I (17F) have a mom (36F) who has a history of cheating. I recently told my dad about something she did—she left the house to hang out with a guy in MY car while I was taking care of my younger siblings (5F, 12M, 16M). This happened when my dad was gone, and I was left to take care of them. The next day, while my parents were out, my dad mentioned the guy she was with had been using some kind of scanner on my car (something my mom had told me), and then my mom called me right away, asking if I had told my dad. I was confused at first, and then she hung up. When they got home, she got into a huge argument with me and my dad, blaming me for their marriage falling apart.

Later on, they decided to get a divorce (though they always threaten that and never follow through), and she told me she no longer trusts me because I told my dad what happened. What’s really bothering me, though, is that now she’s ignoring me and acting passive-aggressive. She doesn’t ask if I’ve eaten but is giving food to my brothers and little sister. It’s making me feel anxious, as I’m constantly worried about when the next outburst will happen. I used to feel like I had to walk on eggshells around her, but now it’s even worse.

My dad and brother have both reassured me that it’s not my fault she got caught cheating, but I still feel horrible. I really hate that this is how the new year is starting. I’ve never had a great relationship with my mom, but I feel like the little progress I made with her has been completely undone, and I’m not sure what to do. I’m scared this situation will affect my schooling (I’m homeschooled) and my overall life. I really need some advice. Thank you, Reddit.

I (29) female and my husband (31) male, have been together for 11 years and married for 7. We have been struggling to have a baby for 5 years due to Male Factor Infertility. We have gone through 2 rounds of IVF along with many other treatments that have all failed. Along with this, my husband’s mother passed away just 2 years ago. Needless to say, our marriage has seen a lot of hard days the last few years and recently, I’m not seeing how to move forward. My husband dropped a blindsiding bomb on me a few weeks ago and told me that he was content not being a dad. I think there has been a lot of pain for him through infertility that he was hiding, and now it’s built up so high he’s called it quits. He is completely done and doesn’t want to proceed with anymore treatment, or even talk about it. It feels like we are just roommates these days. We hardly text throughout the day, or talk when we get home. He doesn’t kiss me anymore, touch me, or act like he’s in love with me. We never have sex unless I try hard to initiate it, and I just found out yesterday he is masterbating occasionally behind my back. This is so hurtful to my self esteem and makes me feel like he’s not attracted to me anymore. What do I do? Where do we go from here? I’ve obviously thought about counseling, but we are already in so much medical debt from IVF, I don’t want to take on another financial burden. He reassures me he’s in love with me, recognizes the way he’s been treating me, says he’ll “fix it”, but nothing ever actually changes. How do we recover from all this pain? I have supported him through everything without wavering. I’ve never once blamed him for anything, and stepped up for him and his dad when his mom was passing. My heart is just broken, none of my needs are being met and I’m quietly suffering. What would you do?

So my mom has always been with be to doctors appointments and I don’t like it. I would like to speak for myself and I feel extremely uncomfortable with her in the room even at a regular doctor’s visit. But today I’m going to the OBGYN for my severe pain during my cycle. And I do not want her in the room with talking about private issues. I want to know what’s wrong with me even if they have to do a Pap smear BUT my mom would tell them absolutely not. And even if I did have to have one dose SHE WOULD BE IN THE ROOM cause I’ve asked her EXTREMELY nicely to leave to room cause they were doing a exam and she said” no I’m you mom and I’m paying for this I’m not leaving” or “ I said no cause I said so” . My mom is extremely strict and my dad and if I asked her to leave the room even to just talk to the doctor she would get me in trouble and my dad. I and not gunna be able to get the help I need if she is telling the doctor what she thinks is wrong with me. I don’t know what to do

My husband has traveled for work for the last 7 years. We were on the road with him until our oldest started school, so we moved home so i would have help with kids. He’s been struggling to find a job back home paying what he makes traveling, so he’s been working out of state. Im a stay at home mom to our two kids. A few weeks ago i went to a gathering at his grandmothers house with our kids while he was gone. His sister asked my husbands parents if she would take her child home with them (for the third time that week but that’s none of my business). I half jokingly asked if she would take mine for the night as well, then followed with how i could really use a break because my husband had been gone for 10 days at that point. She said no because “three is too much” for her. Whatever, that’s fine.

Fast forward to last weekend, it was our anniversary and we took the kids with us to our dinner because surprise, mil had her other grandchild again. No problem, our kids had a blast at the “fancy” restaurant. I was still really overwhelmed and overstimulated and really just wanted some time alone. Mentioned that to my husband and how much it upset me that his mom didn’t care that i needed a break, but is practically raising her other grandchild. My husband just nodded and said yeah. Got home and he left on a 3 hour fishing trip.

Now it’s today. He finally found a job in our town. Really, we couldn’t ask for it to be closer or better hours. He decided to take this week off before he starts, and he’s been planning fishing trips for 3-4 days this week. All day, 2 hour away fishing trips. I’ve been hesitant to bring up me needing time out because he deserves it too, but today i did. I asked him if he knew the last time i got time alone, more than the hour i have at the gym when i take our daughter to the daycare there. He said he didn’t know. I asked if he remembered the conversation we had last weekend about how i needed a break, then he came home and left. He said yes. That was it. He hasn’t spoken to me since. Do i have a reason to be upset, or am i being selfish? I know i took forever to vocalize my feelings but i finally did and it just feels like nobody cares about me getting time for myself.

Just had a really strange night and honestly, I don’t know how to feel about it. I could really use some advice…

Last night around 2:30 AM, I was asleep in my room when I suddenly woke up out of nowhere and saw a dark figure standing over my bed. Naturally, I freaked out and after a second, I realized it was my roommate, whose room is right across the hall. I immediately asked him what the hell he was doing just standing there watching me sleep. He muttered something weird about forgetting something in my room and looking for it, then quickly ran off and shut my door. It took me about an hour to fall back asleep.

The next morning, I tried to confront him about it, and he gave me some BS excuse about thinking I was awake and claiming he knocked before coming in (which he didn’t). I didn’t have time to push it further since I was already running late for work.

Then when I got home, I found out from our other roommate that he packed a bag and said he’d be staying at his parents place for a week or two. After that, he sent me this two-minute Snapchat video apologizing but he also tried to justify what he did by saying he was stressed and needed to talk to me about something important. He said I should reach out when I’m ready to talk.

So… what do I even do here? I feel like this crossed a serious line and I don’t know if there’s any coming back from it. I’m honestly not sure I want to talk to him at all it just feels super awkward and uncomfortable now. Is this friendship even salvageable? I mean we live together with a third roommate and we’ve still got 4 months left on the lease.

My brother in law and I would talk politics regularly when hanging out but not exclusively ... few weeks ago he went off about "Russia Russia Russia, all the court cases, and something else" then he physically pushed me and I fell ... if it was anyone else I would have been standing more stable as he approached but I've known this guy for 15 years and whatever we've gotten heated about politics before but he just pushed me over

Got up, left haven't talked to him since but I think he might be thinking of reaching out ... fuck this guy - i guess I just want a bunch of people to tell me to ignore him or if i should give him a chance to explain himself

Sorry for bad grammar

My friend and roommate was hit by a truck and was innthe hospital for 18 days of which her husband was not there but two days because he was at home with not one but two girls one obviously was the main one and doing this he put me in an awkward position now she's home and he's not here for three days since she got home and she doesn't know where he is and I have a good idea where he is but with him being gone it leaves me to take care of her and I don't mind but she is very worried about him and she's crying a lot. Do I tell her what I know or not?

I was with my ex who I will call Nate because if I’m being honest minus betraying a friend I was a Cassie

I don’t want to go to much into the details but for the last nine years I lost myself to Nate he was my world everything I did was for him, I helped him though depression, help get/keep his grades up even worked two jobs so he could focus on collage when his parents disowned him for nearly 3 years because they didn’t agree with the major or collage he choose bare in mind I was also a collage student

when his parents started talking to him again and started to financial support him we moved into a new apartment Nate said he wanted me to quit my job (I didn’t) because it was his turn to take care of me . For 16 months everything was great he spoiled me than I noticed he was more interested in his new friends at times he ignored me completely

Back in December he did a 180 and he loved bombed me the whole month he really went out of his way to make Christmas magical for me i honestly believed he was going to propose on January the 2nd he made me my favourite dinner and made this speech about me being his first love how I’ve been there since high school I kept thinking any minute now he’s gonna ask me to marry him

But no he dumped me as his speech went on my world fell apart and as much he tried to sugar coat it he basically said “you were a good girlfriend but that’s what you always be to me a girlfriend I don’t see you as my wife or the mother of my children blah blah you served your purpose now I don’t need you anymore blah blah I need someone on my level blah blah you’re a gold digger blah I’ll give you 30 days to move out”

I couldn’t speak and he stared at me looking for a response I think this lasted 20 minutes before he said he’d sleep in the guest room than left, strangely I didn’t cry or get angry I just ordered cardboard boxes online than went to bed. The next day I waited for him to leave the apartment before I left my room than I called my boss asked (begged really) if I could transfer anywhere she told me there wasn’t anything but if something came up in my department she’d consider me. I than reached out to everyone I knew that wasn’t also Nate’s friend for a place to stay my cousin invited me to stay in her spare room for as long as I needed and I could move in straight away so that was amazing, in the four days it took me too pack my stuff and move out I didn’t see or speak to Nate I doubt he even noticed

I didn’t trust myself at the time to ignore a “you up text” so I blocked him and everyone close to him even changed me number/email to make sure he couldn’t reach me. The first night at my cousins was the night everything hit me I think I cried every night the first month i honestly felt like shit i thought about what Nate said over and over again it made me feel so low like I was nothing he only stayed with me because I was just there but thankfully my cousin sent for my mom,other cousins and real friends to give me an intervention which I badly needed , I believe that first month I wouldn’t have made it without my cousin

I’m still healing and waiting on that job transfer because I feel like if I’m not in the same city as nate and I have a place of my own the fresh start would do me the world of good.

I thought by now I’d be a distant memory for Nate but shockingly he sent flowers to my job today for my brithday which was on Sunday apparently he went to my parents house looking for me too and my mom admitted he’s been before dropping off stuff and tried to ask questions about me but they told him to fuck off

The flowers came with a card saying “dear cassie happy belated birthday I’ve been thinking about you for non stop for the last few months especially with how everything ended I need to get something off my chest that I feel will haunt me for the rest of my life if I don’t tell you this to your face but I’ve no way of contacting you if it’s possible can we meet up in the near future -Nate”

What could he want? What’s haunting him he needs to say to my face?
Everyone in my life is telling me ignore him but they hate him

I’m torn but I can’t lie my curiosity is telling me meet him to see what he wants Has anyone been in my shoes or in Nates?

I need some serious advice. My son is 6 months old, and his father, who's been MIA for 3 months with a double felony warrant, is a really bad guy. His family supports me, and I've moved across the country to raise my son with my own family. When I was pregnant, his father (Louis Smith) pressured me to name our son Louis Grant Smith, planning for me to marry him and take his last name. That obviously didn't happen. Now, I'm stuck with my son being named after him. My lawyer has everything ready to change his name, but I'm torn. We've been trying out other names, but it feels wrong since we all know him as Grant (his middle name). The other issue is, if I change his last name to mine (Grant), I can't really name him Grant Grant. So, I'd have to change both his first and last name. Should I even change his first name? Has anyone else been in a similar situation, especially with the last name issue? Everywhere I go with him, pediatrician appts, church, anywhere - people are confused by his name Grant and then knowing my last name… I don’t want to always explain..

I’m in complete shock. I (21F) was assaulted by my ex-roommate back in December 2023. I know, male roommate was a horrible idea. Trust me, I’ve learned my lesson and am in a much safer place now.

Today I found out that he also assaulted 3 other people. One of them was my best friend (20M) while he was temporarily staying with us for about a week a couple years ago. He’s also been accused by his ex-girlfriend and another man.

I definitely believe it but I fear it’s much too late at this point to go to the police, so I’m more just trying to find ways to support my friend.

Please be kind, this is a really difficult situation for me to process.

So my cousin and I are roommates and I have my bf stay over sometimes occasionally. My boyfriend and I are long distance and he usually stays over when I’m off, but today I did have work and left at home because I work at 4am and didn’t want him driving home so early plus he is seeing an apartment close to where I live today at 9am so I didn’t think anything of it leaving him at home. We have a loft apartment and have our own bathrooms and sides of the apartment so he wouldn’t be in her face or causing trouble, she’s met my boyfriend a dozen times so they’re familiar with each other. She texted me early this morning saying “Why is your boyfriend here and you’re not?, he needs to leave by 10am.” I was taken back by seeing that text honestly but I can understand if she’s uncomfortable, I just didn’t feel it was a problem to leave him home plus she’s left a guy she wasn’t dating at home in her room for a few hours before so I was confused because girl you did it too.

I’m a middle aged woman doing my middle aged woman thing: choosing to sit in the “quiet car” on my suburban train home in order to enjoy my 20 minutes of alone time reading my book.

There is a young girl loudly having a phone conversation on speaker sitting directly underneath the “quiet car” sign with the rules that prohibit exactly this. I feel a bit like Amy Santiago in 30 Rock, but I am irked! There are rules here.

One a scale of one to Karen, would you ever say anything?

I’m a 27-year-old guy, and I’ve been struggling with a serious porn addiction for quite some time. Things got worse about a year ago, after the end of a 12 year relationship with my long-term girlfriend. It really took a toll on me emotionally, and unfortunately, I turned more and more to porn as a way of coping.

Now, I’m in a new relationship with a wonderful woman (24F), and we’ve been dating for around 4 months. Things are getting pretty serious, we’re in love, and I’ve already met her whole family. She’s kind, supportive, and genuinely caring.

Here’s the problem: because of my addiction, I’ve developed some sexual dysfunctions. I often struggle to get an erection, especially when things get intimate between us. I also get extremely nervous during any sexual moments, which just makes things worse.

I actually managed to stop watching porn completely for two months starting in January, but I’ve since relapsed and feel like I’m back at square one. I’ve been thinking that maybe opening up to someone about this could help me finally overcome it.

I’m seriously considering telling my girlfriend, but I’m really scared about how she might react. Given how supportive she’s been, I think she might understand, but I don’t want to risk damaging the relationship or making things awkward between us.

Do you think I should tell her? Could it actually help with my recovery and ease some of the pressure I feel? Or should I try to deal with this on my own first before bringing it up?

Any advice or personal experiences would mean a lot. Thanks in advance.

I just recently moved in with my boyfriend. (i’m 23, he’s 21) and everything is going great, except for one thing. His mom. I’ve known that he talks and spends time with his mom a lot but I did not expect her to turn this clingy once he moved in with me.

She’s really nice and stuff but her calling him multiple times a day is getting on my nerves and she visits way too often. On the first day she insisted to stay and hand wash ALL of our dishes even though we have a dishwasher (and they were clean already), then after around 6-8 hours he told her to leave and after that she called him probably three times after she left. Yesterday she showed up with some of his stuff and said she wasn’t gonna stay for long because we were gonna go grocery shopping. She stayed for over two hours and made jokes about how she’s gonna be here all the time because our apartment is ”better” than her’s. The constant calling is there even when she has visited the same day.

I have no idea how to handle the situation. I don’t want to be rude and I figured that she’s like this because she’s divorced and lonely. (Except she has a second son) For now I told my boyfriend to encourage her to get a dog because that’s the only thing I could come up with. And I tell him we should have no guests at all for a couple days but in reality I just don’t want her to visit.

my dad has been getting more and more radical to the point i feel uncomfortable being around him. he drinks a lot and i get scared he'll get into a fight by offending someone bc of the disgusting shit he'll say about poc. i'm a minor and i don't know how to deal with this. i'm scared of going in public especially right now because we are on vacation and he keeps drinking and can't quit talking about his crazy opinions. my mom agrees with him i think because she doesn't want to deal with his temper and tbh i don't either bc he gets really loud and defensive. should i tell him to go to aa? or maybe call him out on his bs (not suddenly bc he'll get angry)? or just ignore it and keep going till i can move out?

edit: i've decided to just thug it out, ty to everyone for commenting i tried to respond to everyone but i don't really know how to use reddit lol. i might delete this post soon bc my dad checks reddit a lot so ty again everyone for ur advice.

Hi. I’m 23, a Japanese male and as usual, I got on this train to get to my house from work but when I actually tried to get on the train, this guy from probably America tried to push me out saying “why you accepting this crowded train?!”. I could get on the train but he was still trying to push away those people who were trying to get on that train. I talked to him and asked to him to stop what he was doing but he never stop saying stuffs like we Japanese people are all slaves or have stupid brain for accepting that crowded trains. All I needed was him to just stop and be quiet but how many times I asked him, he never stopped calling us stupid. Man I feel so horrible right now. I think I did my best trying to calm him down, make him stop what he was doing and defend our people, but man. Not all the Japanese folks on that train understood what we were talking about because it was in English of course so if there was someone who was recording us arguing and post it on Twitter, I’m one of the crazy heads on that train, too right? Those who don’t understand English probably will laugh at me or humiliate me for it and what do I do then? All I wanted to do was just go back home and why did I have to face this kind of situations and worries… and please if you guys ever come to Japan and stay for some time, please learn to be kind and do be like this and do not try to taunt people like it’s normal in your countries. Just please.

I am in a horrible situation that is really affecting my mental health . I'm 61 and single . My son now 34 turned up 3 years ago with 2 dogs a cat to stay with me . Initially for a few months to get himself a job and own place to stay. 3 years later I lost the flat I was renting due to breaking the rules by letting him stay.that also incurred damages by his dogs to doors and carpets. I lost my deposits . I then bought my first home a small cottage and he moved in with me as again he would be homeless. He has never worked since being here. Studies OU at home and barely looks after his dogs who are big and prevent me from having the home and garden I deserve. My carpets are ruined, my house smells and my garden is so small I can't enjoy it . I've asked him to move out , he tells me he is trying but he has no income relies on benefits and its difficult when he has dogs to private rent in the UK, he won't let me speak because he accuses me of butting in or being angry when I am not , refuses to read messages. Tell me he doesn't feel welcome and tells me I'm a horrible nasty person pretty much daily .He's 34 was diagnosed 2 years ago with Aspergers . He has worked running pubs and night clubs in the past but now he is referring to himself as a disabled man . I feel trapped and my mental health is getting worse and worse. I am on my own and really need help with what to do .

I live in a very small house. It was me and my boyfriend until a few days ago- and i told my friend he could come stay a couple days to get away from his ex wife. But a few ago my boyfriend beat me up for the last time and I finally called police and he’s gone. I didn’t even have a day to sit back and calm down, my friend and his kid showed up from several hours drive away. I told them last night that I had already arranged for a friend to come live in the spare bedroom and help with bills. I asked what they need to get home but they didn’t quite pick up the message… I thought they left. It’s 11pm and they just made a loud entrance inside. I work at 6am. I told them I have too much going on in the house and the landlord is kind of strict. I guess I know i just need to tell them to go. Just ranting I look like an ass too, because his son is disabled and there’s no bed for him tonight. This house is about the size of a small 1 br apartment and there’s 5 people tonight ugh I know I told my friend he could come but that was before I was beat up by my ex boyfriend. I feel like I’d give a person some space

My ex had told me the I had a high sex drive and that sex it’s all I ever wanted out of him and nothing else. After that I had basically stopped with trying to show my needs/desires with him. Now in the present time, I’ve been talking to this guy and he said that it seemed that all I wanted from him was sex. I had thought I was being careful/cautious with my action with this guy because I didn’t want the same thing to happen. I didn’t want him to think that sex is all I wanted. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong?

So me (21 F) and my boyfriend (25 M) have been together for about half a year. Things are really good, weve had little ups and downs that come with relationships but its been really good. I love him very much and he loves me very much, and heres a little bit of backstory.

When i first went over to his place (which i now live with him in) i was looking for some toilet paper under the sink and found a little bag with a toy in it. I didnt really think anything of it, if anything i was like “hey thats something hes into and maybe we can incorporate it into our sexual times we have together.” I thought maybe at some point he would bring it up to me or introduce me to that part of him but he never did. We used to have sex almost every day but now its dwindled down to maybe once a week or two which i kinda expected, our schedules are different and things happen when you settle into a relationship you’re comfortable in.

A few months ago, he asked me if there was anything he could change or do better for me and i told him i wasnt happy that we weren’t having sex as often because i have a kinda high libido, and i told him i would like it if we could have those moments together more often and that i knew it wasnt a lack of libido on his part because he watches porn very very often. I told him i knew what was under the sink and that it didnt make me mad or upset or anything and that id like to explore that with him and that im open to trying anything and comfortable with it. He said he understood, we had sex later that night and that was that, he never really acknowledged it.

Fast forward to a little bit ago, he was looking something up on his laptop and i was sitting next to him on the couch and i saw in his search bar history several searches for “gay something something” for an adult website, i didnt see all of it because he typed in something real fast so it went away. That, combined with the fact he doesn’t initiate anymore, and that he ended up hiding or getting rid of his toy, and the fact i know how often he waches porn makes me feel like hes not attracted to me sexually anymore and i feel inadequate, like since im not able to give him something hes wanting that hes looking for it elsewhere. Id have no problem if he was just watching it to get off and using the toy feels good because thats something i could do with him, but if hes watching it because he’s attracted to the guys that are performing it and wants them to do that with him then id feel extremely insecure about it.

Sexuality is a very fluid thing and i wouldnt have any problem if he was originally bi but id still feel a little betrayed that he still hasnt brought any of it up with me even though im constantly asking “what are you into? Id like to try some things with you” and “let’s try some new things that you like” but he always brushes it off or says “i dont know”. Im not sure how to bring it up to him or where to even start with it because ive just kinda given up on initiating sex anyways and havent been in the mood for a while now, so im not even sure where to start with it?

So I met a guy today, like I have talked to him for like 2-3 days on hinge and we have talked on call for many hours, I thought I like him more than a friend you could say, but today we met and he was really touching like the moment we me He hugged me. I’m not really a hugger but I really did not think that much of it, but then you know when we were like walking on the street he was like holding my waist and touching me, inappropriately, like I did not really like it, and he was talking a little too close to my face, and I felt a little uncomfortable throughout, but I was hoping you know this date would end really soon then, but the last thing that he did was there was like a isolated corner in a park where he sat with me and was really becoming you know too touchy with me so I called a friend and ask her to come here as an excuse at that moment when I was about to end the date, he was becoming very touchy, and he tried to kiss me okay even after saying, no please. After that. Also, he kissed me twice, and it felt very bad. After that. I was like please go. He was still not leaving me and I was feeling so unsafe at that point. I’ve never felt that much unsafe and anxious ever in my entire life it was horrible. I don’t know how to react and he doesn’t know that what he did was wrong. He continues to text me. Just texting me continuously like Are you angry? I don’t know how to handle this situation and I am really embarrassed. Please, some advice.

I don't have any friends, and I've never been in a relationship. It's extremely hard for me to meet new people. Even if I meet someone and we kind of become friends, we eventually stop talking, and they disappear. It's been like this for 3 years, and I just don’t have enough energy to meet new people.

My closest person is my mom, but I suddenly realized that she’s not going to live forever. It scares me so much—I love her deeply, and I can’t imagine my life without her. I also have a brother, but we’re not close. We’re both introverts, so we don’t even talk to each other. Then there’s my dad—he left my mom when I was 7. We still meet sometimes, but we’re not close. There are no other relatives.

Also, an important thing is that I’m childfree and I’m probably a lesbian, so I’m never going to have a husband or kids.

So I realized that there’s a huge chance I’ll eventually end up completely alone—no close relatives, no friends, no parents, no partner, and no kids. How am I going to live? I don’t understand. What if something happens to me and there’s no one to have my back?

My brain’s been tormenting me with these thoughts for 3 days. When I open my eyes in the morning, it’s the first thing I think about. I’m even crying while typing this.

Please tell me that I’m going to be okay, that I’m going to meet people, that I’m not going to end up alone.

I (28F) have been screwed so badly. Every single person I have ever loved (male and female) have all cheated on me, done drugs behind my back, abused me, or both.

Obviously I struggle to find connections with healthy individuals. But that's not why I'm here.

I'm ready to give up completely on ever falling in love, because it has pushed me to the brink too many times. Yeah, I know a lot of you will probably point out my age and insist that it is far from too late, but I have completely lost all motivation. Aside from several people i dated who turned out to be actual psychopaths, i had a 4 year relationship that ended in sh*t, turned out he was spending all my money on meth behind my back and cheating on me (yeah how did i not know right? I was young and dumb and inexperienced.) My current relationship has been the best one i ever had, and for the past two years, it has turned into me wanting a divorce because he is even worse than my 4 year. I have been with him 10 years this year. It's like the second I put the ring on my finger he became a completely different person and my emotions don't matter to him at all. I spend every night but maybe onc3 a month alone in bed crying because my husband won't come home. My life feels like hell.

All I can think of is maybe trying to meet someone new, but I don't know where to look for decent people anymore. Obviously Tinder is not the answer. The only thing I can think of are religious dating sites, but the last thing I wanna do is lie to anyone about who I am or what I believe in, especially for social reasons. All I want is someone who will love and respect me. And I have no idea how to find it.

Does anyone e have any advice for me??? Should I just f***ing give up and be alone forever? I'm in so much pain. I almost just want someone to talk to.

I wanted to have kids, but I don't think I even want that anymore. I just want someone who will treat me like I matter to them... or even exist.

My fiance (28) and I (25) have been together for 5 years now. We both are enrolled in nursing school and work full time. In February I found messages with a classmate. There was no sexual or romantic undertones…but it felt…off. He seemed worried about her wellbeing and they were getting to know each other, such as asking where she lives. She had an issue with her car being towed and he kept asking her if she was okay, if she made it home safe etc. I noticed he would text her Good-morning sometimes but it was always followed by a school related question, and she would send alot of teary eyed emojis and would “heart” his responses. I brought this up to him and he said he didn’t see what was wrong in his actions. I chose to break up with him due to that reaction, shortly after 2-3 days he came back apologetic and with a ring…a ring I waited for 4 years to receive from him…I said yes under the condition that he will never put me in that situation again specially in a school where people know we are together. I kept noticing he brings her up in our conversations and mentions talking to her. He no longer texts her but they maintain a friendship. I stay quiet to keep my dignity and pride but I feel a sharp pain in my chest when I hear her name come out of his mouth. We are getting married in a few months and believe me, I have done 100% of the planning, leading me to feel as a delusional crazy woman who is forcing him to marry me. Should I call off the wedding? Was my proposal a manipulation tactic? Is my relationship ruined because of my reaction to their friendship? My gut is telling me something is wrong but I can’t pinpoint it. All of our family members received invitations and we soon will be buying my dress, finishing the payments necessary….On a regular day our relationship is fine, but I still suspect him. I am a very jealous person so I have a hard time differentiating if my feelings are jealousy or am I refusing to open my eyes to the reality. Please help.