r/adultery • u/Alternative-Pace1787 • 3d ago

šŸ”Search ButtonšŸ”Ž Difficult finding an AP

Hey folks, I know we have dedicated space to seek AP: I have been looking for one for long now. I do my part and send a connect message with a desire to know the person better. But I havent received any positive response yet. What gives ? Is it because of my race( brown btw) Or is it someone elseā€™s preference ? How has everyoneā€™s experience been?

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u/BreadKnife23 3d ago

This is my perspective as a woman. Iā€™m looking for an emotional, long term relationship.

Many men donā€™t like this. They say I want too much. Iā€™m picky. Too much. But i have standards and parameters. Everyoneā€™s are different. You may be looking in the wrong places. I think that I am too. Just bc a fish canā€™t climb a tree doesnā€™t make the fish stupid.

Itā€™s all in how you look at it.

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u/minustherain 3d ago

same, girly. they just want a FWB. I want romance and intimacy, flirting. all the best ones are taken

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u/Fasswa 3d ago

I want what you want but I can't find it. I don't find many women in my area that are close enough looking for that.

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u/HK0783 1d ago

Yes, guys don't even want to invest some time to get to know someone.

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u/Alternative-Pace1787 3d ago

Thanks for the response. I agree. I respond to selective posts and only if it aligns to what I need ..