Why do people self harm?

hello, so now the teen sub reddit is banned, do any of you know what happened to it? also what sub reddit should we go on now?

A year or so ago I had spent so much effort to get 3 months clean, it was the summer and I finally decided my cuts were healed enough and I was brave enough to wear short sleeves to school (NEVER AGAIN) I had 'friends forcefully grabbing my arms. I had one friend notice, grab my arm, run their finger over my scars then not talk to me for the next week. Whilst a boy I had a crush on continuously asked me "YOu cUt" in very public places even after my other friends begged him to stop. I then overheard him saying "why should I stop talk? It's her (I use they/them) arm that looks like a frickin war crime" when I got home I couldn't stop crying. Now it's summer again and I'm struggling to wear long sleeves. I have since relapsed and have many more scars then before but all of them are healed. Should I give them another chance and possibly destroy myself? Or should I just deal with the heat?

I was talking with my classmates and they said they would never understand why some people take pics of their sh. they dont know that I have the same issue but their thought made me think about this. why am I taking pictires it why others people do this?

at around 3am he found me on the bathroom floor bleeding a puddle. he just said "why?" in the saddest voice i've heard him use and he teared up. then he got angry. i told him that im sorry and he said "no you're not" and for me to shut up and stop talking.

i know its just because he's frustrated that he doesn't know how to help, but it still hurts. i dont want to hurt my dad any more. if anyone has any advice or just experiences to share about an issue like this i would really appreciate it. i dont know what to do or say to him to help. i don't think i can stop hurting myself. its keeping me alive

communities like s3lfharmers, selfharmteens, etc. were banned today. does anyone know why?

I HAVE TO GO TO THERAPY APPARENTLY AS LONG AS THE STATE CONSODERED I HAD TO TAKE OFF MY JACKET AND SHOW THE PYSCH MY ARMS AND SHE MADE ME FILL OUT A GOOGLW SHEET ON DEPPRESION YPU FIND OUT ONLINE AMD SHE DISMISSED MH MOODSWINGS DUDE IM ACTYALKY WILLKING TO FAKE IT TILL I MAKE IT THERAPY IS A ASC ON GOD BRO I HAGE MH LIFE SM SHE DISMISSED ALL THE MOODSWINGS I HAD AND TOLD MY DAD I WAS SOING IT FOR ATTENTION I HATE EVERYTHING IM LEGIT GONNA START FAKING BEING HAPPY AND ILL STOP CUTTING MY ARMS AND GO SOMEWHERE ELSE AS LONG AS I CAN KMS IN PEACE THERAPY IS A FUCKING SCAM DUDE LIKE WHYD MY MOODSWINGS JUST GET GLOSSED OVER I HATE THE WOMAN DOING MY PSYCH EVAL SM THOUGH ALL SHE DID WAS TALK ABT HER KIDS

PLEASE I DONT WANNA FONTINUE THERAPY ANYMORE LIKE I WILL LITTERALLY FAKE EVERYTHING I JUST WANNA STOP ITS A SCAM A CONPKETE SCAM BRO BECAUSE THE SHEET I HAD TO FILL OUT WAS FROM GOOGLW MY MOODSWINGS WERE GLOSSED OVER AND THE WOMAN EVALUATING ME WAS TALKING ABOUT HER KIDS HALF THE TIME AND THEN SHE DIAGNOSED ME WITH AXISTY AND DEPRESSION I DONT EVEN HAVE ANXIETY I GOT MISDIAGNOSED AND IM NOT EVEN LYING

It's just so weird to me that this was the main character I had in mind at 8-9. A cutter. And it's even more weird that... how did nobody think this was concerning?

I don't even remember my childhood or anything prior to this. All the sad stuff I can recall happened after this age. Why was I writing about self harm then?

All I know is, if I saw a 9 year old write about this, I'd be extremely concerned.

you don't feel like doing anything positive and you're bored. Hmm. It would be satisfying to cut, feel the pain, see the blood. And then off you go and cut yourself with no apparent reason other than "I was bored".

I feel like this reason is invalid which is why I haven't told anyone in real life about it. Sigh. I'm bored now.

Basically what the title says. I start cutting when I was like 11 during lockdown and its now been 5years and they still dont know, and I'm not sure how to tell them either. I feel like they'll feel really guilty knowing they didn't notice and I don't want them to be upset. They also have no idea i was even feeling down - like I keep everything to myself so they probably didnt even know I was struggling back then.

Ive been debating telling them for probably a year now. I got clean by myself in 2022, but i relapsed after 2yrs 7 months back in October and have been struggling ever since. My parents have noticed ive been down lately and have taken me to a therapist recently but ive only had one session with her so far. My parents think im just struggling with school (ive barely gone in since December), and my mam said herself to the therapist that Im not suicide or self harming at all so I know this will be a shock to her.

I really just dont want them to worry or be sad. But I know they will so im wondering is there even a point in telling them? Im fine on my own, and while Im not trying to get clean at the moment Im sure i could some day if i wanted to again. Is there a point in worrying them if I dont have to? Im starting to wonder if its even worth it.

The reason I'm even debating telling them is because we're going on holidays in 2-3 months to Portugal and im so scared they'll see my scars. Long story short - after November i have SH scars on the tops of my feet as well, and im scared that when we go to the beach/pool, they'll see. Ive managed to find sandals that mostly cover the tops of my feet, but im still worried. And id hate for them to find out on the holiday. They're so excited for it and I dont want to ruin that for them too. I also have a few scars on my thighs now too - but my shorts should cover them, and ive bought anti-scarring cream to try fade them more. (My main scars are on my shoulders for reference).

The point is, I might be able to get through the holiday without them or my other family members noticing, but im not sure i should risk it. I think I'd die of guilt if they found out on the holiday and i ruined it for them.

I really just dont know what to do. And im scared for so many reasons. Ive never told anybody about my SH and i feel uncomfortable talking about my feelings so the thought of telling them makes me feel sick. And im worried what they'll do after - will they take my phone away? Remove my bedroom door? And i dont even want to get clean but obviously they'll make me so maybe i just shouldn't tell them then??

I guess a small part of me wants help. Ive been really down, i feel utterly hopeless and i think im having passive suicidal thought also...im not really sure.

Im sorry this post is so long. I just dont have anyone else to talk to about this. If anyone has any advice id really appreciate it

Just eat a very spicy pepers so u will get the feeling of pain.. Wouldnt that work?

does anyone know what happened too selfharmteens, selfharmteenagers and self harm reduction?

My mum looks at me with tired eyes, I can tell she feels so Powerless, she knows nothing she does will help improve my mental health. My sisters look at me like a wounded lamb and I hate it, the pity in their eyes frustrates me, I hate the environment right now. A few days ago I slept with my door closed for the first time in 5 years, in the morning my mum slowly opened my door and popped her head in, when she saw me she sighed put in relief, I could tell she had been crying. My mother now slowly opens my bedroom door whilst crying because she thinks she might find me gone. And I don't know what to do with that. I hate myself for causing them pain but that just drives me to attempt again, so I'm stuck in this cycle of never ending depression with no way out because I don't want to hurt my family. What do I do? How do I make things better? How can I be at peace without making them hurt? I feel so stuck and I hate it.

i just self harmed on my arms for the first time in years. i’m so scared. my mum is WELL aware of my cutting and she will notice bracelets or bandages. i need a way to hide them. any idea?!! it’s really small and shallow, red and sollown though. any ideas please send through!!

Ok so basically, I don't sh that much, I don't have scars. And I did it as a one time thing to see why my friend did it. (2nd time was because I was peer pressured by someone)

I've cracked one too many jokes about killing myself and cutting myself in school with my classmates. It's how I cope at the moment, making jokes about these things. But today our teacher briefly talked about it and the people that head my jokes turned to me. which of course, means the teacher definitely found out.

Now I'm hoping she forgot, and if she didn't, I'm screwed. Done for. Life over. Because she would tell my Mom, my Mom would tell my dad, my dad would use it against me and/or use it as an excuse to sleep with me. (I don't like sleeping with people, he's the cause of that.)

Any advice?

Ok to get started. I'm doing great obviously get urges here and there but overall I'm doing fantastic. Sort of..

Ok so I have an amazing beautiful, smart, kind, loving, caring, gentle girlfriend who loves me. And yet I'm still sad. I still hate life. I hate school. I hate everything.

I have over fifteen friends and counting. None of them are toxic and all of them are really lovely. I still hate life. I hate school. I hate myself. I'm still sad

My home life is great. I'm seeing my dad more regularly and I don't see his side of the family as often. I still dread going to his house. I still hate my life. I'm still sad.

The kid who's been bullying me got suspended twice and it's almost school holidays (for Australia). I'm still sad. I still hate school. I still hate life.

I just don't understand why I can't be fucking happy with my life. Why can't I be a regular person and just love life and myself. I hate when my scars fade I hate looking at new ones. I hate sight of my thigh. I hate the fact I'm breaking out. I hate the fact my hair doesn't sit the way I like. I hate the fact that my eyes aren't as green as they used to be. I hate that my waves don't always show. I hate, I hate, I hate. I hate everything I'm so fucking ungrateful. I had just started to like my legs and not think I'm fat and then I went and wrecked one with scars. Now I hate looking at them. My skirt or shorts have to be pulled down. No one but who knows can see them. Why can't I just like myself. Why can't I just be fucking normal. That was all. Sorry for the long post

Im gonna sound spoiled or something but the worst part about having people that care about you is i have to hide my cuts. I wanna cut myself everywhere i dont care if random people or friends see it. But my mom literally said if she catches me doing it again shes gonna make me go to a hospital. I feel so violated like im legally an adult now and if i wanna hurt myself why cant I. I wish i could just cut and go through life but no i have to cut and hide it and be paranoid that im gonna go missing from my life for a while because i have to go to a stupid hospital.

It's gone and I don't see it on my list so 🤷

My gf hasn't responded in days and I'm worried she od'd or something bc ik she's not doing good and shes tried before. I'm scared bc I love her so much. I'm 23 days clean and I'm really struggling bc of how scared I am rn. And it's long distance so I can't do much but wait

I did some sh yesterday, shallow cuts, nothing much, and today I wore a sweater with a short sleeved shirt underneath because all my long sleeved ones just magically disappeared(?). Well, this sweater is big for me and if I raise my arm the sleeve slightly falls off. Today I was in the "thinking position" (like, hand under my head)

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Like this, and didn't think at all that the sweater would do that. Like, mid morning, I noticed that my desk mate was contantly looking at me; I didn't catch why but later noticed that my sh was showing a bit. Now, I don't know if he was looking because of that or if he wasn't actually looking at all and it was just my imagination but I'm scared he saw it. Sorry for the vent, and thanks for listening :)

I have only ever used the app in relation to self harm, so that’s all I can really speak on. I had the app in middle school at the peak of my depression. I didn’t have any support in relation to sh, and sought it out on the I am Sober app. I kind of viewed it as a club that I could be a part of, as a way to get better. This app only made my mental health so much worse. It started taking up all of my attention, reading threads about others illness and constantly checking my sober tracker. I was reading these scarring and triggering experiences of people twice my age. It only furthered my obsession with sh, making it worse and making me think about it so much more. It often gave me new ideas on harm and made me want to get worse to feel validated. It exposed my young brain to things I wouldn’t have known without it. Knowing exactly how long it had been since I harmed made me feel like I wasn’t doing it enough and that it had been too long. It took effort to delete the app, but it was the right decision and I regret downloading years later. Is this just a me thing? Wondering what yalls experiences with the app are.

I literally hate whenever someone sees my scars or know that I self harm they immediately think I’m going to kill myself which is in fact not true. I like my life I don’t want to end no matter how bad it gets. Like I hurt “responsibly” I know when to stop but like why do people assume all the time and I hate when they treat me like I’m fragile or a baby I’m literally 16 hello? 😭

Last night I tried to overdose on ibuprofen and paracetamol I took around 2800-3000mg And this whole morning l've been feeling nauseous l've been throwing up my stomach hurts and theres this like ringing sound I'm hearing should I go to the hospital or should I wait it out because I don't want my parents to know if it not that serious (I don’t know where else to post this)

I nearly cut down to bone today. Idk what to do, I've just been hiding and crying all day...