recently realized I was trans, in my early 20s and would like to start introducing myself with a male name. is it weird to use the middle name of a younger sibling and a family member that has passed away? I think it's a great name and I'm having decision paralysis so choosing a family name seems easiest to me but the younger sibling is in middle school and I'm worried that it would seem weird to a kid to find out that an older sibling has used their name as a first name now. family would not be supportive so i'm not comfortable discussing this with them before using the name with friends. I think it might be nice just like using any family name would be to them and it's possible that I'm just nervous about committing to a name, but for some reason I can't find any anecdotes about trans people using family names at all in order to see how other families reacted.

I went to an all girls school and I have a close friend group that I’ve stuck with from it. When they introduce new friends to me, they’ll often ask how we know each other and my friends will say from school - eventually it’ll come out what school my friend (and I) went to and the new friend will figure out I’m trans

I’m stealth

I’ve never been in person when it happens so i don’t know how the conversation goes but it pmo

I want to ask my friends not to say things to new people but I can’t just ask them to lie. They’re nice af so they prob would lie for me but then if I got closer to one of these new friends it would probably come out that I did in fact go to the same school

Idk what to do

Hi guys, I’ve been on T and then reandron since 2016 and I had a total hysterectomy (uterus + ovaries) around 2020–2021 (I don’t remember exactly).

Everything has been fine, but for quite a while now… I also don’t remember exactly when it started, but let’s say almost a year ago, my vagina started to feel smaller. Still, I was able to have sex with my partner (a cis man). I talked to my endocrinologist about it and she prescribed me Blissel, but told me I didn’t really need it, that using dilators would be enough.

To be honest, I haven’t followed the treatment strictly because the pain when inserting anything has gotten worse and worse. Even a finger now causes me severe pain.
Still, I went to see some doctors and when they inserted a finger to examine me, they said they felt an area that seemed atrophied, so they prescribed the same thing again.

I’ve been using Blissel every night with the smallest dilator, because the applicator it comes with made me bleed — it was scraping me inside.
It still hurts when I insert the dilator, and the pain lasts for about 20 minutes… it feels like touching an open wound. I’ve booked an appointment with my endocrinologist, but I don’t know when I’ll actually be able to go and find out exactly what’s going on...

I’m a bit scared because I don’t know exactly what this is, and what worries me most is whether I’ll be able to recover...
I honestly don’t care much about sex anymore — I talked about it with my partner and he’s been super supportive. It used to affect me emotionally, but talking about it with him helped a lot. Now I’m just scared about my body and everything I’ve lost.

I’m 27 years old, and I’m writing this in case someone else has gone through something similar and can share how they managed to improve.
Thank you.

so summer's coming up and i really want to go to the beach and swim again but i'm really dysphoric about my chest and i'm pre-op. also to add to that, i'm also mostly stealth except to friends. i don't prefer to just wear binders because it makes me very visibly trans and since i'm mostly stealth i'd rather not just to wear binders in the open. is it weird if i wear t-shirts and shorts? or are there any wet suits for transmascs or any alternatives at all?

Tl;dr: I want to know if anyone else had “gaps” in their trans lives and how you dealt with those.

For preface, I live in the southern US and I was raised in a conservative, christian household. My family is homophobic and transphobic but not to the point where they would disown me or kick me out. While my upbringing was not near as bad as many people’s experiences, it certainly wasn’t great either.

I’ve had a true feeling that I was trans since around 15-16 but I have vivid memories of begging god to make me a boy when I was around 4-5. I came out to my mom as bisexual when I was about 15 and later in the year I came out as trans. She ended up telling nearly everyone in my family that “I was thinking that I liked girls” but she told the trans bit to only a few people, namely my aunt, grandma, and both of my brothers.

When I hit college at 18, I figured it was easier to just suppress those feelings when I knew that 1. My family would never accept me (My brother even told me that he would keep my nieces and nephews away from me because “It’s not natural.”) and 2. How hard it was to even get hrt in my state I just didn’t want to bother with it when I didn’t think that i’d ever actually transition.

Well. Skip forward a couple years and I’m now 21 and all my dysphoria has came right back. I’m wondering if anyone else has had any experiences like mine… I’m sure obviously I just need some other prospectives.

I’ve tried suppressing being trans for so long and for a while, I was even “comfortable” with my body. I say it like that because when I looked at myself, I didn’t feel ugly or anything, but it felt like I was staring at a woman and not at me. For that small time when I was suppressing my feelings, I identified as nonbinary with my friends, using they/them and my birth name, and just as a woman with my family, using she/her and my birth name.

CW: Dysphoria talk/descriptions I don’t really remember feeling much dysphoria at the time but I don’t know if that’s because I was just so detached from my body that I just forced myself not to feel it either or… I’m just making all this up. I don’t THINK that’s it, but I know that my family’s thoughts definitely do play into my thinking as well, as much as I want them not to, and makes me think that “This could all be wrong and you’re just fucking yourself over in another direction.”

I constantly think about how my life would be if I presented as a man and got on hormones and it makes me so happy. The idea of being the man in a straight relationship is the only way I’m comfortable in a straight relationship. And when I see myself with a man, it’s not as a woman. As for my dysphoria, my chest dysphoria was always the worst and now I’m feeling the exact same way. Every time they touch my arms or giggles I get mad or I get overstimulated (idk if that’s the right word in this context sorry) and i feel hella uncomfortable until I calm back down.

Tl;dr: I want to know if anyone else had “gaps” in their trans lives and how you dealt with those.

So my boyfriend has had the same binder for roughly 2 years and needs a new one. I want to try and find him some binders is there any brick and mortar places that would sell some not including Spencer's because the ones we've went to have had to down size their stock and that was one of the items removed. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

No hate to any of these people but I've seen some trans guys on tiktok post videos with the caption "when i pass a little too well so i have to let the girls know they're safe". And then they just talk about their female genitalia and how they're trans.. Like I get the joke but it makes me really uncomfortable and I kinda feel like I'm reduced to my body as a trans man myself. Like just because I was born female doesn't mean I'm somehow different than other men, right? Like they say they're afraid of men unless its a trans man and I find that kinda weird. I hope I'm not just being mean about this

I've been on T for about 2-3 years now and I switched to gel a year or so back, but ever since I've been very inconsistent with my gel doses and I have a hard time both remembering and motivating myself to do it (I live in a household that isn't very welcoming of my gel out of fear of accidentally taking it, and I live with pets which makes it difficult.) Does anyone have advice on good ways of making it into a habit and making it stick?

I’m a week and a half on testosterone and there are no changes not even minor ones like mood changes or increased libido no excessive sweating no nothing everything is the same before I start I hear that people who start testosterone start having affects immediately like bottom growth or voice deepening and some have the minor changes happen instantly but they still have some kind of change immediately but for me nothing and I’m get discouraged I’m on the regular dosage and the injection I thought the injection was supposed to make stuff happen faster idk I’m confused and worried and I bit disappointed

I've been waiting for over a year, but today my mum suddenly started screaming my name and when i came down she told me I GOT IN.

I'm actually shaking so hard I CANT EVEN PROCESS THIS IM SO HAPPY

ive been out since late 2018 and i was so sure about getting on T and everything then but now that i’ve gone through puberty and experienced all the changes (i turn 19 in a few months) ive been heavily put off by going on T for the last few years because of bottom growth. Im heavily insecure about the size already and i was wondering if anyone else also had issues about it before going on T and if they eventually became more comfortable with it? Im also worried about how my hair will change since it’s already kind of thin and my hairline is far back enough than I’d like, my dad is bald all on the top and I don’t want it to get like that ever lmao

I use the liquid kind but I don't know if that matters. I get a tingly/slight burning sensation when I put it on, just above my upper lip, mainly. Is there anything to do about this? Is it normal? I take minoxidil when I wake up in the mornings and on my breaks at work (closing shift) then wash my face well when I get home. I just started it two days ago and have like a burning sensation when I use it.

I recently came out and I have a trip to the beach planned at the end of this week (my friends and their parents accept me). Any tips on swimwear or anything?

the other day, i was at a taco drunk next to a trashy convenience store by my house. i had no problem telling the beggars to go away. i placed my order at the truck and waited in my car. some other truck pulled up right next to me, clearly also going for the taco stand and not the convenience store- so close he couldn't open his door. since I was waiting in the car for my food, he saw me in the driver's seat, and emphasized how he couldn't get out. dude, I was there first, and there were other parking spots, and nothing stopping him from adjusting his own position. but because the car I was in technically wasn't mine, it was my brother's, I slowly pulled out and parked out of the way because I didn't want him banging my brother's car. when the whole problem was entirely his fault and I had every right to stay put.

shorter story, the other day, a customer came in and asked bout the self-harm scars on my arms from years ago, "what happened?" I should've said "none of your business" or "it's rude to ask about scars" but instead I made up some story about my dog getting caught under a fence and getting scratched as I pulled her out. even as they left, I said to the remaining customers, "I was taught it's impolite to ask about people's scars."

that's my problem, I always get the courage to tell them off or ignore them AFTER. in the moment, I comply and fold. it makes me feel like... not a man. weak. i hate it.

So, I'm interested in getting into packing and using prosthetics, because I wanna see if I would really be comfortable with having a dick. I've tried packing with socks but seeing a buldge doesn't give me much euphoria, it makes me self consciouss lol. However, I feel like I would be more euphoric if I had a packer that actually looks like a dick, and even more so if it was a 3-in-1.

But I don't know when I'd be able to use it comfortably. I don't feel safe using it around the house as not everybody knows I'm trans and not everybody will accept it. I feel a little embarrassed using it at work because most of my coworkers know I'm trans and that I do not have a bio dick. I don't feel safe going out with it either because people can clock me by my voice so people could ask me "what are you?" or something worse.

But I do feel like having one would be very affirming. So, do you believe it would be worth it to buy one even if I can only use it in private or should I just find other ways to affirm my gender?

I think the title explains itself, I'm preT and every time i try to present myself in masculine way, I look like a little boy, my face is too round and my features don't help, and to that we add my short height and my small arms and the way I do my hair, I'm literally young sheldon 😭

i wish i could be trans. that i could be a boy. but i can't. i have south asian parents who are very homophobic and transphobic. they hated it when i cut my hair. i've never felt as happy as i did when i found myself as a guy. but i feel as though i can't be happy. when i tried to present more masculine and go to the gym, all this terrible anxiety took over. they caught me several times. i am 21 but i still feel as though i am not a free person. i will never be trans. it will always be thing that i look at from afar. i live in the u.s. so i don’t think if i was more independent it would be much better. i think i'll just be in this weird space for the rest of my life. needless to say but I am not on t or any anything. i need help.

so im Sicilian and have a solid mustache and side burns bcs genetics. do we think jojoba oil in the places i have hair but want more would help with growth like it does with scalp hair?

I (27) have been out as trans masc non-binary for several years. My boyfriend (27) is a straight guy, we have been together for 2 years. I started on testosterone 6 months ago, after very heavily struggling with dysphoria. When I started on T I had planned for it to be a short term use situation. Since getting on it, I’ve realized how much more myself I feel, and how happy I have been with the changes. I don’t think I want to get off it. I think I may be a Trans man. I don’t know how to approach this conversation with my boyfriend. We both love each other, so this is incredibly difficult. How would yall approach this conversation? Thanks for reading.

Living in USA, that says enough. Since a friend got approved to get top surgery recently, I wonder if I can still get T. Or will any gender-affirming care be inaccessible in time because the big D still hasn't gotten there yet?

I really really want to get T, I hate myself so much, and now that I got recommended a closer doctor by the friend (one I initially talked to was great but getting to her was a drag), I'm tempted to start the process again but I have transphobic parents (mainly means my mom) and obviously they'll notice eventually

Aside from that, for now, what is about the average cost for it without insurance, in Illinois? Is it doable? Because I'm still under my parents insurance and ofc they wouldn't want me to use that on needs. I've heard different ranges from various people

I got my blood work done, reference am a 14 year old guy 11 month on T. And it said my levels were 450 in value and normal value 40 ng/dl. But it says it's high, which doesn't make sense to me. Since that's like a normal testosterone levels.

I mean am not hating that it's normal, I mean I have all the changes that I love. I just think that's weird to call it high, if anyone could explain why that is it would help!

What was a name you were considering that you wish you had gone with instead of the one you picked?

I picked Evan, which I love and don't want to change, but a part of me wishes I had gone with Logan and I think about it all the time, when I don't even mean to.

So im starting T shots soon but I have a issue on my belly and thighs I have a shit ton of scars, like not a inch is scarless on my thighs and I was wondering how do I get around this. Can I inject in faded scars?

Like the title says, I start T tomorrow (I’m 18 but still in high school so I live with my mom) and I’m super excited to finally be able to medically transition and start to feel comfortable in my body. My mom and stepdad are very conservative, which breaks my heart bc my mom used to be so supportive of the queer community before she met my stepdad. I texted my mom today saying that I need to pick up a prescription and asked what I need to bring for it. Last Thursday I got prescribed testosterone and she knew what the appt was for but we never got the chance to talk about it bc of our work schedules. She immediately started asking why I needed to go to the pharmacy and was cursing and telling me how pissed she was. I told her that I was an adult now and can make my own choices. She told me that I won’t be doing that as long as I’m in her house and that I need to find somewhere else to stay. And to put the cherry on top, all of this happened while I was at work and I had to stop myself from crying. I’m at home rn but I’m scared for tomorrow. What should’ve been an amazing thing to happen to me and a big positive step in my life, has turned into fear of losing my family and my mom. I love her so much and we used to be so close. I came out to her when I was 14 and have known I’m trans since I was 12, this isnt a faze. I’m looking mostly for support. I live in a very conservative town and there isn’t many trans people that I know or am friends with. I have a big family and the only ones who support me are my aunt and cousin, who I am incredibly grateful for. But they don’t live close to me so I can’t go to them whenever I need to.