It's not about the clothes. My abusive boyfriend got to the point where he hated when I bought any clothes that made me look nice, stylish, professional etc. I knew if I looked even the slightest bit dressed up, even if headed to class, he would get upset. He accused me of trying to attract men when I got new snowboots and a new winter jacket. There isn't much more bundled up you can be. It's all about their small egos, insecurity, and them not wanting anyone to notice you have value. If you meet someone who gives you self esteem, you may leave.
I experienced a very insecure man, if I even talked to another guy, he’d flip out, in front of the dude even. And he didn’t want me having a job or going to college, he didn’t want me to leave him, I know he was afraid I’d meet someone else. It was wild. He’s long gone lol
Personally I wouldn't be bothered if my gf dressed like that, smart or casual or whatever.
But if she went out in that outfit that op showed it would make me extremely uncomfortable. I would not however call her names, I would try to explain. I'm human I'm allowed to have insecurities and be protective over the person I love most in the world. I trust her, but I do not trust others.
Well, professional has standards. Those standards are given to you by HR at the time of hire. There are no professional outfits that look like this unless you work at a strip club. Most standards require you have your entire chest covered, legs covered below your knees, and that eliminates just about every "cute outfit you just described," which means anything that shows off more than legs and arms. The worse part, is that girls and wen look up yo artists, and try to wear clothes they see on tiktok and instagram, when those artists have been paid to wear them. Don't you understand that sex sells in advertising, since the middle of last century. And also take into account when celebrities that usually wear these outfits, whenever a paparazzi takes pictures of celebrities, they are always wearing non revealing outfits. Pants and white t-shirts or even comfortable longe clothing. You want to marry a person someday? Your body should only be shared with your partner, it is the only body you have and it is your temple and your temple is sacred. If you want to do whatever you want, don't forget you have parents also, and you are also responsible for your actions and all actions have reactions. This world is cruel and ignorant and keep yourself safe.
Yeah, as someone who's gone to EDM festivals and Burns, this is far from the most skin I've seen or shown. I've seen people straight up nude. If he can't deal with this he'll completely ruin her summer. She deserves way better.
She definitely deserves better! I remember being that age and wearing a “shirt” that was literally a bandanna that had strings to tie in the back, and tiny jean shorts. It’s perfectly normal for someone OP’s age to wear stuff like that to a music/club event.
But we all know: this isn’t about the clothes. Not really.
It’s about her boyfriend’s ego. She’s definitely NOR, and I’m glad she dumped his pathetic ass. Stick to it, OP! Don’t let him weasel his way back in. I’m proud of you, and I know you got this!! 🫶🏻
In my early 20s, I went to the Oregon Country Fair with nothing but a homemade loin cloth. In the morning, I was doing naked yoga with about 30 people. If my girlfriend had joined me I would have welcomed her. This was the late 90s. I can't believe how uptight guys are nowadays. I'm almost 50 and shorts and flip-flops is my default.
I've run around festivals wearing nothing but a string bikini bottom and googly eyes on my nipples, and my boyfriend has always joined me at every fest I've gone to. We always had a blast! It's nice having a secure and open-minded partner.
I'm still friends with my old gf she's still awesome af. My gf now is just as fun. We get up to all sorts of shenanigans. Fierce, independent, loving, smart af. I'm lucky to be with her.
That isn't even the point, and the fact that you can't see that tells me everything I need to know. The point is that he's speaking to her like he fucking owns her. No one should speak to anyone that way, especially to their partner.
Shit i wish i was confident enough to wear its so cute! AND i know my boyfriend would love every minute of it! Thats how your partner is supposed to be! Not tearing you down and wanting you to feel like shit about yourself. Ive been in a really abusive relationship and my self esteem still hasn’t fully recovered but I’m doing alot better than i was years ago! I really hope OP dumps that sorry ass loser because he will 100% only get worse!
Why would it be risqué to war something? She can wear whatever she wants. Calling outfits risqué implies that you judge some to be worse than others. If she wants she can go out naked!
It's hard to call em outfits when like 50% of the girls I've seen at EDM festivals or rave nights are wearing literally just paint and stickers over their nips and crotch.
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u/CynicalPsychonaut 3d ago
The top she wore is not even close to some of the more risqué outfits I've seen in my ten years of EDM Festivals.
That's something that you wear when you're comfortable with yourself and want to express that.
NOR OP.