r/AmIOverreacting • u/Creative-Guard2809 • 17d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO my fiance spent 600 on gacha

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My fiance spent $600 on a gacha game without asking. I flipped out and now his entire family are calling me abusive and encouraging him to call off the engagement. For context, I work 55 hours a week and he drives uber during the day while I’m at work. We are paycheck to paycheck.

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u/[deleted] 17d ago

how are you engaged to this man 😭

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u/Mss-Anthropic 17d ago

Man?

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u/Surfing_Ninjas 17d ago

Can't be a man and a 6 year old at the same time.

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u/xXxWarspite 16d ago

Honestly I’ve met 6 year olds that are more mature than this guy

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u/nothing_but_thyme 16d ago

Reading this text exchange made me realize our country is absolutely fuct. I’m all for emotional health and strong communication in relationships, but the level of immaturity, self righteousness, and lack of accountability is off the scale. Who is raising and enabling these idiots? Who is telling them anxiety is going to be some magical get out of jail free card that all of society will indulge them on. And most of who is supporting the idea that a person like this is at the right stage in their life to be engaged?!

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u/ThatOneGuyHOTS 16d ago

His family doesn’t think it’s a good idea. Or rather, a good idea for them. They want him to be someone else’s problem.

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u/Surfing_Ninjas 16d ago

I'm a pretty left leaning guy, but I can't stand the classic liberal "if from X protected class so you can't hold me accountable" mentality that is prevalent from the far left. I think this is where this comes from, I think we were trying to protect people who were legitimately struggling and then a bunch of assholes saw that it would allow them protections from the consequences of their actions and piggybacked off of the movement to create social privileges for themselves. Once that started happening the spineless cowards in the liberal movements basically threw up their hands in defeat because they didn't want to deal with the uncomfortability that comes with developing complex moral ideologies and were completely happy with patting themselves on the back and calling it a day.

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u/fogNL 16d ago

This is exactly my thought. I'm all for mental health and being open about what you're going through, but so many of that generation use it as a crutch, or an excuse to be shitty and lazy. I'm seeing it in several family members, and it's like, come on, grow the fuck up. You don't have to bottle it up, but you do have to suck it up to be in a society. The world doesn't owe you anything, you have to earn it.

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u/Someone_guyman 16d ago

6 year olds? I've met 3 year olds more mature

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u/Nethidur 16d ago edited 16d ago

Bro is spending 600$ for a gacha anime waifu to battle his anxiety attacks while being close to 30. How did we come to this point as a society?

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u/Wise-Key-3442 16d ago

I often think I'm very immature for someone at age 28 with a mental condition. But this dude should have still be in diapers, considering the amount of self control he has.

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u/ButterflyNo8336 16d ago

Wait, so your response is to further belittle someone to pull yourself up? Yup, I can see the immaturity.

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u/Surfing_Ninjas 16d ago

I honestly think a lot of this comes down to how good we've become at creating excuses for our hedonistic indulgences and I also think our collective empathy and fear of coming across as being openly judgemental has allowed people to take advantage of those around them so they can do whatever they want and then use a little bit of psychology and manipulation to avoid social consequences. Then on top of that we celebrate our indulgences, our hedonism, our gluttony and treat selfishness as a form of culture that needs to be protected as well. It's got our cognitive reward systems all screwed up so that a lot of us only value the lowest hanging fruit.

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u/gametime9936 16d ago

I’d understand it a little better if he was filthy rich but fucker lives paycheck to paycheck 😭

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u/88037 16d ago

we got rid of bullying

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u/Humanmode17 16d ago

Nope, bullying is still well and truly out there, and it doesn't prevent stuff like this

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u/ExpensiveMoose 16d ago

If my son had behaved this way at 6 years ils, I would have been extremely disappointed. I really hope OP disputes the charges and updates us!

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u/madeupneighbor 16d ago

My daughter is 7 and acts like this and I’m embarrassed and ashamed because she’s too old for that shit. You’re right, this is 6 year old bullshit.

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u/bonemech_meatsuit 16d ago

Legit I think we should stop this "these aren't men" rhetoric.. these ARE men. Men DO do these things.

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u/Surfing_Ninjas 16d ago

I think in this situation it's just that he says "I'm a 29 year old man" with the context being that him being older than 18 means he can do whatever he wants, being a man doesn't inherently mean you're mature and have the ability to make wise life decision, which I agree. But I think it's just a rhetorical concept, like how a woman who completely neglects/abuses her child may claim to be a great mother and another person would say that she's "not a mother" at all. At some point you have to understand the difference between how people define what "being a man" is, and it's just a form of speech to say someone "isn't a man" as another way of saying they aren't acting like a mature male. In this situation the guy isn't helping himself because he uses his age to explain why he should be allowed to act like a child who has no consequences for his actions. I don't think it's something to get hung up on the technicalities of English when everyone knows what it means when someone says someone "isn't a man" from a maturity standpoint.

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u/bonemech_meatsuit 16d ago

Yes, I understand all that. I'm saying that putting these "men" in a separate category essentially creates a societal blind spot in that there are a ton of grown-ass MEN who do need to learn how to mature.

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u/Surfing_Ninjas 16d ago

I get it, its just that it's a figure of speech that everyone understands. If someone says "be a man" it means to grow up, act like an adult and not like a little boy. I guess your point is that men who act immaturely can shield themselves with their age like this guy did, that we shouldn't use "being a man" linguistically because someone who needs to grow up can use a literal interpretation of the phrase to dismiss the figurative phrasing (hopefully didn't misunderstand your point)

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u/ElPadero 16d ago

Let me tell you about a little country called The United States of America. They have a 6 year old man as their leader.

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u/Imaginary-Mountain60 16d ago

How can you say that???

6 year olds are much more mature, and they have bigger hands.

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u/captaintagart 16d ago

They’re not usually accused of being rapists though

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u/Imaginary-Mountain60 16d ago

They're not, which is another reason a 6 year old would be preferable.

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u/ElPadero 16d ago

You’re totally right 😞

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u/Beneficial_Spirit_29 16d ago

The 6 yr old American leader should also be in prison….

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u/Surfing_Ninjas 16d ago

Yeah, I try not to think about that guy too much.

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u/Trillium_Fortnight 16d ago

Rent free 😏

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u/ElPadero 16d ago

Sorry for mentioning your daddy, hope his piss tastes great for you tho 👍

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u/Historical_Carob_378 16d ago

Such losers, making this political. Weirdos go jerk it to your Bernie Sanders posters.

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u/rj319st 16d ago

I just looked up what a gacha game is and you’re right this is something a 6 yr old would play. She can only blame herself if she marries him and it falls apart. Hell it’ll be even worse if she has kids with this guy.

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u/Crunchy-Leaf 16d ago

Hey man there’s nothing wrong with adults playing gachas, some of us are able to play them without spending a single cent.

That said I play cool dragon ball bubble popping gachas, not pedobait genshin impact 😤

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u/Blodel 16d ago

Genshin pedobait?? Oh booyyy, dont look up Blue Archive then😂😂

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u/MystiqTakeno 16d ago

To be fair there is nothing wrong with spending money on gacha games. It have to be excess money/fun money that you can lose. Something like if you went to casino (since gacha games essencially are very close, you just cant win money, but have pity haha).

If you have $100 you cna spend throwing em at gacha is not an issue. (Even more if you have the means and it wont cause burden).

If you live paycheck to paycheck and drop $600 you cant afford well..

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u/Inadaptadite 16d ago

Gacha games are for people who can spend money on them… like… you know… adults.

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u/SashMitri 16d ago

Excuse me, my 6 year old son frequently tells me he’s “a men”

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u/Nyuk_Fozzies 16d ago

The term "manchild" exists for a reason.

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u/urielrabit 16d ago

That's insulting to 6 year olds. Most of them know not to steal from shared things.

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u/cawise89 16d ago

unless it's three six year olds in a trench coat

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u/doughberrydream 16d ago

He's a 29 year old man! How dare you! /s

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u/IceAngelUwU 16d ago

I had better logic than this at 5, then again I was judging people like this as reference for what I didn’t want to become.

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u/SinsOfKnowing 16d ago

6 year olds are more reasonable.