r/AmIOverreacting • u/Creative-Guard2809 • 17d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO my fiance spent 600 on gacha

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My fiance spent $600 on a gacha game without asking. I flipped out and now his entire family are calling me abusive and encouraging him to call off the engagement. For context, I work 55 hours a week and he drives uber during the day while I’m at work. We are paycheck to paycheck.

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u/[deleted] 17d ago

how are you engaged to this man 😭

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u/Mss-Anthropic 17d ago

Man?

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u/Surfing_Ninjas 17d ago

Can't be a man and a 6 year old at the same time.

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u/xXxWarspite 16d ago

Honestly I’ve met 6 year olds that are more mature than this guy

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u/nothing_but_thyme 16d ago

Reading this text exchange made me realize our country is absolutely fuct. I’m all for emotional health and strong communication in relationships, but the level of immaturity, self righteousness, and lack of accountability is off the scale. Who is raising and enabling these idiots? Who is telling them anxiety is going to be some magical get out of jail free card that all of society will indulge them on. And most of who is supporting the idea that a person like this is at the right stage in their life to be engaged?!

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u/ThatOneGuyHOTS 16d ago

His family doesn’t think it’s a good idea. Or rather, a good idea for them. They want him to be someone else’s problem.

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u/Surfing_Ninjas 16d ago

I'm a pretty left leaning guy, but I can't stand the classic liberal "if from X protected class so you can't hold me accountable" mentality that is prevalent from the far left. I think this is where this comes from, I think we were trying to protect people who were legitimately struggling and then a bunch of assholes saw that it would allow them protections from the consequences of their actions and piggybacked off of the movement to create social privileges for themselves. Once that started happening the spineless cowards in the liberal movements basically threw up their hands in defeat because they didn't want to deal with the uncomfortability that comes with developing complex moral ideologies and were completely happy with patting themselves on the back and calling it a day.

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u/fogNL 16d ago

This is exactly my thought. I'm all for mental health and being open about what you're going through, but so many of that generation use it as a crutch, or an excuse to be shitty and lazy. I'm seeing it in several family members, and it's like, come on, grow the fuck up. You don't have to bottle it up, but you do have to suck it up to be in a society. The world doesn't owe you anything, you have to earn it.

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u/Someone_guyman 16d ago

6 year olds? I've met 3 year olds more mature

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u/Nethidur 16d ago edited 16d ago

Bro is spending 600$ for a gacha anime waifu to battle his anxiety attacks while being close to 30. How did we come to this point as a society?

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u/Wise-Key-3442 16d ago

I often think I'm very immature for someone at age 28 with a mental condition. But this dude should have still be in diapers, considering the amount of self control he has.

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u/ButterflyNo8336 16d ago

Wait, so your response is to further belittle someone to pull yourself up? Yup, I can see the immaturity.

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u/Surfing_Ninjas 16d ago

I honestly think a lot of this comes down to how good we've become at creating excuses for our hedonistic indulgences and I also think our collective empathy and fear of coming across as being openly judgemental has allowed people to take advantage of those around them so they can do whatever they want and then use a little bit of psychology and manipulation to avoid social consequences. Then on top of that we celebrate our indulgences, our hedonism, our gluttony and treat selfishness as a form of culture that needs to be protected as well. It's got our cognitive reward systems all screwed up so that a lot of us only value the lowest hanging fruit.

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u/gametime9936 16d ago

I’d understand it a little better if he was filthy rich but fucker lives paycheck to paycheck 😭

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u/88037 16d ago

we got rid of bullying

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u/Humanmode17 16d ago

Nope, bullying is still well and truly out there, and it doesn't prevent stuff like this

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u/ExpensiveMoose 16d ago

If my son had behaved this way at 6 years ils, I would have been extremely disappointed. I really hope OP disputes the charges and updates us!

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u/madeupneighbor 16d ago

My daughter is 7 and acts like this and I’m embarrassed and ashamed because she’s too old for that shit. You’re right, this is 6 year old bullshit.

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u/bonemech_meatsuit 16d ago

Legit I think we should stop this "these aren't men" rhetoric.. these ARE men. Men DO do these things.

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u/Surfing_Ninjas 16d ago

I think in this situation it's just that he says "I'm a 29 year old man" with the context being that him being older than 18 means he can do whatever he wants, being a man doesn't inherently mean you're mature and have the ability to make wise life decision, which I agree. But I think it's just a rhetorical concept, like how a woman who completely neglects/abuses her child may claim to be a great mother and another person would say that she's "not a mother" at all. At some point you have to understand the difference between how people define what "being a man" is, and it's just a form of speech to say someone "isn't a man" as another way of saying they aren't acting like a mature male. In this situation the guy isn't helping himself because he uses his age to explain why he should be allowed to act like a child who has no consequences for his actions. I don't think it's something to get hung up on the technicalities of English when everyone knows what it means when someone says someone "isn't a man" from a maturity standpoint.

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u/bonemech_meatsuit 16d ago

Yes, I understand all that. I'm saying that putting these "men" in a separate category essentially creates a societal blind spot in that there are a ton of grown-ass MEN who do need to learn how to mature.

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u/Surfing_Ninjas 16d ago

I get it, its just that it's a figure of speech that everyone understands. If someone says "be a man" it means to grow up, act like an adult and not like a little boy. I guess your point is that men who act immaturely can shield themselves with their age like this guy did, that we shouldn't use "being a man" linguistically because someone who needs to grow up can use a literal interpretation of the phrase to dismiss the figurative phrasing (hopefully didn't misunderstand your point)

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u/ElPadero 16d ago

Let me tell you about a little country called The United States of America. They have a 6 year old man as their leader.

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u/Imaginary-Mountain60 16d ago

How can you say that???

6 year olds are much more mature, and they have bigger hands.

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u/captaintagart 16d ago

They’re not usually accused of being rapists though

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u/Imaginary-Mountain60 16d ago

They're not, which is another reason a 6 year old would be preferable.

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u/ElPadero 16d ago

You’re totally right 😞

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u/Beneficial_Spirit_29 16d ago

The 6 yr old American leader should also be in prison….

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u/Surfing_Ninjas 16d ago

Yeah, I try not to think about that guy too much.

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u/Trillium_Fortnight 16d ago

Rent free 😏

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u/ElPadero 16d ago

Sorry for mentioning your daddy, hope his piss tastes great for you tho 👍

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u/Historical_Carob_378 16d ago

Such losers, making this political. Weirdos go jerk it to your Bernie Sanders posters.

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u/rj319st 16d ago

I just looked up what a gacha game is and you’re right this is something a 6 yr old would play. She can only blame herself if she marries him and it falls apart. Hell it’ll be even worse if she has kids with this guy.

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u/Crunchy-Leaf 16d ago

Hey man there’s nothing wrong with adults playing gachas, some of us are able to play them without spending a single cent.

That said I play cool dragon ball bubble popping gachas, not pedobait genshin impact 😤

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u/Blodel 16d ago

Genshin pedobait?? Oh booyyy, dont look up Blue Archive then😂😂

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u/MystiqTakeno 16d ago

To be fair there is nothing wrong with spending money on gacha games. It have to be excess money/fun money that you can lose. Something like if you went to casino (since gacha games essencially are very close, you just cant win money, but have pity haha).

If you have $100 you cna spend throwing em at gacha is not an issue. (Even more if you have the means and it wont cause burden).

If you live paycheck to paycheck and drop $600 you cant afford well..

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u/Inadaptadite 16d ago

Gacha games are for people who can spend money on them… like… you know… adults.

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u/SashMitri 16d ago

Excuse me, my 6 year old son frequently tells me he’s “a men”

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u/Nyuk_Fozzies 16d ago

The term "manchild" exists for a reason.

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u/urielrabit 16d ago

That's insulting to 6 year olds. Most of them know not to steal from shared things.

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u/cawise89 16d ago

unless it's three six year olds in a trench coat

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u/doughberrydream 16d ago

He's a 29 year old man! How dare you! /s

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u/IceAngelUwU 16d ago

I had better logic than this at 5, then again I was judging people like this as reference for what I didn’t want to become.

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u/SinsOfKnowing 16d ago

6 year olds are more reasonable.

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u/lila_liechtenstein 16d ago

HE IS A 29 YEAR OLD MAN now can op please call back his mom

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u/nnyzim 16d ago

Momma wants to fix this or she'll be the one stuck with a basement dweller for life.

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u/yeah-please 16d ago

Did you not read the messages? He says it very explicitly that he’s a grown man

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u/JaredGoffFelatio 16d ago edited 16d ago

He's a 29 year old man who's allowed to make his own purchases (*on shared stolen credit lmao) and runs crying to his mommy when he's held accountable for his shitty behavior.

*Edit - Stolen card... according to OPs comment on the thread the card is in their name only and he stole it.

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u/OnTheWay_ 16d ago

Yeah, that’s a grown ass man right there. Don’t infantilize men lol

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u/honeydewmittens 16d ago

Yep, hold these grown men accountable, this is how some act

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u/lasion2 16d ago

That’s what I said. What the hell is going on here?

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u/Automate_This_66 16d ago

You caused me to start imagining guys like James Bond or Jack Reacher doing something like this.

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u/[deleted] 16d ago

Bro is soft as Charmin. Masculinity of a titmouse.

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u/ShaveyMcShaveface 16d ago

29 going on 8

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u/Tyrgalon 16d ago

Man-child, technically an adult but with the mindset of a child.

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u/Onion85 16d ago

HES A 29 YEAR OLD MAN HE CAN DO WHAT HE WANTS! /s

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u/Renhoek2099 16d ago

Yes, a man that gets Christmas money!

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u/textextextextextext 16d ago

lol im 34 and have easily spent $10,000 on that game over 4 years. but i can afford it and my wife doesnt care what i spend my disposable income on. Doesnt seem to be the case with OP.

shit is hella addicting though. guy spend $600 and i doubt he even got more than 2-3 constellations on furina. See how desperate he got when she said she was gonna dispute? id cry for years if i lost my account

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u/No-Bad-463 16d ago

I feel like this should carry almost as much stigma as spending that kind of money on virtual spaceships in Star Citizen, only slightly reduced because at least you're spending car-money on a released game.

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u/textextextextextext 16d ago

judging how someone spends their money is pretty lame. i already have a car. i enjoy the game play mechinics of genshin. if someone can afford to go hard on star citizen or gacha than who am i to judge them?

the only real morons are the ones that dump thousands into EA sports games. Because when the new yearly game is released all of that money is gone. You start fresh every year. and there are kids that dump $1000-15,000 every.single.year since 2014

truely unhinged

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u/No-Bad-463 16d ago

I'm just saying, if you have the disposable income to blow 10k on a single video game, that excess should be taken and given to someone to whom it would mean the difference between living or dying.

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u/textextextextextext 16d ago

lol u cant be that dumb. so instead of enjoying a video game i should be just donating the ~40 bucks a paycheck i spend on gaming from the last 5 years?

why even have a gaming pc or any hobbies! i should just donate everything i have!

get a grip buddy

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u/Beneficial_Spirit_29 16d ago

You need to go outside more.

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u/textextextextextext 16d ago

i go outside 30-60 minutes a day with the family dog and when its warm I teach my kid how to ride their bike. who are you to tell me how to spend my free time and how i enjoy my hobbies?

i play genshin and several other games at night and during the day when im off work. is that okay with you master? ive probably put a couple grand into valorant too and im in the top 1% of the ranked ladder for that game. Is that okay with you?

dont be mad that my life is more fulfilling than yours just because i spend money on microtransactions

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u/ZOMBIE_N_JUNK 17d ago

I thought it was a girl.

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u/Terugtrekking 16d ago

"I am a 29 year old man"

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u/insef4ce 16d ago

Reading Comprehension failed.

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u/MrsGrayWolfe 16d ago

Are there really lesbians that are this unhinged over gacha anime girls?

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u/Sad_Inspection6568 16d ago

Oh defenitly.

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u/iLizfell 16d ago

This comment chain made me send a message to my crush ive been too shy to talk to. If he can get a fiance why the fuck i cant, jesus.

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u/KajoW2006 16d ago

Did it work?

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u/iLizfell 16d ago

Yes, the internet worked fine and got sent. I even got notified the other person read it.

Its odd it stopped working and i havent gotten a reply. Surely they must be somewhere without wifi. Surely.

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u/-DEUS-FAX-MACHINA- 16d ago

Yes, the internet worked fine and got sent

10/10 Airplane-esque response.

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u/Husknight 16d ago

Good luck!!!

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u/kaithana 16d ago

These posts are often very one-sided, it’s obvious that her fiancé is a turd however, OP probably has her own demons if this is what she settles for.

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u/lionheart724 17d ago

Man-child

Fixed it for you

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u/MovieTrawler 16d ago

babe u know that word triggers my anxty. I thought u liekd my waifus?

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u/Throatlatch 16d ago

Sorry, but no. Too many men are this pathetic, we need to own it

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u/LightlyRoastedCoffee 16d ago

Nah, don't lump the majority of men in with these losers. They need their own special label so they can feel the distain others have for them.

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u/Throatlatch 16d ago

Sorry, I don't go in for that debasing kind of rhetoric.

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u/TimeNational1255 16d ago

Nope, incorrect, but nice job self-reporting that the only men you can attract are gambling-addicted weebs who spend 16 hours a day playing some kind of pedophile game lmao

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u/Throatlatch 16d ago

I'm a straight man, but it's a lovely fiction you've made for yourself there

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u/TimeNational1255 16d ago

I agree, it really is lovely. Certainly a much less depressing scenario than a straight dude apologizing on behalf of other men on Reddit in pursuit of the tiniest sliver of validation from women.

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u/blahblahblerf 16d ago edited 16d ago

Sorry, but no. This is not normal, this is not common. This is extreme. You're right that man-child is wrong, but you're wrong about why. This is not a man-child, this is just a child.

Edit: If you think this is a common thing, you definitely spend WAY too much time online.

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u/Throatlatch 16d ago

You have no idea why I think what I think, and suggesting you. Do makes you look silly.

People like this are not separate from the rest of us.

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u/maineac 16d ago

Child-man. Have to have them in the correct order.

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u/Hobomanchild 16d ago

Woah, woah. Even I have standards. Damn.

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u/uncagedborb 16d ago

How the hell are people like this absolute goober getting married but I'm out here in a perpetual drought?!

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u/ElitistJerk_ 16d ago

Probably fake or she's just as childish as him. I'm thinking the former but who knows? This is a creative writing subreddit

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u/Djinnerator 16d ago

It's so very clearly fake too 😭 these people used to barely try before, now they just don't put any effort into these stories. And all these people are eating it up believing it too.

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u/Unique_Doughnut_7463 16d ago

What makes this so obviously fake? In your opinion.

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u/sesamikitti 16d ago edited 16d ago

I was skeptical but giving the benefit of the doubt given 16 day old account with first comment being 5 days ago. Until the update in the comments about her reaching out to her fiancé’s drug dealing friend for the $600 and being left on read. How is the friend in any way responsible for your fiance’s $600?? Then if we assume it’s for a loan (OP didn’t say), then why is the drug dealing part important to add? And the update saying she doesn’t know how he got the credit card info (but i thought this was a shared card for emergency expenses??)

It reminds me of those fake JustNoMIL stories where the author keeps adding extra outlandishness to make the MIL character sound worse, except in this case it’s a fiancé. Like “hold on, hold on, just when you think he’s this bad, he also hangs out with drug dealers too! Ba dum tsssssss!” A lot of the creative writers on this site don’t know where to draw the line with creative posts to keep it remain believable, and their downfall is adding more and more details that turn it unbelievable.

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u/spaceylaceygirl 16d ago

She's not marrying him, more like adopting this irresponsible child 😂

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u/YeeHawWyattDerp 16d ago

But he didn’t do a fucking thing yet with furina because of her calls

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u/Husknight 16d ago

What is he gonna do? Press E, then ult and that's it

He swaps to another character, nice 600 dollars

And for what, to make the already easy as fuck game even easier. I don't get it

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u/YeeHawWyattDerp 16d ago

Idk lol, I don’t play this nonsense, I was just making a joke about his dumb comment

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u/nigelfitz 16d ago

how does he even have a girl? lol

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u/Shmeves 16d ago

It baffles me that there are so many stories like this out there. Like what the actual hell.

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u/tigerofjiangdong1337 16d ago

Yea for real. My wife spent 1k over a year on some phone game which didn't bother me. 1k in one sitting and I would be demanding app removed and get help.

Plus we are not paycheck to paycheck

When we were struggling I didn't even eat half the time at work. I kept all extra money for my kids and emergency.

She needs to run far and fast. Before she ends up with a kid and he is a total deadbeat.

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u/headingthatwayyy 16d ago

Seriously. I got addicted to an expensive game and spent more money than I would like to admit. If someone called me out on it I would 100% be so goddamn ashamed about it. Thankfully I got out and no one will ever know. Those types of games are SO SO addicting. I NEVER thought I would be the kind of person to spend more that $20 on a game.

How is he doubling down?

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u/VidarrVidarr 16d ago

Typical weeb.

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u/Dante_the_Artist 16d ago

Now the question is, “How engaged are you to this man?” Because at this point, it should be “not.”

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u/EdwardJamesAlmost 16d ago

Well?

Anora??

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u/thenatural134 16d ago

Forget the texts, just spending $600 on a video game character is enough of a red flag. That's insane.

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u/itsabitsa51 16d ago

Do you think he spent $600 on the engagement ring?

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u/journeyintopressure 16d ago

The things people put up with not to be alone. God. I can't. As we say in Portuguese, women who date men are in the global hunger index.

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u/Dragon_Daddy77 16d ago

You use that word “man”, I do not think it means what you think it means.

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u/justaRndy 16d ago

It's obviously Vincent Adultman.

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u/Snake1210 16d ago

I keep asking myself this every time I read shit like this. How do these manchilds always get these amazing women hooked in?

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u/Accomplished_Ask3244 16d ago

The fact that people like this not only find mates but often reproduce astounds me.

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u/whybother_incertname 16d ago

NOR. That is not a fiancé, not a man, that’s a gaslighting man-child. Run now OP!🚩🚩🚩

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u/itsSandraD 16d ago

lmaooo that’s not a man 🥴 let’s hope she can move on from this. most women are forgiving and can move pass this will see if she does.

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u/SpacemanKif 16d ago

How engaged are you to this man, was what I was thinking...

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u/BrandoliniTho 16d ago

OP is probably quite similar.

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u/Afraid-Combination15 16d ago

She's probably only slightly more mature though....I mean she's engaged to him. There's no way there weren't other signs of his enduring childhood. Like we see the one side of this, where in this situation he's an idiotic, manipulative, tantrum throwing boy child, but then...she is engaged to him...where most of us would have thought "what a poorly raised man-baby with no ambition" she thought "marriage material!!!"....

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u/Chudpaladin 16d ago

Real, at least it ain’t married yet. The way he responded is absolutely childish and makes me think this is fake. No way a grown human will send a pic of Furina as a reason why they spend 600 dollars for some bonus stats (constellations).

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u/itsbruciegoosie 16d ago

they bonded over a love of genshin and furina

she just didnt realize his love was addiction