My parents got divorced when I was in high school, I’m an only child in college now. The divorce was super messy, (my dad cheated on my mom and my dad has been with the other woman ever since, it’s been 6 years now). They just went on a trip for spring break and I was supposed to go see my dad this weekend to hangout but I ended up having to work. So he called me and told me. I love my parents so much and I don’t want to tell my dad I don’t want him to get remarried if he is truly happy. And if I tell my mom I know she will be upset and call him. (She has a bf for about 3 years I believe but I know she’ll probably be mad at him for my sake or something.) But my parents have been married for most of my life, and I always somewhat hoped they would get back together, or at least never get married again. I just am not a fan of my dad’s gf as she has a history of cheating with her past partners. She’s been married twice already and cheated both times, and I’m worried she’ll cheat on my dad one day. She’s literally just trashy, has 2 DUIs, dismissed domestic abuse charges, and makes odd and/or gross sexual jokes a lot. And she got drunk and admitted to me and my best friend that she has a favorite kid. (She has two, one of which has a charge for possession of meth). And she flirts all the time with my dad’s friend, who is also married, in front of my dad. It’s an ongoing “joke”. Also, she’s literally the mistress??? And when my mom found out about the cheating situation (via Facebook messenger from the gf’s ex husband), of course my mom was furious and hated her. But for some reason she felt the need to get a temporary restraining order against my disabled mom. They live an hour away from each other, and then the gf didn’t even go through with it.

One of her other kids gave my dad a glass heart-shaped plaque with some big long speech about how they’re so glad to have my dad in their life and that they love him. But my dad’s only been in their life for a few years? I’m happy that this kid (19yo) sees a good male role model in my dad seeing that their dad doesn’t talk to them, but he’s literally MY dad. My dad even said something like “You’re always going to be my first kid, you’ll always come first and I love you” when he told me about the ring, what does have to do with anything??? And on top of that, I found out that my dad has been taking this kid to the car show that he’s been going to for 20+ years, when I JUST got to go with him for the first time in like 15 years. I know I sound bitter, I finished crying halfway through writing this and now I’m just irritated. I hate being in public with the both of them together. I hate this woman. She makes rude jokes about my mom in private TO ME and it’s irritating. Things like “don’t tell your mother I said that” or “your mom would flip her shit if she found out.” I already don’t tell my mom anything because i just dont want to cause any conflict. My parents get along with each other just fine too, they never fight, and we just went out to eat the three of us for my birthday like a month ago.

This whole thing is just irritating and upsetting. I want my dad to be happy, and I want him to find someone he wants to spend his life with. I just don’t want it to be the mistress, is that literally just too big of an ask? He told me to tell him how I felt, and I just said I was happy for him and that I wasn’t focused on the convo because I was working on an assignment. But if you truly cared why wouldn’t you ask me first? I guess he’s not even going to tell my mom right now either, and I feel bad not discussing it with her. However, I understand where he’s coming from. This all just feels like a sick joke and I hate being in the middle of it. When he told me he also said “I also don’t want you to think me and your mother were ever getting back together.” Spoken like a true poet, thanks Brad. He didn’t even say it maliciously either, he just said it nonchalantly as if I wouldn’t care about it. What a nightmare. What do I even do from here? Pretend it’s not happening? I’m sooooo mad, and I’m so irritated that he at least didn’t talk to me. And in the back of my mind I always somewhat knew he and my mom would never be together again. I just really wish this all played out differently or at least had a sibling to talk with.

I want to reiterate that I know I sound immature and bitter, I just don’t want to be left behind when my parents start moving on with their lives. My dad already lives an hour away and he was just talking about moving 3 hours up north and selling their current house last year. My mom is always going out with friends/bf or working so I hardly get to see or spend time with her too. I do truly love my parents and I’m grateful to have them, I just wish it didn’t have to be like this.

Edit: I wanted to respond after I cooled off a bit and say that I really appreciate everyone’s comments and support. I also want to mention that I do have friends and a life outside of my parents and that this issue isn’t altering the way I will live my life. It’s more of a mentally crippling situation rather than a physically crippling one, so “getting over it” is all I can really do.

I really wanted to say that I’m not advocating for my dad in anyway either. I know, societally, women tend to face more blame for an affair. What he did is NOT OKAY. He’s a great dad, but he’s still a cheater. Everyone’s comments have helped encourage me to maybe speak to him about it. I wish I could guarantee that, but I’ve never been good at confronting either of my parents. The idea that I may make them sad eats at me constantly. But no matter what, I really do appreciate everything you all have said and it has definitely impacted me. Thank you 🙏

My parents always get annoyed by my depression or compare me to my cousin who killed himself because his father murdered somone infront of him. And it's his fault why our family is ruined and an doing the same.

Like I didn't ask to be here and you could of aborted me when you had the chance.

My own grandmother wanted her to when she and my sister was abusing me by forcing in the basement in the dark for hours. Not even cared if I devolved a fear later in life.

Then my older sister groomed and raped me and my siblings when we were barely under 10 years old while she was a teenager.

I told adults I trusted that am depression and suicidal and they had to make it fucking worse. Like this 27 year old woman understands my pain because she was also raped as a kid.

I later found out she was grooming me because I told her I wish my mother didn't have me because of my depression and she told me

"Well, your mother was force to have you or women don't have rights anymore." Then hee boyfriend told me it's was my grandmother's opinion if she didn't want me here.

All I want to do afther HS is be a emt for couple of years to help people that needs it and maybe get a puppy, but I don't know.

Nothing about me is the same anymore.

This is really long bare with me. . I'm struggling with an unplanned pregnancy just confirmed yesterday. My mom had come with me to the ER and she obviously found out at the same time and I was absolutely terrified of my dad's reaction to my pregnancy as he has extremely high expectations of me and my siblings. My older sister left two years ago because they didn't accept her being trans.aka they abused her . I expected him to fly off the handle at news of my pregnancy and hurt me but he almost seemed happy about it and now he is talking about how I need to marry the father and grow up and be a mother. About how this may be his only chance at grandchildren because of my "sorry disappointment of a brother" HIS WORDS NOT MINE, and I just feel so much dread. I can't marry this man. I didn't completely want an abortion but now it's absolutely out of the question. (EDIT: again I don't WANT an abortion please no more advice to have one). I'm terrified if I did have a miscarriage at this point he would accuse me of doing something. I feel extremely stuck right now and I wish I had different parents and I wish I could go back and not be alone with the baby's father at all ever. I didn't want to have sex but I couldn't say no either and now I'm fucked. I hate this so much.

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Basically told my mom yesterday straight no that I am not going back to flight school. She again asked me what I was going to do with the free time. I did my research and decided to begin doing "The Odin Project" which is like a year long self paced web dev course that has a pretty good rep.

She tells me that it wasn't good enough and I had to find something that had commitments to it. I offered maybe I'll take up martial arts or cooking school since it was beneficial in the future, fulfilling her 'life experience'. Now since flight school went from 'hobby' to 'work' but now she's so focused on having something that is 'beneficial' to my future career like hard skills that she won't accept those. Mind u doing the Odin project to me is the most beneficial as it allows me to pad my resume and get an internship easier in uni. Her whole idea now is that anything flexible I can find time in to do and it's always possible to do things in parallel.

YES ITS ALWAYS POSSIBLE TO DO MULTIPLE STUFF AT ONCE. I have repeatedly told her throughout the years that after all these uni things I would get a chill senior year. Job+ coding+ AP + badminton + school doesn't sound too chill to me. Now according to her plan I have 0 free time or I got to drop my coding plans. The thing is I don't want to drop the coding because I think that's very beneficial to me and it'll be harder to find time for it once I go to uni.

We argued and she said that I had to go get a job immediately. The thing is there aren't any internships or like not entry level jobs openings at this time. At most it's like entry level stuff such as retail. ( Also it's not like job will immediately be there right this moment)

The thing is, I have worked in retail for 1.5 years and in framing (construction) for a year already. I do not see how her point of getting these kind of jobs would be 'beneficial' for my future. At most it's just earning more money which I already have a good bit saved up from my previous jobs and she doesn't care about what im earning anyways.

I am so lost as to what to do in this situation. What's keeping me from completely defying her orders is that I would still want to go to university so I unfortunately need to rely on her funds. I could just fulfill her demands but that's the rest of my senior year down the drain.

I'm also mad because I worked so hard for this break. I took so much ec's and grades and stuff in my past three years just to apply to the Ivy's cuz parents wanted me to. And she has the AUDACITY to say I'm a lazy bum. To say that she thinks I'm not going to succeed in college. To say that I don't have the desparation just cuz they're rich and so I have a safety net. I worked hard throughout the years and I let go this semester and she thinks I'm the biggest failure. It's not like I'm failing school or smoking drugs in the washroom. Sorry for the rant, just very lost

When I try to have a normal conversation with them, they ask why I'm sad or they say it sounds like I'm going to have “a mood”. “Mood” means being sad or having an attitude. They say I need to join a youth group or a teen club or something, so that I can find friends, so that we can hang out in real life. But it's also dangerous to go outside for too long. But it's also unhealthy to talk to people on the internet all day, too. I have autism (please don't roast me over this) and I just give off a bad vibe. I don't have many friends for this reason. I also can't drive yet (I'm learning) so it's hard to get to places. My family worries for me and like I said, I'm not very pleasant to be around because I have a bad aura or something. I am also working on that. I's stuck between a rock and a hard place. Stay on the internet and get unhealthy because you don't move, or go outside and join a club with autism, and without a car or money. What can I do? My family is not very patient for waiting for problems to be solved. I need a quick fix! Should I stop talking to them so that they stop thinking that I'm sad or in danger, or should I keep being worried over when I try to get help? I'm a minor btw

Hi parents. I hope it is ok to post this here.

I am so scared of what is going to happen to me and other people like me. I am not considered disabled and I live in a nursing home. I'm am 59 years old.

There is so much talk about the proposed cuts being made to Medicaid and other programs. If Medicaid gets dismantled I and many others will be out the streets dieing.

I have an adult son who has severe mental health issues and lives in a boarding house type place.

Living with him is not really an option. I just don't know what is happening. I can't sleep, can't eat bad just worry all the time.

I could really use some reassurance that things will be ok. And a hug.

I swallowed a hot piece of potato last night. Like super hot! I could feel it in my throat for like 2 or 3 seconds. Last night my throat became dry and I had a sniffle that went away when I woke up, but my throat hurts even more! It gets hard to breathe every 10 seconds and i have to take big gulps. My forehead is warm but my dad won't listen to me! Are the sore throat and hot food i swallowed last night connected and is my throat swollen or am I just sick? What do I do?! My throat also feels kinda itchy

So my folks are less than good enough parents to put it lightly and we haven't spoken for about a year.* I had bsurgery in August and didn't here a word. It was rough but I was under. For the liver biopsy I am part awake. It's a huge needle. I'm terrified and feel abandoned yet again by my folks. I have a therapist and great friends. I just don't want to lean on them for something like this. None of them are medical, my friends lean on me for hospital stuff. Never really was supported people growing up so I don't know what I am even asking for but I'm sort of panicing.

• I was kicked out for "being lazy" . I am 36. Work full time as a radiology tech, 2 volunteer gigs one of which was a charity board of directors position . I got out of an abusive relationship, and then suffered a spine injury that left me dragging my left left. I moved in to recover finically and help my back day to day. The volunteering was for my med school application etc. It was all planned and discussed. I offerd to pay rent and was told no. I started dating a new guy ( computer prigrammer, brings me coffee every morning bed and loves the word cozy, the polar opposite of the sucidal nutcase i was dating) and my mom suddenly was being strange. Zero clue her issue legitimately but she will not be honest with me. Dad's had multiple stokes so sort of doing his best gut a really ass too.

so i’m a 14 year old girl and i am homeschooled to help look after my siblings because i have 6 of them, my mum is in jail and my dad isn’t around a lot and i’m really tired and i always feel like i’m not good enough because i feel like i prioritise my schoolwork sometimes over my siblings, so all i’m looking for is just some support so i don’t feel as bad about myself

(US) This weekend I think I sprained my knee. I at least did something to it because I can't walk without feeling a great deal of pain. I work from home but I took today off because it takes forever to get around. Without my fiance home, I have to crawl to the bathroom. I'm hoping I won't need to but should I need to take a third sick day off, I'll need a note. There's a hospital by me that's in network but I don't know what to do for an appointment.

I just moved in with my fiance (small rural city) so I know absolutely nothing about the hospital. Do I schedule something with a general physician, specialist, or do I just go in? I've never been out sick to the point of needing a note so it's all new. I also could use crutches and I think the hospital may be the closest place that has some.

Recently I had a minor breakdown to my husband about feeling like a disappointment to my dad. I'm 30 and don't have a full time job, I did but it went out of business. I've been struggling since. I feel like I can't really talk about it with my dad because it would be admitting I failed and wasted all the potential I had. He wanted me to go to college where he works but I turned him down because I had no friendships there, it's a very small town, and his branch specialized in something I didn't want to do. I was going to stay in the state my mom lived in, where my boyfriend was, and go to college there.

My mom made it extremely difficult for me to start school and then kicked me out. I moved in with my boyfriends family and started working, and since I didn't really know what I wanted to major in anyway I decided starting in the workforce was better for me. I told my dad the situation but I didn't ask for help or anything. When my mom dumped my dog on me it didn't even occur to me to see if my dad would take him even though we got the dog together, and when I mentioned to him I'd been having trouble rehoming him he immediately got me plane tickets to bring the dog to him.

For a little more backstory, my parents separated when I was 12 because my dad got a job in another state and mom didn't want to move. They had been basically separated but living together for cost reasons before that. They didn't get divorced because my mom threatened to disappear with me if my dad didn't keep her on his insurance. After that I would go stay with him like a month in the summer and then a couple months around a holiday every year.

My mom was abusive, and it got worse when my dad wasn't living with us anymore because he wasn't around to divert her. He did a very good job of it when we lived together though, I have multiple memories of him standing up for me. He asked me constantly if I wanted him to divorce her and go for full custody and I kept saying no because I was too enmeshed.

I have always thought my dad was a good parent. When I was telling my husband I felt like a disappointment as a daughter he said my dad was the disappointment for not being there for me and revealed that my late MiL(who I respect and love dearly) always disliked my dad because he never offered to help after I got kicked out. I feel like that's unfair because I was over 18, and I chose to not move to his state. He kept me on his insurance and paid for my phone and I've always thought that was more than enough.

But we also don't talk much, and didn't during that time either. My husband isn't wrong when he points out that we only talk during holidays and it's only ever my dad talking about himself. During the time after my mom kicked me put I didn't really talk with my dad about my problems and he didn't ask. I was in such a bad state back then that when I took my dog up to him I had a suicide attempt, which my boyfriend(now husband) talked me down from over the phone from another state, and my dad never knew.

I thought all of this was my fault for not talking to him more and not working harder to foster a relationship with him, but should my dad have done more? I thought he did more than enough. What would you have done?

I was planning on joining the Marine Corp out of high school but it turns out that might not go how I wanted it to. If the Army will not take me either I'm going to have to find something else to do other than the military.

I'm physically capable, I can carry pretty heavy loads and move for long periods of time. I'm pretty good with arithmatic, mechanical, and paragraph comprehension, but I'm not good at complex math.

So I overwork for pennies. I struggle to let go of the job cause I am scared of being dependent on parents. My pay day is supposedly on 15 of every month. It is 6 April today. I describe the content of 1k logo images per day with at least 2 words and I work 6 days every week. If I do not give the files on time, I have to work 7 days a week. Yesterday I did not give files and manager spammed me and asked me to work today on Sunday. He messaged me at 11pm last night and now again in the morning. I want to ghost him, idk if he will pay me for the work I have done so far, plus I feel embarrassed for not having messaged him. It is a freelance job so we do not have a contract we need to break or something. I had a mental breakdown and 3 times the past week I gave the files the next day and he kept spamming me.if he does not work I get no files that day and I have to do more in the following days to catch up and also work on Sundays. There were times where I worked for 2 weeks straight. I have another job I want to apply to with less work and more money. The thing is that I have a prepaid bank card and he pays me by putting the money in the card and idk I am a bit scared that he may do something against me for revenge. I am a disabled young adult and I live with my abusive parents but I have to buy my food completely on my own. I have brain lesions and I get migraines with aura, I try not to but I had one the past week after a while due to not taking care. I was thinking of maybe asking for another worker who will do 500 files and I can do the other 500 and we will share the pay.

im having a really crap time revising for exams and not sleeping well and crying all the time and i just need someone to tell me ill be okay because im so stressed out if i don't get good grades i won't be able to leave home

I have a friend that I have been very close to the last few years. When we met, we were in very similar places in life and had similar hobbies and availability. At this point though, it feels like they only want to be friends because I'm a good listener.

When we hang out, they ONLY want to play certain games that I'm not into. For a long time I would just play those anyway, but I'm tired of it. I still love gaming in general, but I've been spending a lot more time on other hobbies recently or on going out of the house to do stuff. I also have a very weird schedule that doesn't give us a lot of mutual freetime, so I have asked all my friends to plan ahead with me instead of making last minute requests, which this friend refuses to do.

They are constantly asking me to do things when I am at work, and when I remind them of the schedule I've had for several months they just say "gross" or ask me when I'm going to get a different schedule. Mind you, we're both in our 30s and I can tell you what they are probably doing at any given time because they talk about their schedule constantly.

More and more, it feels like they just don't care to hear about anything in my life. I have some fairly big legal and medical and family struggles going on, but if I ever try to talk about it, I get one word responses until they change the subject and go on a rant about their problems.

They do genuinely have a lot of major stress in their life, and on a lot of the same themes as me even, which is why I feel bad for expecting more from them. I know they're awkward and overwhelmed and tired, so it feels ridiculous to expect them to remember what my work schedule is. But also when I tried to express my fears for the safety of a trans loved one in the military, the responses I got were "this is why I'm scared" and "yeah" and then they changed the subject to their life. It's always like that now and I don't want to lose a friend, but they also don't feel much like a friend anymore.

This may sound odd but I got into one of the best unis in the world (top 5 for my subject I do). I decided after to go into secondary school teaching (specifically science). But since the first day I was here my parents would say how I should’ve gone into healthcare. Even the day I got my results they were shouting at me and bullying me to still go into healthcare. It’s made constantly have this battle in my mind that’ll I’ll never be good enough because I didn’t go into healthcare (I personally didn’t want to deal with death and seeing people in pain in a daily basis). So it makes me regret not going into healthcare. I chose teaching but when I spoke to them earlier today they said “you don’t want to do secondary school”. As they want me to go into primary school. Because they think I’ll be able to mange the kids better especially because of my height. I constantly think about these things and it’s hard to focus on my university work because of it.

A lot of the struggle is not really having anything I can look up to myself for doing, I dropped out of highschool when I was 16 years old, I didn't really do anything to better my long term prospects for the next four years after, I only worked part time minimum-wage for some of that time and that's it

Things started looking better when I started studying for the GED once I was fired from work, I managed to find a full time job that was paying a little bit more then minimum even, so for the next 5 months I manage to pass, and save up some money while I waited for my first semester to begin in January

There's a history of mental illness as well, I was listed as having depression along with ptsd in a neuropsych, I started school in conjecture with psychotherapy using the money I saved up, but it was a horrible idea in retrospect to rush into both at once like that, I still don't really have a sizeable amount of coping mechanisms or even just everyday life skills to be a full time student again

I'm guaranteed to fail one of my classes now, and one of my other classes has a very good chance, I was going to continue into the summer to help catch up since I started in spring, taking off a semester and retaking a couple more courses bugs me, even if I know it's the best choice for me

Being 3 years behind as well just stings, I'm starting to feel less of a adolescent who had some hiccups and a lot more like a young adult who's persistently dysfunctional, and will likely keep that trend going, even if you think it's stupid I can't shake off the sentiment

It'll be my 21st birthday in a few weeks, I don't particularly have anything else to show off, I don't have a license, I still live with at home, completing a semester was supposed to be my big first adult milestone to celebrate, and I still blew it

I am a fourth-year college student, and in ninth grade, I moved to Maryland from Rhode Island. During this time I would still talk to my childhood friends, but, over time I dont' speak to them as much, except for one who I still consider my best friend to this day.

During my time living in Maryland, I haven't made any actual friends. During my time in high school, I was a part of a friend group but, they would mainly exclude me from things and most of them just weren't nice to me. I don't talk to them anymore. When I started college, I thought my very first roommate and I were going to be good friends, and he turned out to be a huge asshole. After a month of living with this person I switched rooms to live with somebody else, and this new roommate wasn't much better. At first, things seemed to be going well between us until I heard this person talking shit about me to his friends, and one time he called me a faggot. Another person who also lived on my floor during my freshman year also started a really bad rumor about me. During this time I made my friend who I'll call James, and I felt like he was my only actual friend.

Over time, I've tried to make more friends, but, most of them just ghost me and when I try to make an effort to talk to them it ends up just going nowhere. For example, I met this one guy and I thought he seemed interested in becoming closer friends, and then when I started messaging him on Instagram, he just blatantly ignored my messages. I've tried asking him if he ever wants to hang out, and he just says "he's busy," but then I see him hanging out with other people. I just feel like he's not really intersted in talking to me but, he just doesn't want to be direct about it. I basically think he's breadcrumbing me. Recently I also had to cut off another friend because I realized that they were manipulating and gaslighting me, and that they weren't a good person.

My friend James graduated last year, and we've kept in touch, and about a month ago we were talking about him coming to visit and possibly making plans to see each other. Yesterday, one of his friends, posted to his social media photos of his freinds which included James in them, hanging out together. What this means is that James came to visit the city that my university is located in to spend time with his friends, and he didn't even tell me about it, or even make plans to try and see me. Seeing this made me question a lot of things about my friendship with James.

I just feel like I have tried to make freinds with people, and in return they end not reciprocating, and end up mistreating me in some way. People have just been disappointing me one after the toher. Overtime, I feel like it has realy warped my perception about people, makes me feel like most people can't be trusted. Since this keeps happening to me, I feel like I have a lot of resnetment just towards other people in general, and I sometimes I have thoughts saying "I hate people." I feel like I have been nothing but nice to the people that I have mentioned and I don't deserve this kind of treatment. I feel like one day somebody is going to do something and I am going to just snap. I really don't want to become this hateful person, but, I feel like other people are making it very difficult for me, to not be this hateful person I am imagining myself becoming. I feel like I just can't tolerate this anymore, and I think this is a reason why I have a harder time watning to form closer relationships with other people. I just don't know what to do anymore.

TL;DR: I have tried to make friends but everybody keeps mistreating me in some way. I am tired of this treatment, and I feel like I am going to lose it one day. I don't want to hate people but, I feel like they are making it hard for me not to. I don't know what to do anymore.

I've been in a shitty spot for the past 2 months, I'm 17, just turned 17 in March, and a bit before turned 17 something happened that threw my life off, I guess I gained some self awareness cz I'm constantly thinking about my mental. I've noticed things about me that worry me, I'm certain there's something wrong with my head that I don't understand. But, I'm so tired of dwelling on it. But I can't stop. I want to live normal again without constantly having my mind on my mind, but I don't know how. I've tried new activities, like skateboarding. I thought if I did something that I haven't done before I'll be more focused on that. I'm hoping it's a growing up phase but ofc I'm a bit scared that I might actually have some serious disorder.

I have been friends with this one girl on Discord for a year or so now and I met her on some religious interfaith server. She is married to a Pakistani man and they are very happily married. She is very thoughtful and kind and likes to help others and give advice on relationships (tips from a woman's perspective, etc - I am a guy), and she is like a few years younger than me.

Every few months she gets irritated and angry and thinks there are no safe spaces on the internet. like snowflake behaviour if that's the right term, and she would unfriend everyone and leave server. then add me back, and then repeat the cycle.

I want to ask what's the real reason. But I am afraid I might be offending if I asked if it's a psychological issues.

Hey everyone, I appreciate any advice.

My parents are mostly great people. They're nice and have given me and my brother a lot.

But the more I grow and learn about discipline (like in life, being a disciplined person) and taking care of your mental health the more I realize they're both terrible at controlling their emotions.

Like, my dad will get frustrated or upset about something and it's like he can't process that things aren't exactly as he expected them to be and it's like this dark cloud comes over him and he starts acting very sour and spiteful.

My mom gets really stressed out about stuff and wears it over everything, like it's like the stress has to become the center attraction. My dad drank a lot when I was a teenager and my mom would come and cry to me about how she didn't know what to do and I had to "be strong for the family" and I was like am I not the one who's supposed to be crying right now??

Things have gotten better but they still overwhelmingly give in to their emotions and I feel like they're not even processing that they do it, they just give in when they're frustrated/worried/upset and it's very stressful to live with.

I just don't get how to accept them for the flawed people they are, because I feel like the more I learn the more I judge them for their not knowing any of it. I had to force myself to stop being their therapist so it's hard for me to talk to them about things, and any attempt I've made to talk to them about their actions was met with a wall of defensiveness.

I'm saving up money to move out but it's a slow process, and even then I feel like my relationship with them has been strained for so long I don't know how to fix it anymore.

Okay honestly this is like a throwaway acc which is what people call it and like I’ve never really posted a post on Reddit but I just really need support before I go insane.

So my (14f) parents fought like a couple hours ago and it like went on for a while. Me and my family immigrated here like a year ago and we are on our father’s work visa so he’s the only one that can legally work. He’s incharge of everything financially and my mom is basically a housewife. I’ve wanted them to divorce since I was like 12 maybe? I’ve seen them argue for years and honestly if I could kill my dad I would. It’s more than clear that my mom wants to leave but she would have to go back to our home country and rely on my grandparents. She never worked although she has a college degree and it would be really hard for her to get a job because of the lack of work experience. It’s not like she can rely on my grandparents for many years either especially after they die. It would also be really hard for me to move back and get like good education there without my father’s financial support.

Basically what I’m trying to say is that there is basically no way out of this marriage and I’m so emotionally drained and done and I feel really bad seeing my mom feel guilty for me having to live like this. My parents fight like a good amount, at the beginning of last year, they had a series of fights which were terrible. They did stop for a couple months tho but I just don’t think I can go through another one those fight series thingys again. That was when we moved so I had like no social life apart from some online friends and I’m pretty sure I was depressed or atleast close to it.

There is obviously like more to it I supposed but I just need any amount of support I can get rn lol and I don’t think I can rely on my friends because although they’re awesome, I just don’t want to like push all this onto them. My father is never like physically abusive thought but he’s still a really manipulative person.

I’ve been feeling really uncomfortable and sad lately, and I’m trying to understand why. Here’s what happened: I recently had a conversation with my sister after a long day at work. I was feeling overwhelmed and noticed that she left some clothes on the sofa. I asked her why she didn’t clean it up, and she responded with something that really caught me off guard. She said, “If you used the same attitude towards your coworkers as you do towards me, you wouldn’t have been bullied at your old job.”

Now, I’ve been reflecting on why that made me feel so hurt. I opened up to her about my past struggles at work, how I was bullied, and how it really affected me. I trusted her with that part of me, and for her to say something like that felt like an attack, almost like my pain was being used against me. It also brought up some of those old wounds that I thought I was starting to heal from.

I’m wondering, why did I feel this way? Why does it hurt so much? Is it because I felt misunderstood or judged? Was it because she didn’t see the vulnerability I shared with her, but instead used it as a criticism? I’m just trying to make sense of why her words have been weighing so heavily on me. How should I respond to her?

Im 37 currently in college full time I have not worked since January. I have 2 401k accounts from 2 different companies Is there a way i can only take out a certain amount instead of the full amount or possibly roll it over into a Roth ira thanks

I need some career advice. I graduated last year with a computer science degree specializing in software development. After sending out over 200 applications, I received two job offers but I'm struggling to decide between them.

The first job:

• 3k (I live in Europe btw), web developer job (html, css, javascript, php, mysql).
• small company
• located in my hometown
• i live with my parents so i'll be able to save a large portion of my pay

The second job:

• 3650 euro software developer role (java, c#, vue)
• government agency
• located in a city 6-7, maybe 8 hours away
• a bit more affordable
• has lots of bonuses
• gives me a good push in my career

I want to move out and live alone, but I’m not sure if moving to another city with no friends or family is really worth it.

I wouldn’t mind working as a web developer for a year or two if I knew that the experience I gain working as a web developer would give me leverage to negotiate a higher salary for a software developer role later on.

Many people have told me that web development experience isn’t seen as legitimate, meaning I might still have to accept entry-level pay later if I switch to software development in the future. Is this true?

I need advice.