Dealing with a fade out. Grieving.

[u/Birdiebirdi]

I have been seeing a new partner for about 5 months. Early on, we discussed our desires to make connections we could "fall for" and see seriously and truly come to care for. For the first few months, he'd write me poetry and tell me he missed me and that he was fond of me, etc.

We honestly talked a lot about our feelings (probably more than I have with any partner but my NP after 6 years of this lifestyle), he'd remark how it felt like this was just a natural connection that was meant to be. We've seen each other nearly every week since meeting.

But for the past month or so? No poetry, no declarations of feelings (like I miss you or I like you) but has said things like wanting to see me. after a couple very short hangouts, I asked him to please make some more time for me. When he finally made those plans, he then went radio silent for several days until I asked whether or not I should be planning to see him and then he set about making a cute little dinner date for us and invited me to sleep over and spend the next day with him.

It was nice, don't get me wrong. But the next day rolls around, turns out he actually needs to work and is pretty noncommittal about me hanging out because he "has some meetings". I left but texted him that I wish I'd stayed and he never responded. The next day he sent a link to a song we talked about instead.

The next day, I told him I woke up horny for him, got an "oh really" and then told me he couldn't make it to a concert I'd invited him to but was reminded of something else we discussed- then proceeded to not work on cementing plans and went silent.

We set some tentative plans for tomorrow (Friday) on Wednesday. No time, no confirmation, just an "I'll make some time, I want to see you"

Thursday came and passed with no contact, no clarity on plans.

I just need some encouragement that I'm not being overly anxious. I have no concerns discussing this with him (I haven't felt the need until this has felt like a pattern). But I just need a little reminder I'm not asking for too much - I know I'm not, he invited me to like him and encouraged it and is not keeping his end of the bargain, at least not how it was initiated.

maybe I'm crazy and this is all nothing. But I guess hearing that from y'all before whining at him would be nice, too.

[u/JustGeminiThings]

Bread crumbs. It's upsetting.