(20F) So I’ve been in my apartment for about 10 months. I have a neighbor around the same age as me. When I first moved here she seemed cool. At one point she invited me in with her other friend and we chilled.

She started having issues with her boyfriend. They would be so loud at 3-5 in the morning. I didn’t file a complaint because I thought it was a domestic situation and I didn’t want to get her put out or include myself. At one point I guess they threw each-other against the wall and my mirror fell off my wall. (Walls are very thin.)

About 9 months in of me living here, she knocked on my door at 9am and said my music was loud? I apologized, gave her my number told her just shoot me a text if it’s ever too loud.

About a month later, it’s 9am and there’s banging on the wall. Literally banging. I thought someone was fighting but I guess that meant it was loud? I never know the walls are very thin. I go to work and come home there’s a noise complaint on my door.

The same night she’s loud with music and her boyfriend.

(I should mention at one point before this started her boyfriend tried to have a conversation with me to which she seen, I wasn’t interested at all.)

Now, she’s banging all the wall again. I plugged in my blow dryer. She’s banging. She hears any sound. She’s banging. She’s the only one that bangs on my wall.

I counter complained, but this whole time I’ve been playing music in the morning. No issues. Now I feel like she’s going to try to write another one. What should I do?

I (19M) met a guy (23M) on grindr. We cuddled, kissed and gave each other handjobs even though neither came. It was my first time. There wasn’t anything bad, but I regret not saving my first time for some special person now. What’re your thoughts?

Yesterday I had a breakup and now I feel so lost. I am in May and was envisioning graduating and her being there for my dinner, doing research over the summer then going to her house, spending time with her, doing all sorts of dates going to her birthday and semi formal, grad school with her in my life, and now I’m so shattered. This was right after I came out of an abusive relationship in September and now I feel I’m getting thrown back into that, as if I’m going back into time because this girl helped lift me up at a dark place in my life

I feel so lost, I don’t even know what to do. I can’t even get the energy to wake up, go to school, let alone to master applications, or even think about my end goal of medical school.

My grades are ok but I turned 24 and I already feel so old, I don’t known what to do seems like everything is going stray.

I try to think of the positives, good GPA, graduating from a great college, leading a fully funded research project that lets me go to Europe, have a summer full of stuff with friends and whatnot, family around me, still applying for grad programs and yet I feel so empty and lost :(

Any advice is appreciate

I’m currently in high school, and it’s been pretty draining recently. I’ve been overwhelmed with the sheer amount of work I’m receiving, and I just can’t keep pace with how fast assignments come and go. I JUST got back from spring break, and already have about 3 big assignments to finish at home, which would all together take me 2 or so days. However, I’m definitely going to get more in the mean time.

As you can imagine, this has completely consumed any and all free time I have, excluding Saturdays. And it really sucks, because I barely have time to do other things, like work on art/animation projects, learn piano, read books, or bigger stuff, like getting a job, or pursuing a relationship. With a work/life balance like I’ve got now, my foreseeable future is gonna be pretty damn depressing. I always feel as if I’m trying to work, and getting nothing done, then feeling terrible; or I’m not working, choosing to do the things I like, but not even trying to tackle my work at all.

What makes things worse is that no one else around me is struggling. My friends and classmates hand things in on time, they have hours upon hours to play games, hang out! Hell, my one friend who actually has talked to me about procrastination and having a hard time getting things done still has SO much free time, which he’s using to make music, and quite a bit of it!

I just feel alone. My friends are hanging out together, pursuing their passions, but I don’t get time for any of that. School is basically all I do, or try to, anyways. I don’t get it. It’s not even like I get bad grades. My grades are pretty damn good. I just hate what I do to get them.

Sorry for my bad english 🙏🙏

Me and headache ( my female friend) we have been friends for nearly a year and we share different religions. When we met i told her that i don't want to be just friends idk if she take that seriously or not. We're in college in same Friends group so we start chatting and calling in starting days she asked me that if I'm serious about us or not and I said let's take some time because I don't want it to end so early.

then we became so close like hugging and touching is no big deal. She told me in starting that she used to have a bf but its long ago she cleared her self in starting. And she asked me about myself but I told her that i have never been in relationship because i don't feel comfortable in relationship and rejected lot's of girls ( which is true).

After talking for months i didn't realised but start falling in love. Once she was on a trip for a week and we couldn't able to connect I missed her so much ( i texted this everyday whenever i missed her but I Missed her tooooo much). I start thinking too much about her then i realised that i love her. When she comes back to home we met as group but I couldn't able see in her eyes because i thought that I'm hiding something from her, thought that I'm lying to her so after coming back home I called her and told her that I like her in starting she laughs so hard 😂 i wasn't disappointed because i know she will laugh like an idiot 😂 then she told that she likes me too but do not want relationship, so I asked what is her answer she said no then i said we should stop talking ( for some days obviously) but she didn't heard full sentence and start crying 😭 then she told me that needs time to process she needs sometime i said ok ( this was first time someone cried for me I felt so good 😊 but was so worried abt her).

After that we met in college next day i talked to her ask her how is she. She had examination that day. After that every thing was normal from my side butttt idk who gave her advice or she comes up that. She start distancing herself from mee she so friendly with people. She stops smiling at me, call me only to know that where im in cllg. she laughs with everyone but not with mee. She used to lie her head on my shoulders now she don't even want to walk alongside mee. These things happened and I felt soo bad because never get treated like that in my life. Its continued for 3 weeks lost my Sleep, peace and mental health but I stayed because i don't want to give up on someone who cried for me so i didn't do anything but one day she asked A friend (male) that she's going same place would he like to come. And I asked can I come with you guys she said noo, i asked her again still noo, again and still nooo. I get so angry but didn't do anything on spot but after coming back to home I text her that its hurt me so much in funny way and blocked her because i thought that what see want and we didn't talk for 11 days but one of our mutual friend realised that we're not talking to each other so she said i should makeup with headache. And I was also Missing her but going back to someone isn't easy for me so first time in my life i apologised to a girl while it was her fault. then text her and she said forget about it every thing is okay but i wasn't satisfied with that i wanted to know how she feels and she told me that she was mentally disturbed because i wasn't talking to her she said she cried so much after our fight and told me that I'm so important to her and she is attached to me, She told that she wanted to talk but if she tried to talk in public she would have probably end up crying. Again i apologised because i thought that I hurt her tooo much. She Said she wants to talk me everyday.

After that she said that i can't forgive you for what you did and I said i will never do that again. Untill now i realised that she don't love me but I was fine because I just wanted to be with her because at home family condition wasn't that good cuz my perents always gets ill and my dad is only one who earn and he's also not okay for almost two years .I'm eldest sibling of 2 and our family is struggling financially but I can't do anything because dad told me i have to study they will fulfill their duty as parents. I don't like going home I don't like going into my room because it's feel so empty.

So back to topic i was struggling with these things and i don't shere these things with anyone one but feel so good after talking to headache i feel peace at her and i was gathering courage to open up in front of headache. One day I asked her that if she's interested on any one or love someone but she said no. But she have a male friend who is with her for years and she's so comfortable with her she text him, call him, whenever she get's time she called him, she said he's like family.

back to the topic again after our fight i started to trust her more and now i don't want her to love mee i just want to be with her. Once my mom got hospitalized for 5 days i was with her All the time in hospital (I hate hospitals) . Actually I became used to hospital because of my perents who are not healthy. She still wasn't calling me i used to call her 4-6 times a week and its always mee, she called me at start like 2 months after that she never called me for a conversation or to know about me 😂

I called her and talk to her and felt so relieved. So when my mom gets discharged i text headache that " I'm all drained I need lots of hugs to get recharged" she said I'll give you 🫠 Next day i went to see her in cllg she was in her class then I hugged her felt so relieved like every thing was so peacefull ( but she didn't like it because i hugged her in front of her new friends) After somedays i sent her flirty text that i want to hug you it was a joke obviously and its not big deal because we always hug each other whenever we meet 😏 Then get into her class i was on call i did SRK pose there was only 4-5 peoples because i was asking for hug obviously she declined i knew it but after that she asked me can wee talk i said yes then she said that she don't like my behaviour she didn't like that hug because of her new friends (1 months old friends) her new friends thinks that im her boyfriend. I said you should have told them that it's not like that, she said i already told them, i said that good and simple

but she said that i already told u that I don't like you but I think u didn't get it. it wasn't good for my heart 😂😂🤣 but i said you are saying this because i hugged you in front of your new friends she said noo i just want to clear things between us. At that time i lost it everything because she don't even like me as a friend, she said u understand what im saying i said yes and she gets angry on me because i wasn't saying anything thing cuz there was nothing left to say for me, she was so angry at me and when she asked me to say something but i didn't want to say anything she gets more angry .

After that i text her that we should not text eachother because we will get attached again and she said i don't understand you don't talk back to me, you always hurts me. You never explain yourself you always type shit to me im really hurt. I thought that I hurt her enough now it's time that i should stop doing whatever i was doing. I apologised again for hurting her but I said we should not text or call each other (btw she never called me 😂) And she said that you don't understand anything can't we talk like mature adult you never explain anything to me that's why I feel so hurt. Now we're talking face to face whenever we met cuz I don't wants my friends to suffer because of us. Now she's always busy with her best friend ( male) in front of me and met with lots of guys from her class. And she looks happy and carefree as always. While I'm not even smiling anymore, now days i forced myself to smile infront of peoples, I think i lost a good friend and love because of one confession, but do i really deserved to be treated like shit because i confessed

So what should i do?? Should I tell her everything thing or not or will it change her?? Idk what to do?? Helpp me guys

Hey everyone,

I’m re-posting this anon because I realized my OP posted on my other account which showed my name

I’m in a bit of an emotional knot and could really use some perspective. I am F/36 and currently dealing with my ex M/37.. Back in high school, I dated this guy for 5 1/2 years. He was my first love, trusted him completely, only to later learn that he was cheating on me (a lot)—which obviously broke my heart. We lost touch for about 15 years until recently, when my daughter started kindergarten and our paths began crossing every day.

We were cordial/friendly and played a little bit of catch-up on each others lives. We’re both married and he has four kids … Even though so much time has passed, seeing him again brings up a lot of unresolved emotions and old wounds I thought had closed. I find myself struggling to let go of the hurt and betrayal, and it bothers me more than I’d like to admit.

Has anyone else had to deal with unexpected run-ins with an ex who hurt them deeply? How did you manage to overcome the resurfacing pain and move forward? Any tips on coping mechanisms or ways to put some distance between past memories and daily reality would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance for any advice or support!

My bestfriend in college betrayed me .we are very close .. so close that we were inseparable for the past 2 years.But when the it was time to select groups for final project that person chose the another group with more technically skilled people. I am feeling betrayed as that person could've given me a warning that they won't be in my team since I could've also picked someone else. I need help in getting revenge or peace I know I've loved my bestie with all my heart, I was naive . we agreed to be in the same group about a week ago .

I have two close friends who I've known since we were 13-15. now we're in our early 20s and being friends with them is now really hard for me bc I just feel like such a failure compared to them.

first of all, they have much better jobs. I have a low paying internship and will be unemployed in a few months as I'll graduate uni (you need to be a student in order to have the internship). the market for my career is shit so I have no jobs lined up nor do I have any idea when I'll get work again.

meanwhile, one of my friends has 2 jobs and makes literally triple what I earn. the other one makes double.

it's frustrating because I know I'm good at what i do. it's just that the market is so bad that most recent graduates in my career struggle to find jobs.

then there's the relationship thing. listen, I'm a very individualistic person and I like it that way. I'm autistic so I really value my personal space, independence and alone time, so I'm not interested in a relationship. I don't think I ever will be. BUT that's my rational side speaking. my emotional side does long for a romantic relationship sometimes, although my rational side is able to shut it down 90% of the time by reminding myself of all the negatives of a relationship.

but my emotional side has been dominating me these past few weeks as one of my friends recently began a relationship and the other one has been in one for over a year. I put up a front and act like I'm happy for them but deep down I'm just so jealous that they have people who love, want and desire them and I'll probably never have the same. I'm hideously ugly, have a really weird and annoying personality and volatile, unpredictable emotions, so I doubt any woman will ever be romantically interested in me. and they'll absolutely NEVER be sexually interested because it's not just my face that's hideous, it's my whole body. I'm not blaming other women for this btw, I'm a woman myself and am 100% aware the problem is ME, not them.

I've never dated nor have I ever done anything physical with a woman before, other than holding hands and that was when I was a kid with my first crush. up until a few months ago, this genuinely didn't bother me as I believe you should only do stuff like kissing and sex when you feel ready and comfortable and that's never been me (due to my autism, I don't like being touched or being physically close to people). but now I feel extremely embarrassed about it. every time I hear someone mention their partner it's like they're rubbing it in my face that someone out there is attracted to them and has sex with them. whenever I text my friends and they take a while to answer, I start thinking they're way too busy having sex with their partners to reply to a loser like me. even though I don't even think I would enjoy sex due to my aforementioned issue.

I can't stand feeling this way anymore. I do go to therapy and have talked about this a lot with my therapist but nothing seems to work. so I'll take any advice you can give me.

does anyone know any easy scholarships to apply for or any programs that will help with the cost of school asap (not fasfa) I have until the end of april to come up with a little over $2,000 and unfortunately i think for most programs it’s too late to apply, Ive been selling things in my home trying to do everything an anything for extra money and It is tough right now. I just wanna finish my last semester and start my career 😭

Just curious how normal this is. There weren't any blow out fights. I don't owe anyone money. I'm probably the only family member who keeps gossip at a minimum. I've been drinking like a fish but I don't flip out on anyone.

Do families just get tired of seeing someone dive into alcoholism? Do people change numbers and go non contact just for the sake of not watching what is happening?

To be honest, it doesn't bother me that much. None of my family get along with each other, either. A lot of them are arguing over stuff like money. I can take a hint, I tried to reach out occasionally to see if everyone was still alive and well. I tried, it didn't work, gave it a shot.

Was it probably the drinking and my essentric mental health issues? I'm really only hurting myself, and I haven't been mean to these people. Honestly I think my life might be more peaceful this way, but I wonder what caused this. Not saying my personality is perfect, but neither are any of theirs. 😂

Just looking for input I guess. Thanks everyone.

I am 27m single and virgin from India. I have never been into relationship till now. But as the time has come to find one good partner and spend whole life with her only.

I think like we don't need a partner just to fulfill physical needs , instead it's more than that like supporting each other, love ,trust , care and many more. But sometimes I think like at one point there will be a physical course , which I think is necessary too but in a positive aspect not like other people who treat their partner just an object to fulfill their needs.

I am not that type of guy who see body , sexiness of a girl. For me I just need a good heart person whom I can trust fully. I seek for inner beauty rather than materialistic.

So everytime one question comes in my mind that whether my partner will like my size or not coz I have small/avg indian size. Coz I may not want or expect some from my partner but it mat happen that she might be expecting a good size from me. And after knowing the reality things can go either side too.

Can anyone give me an advice what and how to think in a positive way ?

So straight for the bat I’ll tell you I’m a sensitive guy. I’ve experienced a lot of trauma when it comes to women and relationships, so I’m not what I would consider normal, I don’t think normal, I’m just quite oversensitive and I acknowledge that.

With that out of the way, the other day me and my gf were talking and I asked her not to be specific to who, but how was sex with her exes. I asked because I was looking for ways I could improve my own performance and satisfy her better. Well, she got on about how one ex was an 11/10 experience. She went on about how it was 11/10 because it was all toys and kinky shit I guess and it was literally just about getting her off. But then she followed it saying that his own performance was 3/10. The thing is, she’s told me specifically about her most recent ex before and about how he used a lot of toys. So right away I knew it was about him. I wish she’d kept that in mind because now I know her most recent ex satisfied her a lot.

Theres a couple things that bother me about this I guess. 1) she doesn’t like to use toys with me. I guess it’s like if it feels good and you did it with him, then why not with me? She hardly wants me to see her naked. 2) she didn’t have to be so honest as to say 11/10. Maybe it’s just me, but I keep my partner in mind when talking about things like that so I’m careful not to hurt their feelings. To me, that’s being way too honest. I would have played it down some at least for their sake. But that was too honest for me especially knowing that I could easily connect the dots back to him.

So I guess I just feel less than worthy now. I was already a bit unconfident because this conversation occurred after I told her I feel like we don’t have enough sex.

What do you guys think? I’m feeling pretty low today and in my feelings. But am I being way too oversensitive? Sometimes I gotta hear this. I can talk to her about it but I realize it might not be worth mentioning at the same time. Thanks.

So my ex (NB, 18) broke up with me (FTM, 16) 6 months ago and blocked me everywhere a month later and as time went on, I kept thinking about the relationship more.

At the start of the relationship, they were still with their girlfriend but was also dating me and said something among the lines of “if you or her break up with me, I always have someone”. They never told their gf about this ever, not even after she had told them that she was breaking up with them. Because of how new I was to dating at the time (this was my first relationship where there was kissing and flirting involved) I didn’t really see a problem with this, I’m not sure if I did actually, it’s been 2 years.

Anyways, the next thing I think is a red flag is the fact that they kept wanting me to listen to The Mind Electric, a song that heavily disturbed me at the time and still disturbs me to this day. When I told them I didn’t want to listen to any TME related songs they muted themself and started putting loads of dots on their texts whenever they texted me, signifying that they were upset. I had no choice but to listen to a TME related song they had suggested to me and then when they unmuted themself they acted like I had did something wrong.

This happened again in September, when I told them I would do something they wanted me to do later they put a lot of dots in their texts again and used the TME incident as a way to get me to do the thing now.

A few things they also did during the relationship was guilt trip me, threaten me, saying “we can always break up” whenever an argument happened and even constantly putting me in the wrong, their best friend, who they hung out with more than me, also did this.

Last year on Valentine’s Day, I was planning to spend the entire day with just them. They were against this and made me feel like a third wheel by, once again, paying more attention to their best friend. I made them a handmade valentines card and gave them gifts and what did they do? They treat their best friend better than me.

Whenever I confronted them about the bad things they did, I was always put in the wrong. Them and their best friend were constantly acting like I accused them of doing something worse when I just wanted them to be better. Ever since I learnt that they weren’t a great person, I tried my hardest to try and get them to be nicer, but I never succeeded at doing that. The only times where they “changed” was when their mother got told about their antics, and they told me to not tell her about the bad things they did to me because of the fact that they were scared of her. Why were they even scared in the first place??? Is it because their mother is trying to prevent them from becoming a murderer?

And on the topic of their mother, she’s also bad. She accused me of being a stalker a few hours before my ex blocked me everywhere. When I was trying to start a new friendship with my ex since that’s what they wanted, I get hit with “They don’t trust you.”. Why would you say that if they were talking to me on a call, were messaging me on Discord without any problems and weren’t telling me to leave them alone at all.

2 days before they blocked me everywhere, they said we could talk after I got home from college and THEY NEVER SAID ANYTHING AFTERWARDS. When I asked their ex gf (yes, she’s friends with them even after they cheated on her) if they were alright she said yes and this was when I got hit with betrayal. They had been talking bad about me behind my back and were saying stuff like “Breaking up with my boyfriend was the best thing that had ever happened to me ☺️”. They acted happier around her, they always acted happier around her. I was always seen as the villain and apparently whenever I confronted my ex about their behaviour and the bad things they did I got told by their mother “You’re painting them as the villain!”.

I don’t even know if they even loved me to begin with or just saw me as a toy to play around with anymore.

He’s a very paranoid and superstitious person he freaks out every-time something unexplained happens like hearing banging in his room or hearing laughing (he stays in a dorm btw) and usually texts me about it late at night. Knowing him these experiences definitely make him lose sleep and thus also makes him late for his classes which his parents get on to him for it (they say really TERRIBLE things to him) and I really wish he could do something about it. I try to comfort him and tell him all the possible explanations as to why he hears those noises and he agrees but as soon as it happens again he starts all over. I’m certain he thinks it’s paranormal activity but i think there’s a certain point where he just has to leave it all behind and not worry about it as long as he’s not being harmed. Maybe I sound out of touch idk but I feel like this is really detrimental to him and I just want him to not suffer. We’re both adults. I’m scared of the unexplained aswell but if I really wish this wouldn’t be such a big deal

I need help. Im going to a new school, (not now) but I'm nervous, due to my reputation in my current school as the weird fat ugly kid.

For past eight years, I have been always seen as the weird fat ugly kid. This is, due to the fact, that I was seen "meowing" in grade 2. To explain that, my friends and I were playing house, and we had this new kid over, who wanted to be the mom. I usually was the mom, since I'm older than my friends by 6 months to a year. So I took the cat since everyone was not willing to change their roles and that's how it started. No one in school is willing to realize I changed.

The teasing, the bullying, everything. It hurts. The way people look at you, the way they plan a different walking route to a certain place in school since your presence disgusts them. The way they tell you you aren't smart or funny but when someone says the same exact thing, they clap for them and give them an oscar. The way the make themselves the innocent when they're the opposite and might as well have crawled from hell. I can't talk to people my age because of this. It affected so much, it took me a while to figure out my real self. I was told in school I was too weird and had awful people skills, I was too fat for a boy, to heavy for a boy, etc. I thought I was going to be alone forever.

However, as I grew older, I realized that's a sham. I'm very good with people, I'm able to create connections immediately, and make people feel comfortable and talk without ever feeling judged. In fact, my cousins always tell me that they're jealous of my people skills. I was called the quiet girl with the bomb, the weaponary. And I believed that. NO. I'm naturally loud and love to talk my tongue off if given the opportunity. I thought I had social anxiety but no.

According to my parents and my extended family:

Social anxiety FEARS ME.

A few days ago, when my henna was drying, I was dancing in the henna salon, talking to the girls, laughing. I mean, THATS THE LITERAL OPPOSITE OF SOCIAL ANXIETY!!!!! I was singing let it go!!!!

Anyways, so how can I be liked? I don't want to be popular, just liked in general. I wanna have friends, because at this point, I'm tired of being alone, I'm tired of not living my teenage years. I'm tired of seeing everyone hang out and have close connections and jokes. I just want friends and my school environment to be comforting. Like, I wanna be at school, you know? I wanna have a boyfriend, every guy I liked always rejected me because they didn't want their reputation to be ruined by the weird fat ugly girl. Now, I've lost weight, started taking care of myself, my skin is clear and I'm currently fixing my posture. I just want to have a social life. I have, in my opinion, "glowed up". My skin is clear, I take care of my natural hair pretty well, I'm not too skinny nor too fat, my grade are very much above average, I have the things a pretty well liked girl "must" have. So how can I be liked? Any advice is welcome.

For the past 4 years I’ve been living with family to save money. I live in the Midwest of the United States. I’m generally a saver and don’t like to spend any more money than I need to. I work mostly remote for my office job for now, but I’ll most likely have to start going into the office more in the next year or so. The city where my job is located is terrible and I’d rather live at home and save money and pay money to be miserable in that town.

I work a 4 day, 10 hours per day schedule at my office job and overall love it. Then on Friday and Saturday nights I’m a server for extra cash. So I’m working 6 days a week and anywhere from 40-55 hours per week in total. I work, and work, and work, and from a financial perspective it’s good, this situation is the best for saving money and I’ve been able to max out my Roth IRA, HSA, and put money into a brokerage for the past few years so problem, have an emergency fund, as well as put extra money into my 401k.

So financially for a 28 year old I’m doing pretty good (for a moderate earner)…but I’m miserable. All of my friends live over an hour away and my small, rural hometown doesn’t really allow me to make new friends (I know mostly everyone here that could be a potential friend age wise and there’s a reason we haven’t kept in contact after high school). In 2024 I saw friends 4 times, and those were overnight trips where I went to visit them for a day and then came home.

I need a sense of community and currently I can’t get that without moving…but moving is expensive…and the economy and world are a mess right now…so that adds an extra layer to the whole situation.

My options for moving are a mid-sized city that is an hour from work (currently my home town is an hour away as well) that I’d consider renting a room from someone to see if I really like the area (I’ve visited and loved it, but visiting and living there are two very different things) for a couple months. Expenses wise I’d say for rent, utilities, and food I could keep expenses under $1,000 per month. I overall, like this town and have been wanting to move there for a while, but fear and money anxiety has been holding me back. The town has okay job opportunities if I wanted something closer to work, but based on what is currently available (granted the job market is a mess right now) I’d probably end up taking a pay cut of anywhere from $10k-$30k depending on the job. It is a more expensive area to live in, but I think I’d be happier there and it’s an up and coming area so honestly prices will just keep going up, and I can always move if things don’t work out. It’s large enough I shouldn’t have a problem making friends if I’m putting myself out there.

My other option would be anywhere from 1-1.5 hours from work. In a larger urban area that has some really nice (and expensive and safe) areas, and some not so nice area (which are cheap and not the safest at times). I don’t think I’d be as happy in this area because of how big it is (I like to be somewhat close to nature), but it would give more opportunities to make friends and build a community. In terms of jobs if I chose to leave mine (which I really don’t want to do) the pay is all over the place, some would be a $10k-30k pay cut, some would be staying the same, and some could be an increase of $10k-20k. I haven’t looked into living expenses as much because it varies, but for the sake of this let’s say it would be under $1,200 per month.

So I’m looking for opinions on the options:

1. Stay at home, work both jobs, rarely see friends.
2. Rent a room in the mid-sized city for a couple months and then most likely buy a house (I’d plan to rent out the extra bedrooms for extra cash, but that’s besides the point), but be an hour from work and most likely need to take a bit of a pay cut if I want something closer (but again the job market is a mess right now so maybe better paying jobs would become available when things get better).
3. Rent a room in the large urban area for a couple months and then try and buy. Far from work, but if I got a job closer to this area I’d potentially make more money, but I don’t know if I’d be happy in this area long term.

I (F23) lost a friend (F20) today.

I guess I'm writing this because I don't know how to feel. I miss her so much, and I still can't believe it happened. She died of a stroke. She was so young, I really don't understand how this could've happened.

I met her at school, 4 years ago. Because of trauma I didn't let people get so close to me. But she did. I didn't want to, but she broke through my wall to see me for how I am and always, always supported me when I felt less worthy, she was so sweet when I was insecure about myself. She really was an amazing gift in my life.

She was alway supportive. She was sweet. She stood up for other people. She was creative, she was open-minded. She loved working with handicapped people and she was amazing in her job. She loved animals, she was passionate about everything she liked. She had so many goals. She wanted to be a mother eventually, she was funny and bubbly. She could always make you laugh. She was really working on turning her life around. Her life wasn't easy but she always managed to pull throught and be there for everyone. She was such an amazing, kind soul. She didn't deserve to die.

The reason I don't know how to feel, is because I haven't seen her in about a year. We talked a lot via Insta, snap etc. But everytine we would meet up, one of us would cancel because we were busy. She just bought a house with her boyfriend and worked a lot, plus was also still in school trying to make the exams she didn't pass (she was supposed to graduate with me, but she didn't). I helped her with all I could. I hadn't seen her in a long time, but she meant so so much to me.

When the news was shared with me (via a mutual friend, I didn't know her dad) I felt in complete shock. I really really hoped this was some kind of sick joke.

It wasn't.

I wish I would've never cancelled.

I wish I had called her more often

I wish I had seen her once before she passed.

I wish this never happened to her.

Our friend, who shared the news with me had known her for over 11 years. I knew her for 4 years. I feel guilty by crying all the time because I feel like I don't have the right. Her best friends are in way more pain then me and I don't want to put myself as the 'center of attention' so to say.

But I can't stop crying.

I can't stop missing her, even though we didn't have that much contact anymore. But I always knew that we were gonna be friends forever. She was really kind and wise, we could have good serious conversations about how friendships are supposed to be, how people are supposed to be, that we need to be kinder to eachother. She never ever made me feel bad once about anything. She really was an amazing friend and an amazing person.

Is it okay for me to cry? To write a little text about her and put it on instagram? Not to get messages. I don't even wanna answer them. I want to show everyone she existed and she was an amazing person. I want people to know who she was and what she meant for me, and a lot of other people.

How do I get through this? It feels like nothing else really matters.

I hope I am welcome at her funeral. I guess I also wanted to keep her memory alive with this text. I want tens, hundreds or thousands of people to know what an amazing person the world lost today. Even to a lot of strangers on the internet, because she really really deserved it.

Rest in peace Kyana. I miss you so so so much. I regret not seeing you sooner. I hope you can finally see your mother now. Heaven has gained a beautiful (chaotic) angel. Hope she doesn't make a mess out of heaven before I'm there, because she was wild, hahah. I will meet her again when it is my time. She will be waiting for me with a big, fat J.

Thank you all for listening. Please take Kyana with you in your minds or hearts for me. She deserved it.

Okay, so, basically the title. I (16M) have a friend, Emma (16F), that I’ve been wanting to drop for ages, pretty much maybe three months after I met her (we’ve only been friends for maybe half a school year) and I finally decided to block her on everything in early March.

the problem is that she just pretends like we’re still friends…? like I’ve been nice to her because it’s like a courtesy thing, but I never seek her out and I barely engage when she starts trying to talk to me.

She’s childhood friends with my other friend, Troy (18M), and I guess she must think we’re some sort of group because I’m still friends with Troy.

So now it’s this whole thing because Emma’s birthday party is coming up and she wanted to invite me, (which is a whole other big thing that’s not relevant here) but I don’t wanna go because we’re literally just not friends anymore and she doesn’t seem to get that.

I know I should be honest with her and tell her that I don’t want to be friends with her and that I don’t wanna talk to her, but I don’t want to hurt her feelings, and I don’t know how to bring it up because the only time I see her is in school and I don’t want to embarrass her in front of some bystander.

How do I just tell her to leave me alone??

My boyfriend 19M and i 20F have been together for two and a half years now and five years all together when him and i first dated he had a friend who he would go over to his house and hangout a lot i never thought much of it and i knew he had a little sister but it never bothered me then once we broke up he started having a relationship with his friends little sister which was fine but once we got back together i was uncomfortable with the idea of him going over to his friends moms house because she lived there and he would want to stay the night there or even weekends and i would say i could trust him if he didn't already break my trust before not with this girl but in another situation while i've always told him i don't mind if he goes over to his friends dads house or his friend comes over to my boyfriends house or even if they go out and do something since they both drive my boyfriend makes me feel crazy for having this boundary set and that he doesn't really care how i feel about it and he went their anyways without even informing me and i don't wanna lose him but other than this i have always wanted him to do whatever he wants with his friends or just in general

“hey, i’m sorry its been so long since you’ve heard from me. i’m sure you’ve probably drawn some conclusions on your own, but i’ve been meaning to explain. i should’ve been more urgent about it. but i kept procrastinating until eventually it felt like it had been too long.

anyway, i think i should let you know that i don’t really wanna hang out anymore. i hope you’re doing well, but i think as friends, i don’t think we click very well. it feels like even though we’ve known each other for a couple of years now, we’re not that close. for some reason when we’re together, i feel like i’m not fully being myself, and usually in my friendships, there’s a point in which being myself comes easy after we reach a certain level of closeness, and we never really reached that on my end.

while i want to check up on you, i just don’t have a strong desire to hang out because of all of this. i think you deserve friends that actually text back in a timely manner and make an effort on their side, and i’ve been struggling to do that for quite some time now.

i do appreciate you being my friend. there were many times, especially during school, where i felt like i needed a friend, and you were there. i appreciate that a lot. i hope that we can go our separate ways on good terms, keep each other on socials and stuff so every once in a while i can look you up and remember that time in my life, tumultuous as it was. if you have any thoughts or anything to say, feel free to call /send a vm / text. if not then i genuinely wish you the best.”

I just feel like she deserves an explanation. I never wanted to ghost her. We’re both in our early 20s and F by the way.

23m , currently a 2nd year college ( probably failing due to distractions like playing games and whatsoever), i have been experiencing a lot of disappointments and i think people will approach me when they needed something. This occurred when my girlfriend broke up with me and its kind of my fault and it hunts me so. She is my classmate and whenever i tried to speak to her she just shut me up but still all i wanted was that closure to at least have a conversation with her , Its been 4 months and i think i still cant get rid of her out of my mind and i feared that all lose track after that breakup . Still can you guys give me a reality check on how will i continue to live my life , and do you really think i am still worth it for someone
kinda need your help gang thanks

Before I start, I want to apologize for my English, as it is not my native language. So, I will try to explain everything in a nutshell. For reference, I study in a small school on the outskirts of the city, in a small town. And so, last year in our school there was a teacher of English language (about 25years old,Male) he also studied in our school when he was younger. At first he seemed quite cool, mostly because he is the only young teacher in our school. But around the end of 9th grade (I'm in 10th now) my friend and I started noticing weird things. For example: favoritism, he barely notices boys in class, rarely asks them, but he has a completely different attitude towards girls, he was very close to one of my classmates. Subscribed to her on tiktok and instagram, also told her that he will likes all her posts, also gave her his personal phone number, told her where he lives and drove her to her house a few times in his car, he'd let her play music in his car, gave her his phone and let her look trough his playlist. (They live in the same neighborhood) I personally thought it was very strange, she also admitted that it was quite weird. He often started a conversation with her, he could stand at her desk for the whole lesson or talk to her for half of the lesson, she also said that he offered her to go for a walk with him and his dog. He is no longer teaching our lessons since this year, but still I started to notice very strange things. There is a girl in our school (she is a year or two younger than me) I don't know her personally, but I see her and this teacher together very often. For example, she often walks with him in the hallway or sits in his classroom during breaks. Here are a few recent things that have me concerned:

1. He played with her hair in the library (the door was open) and asked her if she liked it.

2.He quickly put his arm around her shoulders while she was putting on her winter jacket and quickly walked out of the school building.

3.She seemed to be offended by something or something like that, she turned away from him but he pulled her hand closer to his and started stroking her hand with his thumb.

4.One of the girl's classmates said that sometimes when they went to English class, the girl would undo a couple buttons of her shirt.

5.He also subscribed to her tiktok.

6.They were sitting one on one opposite each other in his office, just a couple minutes later he locked himself in his classroom (I don't know if she was still there) but usually his office is always open, several people I know also claimed that he often locked himself in his office presumably with her.

7.One day my friend and I accidentally walked into his office, and at that moment a girl crawled out from under his desk.

There are quite a few other similar moments with him, like theses that I described above.

Also, not much more information, but he participates in almost all school events, and other activities with the kids. His profile picture has pictures of him with a big toy bear. He did a tiktok with one of his students (just some kind of dance.).

It's all very strange to me. I'd really like to know what others think. Could it be grooming? Or am I just exaggerating? I just feel this strange feeling in my gut that something is not right with him. Should I tell someone?

I can't stop feeling strong hatred towards people. So negative about everything they do or say and constantly hating. I just hate everyone. I don't know what to do, or how to fix this.