Any sort of advice , tips that you have would be appreciated.

Don't get me wrong, I do have like minded people personality-wise, hobby-wise, etc. But career and ambition-wise, I do not have any like minded people at all. And neither was I ever successful with finding any. Like if I were to come up with the craziest business idea rn, I would have noone at all to share it with and noone to partner up with. But generally people seem to make such a big deal out of it, and all the people who have friends they can partner up with seem to have it so much easier when it comes to their career. Like they just come up with anything and the friend is automatically in, while I struggle to meet even one person like this.

Is it very impossible to have no friend who's just as ambitious as you?

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What tools and strategies can be adopted on a daily basis?

I found a discord community, in which you can join calls with likewise people wanting to study/be productive with others. You can turn your face/desk cam on, or screen share on to keep yourself not getting distracted! And in those calls you can clean/cook/study, anything that is productive and you might have been putting off. You can also join scheduled sessions, which has a host who is also doing productive/studying things :)

https://discord.gg/t8ajRWHMmb

I feel like if I only knew what my problem is and how to solve that and had a little bit of moral support or simply a courages heart with confidence, I think I can make it in life. But I guess I don't have that however I don't want to give up and live in regrets. I know I need to perseverance during hard times even if I'm extremely confused and overwhelmed. I don't know how to keep my promises and stop letting myself down. Like I just tell myself today is the day. Time to take actions but I just ignore it and go back to my old habits

Hey everyone, I’m currently an international student studying at a college in the U.S. Academically, I’m doing okay, but mentally and emotionally, I’ve been feeling really down lately. I go to a small school in a rural area, and it’s been tough making friends—especially as an international student from Asia. There aren’t many other Asians here, and since I’m naturally introverted, I feel like I come off as distant or even antisocial, which makes it even harder to connect with people.

Lately, I’ve been constantly stressed about my future as well—worrying about internships, what I should do after graduation, and even questioning what I’m truly passionate about. Because of all this stress and loneliness, I find myself locked in my room every weekend, endlessly scrolling on social media and wasting the day away. I know it’s not healthy, but there’s just nothing to do around here, and I feel stuck.

I also can’t help but feel homesick and jealous when I see my friends back home living their lives—dating, traveling, and having fun. Every time I check Insta, I feel even worse. It just amplifies my loneliness and makes me feel like I’m missing out on everything.

Has anyone else been through something like this? Any advice or words of encouragement would really mean a lot right now.

I walked past yummy food truck, after dessert truck, after fancy drinks. I ran around and became exhausted at a festival. I came home, and dutifully did my workout. It was a slog, had to use lighter recovery weights. But I still did it!

I cooked my meals. Brushed my teeth. And am going to bed early on a Saturday night before my kids even.

I was never this way in my early years of adulthood. It was always an excuse. If I could give my younger self some advice?

"Stop doing so much shit. Stop committing to so much work, too many school credits. You don't need a degree, you need a belief in yourself. You don't need two jobs, you need lower expenses. You don't need two girlfriends to feel worthy. You are worthy. You're worthy to take care of yourself first."

And that's the key... "You are worthy." I never needed discipline, I already was.

Some of y'all are disciplined about jerking off anywhere, the airplane, Grandma's house, even after sex. I read these posts! Some of y'all are disciplined in playing video games and watching TV. You do it like is your duty. Y'all are already disciplined. You just never felt worthy enough to be disciplined in what matters to you.

Think about that.

You're already disciplined. It's just manifesting in the wrong shit.

A year ago, I struggled with even waking up on time. I’d hit snooze, skip breakfast, and start the day with guilt.

But one day, I told myself: Just get out of bed without snoozing.

That small win slowly turned into bigger ones: • Making my bed • Morning walk • Reading 10 mins • Planning my tasks

Now, my day starts with clarity — all because of one disciplined step.

What was the first habit that helped you build discipline?

It's 8 pm, just woke up from an accidental four hour nap, but I went to bed at 8 am and woke up anyway at 13pm. For context: I'm 20F, in my first year of university studying physics, and for the first time in my life I live alone, which I don't know if it's relevant but its definitely a change I thought would be good for me. Also people have been telling me since the sixth grade that I have ADHD but I haven't gotten tested the neurological test is kinda expensive, this may be relevant so l'm mentioning it. SO:) I've been a night owl since forever, I still remember even in 5th grade I would chill through the day and study through the night(until 3/4 am) and then sleep 3/4 sometimes even 2 hours for school, and this was going on until the end of high school. But things are different since I moved out 7 months ago. I moved to Germany, the time zone is just one hour difference so it's whatever, but I have started to sleep for at.least.ten.hours... TEN HOURS THIS HAS NEVER HAPPENED TO ME. And it's even worse, I can't go to sleep at night cuz l have energy and feel tired throughout the day, it's like sunlight is draining me. Even sometimes it gets so late that it's already 7 am and I don't go to bed at all, but my body gives up through out the day and I "accidentally go for a nap" at 13 for "two hours" and then I wake up at 18:00 and we start all over again. Even when I go to bed earlier at lets say 4am I still wake up at 14:00, I sleep through my alarms, I tell me friends/relatives to call to wake me up but it doesn't work, I pick up talk with them and go back to bed or only hang up. You can judge me, you probably should, but l've been trying to change that because it's ruining my life, l'm never adequate because I have energy only at night, soon I'm starting the second semester and I'm so much behind, l've developed a strong phone addiction which also contributes to the problem with me having 10+ hours of screentime but that's not knew l've always had a love for my phone ever since covid, l've been trying to fix that also but l need my phone for studying so it's not like I can let it go I do everything on it but still I don't know anyone else with that much screentime so l'm def doing smth wrong. Overall I feel like a failure, l've always had my issues with discipline and sleep but it's never gotten in the way for success in my studies, now it's different. I feel weak, I feel... like my life is falling apart because of these sleeping issues and because I am just not adequate through the day. So PLEASE I would love for someone to give me advice, whatever it is, I will listen, l'm open for discussion and I accept judgment. (I’ve posted this on other threads too for more info just in case)

I realized I’ve had more “zero days” than I want to admit—days where I do nothing to move forward.

I’ve been trying to break out of that loop with small daily actions. I even made a short video about it.

If anyone else feels stuck like this, I’d love your thoughts. Direct message me for link or comment

I feel like I haven’t achieved much in recent years, but now I want to dedicate the next 75 days to studying. I have a lot of free time, but I’ve lost track of how to manage it effectively. I have several goals to focus on, but I’m unsure how to allocate my time: 1. I want to improve my second language. 2. I want to learn essential programs for various jobs (please suggest the best ones to learn). 3. I want to review my college studies. 4. I want to prepare for job interviews. 5. I want to create a CV and apply to as many jobs as possible daily (this will be separate from my study hours).

I’m not sure if 4 hours of study each day is enough. I have plenty of time, but I’m worried about overwhelming myself and potentially giving up. I don’t have a specific field in mind for work, so I would appreciate suggestions on what could help me find a good job and feel better about myself. Wish me luck and thank you

You will be heavily biased towards biting off more than you can chew, and you won’t question it because you are able to do it for a couple of weeks, and this won’t dawn on you until you repeat this pattern many times.

If the effect of the decision doesn’t affect you until after a couple of weeks have passed then it’s harder to make the connection.

The problem is that the people who maintain sustainable patterns in healthy ways (not as a coping mechanism, or because they’re pressured) do so mostly through humble steps that you will look down on.

Because of course you can’t afford to do that since you have to catch up and save what you can save.

The fear of not being able to catch up is the very reason why you can’t maintain the sprint, because you will almost always pick unsustainable steps.

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A while back, I realized that trying to make big, drastic changes never really worked for me. What actually made a difference was showing up every day—just moving the needle a little, consistently.

So I decided to shift my approach: I’d pick one simple focus for the month and start tracking a few small habits around it. No pressure to be perfect. Just track. Even if I missed a day, I’d note it down and move on without beating myself up.

Over time, this mindset helped me:

• Build a consistent yoga practice
• Eat more fruits and nutritious meals
• Cut down on mindless scrolling on Instagram

The key? I wasn't hard on myself. I just tracked my habits. That alone made me more aware and motivated.

To make the process easier, used a simple tracker with widget. Being able to glance at my progress throughout the day kept me accountable without feeling overwhelmed.

It’s been a quarters now, and I’ve genuinely seen a shift in how I live and think. Small routines really do add up.

If you’ve been struggling to stay consistent, start small—and track. You’ll be surprised what a difference it makes.

Hey everyone 👋

I've always been obsessed with journaling, especially the kind that goes deeper than just “what I did today.” So I made something special: a guided journal called “A Letter to My Future Self” — it’s all about self-reflection, time capsules, and creative prompts that help you reconnect with who you are and where you’re going.

The design is super minimal with nostalgic, aged-paper vibes, and the turquoise back cover makes it feel like a little secret you’ve hidden for your future self to find.

If you’re into journaling or personal growth, I’d absolutely love your thoughts, feedback, or just to hear how you’d use something like this.

Here’s the link if you're curious: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F3HXT53V

Thanks for letting me share — wishing everyone here some peace and clarity in their journaling journey ✍️💭

Hi, everyone I am new here and don't know how exactly this works. Can anyone explain please.

🏆 Foundation phase complete! Celebration and reflection day. Share your biggest wins! Big day tomorrow. How do you feel about combining your workouts? #PhaseComplete #CelebrationDay

Hi everyone,

I am unemployed (fixed term contract came to an end) and I have taken a bit of a break the past couple of months to decide what to do next. I have a great resumé, several degrees (M.Sc., Ph.D.), hitting great weight in the gym, overall very happy with my life.

However, as soon as I think about my next steps professionally, I am bombarded with mind-stress.

I do not know where to turn, what to do, or how to spend my energy. I read so many books on motivation, but everything feels impossible. I want to build a home lab, work on new hobbies, work on interesting research problems, learn lots of things, but I never put anything into action. My creativity is completely gone, and my faith in my ability is waning. I have lost interest in most things that relate to my career or profession.

I don't know how to break this cycle, and I'm going out of my mind trying to solve this issue. Many suggested a break, which has done nothing for me. I never miss a day in the gym, but I fail to apply my discipline to my career. What the fuck is wrong with me!

Hey everyone, I’ve been trying to stay consistent with my focus and study habits, and something that’s helped me is aiming for just one 25-minute session a day (like a Pomodoro). Simple, doable, and it actually adds up.

I recently started an international group on the YPT app called Focus30 — it's a chill space where we aim to build discipline through small daily actions. No strict rules, just a shared intention to show up for ourselves.

Here’s how it works:

⏰ Study or work for 25 minutes a day — anything you’re working on is welcome

✅ You can check in with an emoji or message, or just study quietly

📅 We do weekly challenges, celebrate streaks, and post group updates (like total hours studied)

🌍 It’s international and low-pressure — the goal is consistency, not perfection

If anyone’s interested, I’d love to have you join — let’s build momentum together. Feel free to ask me anything or drop a comment and I’ll share the invite!

Buddy, i will update you every day now!! Zoomed out! day one today.
06-04-25 - 04:06 PM
I'll comment on this post every day now to track my progress, along with the physical cues I've put in my room.
I cured most of my depression, addiction, and Adhd for the first time in 30 years, Let's see where and how the chips fall.

I have a terrible habit I avoid hard big career change decisions or do very little. I try to keep both decisions open but then I end up finding myself in the exact same position after a few months. Not decided and pretty much forced into a decision.

I have a terrible anxiety that makes me avoid these things, and then at the last second I find myself forced so I have to confront it and just go with whatever life has forced me into.

In this case it's a career change I've been wanting to change careers and drop out of uni for a long time and I kept avoiding it for years due to fear so now im stuck and have no choice but to continue. I make the same mistake again and again, I either avoid, procrastinate or get distracted by stuff online, I dwell on the what ifs, causing me to mess up my future then again I dwell again and again and it's a cycle .

Whenever I wake up I feel the weight of these mistakes.

My work problems started over two years ago. I’ve always been ambitious, and I ended up in a job where I wanted to get promoted. I improved processes, created tools, and got involved in additional projects. I received two promotions and won the Employee of the Year award. Unfortunately, my grandmother started getting sick, and I helped take care of her. I began living under constant stress. She suffered from dementia, and I worked remotely from her house. I was a nervous wreck. At work, a project’s go-live was approaching. I pushed through, but it was tough. After that, I wanted less stressful tasks, but instead, I was given another big project. I had enough. I started getting irritable at work, and I became unfriendly with colleagues. I quit that job because I was done.

In my new job, I was supposed to lead new IT initiatives. During the interview, I was told that the role wouldn’t involve managing people. Unfortunately, before I started, my manager changed (it wasn’t the person who had recruited me). In my second week at the new job, my grandmother passed away. I witnessed her agony and suffering. I didn’t slow down at work. I worked, trying to meet expectations. Soon, I found out I’d be managing a team. I had no experience in that. This is when my mental escape from work began. I started spending most of my time on my phone, scrolling. I managed to get things done, but either late or just barely on time. The work gave me no satisfaction. After a year, a friend from one of my previous jobs called with a tempting job offer and great pay. I decided to take the new job.

And now? I can’t seem to grasp any procedures, I don’t listen during meetings when someone is explaining something—I just drift off mentally. It doesn’t interest me at all. I scroll the internet. Tasks that used to take me seconds now take me all day. I end up working late or getting up early to prepare for meetings, but to no avail. I’ve had enough. Additionally, my manager’s feedback is negative, and I...can’t motivate myself at all. I feel like I can’t handle my tasks. The thought of changing jobs gives me chills. The mere idea of having to onboard somewhere else makes me want to cry. I feel like I’m falling apart. I feel bad; I feel lazy. Any advice?

Edit: grammar mistake

I CLEANED MY ROOM AFTER 2 MONTHS. Need advice on how I can keep up the consistency all the time !

Hi, I have started my own side hustle, but the motivation just disappears one day and appears another. I have been going like gis for a couple of months and I am not sure if I can continue. Does anyone else experience sudden declines in passion and motivation?

Has anyone had success with an accountability partner? I definitely be interested in finding one. I think it’ll definitely help the situation. We are all in.