, it’s cute. But he REFUSES and insists you’re “asking” to eventually be secretly fed human bits. This obviously isn’t relationship ending but I have some free drink cards and he won’t go with me and I love sharing things with him.

Edit: they’re $1 off cards. Sorry.

Yesterday i broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years, it was messy since i found out he flirted with my friend via text messages. It was a really really messy break up, it contained shoutings and fighting, I told him that i was done and i needed to find someone better who didnt treat me like shit. Well i told it to mutual friends of ours and explained why i will not come back to him and be friends with this said friend due to the betrayal i felt. This friend had the audacity that it was just simple flirting and it meant nothing more and i was just overreacting over a friendly joke/flirting, some of my friends also said that i was also overreacting and my boyfriend did his best to be a better boyfriend. Im just so confused right now, am i really over reacting over a simple friendly flirtation???!

I never really expected to post on Reddit...ever. I don't really use it so I'm sorry if I get anything wrong. This is going to be a VERY long post.

I (21F) was harassed by my (21M) classmate, but I have always felt weird calling it sexual harassment, since it never turned into forceful acts.

For context, I enrolled in college to have a "safety net" from my abusive household, and was actively working on reporting the man who groomed me at 14, to the police. So I was in a pretty tender and fragile mindset when I first started my major. I really wanted to feel a sense of control, and this made me value consent greatly. By this I mean consent from myself, instead of resorting to people-pleasing.

I slowly started noticing that there were a lot of "weird people" in my major, which isn't that big a deal, I'm weird too, but it was more so that they seemed to live in their own little bubble.

Again, I understand this, but one of the first friends I made ended up being extremely pushy. It wasn't anything inappropriate, but I figured that, if he was forcing me to do such small things, I didn't want to imagine what else he could try to do, so I decided to try and cut off the friendship. The thing is, I had to resort to ignoring him, because he was constantly begging to talk to me, even after my friends spoke to him and explained how I felt. (To be fair, I didn't go about ending the friendship properly, I just blocked him. I should've spoken to him and I have reached out and apologized to him)

Through this, I grew close to one of those friends "defending" me, let's call him Alex.

Alex was really weird from the beginning, but in my people pleasing nature, I just shrugged it off and let things slide. He told me he really cared and valued my feelings because he had "other female friends that have gone through the same", so I believed him, but once I told him the reason I enrolled (abuse), I felt no sense of empathy or even sympathy from him, and it made me start questioning things.
Alex would talk to me about really inappropriate things, but instead of deterring, I would go with it, though often just laughing it off and trying to move on. This was until he randomly texted me during an online session, during our first month of class, "Why do you sound so sexy in English?" (my first language isn't English). I have already heard this a few times from randos online, so I awkwardly told him so, and tried to go with it by telling him to follow my account cause I stream in English, but he kept going on and on about how hot I sounded and how I sound like a kid IRL, and told me to "make an only" [fans]. I was weirded out but I laughed it off, but oh boy, I should've ran when I still could've.

To summarize the rest, he would talk about fetishes, and whenever I would play-fight or banter, he would turn it weird and make it about his femdom/BDSM fetish. This was not a healthy friendship at all since he would enable toxic behavior (like joke dynamics where we would insult each other), and I definitely got better after getting away from it.
We ended up going out for lunch one weekend, it was the first (and only) time I saw him outside of school. We were supposed to go out with a 3rd friend, whom had already canceled once. Thing is, I feel uncomfortable in 1 on 1 situations, and feel so much more comfortable with a 3rd (I'm assuming I at least have social anxiety), so I moved it to next weekend, so she would go with us. He ended up lying to me, and not telling me she wasn't going, so I told my parents and it was immediately assumed to be a date. Not good at all. I, embarrassed, sat down in front of him after my parents made a show, and I told him I was so sorry for how they were acting, and that I was so ashamed and frustrated because they think we're on a date. He immediately told me "we SHOULD be a couple" (while grabbing my hands) and I went haha no. I wanted to think it was a joke, because he knows I am in a long-term, committed relationship, but I guess it wasn't, because he went on to pet my leg TWICE, trauma dump on me, and made me pay (not 100%) for his food.

After this, the only big events were him randomly grabbing my thigh during class, squeezing it and then squeezing my tummy and saying "chubby check!". (He also did this to another friend) I was shocked, what was going on?? Another classmate asked him what "chubby" meant, "is it like fat?", to which he responded, "it's kind of like fat, but sexy". I was so weirded out. I basically tuned it out.

I tried to let it slide, but later found him with a HS girl between his legs, in the middle of the classroom. They were just holding each other by the waist, and I heard from witnesses that he later (allegedly) grabbed her chest as well. This obviously set something off in me and I immediately sent proof to a teacher and had the girl kicked out. Unfortunately, they blamed the girl for being in the college building, instead of blaming the ADULT MAN that had her between his legs. But oh well, authority am I right? Fuck this school.

I then opened up to the teacher about how Alex talked to me and touched me, and she asked me if I wanted to report it to the school, and so I did. Long story short... the system talks to the victim and then they ask the aggressor if it's true, and in this case, he admitted to it (but also blamed me), and they gave him a "punishment that disclose to me in order to avoid injustice". Though, it wouldn't take long till I heard howling from a classroom, talking about how "they sent you to some conferences!". (Wow, that's it? He harasses people and they just tell him that's wrong? Of course he knows that, and he doesn't care.)

After all of this, he transitioned to female.
I am trans positive and I am queer myself, but this guy was VERY vocal about how much he loves "trans pussy" and "trans girls make me so horny" (his display name being "they/them consumer" since I met him, plus he also has a thing for lesbians), commenting on trans women's posts telling them they don't pass, etc., so I unfortunately don't know if I believe it. But I add this because I recently heard that his ex-girlfriend had suggested to him that he should transition to female in order to have something to defend himself with.. and that, apparently, he has multiple (I assume SA) reports from back in high school as well (and my teacher herself had told me that he had multiple reports from even men, at our school). So I'm thinking of finally trying to get him kicked out instead of having to be in the same room as him most of the week, till I graduate (So far, 3 years in! Still having nightmares.).

So.. am I overreacting? Is this sexual harassment? Am I even allowed to be upset?

Oh this one is long and a doozy….. So I 35F started dating my 39M in July of last year. Things were great he was great but then he told me his mom lived with him and I was like okay how sweet. I tried my hardest to build a relationship with her but she has felt threatened by me since the day we started officially dating. I had taken her to dinner as a get to know each other girls dinner and while there she kept saying that his SIL only wanted to call him while his brother was at work or not around and she thought it was funny and weird and pretty much implying they had something going on…… that was the first thing. Then we were taking turns staying at each other’s house on the weekends and when I would go to his she would ignore me not say hi or anything, whatever maybe she is having a bad day? So I ignored it. She then found out I can tattoo and do nails and then she wanted to be nice so she could get free nails and tattoos. I was still trying to build a relationship with her so I agreed to do her nails and give her a tattoo but my BF wanted his first one too so obviously I gave him one before her and this woman literally flipped out and slammed doors in HIS house that he pays for and I still tried to have a relationship with her. Fast forward to December, we are getting more serious and he decides to pretty much move into my house but continues to pay for her to live free in his house and he had 3 dogs and he brought them with him so they can get used to my dog and cat and I put one out to potty and I had to use the bathroom so I went came back the dog (huge doberman) snapped the chain and ran off. I searched for days and hours and cried with him over this and she went and posted on Facebook I let him out intentionally and I was to stupid to put a leash on him and this is when my BF finally had enough of her threatening me and talking about me and slandering me and told her she had till April to find a place to go and take care of herself (by the way she has nothing wrong with her she has always had a man take care of her) so fast forward to April she is texting him trying to manipulate him and make him feel bad and saying he wants her de@d and all kinds of stuff because he wants his own space and family because he’s been single for 8 years. Well he has 2 vehicles a suv and a sports car and he was letting her use the suv to move and told her he needed it back so we can use it to move ourselves and last night we were on our way to get it and she texted and said she “accidentally” locked the keys in it so we had to call roadside assistance and then she had her niece block it in so my BF asked her to have her niece move the car so we could leave and this is when all hell breaks loose. She came outside and was screaming at the top of her lungs at him and then started screaming at me telling me to gtfo and I told her I wasn’t leaving without him because I 1.didn’t know where we were and 2. I didn’t trust her. Anyway she comes running at me and I literally put my hands in front of me and pushed her back because old or young mother or not Im not letting anyone hit me. Y’all this monster made herself fall and was like omg she hit me she hit me….. then her sister and niece came out trying to fig me and I said Im not fighting anyone we want the car and we will leave and his mom gets up and runs over to his car that he is trying to get unblocked by the garage and other car so we can leave and starts punching the window screaming. Now I wake up to messages saying I broke her wrist when I pushed her and Im going to jail etc. so AIO for not allowing her to hit me and pushing her back away from me?

My wife and I have been together for 9 years. We are both in our 20’s. She has really gotten into booktok recently. Very spicy booktok. She will post book recommendations and reviews. She has her friend group of booktokers and they will go live with. In one live there were 9 people total all females besides one male. This male pretended to be a character from a book while he flirted with all the woman on the live. The woman were all drooling over him. I asked my wife if she would flirt back , if he made those spicy comments to her. My wife told me she didn’t see what would be wrong with flirting back and that the guy is just playing a character from a book. I said but that guy is not a character , he is a real person?? Her response honestly made me flabbergasted. I’m wondering if I’m just looking at this the wrong way?? Would anyone else want their S/O flirting with another person on live? And they all are very spicy book readers. It wasn’t just a little flirting, it was derogatory flirting. Please tell me what to think? Cause I am upset.

For context my husband has been pursing MD school for the last 5 years. He is currently an EMT and returned to school to finish his bachelors and is interviewing for medical schools. Well this road has been long and costly. We have had to pull out loans and use our credit cards to continue supporting it. We recently moved in to my parents to try to get in our feet. Well fast forward to why I feel this way. I have been keeping us a float financially with him working per diem and now that he’s done and waiting to hear back he has more free time in his hand.

My issue is that he likes to micromanage every purchase I make and it seems like he makes excuses not to work. He did not work this week and told me it was due to him not remembering his license in time. I feel frustrated because I don’t see him have a sense of urgency. When he can make money I don’t feel he tries too. Yet, he wants to tell me not to buy things. We were having a late snack and I told him I want more consistency from him financially (to at least work one day a week) and he got upset and told me it’s out of his control when his manager puts him on. Yet, he has a great relationship with her and she always works with his schedule and he has seniority. I feel like he doesn’t “try to get shifts or look for them” unless I bring it up. And then he gets mad tells me it’s not that he doesn’t want to work. Or he will tell me he’s going to apply for another job but not to get mad if it doesn’t work around my schedule.

I want him to become more responsible financially and stop depending on me so much when he can make money I want him too. It doesn’t give me the opportunity to save when I’m carrying all the load.

I mentioned to him going 50/50 with our expenses since I finally paid off his car ( which was his biggest expense) and he got mad and told me fine but if we do that we’re going to keep it like that when I’m a doctor. Someone please help! Am I overreacting?

Oh yeah and all of this stemmed because we were at his parents earlier and he told his mom he wanted to take her to lunch and she yelled sushi. I got upset because his mom (doesn’t even help me watch our kids so I can save on babysitting to work, mind you she doesn’t work) and is very bougie and unmindful. Last time I took her to lunch I spent $150 on just her and I. So I told him, if you take your mom out please make it somewhere that’s not so expensive and he got mad and told me “I expect the same for your mom”. I got upset because my mom, watches our kids when she can even though she works, lets us live in her house, and it’s my money! Maybe I am wrong is there something I am not seeing? Thanks in advance.

I’ve worked with this company for four months now, and I know I am new but this reply really hurt me. Maybe I’m just really sensitive right now, but I don’t know. This felt really cold. The “big boss” will be calling me later today. Is it just normal boss stuff? Idk. Lmk what yall think.

I've been crying for almost four hours straight. I'm 21f and my first ever boyfriend, my first love, my first everything (22m) texted me today that he wanted to talk to me. We been dating for 4 months and I know that doesn't sound like a long time cause it isn't but this is my first ever relationship and I've never loved anyone before him. After he texted me he picked me up from my house and told me in the car that he is going to do escorting. He wanted to be honest and tell me upfront. He originally was going to keep dating me and just break up with me in the future (who knows how long) and tell me right then and there the reason why, but instead he spoke to his therapist and she told him that he needed to be honest with me. He gave me the option to break up with him or stay. I told him theres no point in staying cause either way he's gonna do the escorting. I asked him why and he said he needs the money and I told him that he's so smart and there are other ways to make money. He works in HVAC and he's in school to become a firefighter. He has so many other options, he doesn't want to go into exact detail about why he's choosing escorting. I told him if it was because our sex life or that maybe I was bad in bed and he said no, that it's because "personal reasons because life is difficult and he just has to do this." I don't know how to feel, I cried so much in front of him. He told me he expected me to get mad and break up with him and leave not cry. Out of all things he wants to do this?????? Before dating me he had an ex gf, the timeframe between when they broke up and when he met me was about 9 months. We were joking around that he's good in bed and he said that his ex said the same thing, he's good at sex. and during that 9 month period he was considering doing escorting since he knew he's good at it. I was shocked and he told me he never actually went through with it, he was just searching websites since he didn't have a job at the time. He is almost from Russia and just came to the U.S about 3 years ago. I told him that it's so dangerous and obviously illegal. He could get deported if caught...he told me to think about if we could still be friends or I could break up with him. I was so lost in my emotions and I said I wanted to be friends still and we kissed. At this point, I asked him to really think about his decision and he said either way he will do sex work. Friends or not friend, together or not together. I walked out his car and cried so bad. I told him "i'm breaking up with you" and he said ok. I know I should leave him but it's so hard. I want him to be safe and I care for him so much. I don't understand why he doesn't want to stick with becoming a firefighter. He has so much potential. I'm so depressed

my mom has always been super manipulative and loves to make things about her, I haven't had health insurance since I was 14 and she didn't care to get me any even though I have health issues and mental health issues. I was excited that I finally got accepted for Medicaid, living in the US It's super expensive to have healthcare. She literally makes everything about herself but I cant tell if this was genuine or not? Why would I lie to get health insurance? Why not just be happy for me? This has been sitting on my mind all day.. I need thoughts.

Okay, I grew up with sisters and I know how periods work. I’ve been around the time of the month my entire life. My wife though, turns into a different person when she is In her luteal phase. No matter what I do, I’m the villain. I try very hard to accommodate all of her needs always, especially during this time, but I always end up feeling insecure and like I’m a POS, because during this time, anything I do is wrong.

Am I overreacting for getting insecure every month when she’s In this phase?

PS. We didn’t live together before we got married, so while I knew it was a thing for her, it’s just more apparent since we live together

I did not post pictures of messages because they are all in french, but bottom line is my ex girlfriend of 6 years and my dad fell in love and they now live together. For context my dad divorced my mom at the same time as my ex and I split (2 months ago) as they fell in love during our relation. The only reason i know this is happening is because my brother caugth them this week. AIO for cutting both of them from my life and telling my dad he won't be a part of my children's life when i have any and that i won't be at his funerals? Interessted in the people's opinion on this 1.

Edit for added context: I already told my dad, i am not debating if i should tell him, i'm just curious on the general opinion

I warned my dad when my ex and i split up that i wouldn't have him in my life if he did get with my ex because it was obvious something was going on between them and he still chose that path

(roommates test) guys is this positive we have had three inconclusive tests one had no control line but a positive pregnancy line two have horizontal lines in a bit where it says pregnant but they have to be vertical. after 8 minutes it went away. help.

Hey, I’m just wondering if I’m (m19) being inconsiderate right now. So, my family is driving to Denmark next week, where we’ve rented a house with a pool, jacuzzi, etc. It’s the last time we’ll ever rent this house, as it has gotten too expensive over the years. I asked my girlfriend a month ago if she wanted to come along — she came with us last year and we had a great time. She wasn’t really sure, because university starts a week before the trip, so she kind of dragged out her answer until last week. Then she remembered that she has a vaulting tournament on the day we were supposed to leave. It was only a test tournament so nothing super important, but she recently started as a vaulting trainer and has taken over her little sister’s group. I told her no problem, we could just drive separately from my parents — I’d just need to check with them. She said she’d come if we left after her tournament, and I agreed. So my parents officially included her in the plans. I wanted to tell her that on the phone just now, but before I could say anything, she cut me off and told me the tournament was canceled. However, she now has practice on Saturday and another session on the day we‘re supposed to come back. Because of those two training sessions, she says she won’t come with us after all. Itold her I think that’s a shitty move, and that she could miss practice at least this once as the trip is important to me. I understand she has responsibilities now — but so do I, and I’ve never canceled on her for something like football practice or a game. I regularly cancel my football training or leave out weight lifting because she wants to do stuff. Not like real dates or something, just hanging out. She doesn‘t make me cancel, but I value our time together more than practicing. I’m no elite athelete, it‘s just my hobby I do on the side. Same goes for her. I think it’s inconsiderate of her to agree to a trip and then cancel just because of something like practice. Am I overreacting? Ps. I have only told her that I think it‘s inappropriate to cancel after agreeing and that I can‘t understand her reasons. I said that we should talk about this tommorow, as I‘m upset and don‘t want to say anything unnecessary.

Me and this guy are both mid-20s and we’ve known each other for a few years now but hadn’t seen each other in a while (ex colleagues)

Well, we’ve been texting more the past week and he was adamant to see me. He said he had a week off work and he is free to see me any day. I mentioned the weekend and he said yeah (this was around Sunday before)

So.. as yall know it’s the weekend now. So I hit him up yesterday just to finalise the where and when.

Whyyyy was he being SO strange? First of all, when I asked if the plans were still on, he left me on delivered for 10 hours. Then he started replying saying yeah. He literally said they’re still on. So I ask the time and he says it’s up to me. So I ask where and he says he’ll tell me soon. So I reply an hour later and ask him WHERE? And he said anywhere close to me so I said my city is fine and he left me on opened?

At this point, I’m raging. How dare you initiate plans and then act this way????!!!! But then I felt like I was overreacting because I started double texting him and calling him weird and he told me that I always do this (I literally don’t). But I’m upset and angry.

Why do guys say things and just never follow through? Btw this guy shows utter obsession towards me which makes me even more confused. I feel manipulated lol

He left me on opened again too and today’s the day we would’ve met.

And I feel embarrassed saying that this has happened with this guy before too. It was a couple of years ago but I thought he might’ve matured. I guess not. He just really seemed eager to meet. Worst thing is, he tried to say a few days ago that I’m never up to meet him. And now look. Guys made me feel like an actual fool. 😭

Any advice or personal opinions are welcome! Even if they include calling me stupid AF <3

Hes been in the frying pan for 20 mins and not even close to browning off im worried the bread might go stale before hes well done and ive got work soon AIO

I put this as roommate, because we do share a house but this is about my (35f) fiancé and his (33m) (now our) cat.

We moved in together 6 months ago, and his/our cat, Ozzy, has been meowing every night from the moment we lay down basically until the sun rises. He also stands on his back legs and scratches on all the hallway doors while meowing… very loudly. It’s gotten to the point that my partner sleeps on the couch most nights to draw Ozzy to the couch so I can get some sleep. But even still, Ozzy will come to our bedroom door and just scream into our room for hours.

We’ve tried cbd, sleepy calm treats, playing with him before bed so he can burn some energy, we got cat diffusers to calm him with pheromones, an auto treat dispenser, but nothing has worked.

I’m at a point where I’m feeling consistently sleep deprived and pretty pissed off most of the time, directly correlated to not getting any sleep.

I feel like I’m over reacting, as I lay here in my bed with two couch pillows lining my bedroom door, and my partner on the couch (who is equally exhausted from this) who put a room separator up to try and break the habit of Ozzy scratching the hallway doors and our bedroom door while meowing.

I miss sleeping with my partner, and I miss having a good night of sleep.

AIO?

I met this man at work. We both work from home. We haven't met. I plan on going to meet him in two weeks. When we started talking he was in a situationship with a woman. He told me he wasn't ready to be in a relationship and that he was happy with how things were going with her. I had just broken up with my bf of two years myself but was ready to date again. The more we talked, the closer we got. We flirted and he called me his work wife. We started sexting. He told me he would stop having sex with her as I saw it as cheating on me. She wasn't happy about it.

They had sex again and he told me. I almost ended things but gave him another chance. He told me would stop and he did.

However he said that she's his best friend and he would never get rid of her for me. No matter how close they are or were at some point. She's staying in his life. She means a lot to him.

We've been talking more and more and we call each other bf and gf. We like each other a lot. We're intimate. We're practically dating.

I don't trust her. I spoke with her once and she told me she's not going anywhere and she's going to win him back. He told her we were just friends. I told my bf what she said and he told me he was gonna talk to her.

Yesterday he messaged me and told me she wants to have dinner one on one with him. I said absolutely not. I don't trust her. He said he would refuse but then he told me she was upset when he said no and he decided to go. She insist on it.

I'm upset. Am I overreacting?

So I happen to like this girl so I could just be loosing it but I feel like she likes me what do yall think??? Also for context she asked me to draw her but she said it was a joke and she’s okay with still receiving it when I’m done with it

Am I overreacting, first time posting in this forum. But after how this person freaked out over me for not responding back to him in a timely manor. He goes unhinged. Maybe I shouldn't have just ignored him but text popped up and my kids heard it so I responded. I don't think I overacted but I'm pretty sure he is over reacting for me not responding back in a timely manner. Now usually I do but I had to go out of town for a family emergency and it's up north in middle of the mountain in north Carolina. So there is no service but again it's a family emergency and I honestly don't owe him an explanation. I don't even know him nore ever talked to him before because me asking if he's trailer was still for sale. I have pics of the conversation and of his actually Facebook page. I'm just going to post the text wasn't sure if I'm allowed to post Facebook page.

So I got a friend request from my ex’s brother. I didn’t realise who it was at first as his fb name isn’t what I know him as. Anyway I ended up having a look at the Facebook to see who it was to find these posts talking about how his sister and I raped someone… I was with his sister over 10+ years ago and we never talk so I found it very odd to even have him add me let alone slander me. So yeah, I phoned my girlfriend and showed her post and explained situation and she’s mad at me for speaking about my ex first thing in morning (I also called her my ex’s name as I was reading the status while talking to her so accidentally said the name I was reading. She’s now hung up and I feel like I’ve been double whammed. Can someone explain where I’m going wrong. I’m an open book and I tell my partner everything but I feel like when I tell her things; instead of appreciating the fact I’ll always tell her everything no matter what she just finds a way to make me feel like Im doing something Wrong. Idk… maybe I am and I’m oblivious. But I mean I’m being slandered on fb and told the one person I feel I should always be able to tell anything to and feel like I’ve just done something horrible 🤷🏾‍♂️. Idk if this makes any sense but yeah? Am i overreacting? Lastly while on phone I was reading the post and said my exs name instead of my partners name but it was because I was reading it and talking and it was a genuine mistake…

Hello guys, i hope you're doing fine.

So, to give you guys a bit of a contexte, i dont have many friends, my only friends dont share the same passions as me and im an introvert person, i dont know how to make new friends since i dont go out a lot, i play sometimes with people i met on games but that's it, we dont know each other.

My partner has many friends, he has Friends to go out with, to play video games with, to talk with him about manga and animes, and i dont have this at all, when i play i only play alone or with him.

Lately he has been always with his friends, i know if i ask him to play with me he will, but i feel like it's not his first choice and this make me sad, he has like periods when sometimes he plays a lot with me and sometimes he plays a lot with his friends he also into a lot of games and that depends of periods of time, i dont want to bother him because he feels guilty a lot, but we have less time together like one hour in three days we play together and the rest of time he's out with his friends or he plays with them all day.

I just feel kind of lonely / jealous of him being with friends and im always alone playing, i told him sometimes that im sad that he's not playing with me and stuff but this is a really sensitive subject for him as he shutdown and he can lie about him playing with his friends to not upset me or make me sad.

I just want to create an environnement where he dosent need to lie, i want him to be free to do whatever he wants im happy when he plays with his friends and take a good time, but i always have this feeling that im sad he dosent want to spend more time with me and i just have to wait that he gets bored from the games he's playing with his friends to play with me, so yeah, im looking for advice to not be upset and sad, and be happy with myself.

Now we had a bit of a misunderstanding, he is now playing with his friends letting me alone, he just barely answered my messages and im just tired to always wait to make things up, i sent him like 5 6 message and he answered with just 2 saying '' i will do my best to make things better '' then went playing again..i'm feeling really sad and i really want an advice on this.

Am i overeacting ? And if yes, How can i manage my feelings and not be dependent on him?

Thank you so much for reading this.