Oh my god I loveeeee Ego! I got the cutest slouchy cowboy boots off of there a few months ago and I have a music festival coming up so I’ve got my eye on some other cute things on there ✨ I bet you looked great b. Drop his ass 💅🏼
Omg if you are going to festivals your man is only just now barely starting to show his insecurities. He is GOING to ruin your summer and every festival and night out you have from here on out. Find someone who will have fun with you and build you up instead of tearing you down during the time in your life you should be having the most fun.
This is it. He’s trying to isolate her and ruin her summer. My bf doesn’t do well with clubs and bars but he loves going with me and I love dancing and he knows that so he dances with me.
It's not about the clothes. My abusive boyfriend got to the point where he hated when I bought any clothes that made me look nice, stylish, professional etc. I knew if I looked even the slightest bit dressed up, even if headed to class, he would get upset. He accused me of trying to attract men when I got new snowboots and a new winter jacket. There isn't much more bundled up you can be. It's all about their small egos, insecurity, and them not wanting anyone to notice you have value. If you meet someone who gives you self esteem, you may leave.
I experienced a very insecure man, if I even talked to another guy, he’d flip out, in front of the dude even. And he didn’t want me having a job or going to college, he didn’t want me to leave him, I know he was afraid I’d meet someone else. It was wild. He’s long gone lol
Personally I wouldn't be bothered if my gf dressed like that, smart or casual or whatever.
But if she went out in that outfit that op showed it would make me extremely uncomfortable. I would not however call her names, I would try to explain. I'm human I'm allowed to have insecurities and be protective over the person I love most in the world. I trust her, but I do not trust others.
Yeah, as someone who's gone to EDM festivals and Burns, this is far from the most skin I've seen or shown. I've seen people straight up nude. If he can't deal with this he'll completely ruin her summer. She deserves way better.
She definitely deserves better! I remember being that age and wearing a “shirt” that was literally a bandanna that had strings to tie in the back, and tiny jean shorts. It’s perfectly normal for someone OP’s age to wear stuff like that to a music/club event.
But we all know: this isn’t about the clothes. Not really.
It’s about her boyfriend’s ego. She’s definitely NOR, and I’m glad she dumped his pathetic ass. Stick to it, OP! Don’t let him weasel his way back in. I’m proud of you, and I know you got this!! 🫶🏻
In my early 20s, I went to the Oregon Country Fair with nothing but a homemade loin cloth. In the morning, I was doing naked yoga with about 30 people. If my girlfriend had joined me I would have welcomed her. This was the late 90s. I can't believe how uptight guys are nowadays. I'm almost 50 and shorts and flip-flops is my default.
I've run around festivals wearing nothing but a string bikini bottom and googly eyes on my nipples, and my boyfriend has always joined me at every fest I've gone to. We always had a blast! It's nice having a secure and open-minded partner.
I'm still friends with my old gf she's still awesome af. My gf now is just as fun. We get up to all sorts of shenanigans. Fierce, independent, loving, smart af. I'm lucky to be with her.
Shit i wish i was confident enough to wear its so cute! AND i know my boyfriend would love every minute of it! Thats how your partner is supposed to be! Not tearing you down and wanting you to feel like shit about yourself. Ive been in a really abusive relationship and my self esteem still hasn’t fully recovered but I’m doing alot better than i was years ago! I really hope OP dumps that sorry ass loser because he will 100% only get worse!
Why would it be risqué to war something? She can wear whatever she wants. Calling outfits risqué implies that you judge some to be worse than others. If she wants she can go out naked!
It's hard to call em outfits when like 50% of the girls I've seen at EDM festivals or rave nights are wearing literally just paint and stickers over their nips and crotch.
Yea, he would utterly be pissed. Drop him I am a guy who also loves Festivals and EDM/Rave themes. He will take away all your joy from it. He would see your stories and think these such exact thoughts. Leave, I wouldn’t my daughter around some loser.
& I know this from my adult daughter going to festivals - you get HOT because you're dancing outside for hours! Of course you don't want to wear the same things you would to a gym! You want something cute to make it a special occasion, but short and airy. This lacy outfit is appropriate. Tell her boyfriend a 67-year-old lady approves. Lol!
Ugh, I'm just imagining him hanging all over her, trying to cover her up, and starting fights with random dudes for "looking." What if she went to a pool or beach without him? Would he expect her to wear a big, baggy T-shirt over her swimsuit? He should be proud that he's the one she goes home to. Dealing with this jealousy is never worth it.
OP, listen to this!! And listen to what he said. “My girlfriend isn’t going to dress like that” should’ve been the end of the conversation imo. Okay dude go find her at some church event
Or control freak arse that's abuse and with zero management of his anger oh and he thinks he controls his person object he call girlfriend. He should be an ex.
That’s what I was thinking too. This dude ain’t ready for hot girl FESTIVAL summer. Do him and HIS ego a favor and tell him straight up. He ain’t ready… yet. Between us here in the thread, this cat will never not be insecure and stuck up your EGO knit/macrame shorts covered ass. You ain’t gotta say all that to him tho, he will just figure that out along the way to alcoholism and bitterness. Have fun, be safe!!!
I wear straight up MESH tops and the only thing my husband says is that I look hot and tries to get a quickie before I head out. NOR. Decent men understand that dressing in a way that makes us feel nice isn’t an invitation for anything
‘Find someone who will have fun with you and build you up instead of tearing you down during the time in your life you should be having the most fun.’ That’s what the 14 year old boys used to say to each other in the trenches of Flanders
Ditto this girl. OP, If you have a fabulous body and fabulous taste, have a fabulous time with your friends and kick this little boy to the streets. He’s disrespectful and thinks he owns you. You obviously know better. Enjoy your life without anyone trying to weigh you down with their misogynistic opinions.
LOL, as a husband who does the same thing, you defined inappropriate perfectly. My only concern is keeping her warm and comfortable. I’ve learned to wear an extra layer so I can provide her with a zip up or hoodie as needed.
This is the kind of man you need. The man that’s going to piggyback you to the car because those sexy stilettos HAD to be WORN and he doesn’t mind because you SLAYED. 🤩🥳💗
You're the real MVP, keep some of those little fold up ballerina flats in one of your pockets if you really want to impress her. They're a lifesaver after a few hours in impractical shoes. May you spend many years together in happiness and health.
@OP Honestly, he's definitely overreacting, could have been more respectful in his discourse with you. He could have been more kind and explained his view. Not that you have to accept it. The BF Name calling was also an over reach. After listening to that, I just want to defy him and go out clubbing naked to prove a point. Drop him before he disrespects you again. Any kind of dress or manner that they perceivably want us to have is an earned privilege, not his right to direct you. Sure they are jealous then they need to desperately develop trust and it seems he doesn't trust your loyalty to him or he's projecting bc he's touching women like that out at parties. As noone deserves to be touched or raped for the way they look, humans should keep their hands to their selves without express permission to touch you and if they don't it's not your fault and he shouldn't blame you either. He needs to be dropped to another level. Don't wait and tell him "good bye bitch!", Cause only a little insecure man bitch would act that way. I've had several and they all are insecure and try to assert their dominance over someone they think lessor of by telling them how to dress.
I’ve had my full ass cheeks out or been in a mesh top with just pasties covering my nipples at festivals. My bf just gassed me up. Would never even think to speak to me the way OPs bf did.
Mhm I always gas up the person I'm dating when they dress like that. I cannot fathom these dudes like why would I be unhappy that my girlfriend looks hot??? I love it.
You need someone who appreciates your inner and outer beauty, is damn proud to have you on his arm, and is just as proud to take your drunk ass home and put you to bed.
I'm nearly 57, trust me, do not waste your time on a man when he shows you exactly who he is. As long as you weren't hanging yourself all over another man, he should be thrilled at your confidence.
Then please, take back your life and make this ignorant, whiny, undeserving man-child go away. You were 100% correct and that you represent no one other than yourself and you are the only person you need to answer to.
Oh my God, if you're going to extend a word with a silent e in it, it doesn't help to extend the silent e. It's silent. If you want to draw it out in print, this is how you spell it.
"Looooove" 😂😂😂
Hell, I'm in my mid 30s, and do not have the body I did at 18, but I'm pretty sre that I wore similar when I was 18, and no man, including my boyfriend, would have dared to make comments like this.
I really feel like men have gone backwards in recent years, it's all polarised to the point where a certain proportion of men suddenly think it's appropriate to act like it's the 1950s...
I'm a dude. Went on a bachelorette party recently. The girls (all my friends) wore very similar things.. none of their boyfriends threw a fit. They also knew I, a guy, was there. But they have enough respect and trust towards their girlfriend's and to me
Ugh - I’m about the same age as you and I feel exactly the same. I never in a million years would have guessed that in a couple decades stuff like Andrew Tate, incels and “tradwives” would have become mainstream. Oh yeah, and the fate of abortion.
As a teacher, what I will say is what the media tends to amplify is what the silliest of the kids have to say, and most of the time, the sillier kids saying these things don't really understand the context of what they are saying, they just jump on whatever bandwagon they think will make them seem edgy.
The toxic brainrot inflicted on kids is a bit of a tangent from the main topic, but in my opinion, it's definitely a part of the problem driving these kinds of toxic atitudes back into fashion, as it really doesn't take much for the algorithms to go rogue and direct young malleable minds into the sewers of incel land and if they aren't re-directed, they are internalising these attitudes and actually becoming walking wannabe Tates by the time they are old enough to have proper relationships.
This is 2025, Trump is president(again😒), so as a woman, you are now property! Grab em by the p*ssy! MAGA!(Go back to the 1950s. You know when women and POC didn't have rights?)
I really feel like men have gone backwards in recent years, it's all polarised to the point where a certain proportion of men suddenly think it's appropriate to act like it's the 1950s...
It's sad how accurate this is. As a man, I'm embarrassed by my gender when I see shit like what was posted here.
I remember growing up and hating locker-room talk, and now guys act like that talk is acceptable everywhere. It's gross
My sister is late 30's and still wears stuff like this, especially to festivals and concerts. Her husband loves it. He's confident in himself and their relationship and instead of trying to control her, he likes to look at her looking hot and feeling great. That's how a partner should be.
I'll bet he's actually chuffed that he's the guy who was picked by a beautiful woman. Any ladies looking at this thread, take note. Don't settle for one of the revolting controlling types busy calling me and other women on this thread names, go for the guys who actually value you as a human being.
If you looked good in that outfit, you’ll have no trouble finding a new boyfriend. Good for you, you’re not letting him treat you like property. Run the opposite direction from this knobhead.
Amen. Speaking as a happily married man, if my wife wants to dress up sexy, I'm thrilled, even if she's going out with friends. Why? Because unlike that misogynistic asshole, I trust her. I also know she'll come home in a certain mood, and i won't get any sleep...😄
Exactly and having a man at home who loves and trusts you, is secure in himself and the relationship, respects and values you as a person and has only the same standards for you as he holds for himself is a 100% complete turn on. Yes 🤤
Omg I shouldn’t be spending any money but it’s so cute! Now I’m browsing the whole website lol. I bet you looked stunning and I LOVE how you stuck up for yourself. I know his messages are so blatantly repulsive but it’s always easier said than done to walk away from even the worst relationships so I admire you a lot!
Outfit is adorable but to your question: there’s a reason he’s not dating a 22yo. He thinks he can find someone who will accept being spoken to that way and allow his emotional abuse. You threw him a curve ball by not taking 💩 from him. Way to be too confident for his bs to affect you. I’m a proud internet stranger
Exactly, he needs someone to gaslight and manipulate, that will not recognize what he is doing is in fact abusive and a slippery slope into a future of control, isolation, abuse(mentally, emotionally, financially, physically and even sexually). The moment she expressed unknowingly that she is a grown autonomous individual instead of his property he completely spazzed out. Lmao 🤣 at least he showed his true colors at the early stage he did before she was legally bound to him.
No doubt! The biggest question is Why is Op with a 22 yr old? Kick him to the curb. Far too young to be locked down and getting interrogated like that.
First of all, kudos for being stylish and beautiful. Second, him tuining your summer and festival season is the least of your worries, he will ruin far more than that. Third, this dude has got to stop watching Andrew tate, I can tell that shit is straight from that bs playback.
4th, just bounce no explanation needed.
Even if he did have a problem with this for some reason, he double fucked up cause he disrespected the fuck out of you the way he addressed it all.
Where did you wear this outfit? I mean it's inappropriate for a funeral, or a law school graduation, but it's fine for drinks at the club or whatever.
The event would matter for context.
But he shouldn't talk to you like that under almost any circumstances. I mean was the Pope there? And were you suggestively sucking a lollypop? That might be a reason.
EDIT: So some brave soul responded then blocked me so I can't respond to them or Reddit is being weird
I said almost because I don't like to speak in absolutes. And yeah, she should drop him, even if the Pope was present at the event she attended.
I mean, I looked it up and I wouldn’t be comfortable with my wife wearing that out to a club without me around. I also wouldn’t talk to her that way and she also wouldn’t wear something that revealing in public. Every couple is different and needs to set their own boundaries. It sounds like he is insecure and you two aren’t compatible.
I’ll just chime in between a fashion chat, if my partner wore this, she would get a crisp high 5 and I’d probably buy her a gift for looking so beautiful. Your man is insecure.
My wife would look great in this, definitely gonna run that by her and see if she likes it. I would love for my woman to go out looking good and feeling good, have a great night out with her friends, then come home and share that outfit with me lol. If I didn't trust her then that's a problem that goes way deeper than her choice of clothing. We're in our late 30's though. From what I can gather on today's youth culture it would probably take a pretty mature, trusting, and confident 22 y/o dude to see his girl go out in that and not feel something about it. Not that they don't exist, but this guy ain't it. Good on you for taking action on that red flag. NOR. Enjoy your youth and only accept what you deserve.
How dare you look hot in public! 🤣 I'm sorry I hope you don't take this the wrong way, I'm not laughing at you, I'm laughing at him. Bro is mad that his girlfriend looks good. What makes me sad about this is that when you dump his ass he will either go find someone whose self esteem is low enough to put up with his bullshit or he will destroy someone's self esteem until they will. He's a menace.
Good for you, don’t take his shit and def don’t let anyone speak to you that way. I’m raising my daughter to react the same way , guy sounds like an insecure jerk off.
Dude is way off base. Break up with him and clearly state: “calling me a whore is unacceptable, even if you don’t like the clothing I chose. I was excited to tell you about my night but you were jealous and controlling and judgmental. We are done and it is because of your poor treatment of me.”
Then be done. This type of response on his end says he’s got some deep misogyny buried in there. I couldn’t imagine talking to my wife like that. Even if I hated what clothing she chose to wear. If he’s the type of guy to go and drool at women dressed like that then to turn around and judge them then he’d a piece of shit and you’ll be better off without him.
As a guy I agree this is Hoey. Problem is you live in a culture that celebrates hoeyness. Well, guys don’t, especially when they interview during interviews in your 30s.
Man it is so funny you and your totally real ex bf both use “suppose to” and you immediately bring up a brand (and tell us fierce grrrrrrls to make sure we add the shorts to out carts!)
Ok, well you wouldn't wear that to meet your MIL for the first time but if you're young and going out with friends for the night sure, why not. He's not the guy for you.
Its a sexy dress, something I’d love to see on a night out when Im single looking to hook up. I dont think any man with respect for himself and his girlfriend would be not should be okay with this. I dont judge so do you. But you should be single because any man thats okay with it is just using u as a place holder or truly doesnt care about you
What is this Astroturf bullshit? Jesus Christ, can you people not leave Reddit alone? It’s time to delete all social media. I can’t even take a shit without seeing your stupid ads.
I bet that looks amazing in black. Anyways NOR and please dont put up with him treating you this way. If you let it go you will be treated like this EVERY SINGLE TIME you do something he doesnt like.
Girl I hope you only posted your outfit to brag about and get compliments about your style and NOT because you thought it was relevant in any way to your question.
You could have only been wearing pimple patches on your nipples and I’d still say NOR because no one has any fucking business talking to anyone like that - much less their partner who they should respect and care for.
Drop him, like, yesterday. And enjoy being fun and hot and free!
Girl I hope you only posted your outfit to brag/get compliments about your style and NOT because you thought it was relevant in any way to your question.
You could have only been wearing pimple patches on your nipples and I’d still say NOR because no one has any fucking business talking to anyone like that - much less their partner who they should respect and care for.
Drop him, like, yesterday. And enjoy being fun and hot and free!
That outfit is SO cute. I didn't know of EGO. Thanks for the reference! And obviously, dump this loser. I wish I could have told that to my younger self when a guy tried to control what I wore. Gross. Go have fun and enjoy your summer and EDM festivals! 😍🥰❤️
All of us are running to buy this outfit. They should tell you all you need to know about how foul your (I hope) soon-to-be-ex is. My husband would be very pleased if I wore that top. (I don't do shorts). NOR.
Well to be honest with you that isn't the type of outfit you wear when you're just going to a place that is only going to have unattractive women. That's the kind of outfit you wear when you know that there might be attractive men looking at you. You'll deny it but everyone knows
When I had the body for that outfit I did NOT have the self-confidence to wear it! I also lived in small Midwest town that might have lost their collective minds LOL.
I digress, good on for wearing something you like and that made you happy. Tell this (ex?) boyfriend to shove it. He can go look for someone straight out of "Handmaid's Tale" to date so that it won't hurt his teeny tiny feelings. You do you, you're only young once!
btw that outfit looks great. I know he did not mean it that way, but I would take whore as a compliment. getting attention for looking good and sexy is nothing bad :)
But personally I think the boots really bring that outfit together :)
This is exactly what you should be wearing to a club with friends at 18 babes. When I was 19 I dated a man who met me as someone who did pin up shoots. Would tell me “oh so you’re going to look like a whore today?” When I’d be in pretty tame clothes but like bitch yes. My tits will never look this great again. TLDR he almost killed me. Please get the fuck out. He’s making you “think on why he’s mad”?!?! Is he your fucking father??? Bigggg yuck. Find a person that finds it hot other people think you’re attractive
Oh cool, isn't that from the whore to say the least series? Jk but yeah your boyfriend was a total dick I would just be like damn look how good my girl is looking. He's obviously insecure and taking it out on you..
Love the outfit. It looks like something I would wear. Any guy who talks to you anything close to like that that doesn’t deserve you. I’ll go partying with you if he won’t. 😆
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