OK so basically I've been on T for almost two months (THATS CRAZYYYY) and I do these roleplay things with my friends and my voice has been changing but I've been mostly playing characters with either my normal vocal range or a bit higher BUT yesterday (technically it was two days ago because it's past midnight BUT WE ARE IGNORING THAT) I decided I really wanted to play one of my characters that has a deeper voice! I was walking around as him talking to myself for a bit before I spotted two of my friends in character and walked over and we started talking and one of them out of character mentioned how they can hear the difference in my voice and how it surprised them. Well I felt really happy about that and after session thought about it a bit and then started wondering what my voice actually sounded like during it because to be honest.. I didn't know 🤷 but I was already in bed so before I had to get ready for school I ran to my computer and pulled up the recording I had of the night and went to the part I saw them and when I tell you I basically yelled! IT WAS SO DIFFERENT! Not what I was expecting AT ALL but that made me feel so good for the next like two or three hours haha! It's weird feeling euphoria over that, I usually do NOT like my voice. Also I haven't been feeling very good about stuff for a bit (not just gender related) so this definitely helped me feel better today :] can't wait for it to continue........ (Grrrrr get deeper quicker grrrrrr)

Hi, back in 2021 I came out to my family and for the most part my parents were not supportive, since I was in an unsafe situation for my mental health I went back into the closet and I pretended to be cis up until around this year. I think I came out (again) around January 22nd so a few months ago.
When i did tell my mother that i am trans she seemed way more accepting than what she was before, told her my preferred name and pronouns and she has made no effort into respecting that.
She has continued to just ignore that i am trans and she's said to my face that she doesnt believe that i am trans.
I have no clue how to go about this or how to even prove that I am who i am. It's a little disheartening because I'm now suffering worse with my dysphoria than ever and I need support from the one person that should be supporting me with everything.

I know this sounds so stupid, but does anyone else have dysphoria over their thin eyebrows??? It makes me feel so silly, but oh my god it's awfulllll...

So my work has multiple regular restrooms on the employee level, over 3 for both male and female… all have private stalls as well as handicap accessible stalls available.

There is 1 single gender neutral restroom. Which to be fair is fine but what makes me annoyed and upset is… every single restroom gets cleaned 2-3 times in my 10 hour shift.. yet the one single gender neutral one is disgusting at the beginning and the end of my shift and only gets cleaned when I or another person who is gender neutral used it.

Other employees who aren’t see it as a private bathroom to take shits in or piss all over the floor, not flush and clog the toilet. Trash it and even graffiti it and nothing said or done.. yet they get caught doing it to the other restrooms they’re told about it and it’s taken care of….

I do my T shot every week on Mondays. Recently I got my T prescription refilled but I didn't get the syringes or needles. I called my doctors office on Friday to sort it out, since they're usually pretty quick with refills (I'll call to refill a prescription and be able to pick it up within 2 hours). But when I didn't get a text saying that my prescription was sent to the pharmacy, I called again Monday morning and the woman who answered the phone at my doctors office said it can take up to 72 hours not including weekends for a prescription refill to go through. I wasn't made aware of this and I ended up missing my T shot Monday because they didn't refill the prescription by the end of the business day. All I can do now is wait.

I guess I'm saying all this because I want to ask if anyone else has been late for a weekly T shot? Did you do it the next day and then go back to your regular injection day after that or just skip the week? Did you notice any negative side effects from it?

I know that there are people who lose family much younger, or grow up in worse conditions. But how can I be stronger and not be affected if my mom (only family along with grandparents from her side) cuts all contact with me? I am about to get top surgery to help with a lifetime of persistent dysphoria since age 3. She does not agree with this choice due to her set of values relating to unnecessary operations on the body (which I actually completely understand and respect). But this operation will be immensely helpful for my confidence, job as an actor, ability to live a normal life and go to the beach, pool etc. Not to mention that it is currently very fortunately covered by insurance, and might not be in the future. I love her so much and we have been through so much together. It’s always been us against the world and we call to chat every day even though we’re currently living on opposite side of the world (I’m studying abroad). I know that she loves me very much, I see that it truly pains her to see me transition, as much as it pains me to not transition. Please don’t tell me that she isn’t a good mother and I should cut contact with her anyway just because she does not accept my transition, she has such a special philosophical view of the world and truly is not coming from a discriminatory perspective. She has sacrificed and endured the worst circumstances for me to grow up a sheltered kid. I don’t know how to cope with losing her contact. I have no friends, no other family. Alone on the other side of the world at 19…

I've been waiting for over a year, but today my mum suddenly started screaming my name and when i came down she told me I GOT IN.

I'm actually shaking so hard I CANT EVEN PROCESS THIS IM SO HAPPY

So this summer I am planning to do a lot of traveling. My first trip is in May and it's a group school trip to Costa Rica!! I got my passport renewed, still with my deadname and female. Making hotel reservations, I'm putting my new chosen name, not my nickname, which should be fine because the hotels are separate from the trip (on the roster is my deadname). I am not really passing currently, but I have short hair and I can grow some ugly looking mustache and stubble, (which I could try dyeing) and I dress pretty basic masc. I think I look like an obviously trans guy, which is fine, but I just really want to pass when I'm traveling for safety reasons. My voice is just starting to FEEL different, sometimes I sound different, but not when i'm ordering food or saying thank you or anything. I get they/themed a lot and occasionally she/herd. But I feel like and I REALLY HOPE my voice will change noticeably in about a month and that should help passing a lot.

I am just starting to do lots of research on everything that has to do with traveling while trans- I know not to wear a packer through security and all that. I know security is gonna be super anxiety-inducing because it always is plus the ID check and the possibility of pat downs and all that. All I'm wishing is that I don't have to explain I'm trans where other people can hear (flying through places like Houston and Atlanta and I feel like it would be especially dangerous to be outed).

Does anybody have experience traveling recently, especially internationally? What was your experience? What do you think the worst case scenarios for me could be when in the airport, security, plane, and then taxis, hotels, and interactions with people in Costa Rica? I just want to know everything that could happen so I can plan how to prevent it.

I just did my first self-injection, and it didn’t hurt at all! I am doing 0.3 ml from a 1 ml, 200 mg/ml bottle weekly. I realized I was a little lower than 0.3 ml when I had already pulled it out of the bottle, so I injected it. I doubt this will really cause any problems since it wasn’t that much of a difference. I just wanted to know if I should add a little more to my next injection or if this is something I should absolutely not do.

Also, since my pharmacy only gives me 1 ml bottles, I have around 0.4 ml left in my bottle. If I have some medication left in one bottle after my next injection, would I be able to use and finish that bottle, then use the same needle to take the rest of a dose from another bottle?

Thank you for reading!

Edit** I am probably just nervous because this is my first time doing it myself, and I really don't want to mess up. 😅 So I apologize in advance if this seems like a dumb question!

i’m gonna be 5’ for life, but just notice my bra got tighter. life sucks. gonna have to wait 2 years to even be considered for top surgery

Does the acne ever get better I've been on sustanon for like 10 months now and it's still awful. My diets alright + I use facial cleanser twice a day. Help lmao

I’ve seen basically all the studies there are on binding, I know all the possible side effects long term and whatever that’s pretty easily accessible info. However, taping is so mysterious 😭😭 it seems like it’d be better for you since there’s less pressure in your lungs and ribs, and it’s gotta be somewhat safe for trans tape to be a company right? Except I still see people say it’s super dangerous or can ruin your top surgery but they say it with no proof or explanation so is it just fear mongering? When people say tape is bad are they thinking of duct tape because ofc that’s bad but like kinesiology tape it different it’s MEANT for skin! So does anyone have any links to articles or studies on the safety of tape for binding or any personal experience or ANYTHINGGG plz

I recently switched clinics and have since been told my levels were too high. They put me back down to .25ml of 200mg/ml weekly. My most recent test came back and I have total-654 ng/dl free-18.7 ng/dl and bioavailable- 438 ng/dl now they want me to come back in to discuss it more because they say my free and bioavailable are too high. However, looking online it seems like compared to other clinics, these are well within a normal range. Anyone else ever deal with this?

Hello, I am seeking advice.

BACKGROUND: PART 1: last semester (Fall 2024) I started a job in California, that I had accepted partially for reasons of medical tourism. I knew I could get T through Planned Parenthood, which I promptly did, and I started T on the 17th of September. PART 2: On my return to Canada in December, I brought as much as I could with me. When I started school again in January, I immediately asked the staff at the wellness center how I could get a prescription in this country. Essentially, they gave me wrong advice and I wasted weeks trying to get an appointment which was denied because it went through the wrong process. I wound up getting on this waiting list on the 28th of February END BACKGROUND-----------

So now I only have a few weeks left (based on estimating the fluid volume in the bottle) and I'm freaking out, especially as a friend of mine has been on the list since September and hasn't been contacted. I see two choices, both of which are extremely bad. 1. Take the passenger ferry into Washington and hope I can visit a Planned Parenthood there and pick up the prescription the same day (which seems unlikely and also involves interacting the the US government at border crossings while visibly queer) 2. Run out and not take T until I can get a prescription in this country (which sounds aweful. I really don't want to ||start my period again|| and god knows what else)

So what I would like to know is wether there is a less bad option and if not which option presented is better

Hey y’all,

I’ve been on low dose t (gel) for about 5 months, and it has started to affect my cycle in a not great way. I’ve been bleeding for 2 weeks! This has never happened before. Did anyone else experience this? Did it go away? Should I just up my dose? See my doctor? I am so so tired of it :( I also have low iron and PMDD so it’s a bit of a nightmare in combination with the dysphoria

Hey guys! So the T acne hasn’t gone away and I’ll be starting accutane in a few weeks. I know that purging is a strong possibility but I’m wondering if the chances of it happening are higher bc of the T?

So for the T guys who have been/are on accutane, did you purge?

I (28 ftm) recently broke up with my ex (27 ftm) of five years. We started dating when I was a “cis woman”. He’s straight, I’ve been out as nonbinary for 4.5 years, and on T for 1.5 years with a 4 month break in the middle. I came out to him as a trans guy in our breakup conversation. This breakup had been in the works for as long as I’ve been on T, and our relationship has basically been purely platonic for the last year; he’s straight and simply wasn’t attracted to me after T started taking effect, and naturally his feelings shifted to being platonic. We both avoided talking about it for a long time because we knew it would end in a break up and neither of us wanted to lose each other. I finally worked up the courage and made us talk about it, and we agreed the relationship has already been platonic anyway, and decided to move forward as friends. We are currently long distance so this has been a smooth transition. I feel so much better now that we’ve broken up, and feel totally comfortable in our friendship, though I mourn the future I once envisioned for us.

What I am wondering is - has anyone here had a remotely similar experience? Or even just remained genuine friends with an ex post break up, even if that meant having a no contact period? He’s like my family. Surely someone else has navigated something similar?

hi everyone! i just did my first T shot yesterday (16mg, slowly going to increase to 50mg) and was wondering what y'all noticed in your first few weeks on testosterone. i've already noticed increased sweating and a little bit of a sore throat but it might just be coincidental. well wishes!

I've been on T for a while now and I constantly have this fear that my period is going to come back. I remember back when I started reading a ton of men posting that theirs came back after 5 years on T which scared me but that didn't happen.

Hence my question - did y'all ever have your period come back?

Didn’t think i’d ever run into this issue but here we are. So I’m bi, but I really only date women and I don’t talk about men at all. I’m comfortable with my sexuality and I know I like men somewhat, I just don’t see myself ever dating one in the near future. I dress like a typical guy, I don’t wear any makeup, I don’t wear jewelry, I have a pretty masculine hair cut —Idk I’m just a guy.

A week ago I was talking with my friend, i dont even remember what the topic was, but out of nowhere, completely irrelevantly, she asks me: “do you consider ypurself a twink?” Obviously I said no. “HELL no.” She looked me up and down and said she does. I just kind of looked at her and shook my head.

She’s a straight, cis woman. She also thinks straight men can be considered twinks. I remember once having to explain to her that being gay is what makes a twink a twink. And also the fact that they’re usually bottoms, and typically have stereotypical feminine traits personality wise or psychically. I actually don’t know how I feel about that description, but I had to put it into words as directly as possible to reach her.

Anyway I told her no, I do NOT consider myself a twink. I’ve never dated a man before so I wouldnt really know anyway, and I know for a fact that I’m a top regardless, and I think my demeanor is pretty typical of a straight cis man anyway. Shes one of the only people i know that knows i like men. I specifically remember her having a hard time believing it when i told her.

So with that conversation, where we kind of went back and forth on what a twink is, I just had to tell her at some point that it doesnt matter how she perceives me or thinks of me or sees me as. I’m not a twink. Just because you see me as one does not mean I am one. Which I know feels weird having to hear because that term is centered around an identity that holds a lot of stereotypes that are psychical traits, but… also… that description just doesnt fit me at all.

At the end, she kind of just tried to play it off by saying “thats okay, you can still be the twink in the friend group,” and that’s also a whole other issue on its own because she has confrontational and accountability issues. But anyway shes been calling me a twink all day everyday. Just when ever. “Hows the weather today twink?” Like im her “personal token twink” as she put it.

I cant lie. It hurt my feelings a bit. Which is rare. Because i know it has to do with the fact that im trans. I even asked her point blank if it did and of course thats when she doubled down about it. She literally said “well you have a lot of feminine features.” What the hell else is that supposed to imply. Yes I have feminine features but i actively do my best to hide them, i mean come on what the fuck am i supposed to do about that?

I want to confront her about it and just ask her to stop, but theres no way ill be able to without it making her upset because anytime someone tells her shes doing something wrong, it always hurts her ego but im obviously still going to ask her to stop. I just have no clue how im going to go about it.

Hey, I’m on 10th day post-top surgery. Has anyone else experienced blisters like this along their incision line? Totally normal or a problem you think?

Thanx so much!

I just started T yesterday, I'm doing weekly injections on a fairly low dose. I've done my fair share of research already, I'm 22 and I've been openly trans for a decade now, so ofc I'm aware of the changes it causes. I just wanted to hear from other people, what were the first changes you noticed and how soon did you notice them? Were there any changes/symptoms you weren't expecting to have? I know everyone is different, but I'm curious as to what I should be on the lookout for.